you clearly have too much time on your hand to devote two days to this- but then again. I clearly have even more to point that out- so we are even. What's a few wasted electrons.

Jesse's also written for GayGuideToronto.com, very sexn in the city too! Check for him in their archives under Turnstile if you wanna read more!

I hope I don't come off as the skeptic asshole [oh, who am I kidding?] but just because your writings reflect some wonderful bits of dialogue doesn't mean you have a mind like a steel trap. Part and parcel of being a good writer is the ability to invent, to recompose, to mix the real and the fictional in a way that truly enlightens your reader. As Picasso once said [paraphrased]: "Art is the lie that tells the truth". [Or at least, that's what James Frey told me! Hah!] The reported Sex-in-the-City qualities of the writing makes me even more dubious they actually reflect what really got said.

Back a couple of years ago I went through a very long and protracted self-extraction from a boyfriend who just wouldn't let go. He dumped me, yet found it necessary to trash me and my reputation all around town. He told lie upon lie and basically converted the rest of the world to think I was some horrible troll. Anyway, people were always amazed at my uncanny ability to remember things that he said, his friends said, etc. None of it was fabrication. I just have a photographic/videographic memory. I can pretty much remember the action as if I were living in a movie. Maybe the fair Mr. Trautmann has that same ability. I wouldn't be so quick to trash him or equate him with James Frey.

If this essay reads like a fictional piece, then it probably is. For the past few months, the Love & Sex column of NOW in Toronto, has featured tales that are more fictional than they are 'based on a true story', That doesn't mean, however, that some truth MAY come through... They're entertaining reads nonetheless, especially if you're bored out of your mind one fine morning, as you ride the subway.

oops, I meant "MAY NOT come through..." in the above post. It's way too early in the morning for me to be writing stuff.

But yes, the most annoying thing in the world is when a friend finds him/herself a wonderful girl/boyfriend and ignores you for the duration of their infatuation period. Ironically, they rekindle your friendship, and suddenly contact you out of the blue when his/her coupledome has proved to be a major flop, and expect you to keep going from where you ended off... I find this to be totally selfish.

Hi all, especially "Andrew"
thx for taking the time to read my stuff let alone critique it. My articles, not essays, dare i say column because then you'd really stick it to me for the SATC similarities, are from the reality i call my life. In my defense no one can write about singles/dating/relationships in a post-SATC world without getting slack for wanting to be the next Ms. Bradshaw, what can I do? But feel free to keep reading and gossiping all you want, it's free PR for me!
PS. the bulk of my stuff is online at
http://www.gaylinkcontent.com/authordetail.cfm?id=691
and there's a not-so-creepy pic there as well ;)

Whoa..thought that was a pic of a young Richard Gere!!

Rather handsome non?

Artemisia