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Congratulations Lori and family. Thank you for being so brave.
Lori, your wonderful blog was brought up students in my human sexuality class discussion on gender.
“There’s this lady that blogs about her son who likes girl stuff and how much she loves him and how she deals with other people’s issues with her child.”
Make Barbara Walters cry when she gets you for the interview!
Isn’t this book a little premature… like by about 15 years? If the kid were all grown up now and we knew how it turned out, it would make more sense, but right now it’s just a (brief) story about a (little) boy who likes girl stuff.
I love this woman! :)
That said, this is the most FAB~U~LOUS plug for a product ever. Sparkly son. Lol.
It’ll be REALLY awkward for CJ if he grows up straight and/or cisgendered lol. That said I have a feeling that Lori will make it big. She has a unique story that needs to be told (or rather CJ does) and I think many other families like hers and curious straight people in general will benefit from it :). I think if the book is marketed right that it will blow up, for sure :).
Best of luck to you and yours Lori! Thank you for being a compassionate, loyal, and all around awesome ally (and your husband too) to the LGBT community over these past two years :). Good vibes!
The charade continues! Buy my book now, pretty please? Will it be in the fiction section? It should be, I’ve never read such ill written fiction in my life.
@yaoming: The story is probably more about her as a parent dealing with a gender nonconforming child and her approach to parenting said child. She clearly has a lot of experiences already that show the challenges of trying to be a loving, supportive parent to a child whom most of society does not understand. Her book will probably help many other parents of LGBT youth who want to learn how to navigate the challenges facing their families ahead instead of just sticking their heads in the sand and denying anything different about their child; giving them absolutely no support as they struggle to figure out why they are different.
“Will there be identifying photos of our family on the blog now? Nope. I’ll continue to amaze you with my nondescript iPhone photography skills.”
Of course not, because its all a lie, and none of it is real. All of the photos are stock photos from, where else, the internet. F-you! We are so on to you! No one will buy you pack of lies, also known as this silly lie filled book.
I still don’t get it. So the kid’s a boy and likes pink, girly things. So what? If he’s gay, he was born that way. It’s genetic and there’s nothing in our DNA about the color pink and sparkly dresses. If,. on the other hand, the kid is trans, he’s pathological and he’s going to need treatment and support in the future. Which one is it? We don’t know… which is why I said this story is premature (assuming it’s true).
@yaoming: Wait what? Trans people are “pathological”? You realize people said the same thing about us gays for YEARS right? Stop telling people that they are diseased when you haven’t walked in their shoes. It may not make sense to you or I, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that the person is some sort of defect.
Unless you meant by “pathological” that if he was trans he most likely would had Gender Dysphoria and the treatment for that is SRS (sex reassignment surgery), then you are correct. However if you meant he would need therapy to convert to cisfender then quite frankly f*** you sir.
Also to Lori and fam, ignore Dixie Rect please. Not all gay people are as bitter and hurtful as he is, and many of us support you and your family and look forward to your success. I also totally understand and commend you taking steps to keep your children and family at large safe, as the Internet can be a scary place and there is still a lot of homo and transphobia in the world.
Whether CJ turns out to be straight and “cisgendered” or not, the central story of a parent dealing with and supporting a child’s interest in things often not considered appropriate for their biological gender is interesting. I can remember subtle discouragement from my parents about pursuing certain interests that might be perceived by others as “gay,” like taking dance lessons, for example. When I wanted to take Karate they were happy to encourage it and take me to lessons, but discouraged other things with facial expressions, tone of voice and asking pointed questions (“Are you really sure….”), and deliberately putting up roadblocks.
So even if a parent isn’t dealing specifically with gender issues there’s still a lot to be said for accepting the kid you’ve actually got instead of the one you’d imagined.
How can you support them, if you don’t know who they are, or if they even exist? Tell us about how you will support them? Buy her fake book? That’s what they want you to do, its all about making money. It’s a sham – wake up.
I’m with Dixie Rect. The woman’s a nutjob.
@Dixie Rect: I can empathize with the anger you portray. Waking up every morning and hating yourself takes its toll. That being said, however, what is your point exactly? Oh yes, her story is fake…let’s see. Its my opinion that you really can not make this shit up. Well, ok, yes you can! However it would take a fairly talented writer and you (in all your infinite expertise in fiction) have deemed Lori a poor writer as far as fiction is concerned. Wanting to keep her children and family with some sense of anonymity is something I 100% support…otherwise they’d be publicly open to the “Bitter Betty”s out there. Perhaps you know a few? Betcha do!
So, add a little sugar to the piss in your corn flakes dear and spare the rest of us your bad temperament. <3
@bledoutcolor: If this boy grows up to identify as a female (in a biologically/genetically male body) I’d call that “pathological”.
I love how when you have an unpopular opinion or speak the truth you get attacked personally. You don’t know a thing about me, but you feel the need to insult a complete stranger. Sit down, Keith.
@Dixie Rect: I support them because of benefit of the doubt. Yes she could be a fake, but she could just as easily be a REAL person with REAL struggles and a REAL family that she loves who loves her, and I’m not about to risk alienating a REAL ally or more importanlty risk hurting a real person and her family. How would it make C.J. feel to read what you wrote? Instead of acting like a jaded cynical d-bag, I choose to support her and her family even if it is just through well wishes and verbal support. Leave the poor woman alone for chrissakes. Surely you have something better to do than troll a “nonexistant/fake” mother of a possibly lgbt child on the Internet.
Grow some empathy, your not setting a good example for our gay youth (of which I am admittedly a part of) nor are you winning straight people to our side with your sour as lemons attitude. More flies with honey and all that.
@yaoming: That’s not being terribly understanding. Again, empathy. How would you want someone to treat you? Regardless of whether transgenderism is legitimate to you or not, the transgendered person is undeniably still a person. Like Lori said if you cant tell what gender someone is treat them like a human being. And no human being should ever be referred to as pathological or diseased just because you don’t agree with the way they express their gender. I’m not trans but I like to think I try to stand up for them as much as I can, not out of any cause but out of plain human dignity and empathy. I may not agree with transgendered being lumped in with sexual orientation issues. I may not agree on some of the things they lobby for. I don’t know whether trans people really are “born that way” like gay people are. But its none of my business one way or the other: they are human beings. Treat them with compassion. Period.
Even though as I stated above, I don’t understand trans issues, I can still be empathetic and try to educate myself and be an ally for them. Everyone deserves basic humane respect. That’s all I’m saying.
1. I don’t care if CJ reads anything – he’s not real so how can he read?
2. I guess its ok to alienate and risk hurting a real person? Nice – whatever happened to ‘it gets better’? I guess it does better as long as I agree with you, yes?
3. You are too funny, and I’m pointing and laughing in your face!
4. ‘Your well wishes and verbal support’? Oh please, what a joke! Fake Lori wants you to buy her book, she doesn’t give a crap about your words!
5. Just sit down, shut up and learn something. And get me a sandwich! LOL
wrong! the story here isn’t about cj’s sexual orientation, now or in the future. cj is GENDER non-conforming now, right here and now, and the issues involved are in how he is treated as the small, and fabulous, child that he is. clearly, you have not been a reader.
Well, let’s drop another shoe here. I thought it was pretty obvious this caring mom would have to drop her anonymity to publish the book, and a quick Google search in fact turns up her name. Lori Duron. So the kid’s name is C. J. Duron.
Lori, remind me — what was all that stuff about protecting your kid?
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