This mother’s screen name was the first tipoff that trouble was afoot: scaredcatholicmom posted a lengthy plea for advice in a Catholic forum.
Then there was her post’s title, which sent a shiver down our spines: “What else can I do to make sure my son with SSA (same sex attractions) remains on the right path? How can I stop being so afraid for him?”
She went on to explain that her youngest of four sons, just 17-years-old, came out when he was only 14.
“After we got over our initial shock (and I had taken some time to grieve the loss of my dreams of his one day having a family), we sat him down and told him we loved him, and that what he had told us wouldn’t change that in the slightest,” she wrote. Not a great response, but we’ve definitely heard worse.
How about we take this to the next level?
Our newsletter is like a refreshing cocktail (or mocktail) of LGBTQ+ entertainment and pop culture, served up with a side of eye-candy.
Related: Watch Two God-Fearing Parents Assault And Kick Their “Disgraceful” Gay Son To The Curb
Except that for the last three years, she and her husband have been teaching their son that the only way for “people like him” to lead an honorable life is for him to remain celibate.
And here’s how she’s trying to make sure that happens:
“We also set up other defenses for his chastity: we pulled him off of the basketball team (the locker room would just be an unnecessary temptation, and his presence there would be inappropriate and unfair to the other boys in his situation). We took the door off of his bedroom since privacy would just tempt him to experiment in the ways teen boys tend to do, and we forbid him from having sleepovers or spending one-on-one time with any of his male friends unsupervised…we also forbid him from dating, or participating in activities like his high school prom…unlike our other sons, we never allowed him to have a cell phone, since he might use it to access inappropriate and confusing images.”
And what fruits has this parenting horror story yielded?
“Our son has often told my husband and me that he feels very lonely, and that it’s devastating that hie’ll never be able to be in love or have a family. He went through a bout of depression after our oldest married, since he knows that’s something he’ll never be able to have, and that he’ll never be able to make us proud and happy that way. But we were always very firm in explaining that coping with loneliness and envy are always going to be a part of his life.”
Now he’s about to go to college, and scaredcatholicmom has made it clear that if he ever acts on his “SSA,” his financial support will be cut off immediately.
But how will she be able to be sure that he’s remaining pure?
Commenters flooded the page with disgust and accusations of abuse.
One self-identifying gay Catholic told her exactly how it is:
“Bring on the downvotes, whatever, this is too important to leave unsaid. Regardless of your view of homosexuality, what you are doing to your son is abusive. You are just teaching him that he’s inherently bad and dangerous by singling him out from his brothers the way you have; you’re alienating him and ruining his self-esteem. If your priest has signed off on all this, he needs better counsel – preferably from a legitimate, licensed mental health professional. Not for being gay, but for getting over having parents who decided to treat him like a dangerous criminal instead of a vulnerable child.”
Scaredcatholicmom’s response? “That was uncalled for.”
Related: Mormon Scouting Father Chokes Up In Interview Because His Son Isn’t Afraid Of Gay People
Her original post has since been deleted, likely due to the onslaught of harsh reality she was forced to confront. But you can still read all the comments, the most serious of which being:
“I had a friend in high school that was gay in a Christian family, although they didn’t go so far as to remove his bedroom door and take away his phone and friends as you have done.
I say “had” because he took his own life.
His suicide note said it was because he felt unnatural, unwelcome, unwanted, and he would never be able to live how his parents told him he was going to have to live.
Please don’t drive your son to this.”
Dave in Northridge
I wonder why she didn’t just ask her parish priest what to do. I suspect it’s because she wouldn’t have liked the answer.
Terry Purdue
They are abusing their son, I hope he finished college and is free of them. I would never speak to my parents if they ever did that to me
Ladbrook
Two things:
1) THANK GOD he’s almost 18 and can FINALLY live a normal life away from his abusive, emotionally violent parents.
2) If what she wrote is true, she and her husband should be arrested for child abuse. If some communities now feel justified in arresting “free-range” parents, then this vile piece of shit (and her husband) deserve at least a decade in prison for what they’ve done to their son.
Avery Alvarez
Woah, where were the positive responses again?
Besides the ones mentioned above,
I saw a lot of people reduce gays to the label “those affected by SSA”. Once again they dehumanize us and reduce us to a phony, made-up clinical disorder.
I saw many suggest that they boy should be allowed around girls, because eventually he’ll fall in love with one of the them, get married, and have kids.
I saw many suggest anti-gay ex-gay torture group “Courage” as a “cure” to the son’s “SSA”
Many suggested the old and discarded canard that he just really needs to hang around male role models more because what he’s feeling isn’t sexual attraction, just longing for bonding with males.
Besides this, there was the usual, “no one wants a gay son”, “a gay son is less than ideal”, etc….
It was a cornicopia of lowbrow, uneducated, vile and disgusting religiously inspired homophobic rhetoric, most of which was just as ridiculous as what I assume the original letter by the mom sounded like. Reading it lowered my faith in humanity, and raised my suspicion of religion being a dangerous cult.
Liam
Though mild compared to my own ultra-Xtian abusive mother did to me, I hope Scaredcatholicmom’s son gets a good therapist for he has been seriously abused.
tdh1980
She’s yet another selfish, @$$hole parent all too willing to inflict misery on her child in this life so that he can make it to a theoretical afterlife. These people act under the assumption that God is more concerned with their children’s getting to heaven than he is with their living the happiest, most fulfilling lives possible right here on earth. I bet if he were banging a different girl every week — which is just as much a sin according to the Bible — she and her husband barely would have a word of chastisement to utter.
jonathanc621
Another example of idiots believing in some bullshit about an invisible man in the clouds and using it to fuck around with their kids.
Joseph Davoli
abuse via the catholic church.
AtticusBennett
1. get to a PFLAG meeting, ASAP
2. start attending a different church. one that isn’t bigoted and ugly.
here’s the deal, there’s no such thing as mere “SSA” – that’s conservativespeak. he’s gay. he will always be gay, as he’s always been gay.
if these heinous parents push some nonsense “celibate life” on him he’ll end up like Matt Moore – a resentful self-hating homosexual who piously touts his Jesusyness while getting busted every few months for trolling for peen on the interwebz.
one thing is for sure – if she and her husband don’t change their mindset, they will lose their son, one way or another. he’ll either leave home and never look back, or he’ll off himself like so many kids do when they get born to parents like this.
oh, as for “worrying about him” – how’s this: love him. understand him. embrace him. as the GAY MAN that he is.
the more abandonment issues he gets from his parents the more likely he is to run into the arms of abusive partners, get into substance abuse, and more.
it’s not that complicated.
Ogre Magi
I don’t know why so many lgbt people act like catholics are somehow not as bad as evangelicals
Michael Williams
Everyone should check out the movie, “Prayers for Bobby”. Sigourney Weaver is excellent as a “good Christian” mother whose son commits suicide. All parents of LGBT youth should watch it.
Christopher Davidson
The best way to keep your gay teen pure is to keep them away from child molesting priests. The church is the most abusive!
Jacob23
I would have thought that this is a case of trolling. But if it were trolling, the OP wouldn’t have deleted it after getting a negative response. So it seems to be real.
Even if you accept for the sake of argument that all of the mother’s religious beliefs about homosexuality are true (it’s a sin, her son should never have a gay relationship, etc.), how can she possibly think that it’s a good thing to tell her son that he will be lonely his entire life and that his every move must be policed? Any halfway competent parent would know to emphasize a positive vision for life. In the case of this woman, who comes to the table with anti-gay views, you would think that she would tell him that he could still find happiness through friendships and have a rich life through meaningful work. It would be pretty lame and would still harm her kid, but at least it would be an attempt to give him a “positive” vision of his future. The way she talks to him, it’s like she wants to make him suffer.
AtticusBennett
women like this end up abusing their kids by withholding love. which IS abuse. and then often those kids go out into the world, BROKEN, and end up falling in with people who don’t treat them well – because not being treated well is WHAT THEY’RE USED TO.
then momma can say “See? being gay is bad! look how unhappy you are!”
it’s a vicious cycle you see over and over again. especially in “ex-gay” or “celibate gay” circles – broken boys from abusive families who got into unhealthy relationships with other men, and don’t realize that the GAY part wasn’t what was unhealthy – but their inability to choose people who actually love and respect them.
Glücklich
Is this his mother?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CBx16TY78U4
Glücklich
Maybe her?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I9NPwV7B2bc
Gerald GeeLocke Panuthos
Prelude to a Suicide. so fucking sad.
Ladbrook
Don’t the Santorums have a son or two about this age? A coincidence? I think not.
FellaGirlie
As a faithful, practicing Roman Catholic Queer and parent, I always feel compelled to remind my community that the Church is not represented by this woman, nor abusive priests, nor any single fallible human. RCC is truly changing from within, much faster than its usual glacial pace, thanks to Pope Francis and many parish priests and lay people who realize it’s change or die. Also, there’s that bit about discrimination being VERY Christ-like. It’s hard to move a 2,000-year-old juggernaut.
That being said, I glad this ridiculous C*** of a mother got a dose of reality. I now hope the entire family gets some help before we’re wearing a purple ribbon for her son.
Rimminit
Yes, we can blame the Vatican for this parental abuse. Thank you Pope Ass Hole for contributing to another potential LGBT suicide!!!! He should be ashamed!!!
Finrod
It looks like an obvious troll to me.
Lvng1Tor
this is the saddest thing I’ve read in a very long time. @Finrod: I am a facilitator for a lgbt youth group. We have a kid who was removed from his home because of abuse like this…they took it even further and physically abused him though. This happens. It truly sadly does.
Giancarlo85
He went into depression? Why is that? Because his parents made him go into depression by making him think he could not be with anyone of the same sex.
The Catholic Church is irrelevant and no it’s not changing. It’s foolhearted to think it is changing. And I come from a strongly Catholic country (well at one point). The current Pope is no different than the last one… the man has a nefarious past too linked with former Argentine dictator Rafael Videla.
http://www.globalresearch.ca/the-truth-behind-pope-francis-breaking-the-silence-the-catholic-church-in-argentina-and-the-dirty-war/5327049
http://www.globalresearch.ca/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/francis-and-videla.jpg – Pope Francis with Rafael Videla. Videla was responsible for the killings of thousands including throwing people out of airplanes over the Pacific ocean. Catholic Priests were said to be on those planes reading people their last rites before they were tossed into the ocean.
The Catholic church is dark, backwards with someone two faced in charge now.
Mark Coassolo
Well just like a Mom who wants her daughter to be pure until she gets married to a decent man. Well now a Mom of a gay boy wants her son to be pure until he gets married to a decent gay man What’s the problem. So she’s trying to make him stay chaste. How about a monastery.
Mark Coassolo
Fortunately she’ll have to deal with him turning 18. What, is she going to do when he does find the great man and get married and come home with the children he and his husband that will be her grandchildren.
Mack
I just hope this kid gets away when he turns 18 and has his mind intact. But something tells me he’s pretty much a basket case now with parents like that.
jwtraveler
It’s sad that there is still so much fear and ignorance in this world, especially when it comes to sex.
jonjoe
@Ogre Magi: That’s because while conservative/Traditionalist Catholics exist as a minority within the Catholic Church, the majority of US Catholics IGNORE the teachings of their Magisterium. Poll after poll have shown that Catholics are more likely to support LGBT rights than Evangelicals.
Damon Robbins
They are manipulative parents that will one day have to accept that they have a gay son if he doesn’t take his life.Gay people do find loving long term relationships and they can have children.I hope that he finds a good support system when he goes off to college.
SFHarry
I think a good response would have been:
I commend you on your actions. You have done everything a good Catholic could do to insure your son will kill himself and help rid the planet of one more homosexual. You have taken actions that even I would not have thought of to ensure he hates himself and will spin into a severe depression. You can rest assured that in the afterlife you can comfortably look down from heaven to watch your son burning in hell for being both a homosexual and killing himself. You must be very proud.
RobvR
Even if this boy ever breaks free of his parents and their hatred of his sexuality he’ll praobably never get rid of the depressions. I feel very sorry for him, but most of all I feel sorry for society as a whole. It’s beyond me why this is even allowed. It’s child abuse and nothing else. When a child is hit it can be taken from you but when you deprive it every bit of privacy and tell it there’s something terribly wrong with him/her it’s freedom of religion? If that’s the love of god that god is a plain criminal.
Sam D. Maloney
Heartbreaking.
Louis
Is there a link to this site I cant seem to find it anywhere?
As far as this woman and people like her you are supposed to love your child unconditionally there are no conditions nor any exceptions .
You should be ashamed and should educate yourself and join PFLAG which is a wonderful organization that helps parents struggling to understand their childrens sexual orientation or them in general.
Its parents like this that do ultimately cause their child to kill themselves and it can easily be prevented with compassion education awareness and understanding.
I hope this young man leads a very fulfilling happy and beautiful life…even if that means he cuts his parents off completely and finds the true people who will love and accept him as he is.
They have no right to call themselves parents if this is how they treat their child period.
gaym50ish
@FellaGirlie: If it takes the Roman church as long to change attitudes toward gays as it has taken them to accept women as equals, we can count on another 2,000 years of this bullshit.
The rest of the civilized world has accepted women as men’s equals for some time now. Outside of the Roman Catholic Church, they can be leaders and even clergy. If Pope Francis is so open to change, he could easily start there and would have the majority of his followers with him.
If he can’t even do that, what hope is there for gay Catholics? Even the gay priests won’t side with gays against their church.
Leonard Woodrow
“Please don’t drive your son to this.”
That is exactly what these parents are doing. Wicked and unforgivable is the only way to describe this mother. I only hope her “God” gives her son the strength to resist her devilish tactics.
martinbakman
Phookin’ Katholix abuse of children in so many ways. Disgusting.
o.codone
This is a made-up, fake story contrived as filler by the editors. What better incendiary topic to excite the abundant wrath of christian-hating gay men than a story like this. It’s a natural.
The story may be fake but the issues can be real. It is a surprise to everyone when a gay boy is born into a traditional family (of whatever religion or ethnicity). Adjustments have to be made in all directions. It’s not easy and people search for solutions. Some societies throw the gay son out of the house, into the street, others disown, castigate and even kill their gay son for the honor of their family.
So, Mommy took your cell phone away now you’re going to kill yourself? Suck it up Mary. Grow up!
(Finally, “Giancarla85”, you may not call me an asshat, you may not say how my mother dropped me on my head, and you may not say that someone put me in the dryer when I was a child and that’s my real problem. You gotta think up some new slurs ghetto-gurl). 🙂
Will Moor
@o.codone: How is it made up? The thread in question exists. http://np.reddit.com/r/Catholicism/comments/3f371h/what_else_can_i_do_to_make_sure_my_son_with_ssa/ Its right in the article. And “SSA” is a very common “proper” term for gay people in Catholic circles. I am an ex-Catholic and am well acquainted with the term.
youarekiddingme
@o.codone: So, it’s made up? I take it that you’re emplyed by Queerty? How long have you been employed by them? Do you know the writer who “made up” the article”?
I think if you read the article you would have taken note that they did more than take away his cell phone:
“…we pulled him off of the basketball team (the locker room would just be an unnecessary temptation, and his presence there would be inappropriate and unfair to the other boys in his situation). We took the door off of his bedroom since privacy would just tempt him to experiment in the ways teen boys tend to do, and we forbid him from having sleepovers or spending one-on-one time with any of his male friends unsupervised…we also forbid him from dating, or participating in activities like his high school prom…unlike our other sons…”
1. No sports activity
2. Took door off room–no privacy
3. No friends over
4. No time alone with friends–unsupervised (privacy)
5. No social activity
6. No cell phone
Basically no interaction with anyone his own age whatsoever–unsupervised. Remember, he’s a teenager who NEEDS social interaction as part of normal development as a healthy adult.
I think you’e going a bit far with the killing of gay sons here in America…That may be true in some (I don’t know where) foreign country, but you’re reaching when you include that in you’re argument about not being abused.
This is not physical abuse, but it IS mental abuse, especially over time (14-17 years old). Grow up Mary.
GayEGO
What horrendous parents! They should be arrested, prosecuted, and found guilty of child abuse. We need to create seminars that teach people like these about the truth of human beings and that the negative hateful hoopla they learned in their religions is discriminatory and does not represent Godliness.
duecers
My faith (sic) in humanity is just about gone. Just how many ignorant “Christians” does it take to raise a community of suicidal teens? How many years of evolution will it take to rid our society of this pre-historic ideal of the Bible? Christians, wake up…your own Bible states: “Knowledge is the enemy of faith” please go out, get an education, join the 21st Century and let your children be whom they are. If they aren’t serial killers, thieves or terrorists leave them alone to grow up and be happy with their own skin!
bigbear21
all I can say to The young man please seek professional help. There are people out there that are more willing to help .there are many organizations such as gadd.they can steer you to professional help and please nnow they can steer you to professional help and please now we all love you .Believe me it’s not the end of the world there are a lot of people who really care for you please take care.
mcflyer54
I’m far from rich but I’d adopt this young man and pay for his college education in a heartbeat. I would show him that he can have a future and a family and that families love each other unconditionally whether they a biological or self made. This mother does not love her son or she could not abuse him in this manner. If she believes that he has somehow overcome his depression she is wrong – he has only found a way to hide it to avoid more of her criticism and abuse. Some people should never have children and this boy’s mother is one of them.
Dakotahgeo
@o.codone: Sooo, they finally let you out of detox again?! Don’t disappoint them again… you may not be as lucky next time.
Moritz
I guess I thought that one of the benefits of SSM becoming the law of the land is that young people, no matter how tortured, would know that there was a future out there for them. A future that involved marriage and also raising children.
It can’t be easy growing up as a pariah in your home. I hope he goes away to school far enough so that his parents will not know what he is doing in his social life. Cutting off his money for education, while saying you love your son and want what is best for him, is ridiculous. As with so many bad parents, they put their own needs, and their own image in the community ahead of what is best for their own child. How incredibly sad.
stonrdude
Took the door off the room, for john sake! I am so sorry for that young man. He will be a basket case. Ideas religion can bring.
Doughosier
Every Gay teen should not come out. I think there’s this push to express who you are and tell the world, which is good most of the time but we need to teach kids to take into consideration how the parents feel about gay people. If they are hateful nutjobs, better to pretend, until you can get out.
salex
What’ wrong here?
The mother is passing the Shame Base that she ha learned from her church which has used it for centuries. How else can they keep people in line. Guilt+Shame = a good Catholic for life.
The son will need years of therapy just to be alive. Mom needs her quilt and shame which for her is hidden.
Come on, it’s not a way to live, but it’s all she knows. She is all fucked up. Disfunctionalty has overtaken this family’s structure. Thank the church for it’s contribution!. It controls both parents. The boy must recognize his parents way so as to break free.
SteveDenver
Another refrain of “We love you, but we despise you and don’t trust you.”
Perhaps he’ll visit the financial aid office at school and cut off this controlling freak, her husband and their financial threat.
footwork61
@FellaGirlie: What has Francis changed?
dwbyers1960
And all you guys on here want to do is fuck the virgin…tell the truth.
pattygale
The tell tale fact for me is that her hetero sons may deflower as many young girls as they choose, called formication in the Bible, yet their gay son must be protected from his sexual orientation. That is not religion, that is abuse and homophobia. I hope the poor boy can endure his situation until he can move out of that hellhole and realize being alternative is not being bad. All parents, I’m one, like to believe their children are pure as the driven snow until they march down the aisle with their beloved…….ummm, I have a bridge I can get a deal on.
Lance Mullholland
After skimming about 60 comments, it’s sad to see how many have swallowed the media fantasy of a pope “changing” a 1.4 billion member organization or its well-entrenched bureacracy. Not gonna happen.
As for those of us GLBT Christians (including Catholics of various strains), blaming all priests for molesting any child who gets near him is wearing thin. Protestant youth minister and others do this all the time, and only a small percentage of Catholic priests violated their trust. Not right, no way to go back, fire everyone who knew, make a note for the future and don’t ever forget.
I know a set of Christian parents who took their gay 16 year old boy to a “Christian” counselor who handed him back to them saying ” you have a very mentally healthy gay son, and should be proud of him”. You’d be surprised how many GLBT friendly, NON-molesting priests and ministers there are – working from the inside to inspire change.
Cursing bad people (hey – they shop at my grocery store, too!) isn’t productive.
The more we can support Trevor Project, OutYouth and welcoming / affirming Christian groups will provide resources for these kids to find. Otherwise, you’re just flappin’ your lips, buddy…
Billy Budd
She is a disgusting creature. A kind of criminal. What she is doing to the boy is extremely cruel. She is harming the boy.
Charles Daniel Christopher
Did no one try educating the poor deluded woman? There is a growing body of evidence that sexuality and gender identification are not choices, but are largely determined by the ontological and paragenetic effects of events that happen in utero.
As an example, see:http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/news/20060626/birth-order-may-affect-homosexuality
http://www.samesexattraction.org/What-causes-same-sex-attraction.htm
http://thinkprogress.org/lgbt/2012/12/11/1318311/study-finds-biological-causes-for-homosexuality/
http://allpsych.com/journal/homosexuality/#.VcLR0Goo5pU
There are many more, if one looks.
Charles Daniel Christopher
Correction: Homosexuality appears to be an emergent factor of personality which depends on many factors: biological, social, and psychological. However, there are statistically significant correlations between some biologic factors and homosexuality.
jwtraveler
@FellaGirlie: Do you remember the outcry against NAMBLA? They pale in comparison to the wealth, power and extent of the RCC and are responsible for nowhere near as many as the thousands (or millions) of children sexually abused by hundreds (or thousands) of priests, facilitated by hundreds of other priests and bishops. By any measure, the RCC qualifies as an international pedophile organization. If there were justice in the world and a genuine concern for the well-being of children, the RCC would be shut down and its leaders prosecuted and imprisoned. But like the U.S. banks that suffered absolutely no consequences for stealing billions of dollars and destroying the U.S. economy, the RCC is “too big to fail”.
If the RCC ever had any moral authority, it has lost all of it.
msfrost
@Charles Daniel Christopher:
That nonsense, was debunked in the 1970’s.
Giancarlo85
@o.codone: The only thing I know about is that you’re a raving lunatic. You don’t know if this story is made up. You cannot say anything for certain. This is what makes you an idiot. You obviously have a warped fucked up mind.
Faggot
@Avery Alvarez: “Avery Alvarez
“Woah, where were the positive responses again?
Besides the ones mentioned above,
I saw a lot of people reduce gays to the label “those affected by SSA”. Once again they dehumanize us and reduce us to a phony, made-up clinical disorder.
I saw many suggest that they boy should be allowed around girls, because eventually he’ll fall in love with one of the them, get married, and have kids.
I saw many suggest anti-gay ex-gay torture group “Courage” as a “cure” to the son’s “SSA”
Many suggested the old and discarded canard that he just really needs to hang around male role models more because what he’s feeling isn’t sexual attraction, just longing for bonding with males.
Besides this, there was the usual, “no one wants a gay son”, “a gay son is less than ideal”, etc….
It was a cornicopia of lowbrow, uneducated, vile and disgusting religiously inspired homophobic rhetoric, most of which was just as ridiculous as what I assume the original letter by the mom sounded like. Reading it lowered my faith in humanity, and raised my suspicion of religion being a dangerous cult.”
Is SSA really any worse than MSM?
Louis
@o.codone: You come across as heartless and totally insensitive.
I hope you are never in the position that this young man and children like him are in on a daily basis in this country.
Shameful attitude.
Bellamy
“ScaredCatholicMom” is NOT Christian, she is Roman Catholic – which has been the largest and oldest terrorist organization on planet earth. This child’s parents should be thrown IN PRISON, and this horrifically psychologically abused child should be immediately removed from this household.
Bellamy
How is this not a hate crime? His woman should be criminally prosecuted.
Bellamy
Typo….. “His” = “This”
Daggerman
…this make me so angry, can anyone blow logic, sense into this crazy c**t because when she opened her legs for her husbands penis did she realize if that might have been, unpure. Christianity is such a ridiculous and pathetically unrealistic faith…
A'alon
Religion is a gateway psychosis.
Charles Daniel Christopher
@ msfrost, did you read any of the articles I cited? Please do and note their dates of publication. Science has progressed much in 45 years.
Brian Crim
THIS IS JUST TERRIBLE!! LIKE WTF WHAT TYPE OF MOM IS SHE? AT THE END OF THE DAY ONLY HE CAN LIVE HIS LIFE AND ONLY GOD CAN JUDGE HIM POINT.BLANK.PERIOD.
Brian Crim
@Bellamy: I SECOND THAT
Brian Crim
@o.codone: FUCKING JACKASS
Tereasa
This Mother and Father are nothing but child abusers. They need to be put in jail.
knute89377
That stupid künt does not deserve the title of ‘mother’. She should have had her vagina sewn shut at puberty, so that her evilness could not be inflicted on children. At this juncture, she should get on her knees and grovel across the floor to beg forgiveness for her vicious evilness toward her son. As for the father, he ought to grow a pair and think with his big head. What a sorry sorry excuse for a man, let alone a father.
esemple
They are not parents. They are breeders only.
manda007
@FellaGirlie: I am myself coming from an extremely Catholic background and came out 4 years ago to my parents and priest. I was basically taught that being gay and Catholic do not mix. I was given all the SSA rhetoric followed by years of suppressing my “sin,” Catholic counselling, referrals to programs, etc. I have finally said enough is enough and am being true to myself but it means I have a lot of very upset Catholic friends who think I am going to Hell and “love me but don’t approve or want to know anything about that part of my life”… I am unable to reconcile both my religious and sexual identity. To me it feels like I’ve always been put in the position where I have to chose one or the other. I am wondering how you are able to identify as both Queer and Catholic? Do you go to a church where the priest is super accepting? What about confession? (If it’s not too personal to ask) Are you able to still go and just not confess SSA – because it’s not a sin…?
tyler frost
I find this very disturbing. These parents are very abusive to their son. It clearly shows. What kind of parents would do something like that to their own child. I for one would like to know as a fellow memeber of the gay community where these Disgusting people live so I can give them a piece of my mind. They are so wicked and cruel they should be locked up and the same thing should be done to them that they did to their soon. I hope kara comes to bit you in the ass you horrible horrible people, and it serves you right if your son never talks to you again .
Kaylee
I am so very sad for this young man. Isolating him from friends is abusive. Depriving him of privacy, extracurricular activities, and prom is abuse. Treating him much differently than his brothers (such as not letting him have his own phone when they do, not letting him have a freaking door on his bedroom, etc.) is abuse. I hope that college is going to be a wonderful expereince for him. I hope he finds some great friends to love and support him, and I hope that he will flourish away from his opressive parents.
I can not wrap my head around the religous objections to LGBT people/lifestyles. Christians are supposed to follow the teachings of Jesus. Jesus, for the most part, taught love, acceptance and forgiveness. So many of these people seem to preach hate, disapproval, closed-mindedness and being unforgiving. It especially drives me crazy when they cherry pick which actions are “sins” and which are not.
Quick example of a “christian” that I know who cherry picks what is wrong and right. This guy has a brother who recently came out as gay. He has taken to Facebook relentlessly posting about how he disapproves of his brothers choices and lifestyle. He constantly badgers family and friends about how they should not “indulge” his brothers behavior, how they should lecture him on sin and try to lead him back to the righteous path. It has gotten to the point where the family and friends feel harrassed and alienated. No one was bothered by the brothers announcement until this guy started in with this crap.
This guy lives with a woman he’s not married to. He is a kleptomaniac and a pathalogical liar and he practically forced a former girlfriend to get an abortion. Are these not supposedly “sins” according to most christian dogma? And yet this guy has the balls to post an article about the true definition of hypocracy in responce to friends and family telling him to lay off his brother. Any time someone calls him out on it he unfriends and blocks them on Facebook.