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Sean Hayes Just Came Out. And He’s Furious You Made Him Do It

That Sean Hayes is gay is Hollywood’s worst kept secret — circa 1998, when his character Jack debuted on Will & Grace. Played with a natural flamboyance, Hayes portrayal of the serially out-of-work mooching neighbor was either an exercise in extreme method acting, or just an extension of Hayes’ true self. Or somewhere in the middle. But with an upcoming Broadway turn opposite Kristin Chenoweth in Promises, Promises, he’s acknowledging what nobody pretended was even something worth hiding: that he’s a proud, Emmy-winning gay actor. But damn you for making him say it aloud.

Like Neil Patrick Harris pre-How I Met Your Mother or White Collar‘s Matthew Bomer today, Harris didn’t want to declare his sexuality on the record during Will & Grace for fear of breaking Hollywood’s glass closet only to have the pieces slash through his career’s carotid artery. And the prospect of speaking about it still perturbs him, thanks in part to an Advocate article that made him hate the gay media.

And there’s the press. To this day he feels burned by a story that ran in this magazine in anticipation of the series finale of Will & Grace. Titled “Sean Hayes: The Interview He Never Gave,” the one-page “Q&A” was a clip job of quotes he’d given to other publications through the years that made him look rather silly for pretending no one knows he’s gay. Hayes’s sexuality had become an open secret in Hollywood, but he’d refused repeated offers to be inter­viewed by the magazine, and the then-editors of The Advocate felt entitled to the real story. Understandably, that didn’t sit well with Hayes. “Really? You’re gonna shoot the gay guy down? I never have had a problem saying who I am,” he states.

Ironic, then, that the magazine he is now coming out to is also the Advocate.

Finally, Hayes gets to his true point: “I feel like I’ve contributed monumentally to the success of the gay movement in America, and if anyone wants to argue that, I’m open to it. You’re welcome, Advocate.”

That sarcasm and anger cover up years of genuinely hurt feelings. “Why would you go down that path with somebody who’s done so much to contribute to the gay community?” he asks. “That was my beef about it. What more do you want me to do? Do you want me to stand on a float? And then what? It’s never enough.

“That’s the thing about celebrity: It sets you up to fail because the expectation is so high of what’s needed, what’s wanted from you that the second you don’t [meet it], you disappoint people.”

And therein lies the rub of gay celebrities: Being famous means your personal life is exposed, voluntarily or not. And closeted gay actors, and semi-out gay actors who don’t want to confirm nor deny their sexuality, have it even harder, because they must don a shield when it comes to who they’re dating. But Hayes had the (mis?)fortune of rising to stardom before blogs and Twitter, before Facebook and TMZ. Which says much about how even in the 1990s, gay celebs felt pressure from the gay community to say it loud and say it proud. Websites like ours, then, haven’t made it any easier — but as the media environment changes, so too must celebrities looking to court it for work.

And for the record, Hayes is happily partnered. But don’t ask him about it.

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  • 97 Comments
    • terrwill
      terrwill

      Sean, I would like to introduce you to the 800 pound very pink gorilla that is always in the room with you…….. : p

      Mar 8, 2010 at 12:20 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • romeo
      romeo

      Did anyone ever suspect that he was straight? I just assumed he was the usual show business gay but coy. I think he’s making a bit much out of how hounded he was.

      One thing for sure, if I had thought he was a straight actor playing that character, I would have been all up in the FCC’s ass about it. Will and Grace was a hoot, but I think it’s debatable how much Hayes did for gay rights with that character.

      Mar 8, 2010 at 12:27 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Cam
      Cam

      Um….and just what has he done for the gay movement? He hid being gay like it was some sort of dirty secret, was on a hit TV show and could have come out because they would have NEVER gotten ride of Jack from Will and Grace, and now he is taking bitter lessons from Miss George Micheal. Sorry Sean, but staying in the closet, pretending not to be gay and going to the occaisional AIDS fundraiser isn’t being a leader of the gay movement.

      Mar 8, 2010 at 12:29 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Joe
      Joe

      To be honest, I thought he was straight. As a gay man, it doesn’t matter to me if somebody is or isnt gay. And if you say that you aren’t, then who am I to sit here and judge you and tell YOU who YOU are. If the man told me he was straight, then I would believe it. Just because you cater to one stereotype or another doesn’t mean that its always true.

      Mar 8, 2010 at 12:44 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • David Ehrenstein
      David Ehrenstein

      He’s a FUCKING LIAR!

      The truth is easily “Googled” Miss Thing. You’ve done about as much for Gay Rights as “Jeff Gannon.”

      Mar 8, 2010 at 12:47 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Jaroslaw
      Jaroslaw

      I never thought he was straight, still I give him his propers as a really good actor but this story is really a non story. Everyone knew all along.

      Yes indeed, please tell us what you did for the movement, Sean?

      Mar 8, 2010 at 12:51 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Chopsie
      Chopsie

      “Contributed monumentally to the success of the Gay movement in America”? I thought his character on W&G contributed more to the stereotypes we have to fight against. I’m not so sure he can pass as a straight man in PROMISES, PROMISES…

      Mar 8, 2010 at 12:52 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • rw in lgb
      rw in lgb

      To those who are shocked– SHOCKED!– that Sean Hayes is gay, I always answer:

      1. Duh.

      2. Back in his “Billy’s Hollywood Screen Kiss” days, he was not so coy about his sexuality, and I recall interviews where he openly discussed being gay. Then he shoved himself back into the closet– needlessly, I’d say– when “Will and Grace” became a hit.

      3. Back in the days between “BHSK” and “W&G”, I used to see Mr. Hayes at a (dearly departed) West Hollywood video bar called Revolver. He was usually sitting in the back room wearing shorts, watching videos and occasionally flashing his quite-impressive cock to passers-by (Revolver patrons once in a while would get a bit naughty in that back room!). I imagine that back then he was looking for someone to take back home and do quite a bit more than “just jack”…!

      Mar 8, 2010 at 12:56 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Fitz
      Fitz

      He is such a used douche

      Mar 8, 2010 at 12:57 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • terrwill
      terrwill

      @rw in lgb: So you are telling us he has a big dick, as well as being one……. : p

      Mar 8, 2010 at 1:02 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • DR
      DR

      What exactly has he done that was so monumentally important to the LGBT community? Ellen broke ground on current tv comedy, and before that it was Billy Crystal on “Soap”.

      the one big thing I remember about his is the same as that pointed out by RW; I recall Sean being open right after BHSK, and then fading back into the closet when W&G took off. He fell off my radar after that.

      Mar 8, 2010 at 1:05 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Bertie
      Bertie

      Johnny come lately to the Neil Patrick Harris party.
      But Neil didn’t play a big nelly step n fetchit and then deny deny deny.
      Sean played Jerry Lewis in a tv movie and a fish in a cartoon.
      He is indeed a used 90s douche.

      Mar 8, 2010 at 1:16 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • SugNight
      SugNight

      ….and now that he has no career to lose or jeopardize, he comes out. Too little to late. He’s done absolutely NOTHING for the gay community except perpetuate stereotypes and deny everything.

      Mar 8, 2010 at 1:45 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Daniel
      Daniel

      He’s acting like a thousand other actors couldn’t have simply been cast in the W&G role. What a cheese head.

      Mar 8, 2010 at 2:25 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Elvis Depressley
      Elvis Depressley

      Trying hard to stay relevant much?

      Mar 8, 2010 at 2:46 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • That Bitch Téa Delgado
      That Bitch Téa Delgado

      Wow, what an unpleasant attitude. I have to echo the statements here: what has he done that was so “monumental” for the gay community? He played a gay minstrel on a hit TV series and publically behaved as if being gay were something to hide and be ashamed of.

      Mar 8, 2010 at 2:52 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • ewe
      ewe

      Some people do not need to officially come out. They are born an open book. Sean Hayes is one of those people.

      Mar 8, 2010 at 3:23 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mike (@tazz602)
      Mike (@tazz602)

      OK Folks – let’s not compare him to NPH who ONLY came out because he was going to be outed. NPH has been amazing and broken the glass ceiling since that point, but he would still be in the closet today if his hand was not forced.

      And yes – Sean Hayes was very open about his sexuality during interviews for BHSK – which I was amazed never surfaced during the W&G years. But he never denied his sexuality either or covered things up with a beard as many others did. To paraphrase Nathan Lane when he “came out” – was there every any doubt? Did it really need to be said?

      Mar 8, 2010 at 3:49 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • ewe
      ewe

      Since when is making yourself rich by playing the worst stereotype of a fluffy poof contributing monumentally to the gay movement? “Leave me alone” he implies. He has set back gay people seeking equality to the time of Glenn/Glenda. Please bitch. You are a farce. Take your cash and hole it up in the Hollywood Hills somewhere away from everyone else you don’t want to be compared to and/or seen with.

      Mar 8, 2010 at 3:53 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • ewe
      ewe

      And the show Will and Grace was about two lonely screwed up gay guys who could never find a meaningful relationship while they idolized a straight white female room mate fucking every straight guy she could find and a fag hag drunk. That is nothing monumental for the “gay movement”. What a crock.

      Mar 8, 2010 at 3:56 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • CPT_Doom
      CPT_Doom

      “OK Folks – let’s not compare him to NPH who ONLY came out because he was going to be outed. NPH has been amazing and broken the glass ceiling since that point, but he would still be in the closet today if his hand was not forced.

      And yes – Sean Hayes was very open about his sexuality during interviews for BHSK – which I was amazed never surfaced during the W&G years. But he never denied his sexuality either or covered things up with a beard as many others did.”

      This entire Hayes interview, and his attitude during W&G, smack of self-loathing. He cannot even see how denying his sexuality only reinforced the sense of shame and guilt about being gay.

      NPH, on the other hand, was living quite openly and simply not addressing the rumors. He was “outed” continually by bloggers and the tabloids, but never bit. Only after his new publicist pulled a “of course he is not gay” did NPH, in a very classy way, acknowledge the truth. He did it to be honorable and have integrity; Hayes is desparate for attention.

      Mar 8, 2010 at 4:32 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Cam
      Cam

      People keep saying that Sean Hayes was out when he did Billy’s hollywood Screen kiss. I don’t think thats true. For one, I don’t remember any interviews he gave where he admitted being gay. The movie came out in 1998 and here is an interviiew he gave to the Detroit Free Press in 1998. He doesn’t sound very “Out” to me.

      “””When I play a gay character, I want to be as believable as possible. And when I’m playing a straight character, I also want to be as believable as possible. So the less that people know about my personal life, the more believable I can be as a character. [Detroit Free Press November 23, 1998] “”””

      Mar 8, 2010 at 4:42 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • AlwaysGay
      AlwaysGay

      I’m glad he acknowledged his sexuality publicly. He does get to a very good point and that is how gay people treat anyone gay especially gay celebrities. For many gay people other gay people are never good enough. The bar is always pushed out of the way so you can’t reach it. For heterosexuals it’s a very different story, these same gay people who can never find a gay person who is to their liking will worship heterosexuals for just saying anything positive about gay people and it doesn’t matter what their abilities are they are great in these gay people’s minds. These gay people are mindless, they go along with heterosexual prejudices. Prejudices that say gay people are inferior and not to be taken serious while heterosexuals are superior and always to be taken serious.

      Mar 8, 2010 at 4:56 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • alan brickman
      alan brickman

      She should also blame all those Gay teenageers who took
      their lives due to shameful closets like him….

      Mar 8, 2010 at 5:03 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Cam
      Cam

      No. 23 · AlwaysGay said…
      I’m glad he acknowledged his sexuality publicly. He does get to a very good point and that is how gay people treat anyone gay especially gay celebrities. For many gay people other gay people are never good enough. The bar is always pushed out of the way so you can’t reach it.
      ________________________

      And just how is it that we are treating him badly? He came out and said “”“I feel like I’ve contributed monumentally to the success of the gay movement in America,”

      And we are responding to the fact that being a closet case and playing a stereotyed character on a show that never even allowed a kiss to happen between two men isn’t exactly on a par with being Nelson Mandella. We aren’t holding him up to ANY kind of standard, merely pointing out that ANY gay guy with a blue callar job, working in a car shop in some town in middle America who comes out of the closet is braver than this guy.

      Mar 8, 2010 at 5:07 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • fredo777
      fredo777

      While I agree that he could have come out during W + G, I disagree that he didn’t take part in something (the show itself) which, in my opinion, did a great deal to make a mainstream American audience more accustomed to seeing openly gay characters in their homes on a weekly basis + (dare I say?) fall in love with them. Granted, there will be the critics talking about how stereotypical Jack was as a character, but that doesn’t change the fact that the show overall was more helpful to us than harmful.

      Mar 8, 2010 at 5:21 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • tazz602
      tazz602

      AND – while Jack McFarland was very stereotypical – how many of us KNOW that stereotype and see it daily if not weekly. Is it really that much of a negative stereotype when it exists and we are all aware of it?? Self Loathing much ppl?

      Mar 8, 2010 at 5:23 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • cat walker
      cat walker

      too late…and desperately trying to be on the media.

      Mar 8, 2010 at 5:28 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • David Ehrenstein
      David Ehrenstein

      @Mike (@tazz602): Not at all true. NPH and David were all over town together well before Mario Laundry noticed an article in a Canadian gossip column.

      As you might recall Neil’s publicist denied it, only to have Neil smack that down nanoseconds later. Publicists and managers (many of whom are gay) want their stars to stay closeted. Why? Internalized Homophobia of course. But it’s alos because the Out and Proud can’t be manipulated on other levels. They won’t be declined to listen to those who claim “I know what’s best for your career.” NPH is golden — and thus a threat to the “Masterminds.”

      Mar 8, 2010 at 5:38 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • David Ehrenstein
      David Ehrenstein

      @Cam: You got it, Cam!

      Mar 8, 2010 at 5:40 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Jimmy
      Jimmy

      TAZZ602 – you said it.

      Mar 8, 2010 at 5:41 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Kieran
      Kieran

      Nothing delights some gay men more than being able to bitch slap one of their own—especially if he’s famous. Truly pathetic. No wonder so many celebrities (and men in general) choose to stay closeted.

      Mar 8, 2010 at 5:45 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Dawson
      Dawson

      When did we become an intolerant group? We should not hate within the community without cause. He is an actor and he doesn’t have to come out until he is ready. Why do we have to act like we are the judge and jury?

      It’s his opinion that’s all. If he feels by being on Will and Grace that it help the gay movement he is absolutely correct. What he has done outside the community might be private. Does he have to advertise all he has done privately just to shut some people up?

      I can not believe the vitriol for someone who hasn’t done anything to us personally? We should be supporting our gay brothers and sisters. That is what we are best at.

      Let’s take the best of what he has to say and be glad that we have another visable gay brother in the media.

      Mar 8, 2010 at 5:49 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • ewe
      ewe

      @David Ehrenstein: I second that. Cam got it down alright. Say it like it is.

      Mar 8, 2010 at 5:51 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • 4 Douche BFs from my 20s (I am smarter now)
      4 Douche BFs from my 20s (I am smarter now)

      Gay actors seem to think they are entitled to be in the closet, and the rest of us must be forced to play along.

      Here’s an idea: Play like you are straight all you want, but don’t whine like little girls if everyone wants to know whether you are gay or not. Its the price of being in the public eye.

      Mar 8, 2010 at 5:57 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Chandler in Las Vegas
      Chandler in Las Vegas

      The next thing he’s gonna claim is that he’s Toothy Tile.

      Mar 8, 2010 at 5:59 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Josh
      Josh

      When you’re a gay celeb and you intentionally avoid talking about being attracted to men (or women) all you’re doing is being a role model for closet cases.

      There are gay celebs who avoid going to events with their partners or never talk about them and say “I just want to keep my private life private” but then they go on talk shows or do an interview where they talk about getting a colonic or their mother dying.

      Mar 8, 2010 at 6:23 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mastik8
      Mastik8

      Well, his Advocate interview did everything he wanted it to. He alienated the GLBT community, got all of us talking about him again and he generated lots of free publicity for Promises, Promises. If the MSM pick this up he has it made on Broadway.

      Mar 8, 2010 at 7:08 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Herbo
      Herbo

      I don’t recall seeing Sean Hayes at any “No on H8″ marches when it mattered , unlike the sight of Zachary Quinto and other A-listers.
      Sorry Sean – but you’ve proven yourself quite useless.

      Mar 8, 2010 at 7:09 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mike
      Mike

      Laughing my ass off the The Advocate. Seriously, this is your ground-breaking cover story? You’re as irrelevant as Hayes.

      Mar 8, 2010 at 7:12 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Lukas P.
      Lukas P.

      America loves a “reformed sinner” and stories of redemption. What bothers me more than his delay in coming out, is HOW he came out in a fit of righteous indignation. That galls me.

      *IF* he’d gone on Ellen or Oprah, and explained just a little about whatever issues he’d faced with coming out AND talked about his new-found resolve to actively work for LGBT rights/causes, I think he would be slapped around for awhile, then welcomed by us for whatever his plans might be now that he’s OUT.

      Can he no longer afford the help of a good publicist? Yeesh, let’s get real here.

      Mar 8, 2010 at 7:34 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • alex0770
      alex0770

      Is this old Douche a republican? Why else would he not have come out during the Prop 8 debacle? He could have been redeemed himself for his slumming throughout the 90s as a fey minstrel. How many depressed kids opted not to come out because they were afraid of being expected to act like the butt of every joke???

      Mar 8, 2010 at 8:33 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • CONVERSATION CHAMBER
      CONVERSATION CHAMBER

      Eh. I never dreamed he wasn’t already out. I always assumed his status was well known. Oh well. Whatever.

      Mar 8, 2010 at 9:01 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Lukas P.
      Lukas P.

      Talk about coming out to a resounding thud. His indignant attitude and “poor me” ploy may well cost him whatever career rebound he might have had if he’d only used a little graciousness, said a couple mea culpas, and promised to lift a finger for GLTBQ causes.

      Instead, he used the middle finger.

      Mar 8, 2010 at 9:23 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • rrr
      rrr

      @David Ehrenstein: NPH did not want to come out. He was trying to take the glass closet route but then his PR person put out that press release denying the gay rumors without checking with him first to get approval. That eliminated the possibility of NPH being in the glass closet, he was stuck either going along with it and being a liar about his sexuality or refuting it and coming out.

      He came out because he didn’t see a viable alternative.

      Mar 8, 2010 at 9:48 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • TheProfessor
      TheProfessor

      Interesting, that now that he’s a has-been, he admits he’s gay. Who’s next, Zachary Quinto? These Hollywood closet cases are getting more and more pathetic by the day with their silly excuses. Sean, no one cares about you.

      Mar 8, 2010 at 10:32 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • ewe
      ewe

      Next we will hear David Hyde Pierce telling us the original characters on the Frazier show were straight. Yeah right. That was a 180 turn from the original intent of the author.

      Mar 8, 2010 at 11:16 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Flamer
      Flamer

      The character Jack is just a gay Stepin Fetchit.

      Embarrassing really.

      Mar 8, 2010 at 11:27 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Geoff M
      Geoff M

      Let’s see if the next 12 years (8 on W&G/4 since the show ended) he can do something REAL to advance the gay community.

      Mar 8, 2010 at 11:50 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • notreallyhere247
      notreallyhere247

      I actually didn’t even know he wasn’t “out” yet. Shows you how much I know (or care) about him.

      Mar 8, 2010 at 11:56 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • byufag
      byufag

      What a whimp.

      Nice example for our gay, youth, sean.

      Pussy.

      Mar 9, 2010 at 12:05 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • rumorrat
      rumorrat

      More about Sean Hayes’ “coming out” at http://www.RumorRat.com

      Mar 9, 2010 at 1:13 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Marcus
      Marcus

      So Sean is claiming that he was never in the closet–I call bullshit.

      So, let’s turn the clock back to the year 2000–let’s say I went on Regis and started talking about what I did over the weekend and I let it slip that I had dinner with Sean and his then boyfriend.

      I wouldn’t be accused of outing him? I wouldn’t get a call from his publicist? The Regis show wouldn’t attempt to edit that comment from my interview?

      Is that what he wants me to believe?

      Mar 9, 2010 at 1:17 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • dvz
      dvz

      I think he’s pissed because he’s watched Neil Patrick Harris not only be unhampered by coming out, but actually become even MORE popular–so there went the excuse he was clinging to for so long, as well as some of the roles or cash. Wait, I take that last part back. One of NPH’s pubic hairs on a bad pubic hair day has more talent and likability than this twat.

      Hayes comes across not even something as benign as unpleasant, but rather as a bitter and creepily angry man.

      Does he think his much belated and very “this just in, fire is hot” announcement is going to help jump start his career? God, if he does, that’s pretty pathetic, but whatever else might be his true reason? He’s had ages to make a simple, matter of fact acknowledgement, and then move forward. I know I’m cynical, but this whole thing seems like a grasping, gasping play for CPR on his faded popularity.

      Mar 9, 2010 at 3:45 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • fredo777
      fredo777

      snark, snark, snark. bitch, bitch, bitch.

      late or otherwise, he’s out. great.

      as was already said, the character of “Jack” wasn’t that far from how some men actually are + his character had some very funny moments. if he stars in something else that i’m interested in, i’ll watch it. just like i do with any other celebrity. people go off the radar + come back all the time. i don’t get hung up on the whole “relevant until you’re no longer at the peak of your career” rubbish as much as a lot of people seem to.

      Mar 9, 2010 at 4:22 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • benlayvey
      benlayvey

      I wonder how many Matt Bomer/ACooper haters now feel validated by Sean Hayes’ public admission! The Fools!

      Mar 9, 2010 at 5:02 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Zach
      Zach

      NPH didn’t come out, he was forced out and decided to take the bull by the horns.

      Mar 9, 2010 at 7:29 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Rani
      Rani

      “I wonder how many Matt Bomer/ACooper haters now feel validated by Sean Hayes’ public admission! The Fools!”

      It’s hardly the same. Hayes is chubby, unattractive and best known for playing a campy nelly-queen. Bomer is hot, good looking and known for playing a womanizer. The queens want to claim Bomer as their own, but they are not bothered about Hayes.

      Mar 9, 2010 at 8:58 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • MissGluteusMaximus
      MissGluteusMaximus

      Sean who?

      Mar 9, 2010 at 9:31 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Joe
      Joe [Different person #1 using similar name]

      I always assumed Sean was gay, if you die hard fans recall.
      The episode where they are all at the HR fundraiser.
      and Karen is trying to out bid Beverly Leslie.
      Notice the rugged handsome man in the background with the thick black beard
      Well, He was Sean’s date to some of the awards shows that Sean was nominated for.
      I always assumed that was his partner in life.
      In reality “who cares”
      Jack McFairyland is and always Will be a television icon.
      Its his own business if he wanted to stay in the closet or not. Maybe he’s just a private person that didn’t care for all the Hollywood BS.
      The man probably never has to work again, as long as Will & Grace are in re-runs.
      Maybe He doesn’t want to lead the army of Gay rights advocates, marching down the streets of America, demanding we be treated with respect and dignity.

      Mar 9, 2010 at 10:50 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Cam
      Cam

      No. 60 · Joe said..
      Its his own business if he wanted to stay in the closet or not. Maybe he’s just a private person that didn’t care for all the Hollywood BS.
      ____________________

      It isn’t his own business when he is claiming to have done such amazing things for gay rights. Additionally, I’m tired of this whole “They are a priviate person” B.S. There are MANY MANY other professions that do not involve being a public persona. People that audition for TV shows are not private people. They desire the spotlight.

      Mar 9, 2010 at 11:33 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Sam
      Sam

      His personal life is his own business and no one elses. Period.

      Perhaps if all you bitter old queen armchair activists passing judgement on how others choose to express their sexuality had their lives ripped open on the pages of newspapers, tabloids and blogs you’d feel a little different.

      Remember: We all take different paths in life and no one, but no one, has the right to tell others what path you or I should take.

      Posters on this site often sound like a bunch of self righteous children. Grow up and mind your own business.

      Mar 9, 2010 at 4:56 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Joe
      Joe [Different person #2 using similar name]

      So many negative comments here. I’ve met Sean in the recent past (a little over 2 years ago) and even though it was only a brief encounter he was a really nice guy.

      I know that doesn’t seem to hold much weight, but here’s my opinion. Who gives a F about what he does or does not say to the public? You guys all act like he should be totally out of the closet no matter what. Not everyone is a champion of gay rights, and not everyone has that fire inside of them to billboard their sexuality to everyone they meet.

      Actors fear being type-cast and he probably took advice from Agents and Managers telling him to remain closeted. They tell them that all the time (I know, I used to work in an agency). Hollywood may look very open and liberal from our outside vantage point, but from the inside it’s still very homophobic and worried about what the general public thinks.

      So lay off Queens…let the man be and stop giving him shit for not wanting to do something you expect him to do. Remember, it’s not your life, it’s his.

      Mar 9, 2010 at 5:04 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Marcus
      Marcus

      @Sam:

      If his personal life is his own business, why is he on the cover of the Advocate then?

      Mar 9, 2010 at 5:16 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • ewe
      ewe

      @Joe: some people say george bush is a nice guy too. So what. Calling everybody a queen is hardly very nice Joe.

      Mar 9, 2010 at 5:17 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • ewe
      ewe

      @Joe: you seem to be off topic. One can only go beyond sexual orientation when you go beyond sexual orientation. He just began that process now.

      Mar 9, 2010 at 5:20 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • kat
      kat

      Usually I’m sympathetic to celebs who take their time coming out, I think it has to be much harder to come out to the world than to just your family and friends (which is hard enough). But this guy seems like a real twat, no sympathy from me at all.

      Mar 9, 2010 at 7:16 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • MuscleBoy
      MuscleBoy

      He’s a loser. Go away creep.

      Mar 9, 2010 at 8:39 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • 4 Douche BFs from my 20s (I am smarter now)
      4 Douche BFs from my 20s (I am smarter now)

      @Rani: I love how you projected. Well, lie and project. The lying is where you apparently can’t read the same people making the same comments as before. At least, make the lie believable. The fact you want to fucker Bomer and not Hayes does not mean other people have changed their mind. It means you are delusional. You ain’t gonna get either.

      Mar 9, 2010 at 9:13 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • 4 Douche BFs from my 20s (I am smarter now)
      4 Douche BFs from my 20s (I am smarter now)

      @Marcus: Don’t use logic. It will only confuse them and lead to greater irrationality.

      Mar 9, 2010 at 9:15 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Lukas P.
      Lukas P.

      What was the point of his coming out, and doing so with such a bad attitude?

      I won’t say it again for at least 24 hours, but he should’ve gone on Oprah or Ellen!

      So far, it’s a badly needed scoop for the Advocate, and a wash — or net loss — for Sean.

      Mar 9, 2010 at 9:45 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • 4 Douche BFs from my 20s (I am smarter now)
      4 Douche BFs from my 20s (I am smarter now)

      @Lukas P.: He’s trying to revitalize his career. Not sure how this helps it. I guess bad publicity is better than good publicity.

      Mar 9, 2010 at 9:51 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Lukas P.
      Lukas P.

      @4 Douche BFs from my 20s (I am smarter now): He sure isn’t being embraced by the gayz, eh? A couple apologies and a story of “why now” might have helped. Easier to be fakely apologetic in print than on TV, usually. The voice and the eyes and hand gestures are dead giveaways on the tube.

      His publicist, if he still has one, did him no favors in helping Mr Hayes re-amp his career, and in allowing Sean’s resentment or bitterness to become a focal point of the interview.

      Mar 9, 2010 at 10:13 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Rob Moore
      Rob Moore

      @Joe: Seriously? You thought he was straight? I don’t want to seem as if I am making fun, but in the handful of recordings I saw of him when he wasn’t in character, my faulty gaydar shrieked.

      Mar 9, 2010 at 10:55 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Herb
      Herb

      This is curious of queerty.com to act like “well duh,” when an obvious gay person either refuses to admit they are gay like Sean Hayes, or say they are straight, like Clay Aiken, then come out as gay.

      But, if someone who is obviously gay takes a half step out of the closet by saying they are bi (like Mike Manning), well then, they are to be believed about their proclaimed sexuality and shame on you for questioning it.

      Mar 9, 2010 at 10:59 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • CONVERSATION CHAMBER
      CONVERSATION CHAMBER

      It’s naive to look at Elton, Ellen and Neil, and think that because they have managed to maintain successful careers that all closeted celebrities can come out with little damage. Look at Chad Allen, Rupert Everett and Rosie O’Donell (remember when she used to be a Hollywood actress?) Even the successful ones listed came dangerously close to losing ground.

      Ellen’s coming out led directly to the cancellation of her sitcom, which had been enormously popular beforehand. Then she tried to come back with another one that flopped instantly. After laying low for years, and returning to standup in the meantime, she basically had to reinvent herself from as a ‘personality,’ as opposed to an actress.

      Chad Allen was a prominent child star, who was on the verge of evolving past that, thanks to his successful coming of age stint on Dr. Quinn. After he was outed, he couldn’t even be arrested in Hollywood…despite his Dr. Quinn role still being very recent. He said himself that CBS (despite his having worked there for five, six years) wouldn’t give him a pilot after Quinn ended. Since then he has had to reinvent himself as an activist-actor on the underground film circuit.

      Rupert Everett had all sorts of buzz and the right outward ingredients to be leading man material. Once it came out that he was gay, he was relegated to supporting roles in lighthearted comedies. He even said himself that coming out was limited his career opportunities and warned that anyone with huge Hollywood aspirations shouldn’t do it.

      Not saying that people shouldn’t come out, but again…it’s naive to look at someone like Neil Patrick Harris (who had the security of already being part of an ensemble cast to a popular sitcom when he came out. Timing was on his side. Had he done it during the downtown between Doogie and Mother, I have to wonder if his story would have turned out very differently) and think that no career repercussions can happen. Let’s face it, image is everything in their business. And “gay” in the public eye can often times puts a label on you, and relegate you to a box.

      Mar 9, 2010 at 11:04 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • 4 Douche BFs from my 20s (I am smarter now)
      4 Douche BFs from my 20s (I am smarter now)

      @Lukas P.: I think his publicist did a fantastic job of making a has-been once again someone that people are talking about. If he had given a boring interview in which we liked him, I doubt anyone would be thinking about him today. Now, he’s got everyone going “who is this again?” Brilliant. I want to one day get publicity like this.

      Mar 9, 2010 at 11:04 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • 4 Douche BFs from my 20s (I am smarter now)
      4 Douche BFs from my 20s (I am smarter now)

      @CONVERSATION CHAMBER: There are a list of actors that I have listed before who all have successful careers in Hollywood. I am not going to list them again because you will just ignore it, and repeat yourself again in the next article like this.

      Mar 9, 2010 at 11:08 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Tylertime
      Tylertime

      @CONVERSATION CHAMBER:

      Coming Out didn’t ruin Chad, Rosie or Rupert’s careers. Dig a little deeper. Rupert has a drug problem that makes it difficult to work with him. He’s had a career for over 25 years so I don’t think you can say his career was “ruined” by coming out. The man works more than many straight actors his age.

      As for Chad, how many child stars are able to bridge their careers from childhood through adolescence? Not many. NPH did it.

      Then there’s Rosie. Don’t you think her self destructive behavior killed her career and not her coming out? If you think back it was Rosie’s deciscion to leave her talk show at it’s height after she came out. Then a couple years later she got THE VIEW. She was hired with everyone knowing she was an out lesbian. Her fat mouth and ego got in the way. Not her sexuality.

      Mar 9, 2010 at 11:20 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • fredo777
      fredo777

      @4 Douche BFs from my 20s (I am smarter now): I highly doubt that many gay people (and probably lots of straight ones) who have owned a TV over the past several years wouldn’t know who Sean Hayes is.

      Mar 9, 2010 at 11:47 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • 4 Douche BFs from my 20s (I am smarter now)
      4 Douche BFs from my 20s (I am smarter now)

      @fredo777:What part of has been confuses you?

      Mar 10, 2010 at 12:45 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Lukas P.
      Lukas P.

      @4 Douche BFs from my 20s (I am smarter now): Good points I hadn’t thought about. Thanks.

      He got publicity, yes, but will this help his career? My gut reaction is to answer NO, because I can’t see the LGB folks suddenly wanting to embrace him, and most straight folks I knew assumed he was gay anyway, so his “TADA” moment might not matter to them.

      His success will probably depend less on whether he came out than on the projects he takes on as an actor. I’m thinkjng that I’m prob in the minority here, but I watch a show or movie based on the story and the acting, so if he signs onto something worth watching, I’ll see it. It’s a bad analogy but I think we can agree there are actors (M or F) whose personal lives are a hot mess but whose shows/films are still worth the 11 bucks, two hours –or whatever– to see.

      Analogy: When Tiger Woods starts winning tournaments again, we all may think he’s a jerk, but the ratings will still be there. And yes, I’ll watch….

      Mar 10, 2010 at 12:57 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • rudy
      rudy

      Kristin Chenoweth AND Sean Hayes BOTH in the same show?
      I’d rather be waterboarded.

      Mar 10, 2010 at 2:03 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Rani
      Rani

      “Fucker Bomer”? I suggest you learn to type. And your statement makes no sense.

      I no, I don’t want to “fucker” either shithead. I’m not a fag.

      Mar 10, 2010 at 6:12 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Rani
      Rani

      And as for being delusional, I know how queen’s minds work and I think YOU are delusional for actually believing all that gay community crap. Self-loathing and desperation do not a community make. So feck off.

      Mar 10, 2010 at 6:17 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Aaron B.
      Aaron B.

      The point here is that making a buck was more important than not hiding your true nature. “I was never in”, says Mr. Hayes? Bull! Interviewers were strictly forbidden to ask him about his sexuality during Will & Grace cast interviews. I’d hardly call that “not being in”! More like desperatly not wanting anyone to talk about it. “His decision”? “His privacy”? My arse! He and his publicist went to great lengths to hide his sexual orientation! There’s nothing commendable about that! He did everything he could to hide his true nature! He was a coward and a liar!

      I am so sick of people saying that its no one’s business. It most certainly is our business! He’s an actor! We the public gave him his career. An actor is constantly in the public eye. An actor needs the public to survive. If nobody watches your show or buys tickets to your play or movie, you are finished! So an actor owes a great deal to the public. You give up your privacy the moment you become a star. Period. That’s how it works in showbiz. Ask anyone who’s been there. The only one who ever completely pulled off the privacy thing was Greta Garbo, some 70 or more years ago. If Mr. Hayes wanted to be so private, he was in the wrong line of work! And yes, the timing reeks of publicity/attention getting for that play he’s appearing in. His career could stand a bit of a boost now.

      One more thing. Portraying a funny but also annoying and grating stereotype on a tv show is hardly doing something monumental for the gay community or the advancement of the gay movement. (On a side note, actor Craig Chester auditioned for the role of Jack but did not get the part because, as he was told, he wasn’t gay enough). The Jack character as portrayed by Sean Hayes was a source of laughter and ridicule and did not do much more than reinforce the stereotype. That’s about it. Made people laugh and entertained them, for sure, but monumental for the gay movement? Hardly!

      Mar 10, 2010 at 8:40 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Cam
      Cam

      No. 62 · Sam said…
      His personal life is his own business and no one elses. Period.

      Perhaps if all you bitter old queen armchair activists passing judgement on how others choose to express their sexuality had their lives ripped open on the pages of newspapers, tabloids and blogs you’d feel a little different.
      __________________

      Really? Thats funny, isn’t it incredible that people can take a picture of Matt Damond out with his girlfriend, or ask Jennifer Aniston if she is dating anybody and they don’t get attacked for “Invading their personal life”. Is being a woman part of Angelina Jolie’s personal life? Nobody here is saying that Sean Hayes should tell us who he is fucking. Just the fact that he denied who he is like it was a dirty secret, and now when he needs the braodway gays to see his play he grgingly comes out on the attack shows me that if anybody is the bitter queen it isn’t anybody on here.

      Mar 10, 2010 at 9:46 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Cam
      Cam

      No. 76 · CONVERSATION CHAMBER
      It’s naive to look at Elton, Ellen and Neil, and think that because they have managed to maintain successful careers that all closeted celebrities can come out with little damage. Look at Chad Allen, Rupert Everett and Rosie O’Donell (remember when she used to be a Hollywood actress?) Even the successful ones listed came dangerously close to losing ground.

      Ellen’s coming out led directly to the cancellation of her sitcom, which had been enormously popular beforehand.

      _____________________

      Ok, lets go down your list one by one…
      1. Ellen sitcom was NOT enormously popular beforehand. It was doing the long slow death that sitcoms do. The coming out episodes gave it a HUGE ratings boost. It was cancelled more than a season later because the storylines ceased to be comedic and became all about Ellen struggling in a relationship. Most of my gay and lesbian friends stopped watching because it wasn’t funny and got depressing.
      2. Chad Allen….he didnt’ have a career before he came out, hadn’t really done anything since Dr. Quin. Now he is constantly working in those here DVD’s about the Private Eye etc… so a small career boost for him.
      3. Rupert Everett. He was a hollywood “It” guy, then he made some of the worst career choises in history. he goes from “My Best Friends Wedding” do doing a horrible and offensive movie with Madonna that was unwatchable if you were gay.
      4. Rosie O’Donnell. She waited until her show was ending before she came out so you can’t blame the shows demise on her. then she completely changed her personality. She went from being the “Queen of Nice” to attacking people, and becoming very in your face. There was a consensus amoung fans that she had been playing them for years pretending to be sweet, so was it her lesbianism, or the fact that she litterally became a different person publicly?

      Lastly….just how good has Sean Haye’s career been for staying in the closet? He hasn’t done crap since Will and Grace so how exactly was staying in good for him. That is what he realized and the only reason he is coming out now. He could have come out on Will and Grace any time he wanted and was in no danger of being fired.

      Mar 10, 2010 at 9:53 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Aaron
      Aaron

      No.88 – CAM

      Couldn’t agree with you more!

      Mar 10, 2010 at 11:30 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • fredo777
      fredo777

      @4 Douche BFs from my 20s (I am smarter now): What part of “that is rubbish” confuses you? What was the last thing Ed O’Neill regularly starred in that was heavily watched + well-received since Married…With Children ended? Now he’s on Modern Family, a brilliant + well-received show. Before it started, I’m sure he was no longer deemed “relevant”.

      Mar 11, 2010 at 2:01 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • SoylentDiva
      SoylentDiva

      Oh FFS, get over yourself Queenie.

      Mar 13, 2010 at 10:44 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Hotspot Flame
      Hotspot Flame

      I was actually quite interested in what orientation he was after I saw him on Ellen. I was never attracted to him before, but after seeing him on ellen. I think he’s actually pretty hot.
      Anyway, I liked that he didn’t say what he was because he wanted people to really believe that he was a gay/straight/bi-sexual in the shows and movies he was in. I mean once your labeled with gay/straight or bi, some people just aren’t going to believe that they are playing a straight,gay or bi person, when you aren’t two of the three.

      Mar 22, 2010 at 8:44 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • jeff m
      jeff m

      man..most of you fa-s are haters!! will and grace was, and is, hilarious. if you were making what he was making,money-wise, you’d wait to come out too.

      Mar 26, 2010 at 2:14 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Maxie
      Maxie

      Sometime in the distant future:

      - I’ll take Sidekicks for $20000, Alex Trebek Jr.

      - This homosexual actor played Will’s flamboyantly gay best friend in the 90′s sitcom Will & Grace, without anyone even imagining this actor is a homosexual in real life. Just in case I didn’t say it, this actor is one big homosexual

      - Mmmm, I dunno, who is Debra Messing?

      - I am sorry, it was Sean Hayes. Yes, it’s hard to believe he is gay, because he was later cast to play the Rhett Butler character in the now classic 2026 remake of “Gone with the wind”, costarring Amanda Lepore. Better luck next time.

      Apr 6, 2010 at 2:19 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Joe
      Joe [Different person #3 using similar name]

      Harris didn’t want to declare his sexuality on the record during Will & Grace.

      Don’t you mean Hayes?

      Who writes this slop?

      Feb 13, 2012 at 2:53 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Oh, ok.
      Oh, ok.

      Who does he think he was fooling?

      Ricky Martin didn’t fool anyone and he’s hot with women drooling all over him even now.

      Feb 13, 2012 at 3:36 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • mister sir
      mister sir

      @Cam

      So glad someone said this about Ellen’s sitcom

      I always hear people say it was cancelled because she came out

      That’s only true because of how badly they handled the aftermath

      It became terrible and boring, like a very low intensity drama.

      The show lost focus and quickly became about Ellen being gay instead of just being about Ellen and her circle of friends

      Jun 24, 2012 at 7:26 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·

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