A national sex survey in the UK found that when it comes to getting busy in the bedroom, British men and women are having sex less often, mostly because they are just too damn busy. But the varieties of sexual expression, including between members of the same sex, are far more creative than in the past, according a report on the study in the NY Times.
Religious conservatives take careful note: You are losing the battle to control people’s sexuality, and badly. The majority of adults now see sex primarily as about pleasure rather than reproduction, leading to a dizzying array of sexual expression for both gay and straight, and everyone on the spectrum in between.
“It reflects a shift away from sex being seen purely in the context of reproduction toward a greater emphasis on pleasure and recreation,” said Kaye Wellings, head of social and environmental health research at the London School of Hygiene and Tropical Medicine.
Over 15,000 adults aged 16-74 participated in the study between September 2010 and August 2012. The survey found 50 percent of Brits reported having sex at least three times in the last month, down from five times when the first survey was conducted in 1990.
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The survey also found that British women are more adventurous in the sack than British men. Sixteen percent of women reported they have engaged in a same-sex experience, a fourfold jump since 1990. Only seven percent of men say they have engaged in a same-sex experience, which is unchanged since 1990.
“Women are more changeable in relation to social norms than men,” said sex researcher Cynthia Graham. “Orientation isn’t just gay, straight or bisexual. The boundaries are getting fuzzier.”
Those British lads don’t know what they’re missing out on — either that or they still don’t want to acknowledge wanking it with other dudes, a problem of honesty and prejudice women are less likely to suffer from.
The number of sexual partners reported by women has doubled from four to eight since 1990. The number of sexual partners reported by men has increased from nine to 12. Both genders reported higher levels of oral and anal sex.
The study also found that half of Brits lost their virginity at age 17. It also found that people under 25 are at highest risk for contracting sexually transmitted infections, which serves as yet another reminder to wrap it up.
jimbryant
Women who have “sex” with women often do it at these swinger clubs where male-male activity is banned. Thus, it is women who are oppressing male homosexuality by agreeing to this double standard.
Pistolo
Can I just ask, what constitutes a “same-sex experience”? Kissing once? Making out? Full-on sex? Oral sex? What? They have the same f-king problem with every survey, they’re never specific. And that woman says gay, straight, and bisexual doesn’t cover it but what did the test subjects identify themselves as?
I know girls who’ve banged girls ONCE, it doesn’t make them lesbian, it doesn’t even necessarily make them bi. It annoys me because straight people dalliances always trivialize our orientations, those of us who aren’t of the general “norm”.
It’s like, now, a woman who bangs 1 chick and 50 men is somehow the equivalent of a bisexual or lesbian because of that one instance.
Wooly
@Pistolo: I totally agree.
Rockery
Great title to reel you in, great picture as well
But useless info, so its remained unchanged since 1990, thanks for the update!
jwtraveler
If 7% of men SAY they have engaged in same-sex experience, then the number of men who have ACTUALLY
jwtraveler
… engaged in same-sex experience is probably 15-20%.
jimbryant
I call BS on this British survey. It’s a survey which fails to explain the very low level of men reporting same-sex experiences (only 7%).
We all know that most men have, at one time or another, engaged in some form of same-sex experimentation, if not fully blown sexual intercourse.
The survey also fails to explain why the number of women who engage in same-sex experiences has increased from 4% to 16%. It puts forward some woman who claims that women are more “open-minded” than men. Bull sh!t.
If anything, men are far more sexual and open-minded than women. Logically, men should engage in same-sex experiences far more often than women. And they do. The reason they don’t report it is due to the fact that men don’t like to advertise their same-sex experiences. They aren’t rewarded for doing so.
On the other hand, women are often rewarded by men for engaging in same-sex experiences. This is also reflected in the rewards that men give women for wearing revealing clothing. What we are therefore seeing is an increased tendency for women to prostitute themselves sexually by engaging in same-sex experiences with other women for the benefit of men.
jimbryant
Here’s another important point about the women and their attitudes to male homosexuality: women fear it unless it is segregated.
When male homosexuality is strictly divided away from the rest of society, women say things like “oh, I don’t mind gay men”. However, when male homosexuality is present in men who are also attracted to women, these same women say “Ewww, I’m not going to date THAT type of guy”.
Remember this about women: their entire being is dependent on extracting rewards from men. From wearing as little clothing as possible to claiming to be interested in sex to pretending to be bisexual, it is all one great big charade. It is a charade which enables them to be rewarded.
If male homosexuality is de-shamed and de-segregated by being brought into the mainstream, women would find it threatening. They would find it threatening because it would provide an option for men that does not involve rewarding women. Her life-line would be cut off.
MAN WHO SHAMELESSLY CHOOSE TO TURN TO OTHER MEN RATHER THAN TO WOMEN REPRESENT A SERIOUS THREAT TO HER ABILITY TO MILK THE SYSTEM THAT REWARDS HER.
jimbryant
Last paragraph in previous post of mine above should read “MEN WHO SHAMELESSLY…”.
rand503
That bitch Phyllis Shafley can suck on it. And Jerry Falwell and Pat Robertson, and Rick Santorum, and all the rest who want people to just stop having sex because they can’t control it.
GeriHew
@jimbryant: Yes of course, it’s all the fault of the ladies that British gentlemen aren’t engaging in more same-sex sexual activity.
GeriHew
@jimbryant: Yes of course. Women find man2man action terribly disgusting and threatening and have no interest whatsoever in gayman porn & erotica. All that slash fiction they read and write proves that beyond all reasonable doubt.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
@jimbryant:
Fascinating stuff. You should write a book. A very, very, very long book. A big important book that’ll take an incredible amount of time and effort to thoroughly research in obscure dusty libraries. You owe it to yourself; more importantly you owe it to MANKIND!
Respectfully yours,
POS
2eo
@PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID: Just to add, I will personally send Jim as many crayons as he needs to finish his magnum opus.
Mikah
These kinds of surveys are always inaccurate and nonspecific and men are so dishonest about their sexuality,so don’t be suprised when the closet cases deny having same sex experiences which consequently flaws the survey.A lot of “straight” guys who have had a gay ol’ time will try to take that secret to the grave with them,because of this homophobic heterosexist culture.
jimbryant
GeriHewson,
You cannot use a fetish like slash fiction to illustrate attitudes to a sexual orientation. Fetish and orientation are not one and the same thing. Note that men who watch lesbian porn are not necessarily open-minded to lesbian rights.
AuntieChrist
@jimbryant: You remind me of a little boy like in Leave it to Beaver… Girls are icky… They have cooties… You joke with your friends when you see a group of women. ” Oh look the oyster bar is open.” or ewww I don’t like fish…Arrested development. Beating the same tired old drum. Hey Jim, any relation to Anita.?@PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID: Brilliant…@2eo: I’m still laughing, Thanks that made my day.
Degas
@jimbryant: A woman gave birth to you. I’ll go out on a limb and assume that she or some other woman was a mother to you. Maybe not, though. Are your mommy issues from where all of your female problems stem?
fagburn
@Pistolo: The survey breaks it down into men who reported same-sex *genital* sex.
This is 5% – and only 2.5% in the past five years.
Not sure what the others consider ‘sex’…
As above sex surveys are hilariously unreliable, both for under-reporting and over-reporting.
AuntieChrist
@Degas: If I was the bastard son of Anita Bryant I too would have issues.
the other Greg
@Degas: Maybe Jim was hatched. One of those ugly, endangered birds like a California condor that were so threatened by DDT that they need to be hatched in a laboratory?
tdx3fan
London is a city with three or four baths that are all well used. Men are by far more sexually adventuresome than women. Many guys do not care who blows them as well as they are good at it. This study is highly tainted by the social desireability effect.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
@the other Greg:
No, he was completely undefiled by any icky female orifice. He is a butt baby.
tdx3fan
@jimbryant: Your mother really screwed up your head. You are such a misogynistic ass. I know many, many women who are either the sole support for the family or that serve as the primary support. How a woman dresses has zero influence on anything other than their personal prefence. I also have known a few women that get off on the thought of watching or having two men together. Just because you are gay does not mean you have to hate women.
tdx3fan
@tdx3fan: Not to mention, the biggest problem with the logic of gay women haters is that they blame women for homophobia, and that is asinine. Women are much less homophobic than men.
jimbryant
tdx3fan,
Oh, please, cut the crap about women getting off on watching two men together. As I said earlier, this is a fetish. Fetish is NOT the same as orientation. Stop using a fetish to illuminate an argument on orientation.
Women are extremely homophobic towards male homosexuality if it is not segregated. Context is everything. It’s similar to attitudes to blacks. Many people are OK with blacks so long as they stick to the ghettos. Bring blacks into a white neighbourhood and these same people will start murmuring their displeasure at having blacks amongst them.
If male homosexuality is segregated, women may not mind it. If it’s part of the mainstream (ie by existing in men who are also attracted to women), women consider it a threat to their ability to attract and extract rewards from men.
viveutvivas
@jimbryant, it sounds like you are talking about bisexuals, not gay men. In fact most gay men don’t like bisexuals either because they feel threatened in the same way.
Bumper
Greeks had sex for fun and then they introduced it to the Romans for procreation. What a waste. LOL Nevertheless, are we really any different from bonobos monkeys? I think not.
Ruhlmann
Bonobo chimpanzees are apes not monkeys and they differ significantly in that they neither judge nor develop guilt complexes about their sexual intimacies.
BlogShag
@Pistolo: OMG! It’s my biggest pet peeve when it comes to most writers and surveyors. – – they lack explanation and specifics
I remember listening to this guy on a talk show and he didn’t include the internet or other electronic media statistics regarding the violence people see in entertainment media. He just measured TV statistics. I just rolled my eyes, shook my head and said to myself, “Are you freaking kidding me. How out of touch can a person be? This made his survey worth diddly squat.
AuntieChrist
@Bumper: Before you make a blanket statement you should check your facts…@Ruhlmann: You are correct to a point…But by attempting to anthropomorphize ape behaviors you stand in ere… Homo Sapiens are a tad more complex.
Degas
@jimbryant: Again, are these unresolved mommy issues?
Grant Mealey
I can say a lot without even looking ð???
Mark Engledow
If it’s less than 99.9%, I call foul.
Robby Robinson
….how boring.
Joe Eugene
Well, if you go by the ridiculous Clinton definition of “sex,” which seems to be “penile penetration below the waist,” you’re going to get very low results.
David Red
Well, I personally helped two do so.