Comments on: Sticky Fingers! http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/ Free of an agenda. Except that gay one. Tue, 14 Feb 2012 17:06:29 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: RussNOLA http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-40065 RussNOLA Fri, 08 Feb 2008 22:39:27 +0000 http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-40065 I'm from New Orleans, so people grab your stuff here all the time! It's kinda like saying, "Hello". I’m from New Orleans, so people grab your stuff here all the time! It’s kinda like saying, “Hello”.

]]> By: Wolfie http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39970 Wolfie Fri, 08 Feb 2008 15:51:49 +0000 http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39970 I am not saying its fine and dandy to take liberties and grope. I am saying that if you put yourself in situations where it might happen just a bit of responsibilty might be yours. (And lets not get dramtic this has nothing to do wuth the rape anology. But if you are at a notorius gay bar booozing it up with others and being "friendly" it might happen) Also really his junk was groped. BIG SHIT. get over it and move on. Put in perspective it is really whiny and I am sorry Andy you really should just take the compliment and move on. But on the brightside at least its not another freakin Marc Jacobs non story. I am not saying its fine and dandy to take liberties and grope. I am saying that if you put yourself in situations where it might happen just a bit of responsibilty might be yours. (And lets not get dramtic this has nothing to do wuth the rape anology. But if you are at a notorius gay bar booozing it up with others and being “friendly” it might happen) Also really his junk was groped. BIG SHIT. get over it and move on. Put in perspective it is really whiny and I am sorry Andy you really should just take the compliment and move on.

But on the brightside at least its not another freakin Marc Jacobs non story.

]]> By: Andy Peters http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39954 Andy Peters Fri, 08 Feb 2008 14:42:49 +0000 http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39954 Wolfie, I'm sorry, but I'm just not buying the "it's OK if he's drunk" line of thinking. If I'm hearing you correctly, you're saying that you and I could be in a room together and if I were totally smashed, then beat the shit out of you, and raped you within an inch of your life, it would be excusable because I was drunk? And, depending on what you were wearing at the time, you may have even been asking for it, getting me off the hook even more? I just want to make sure I understand what you're saying. That any behavior acted upon while drunk is forgivable and free of culpability? Wolfie, I’m sorry, but I’m just not buying the “it’s OK if he’s drunk” line of thinking. If I’m hearing you correctly, you’re saying that you and I could be in a room together and if I were totally smashed, then beat the shit out of you, and raped you within an inch of your life, it would be excusable because I was drunk? And, depending on what you were wearing at the time, you may have even been asking for it, getting me off the hook even more?

I just want to make sure I understand what you’re saying. That any behavior acted upon while drunk is forgivable and free of culpability?

]]> By: michael http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39924 michael Fri, 08 Feb 2008 10:15:25 +0000 http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39924 3 consecutive gropes...hmmm...last time that happened to me I was in a bathhouse in Vancouver. None of the times mentioned does it sound like you made a stand. Maybe it just gives you something to act like a "victim" about. Or maybe you just feel the need to tell the world how desirable you are so that we will all be impressed. The self depreciating humour feels like a good cover for just that. 3 consecutive gropes…hmmm…last time that happened to me I was in a bathhouse in Vancouver.
None of the times mentioned does it sound like you made a stand. Maybe it just gives you something to act like a “victim” about. Or maybe you just feel the need to tell the world how desirable you are so that we will all be impressed. The self depreciating humour feels like a good cover for just that.

]]> By: Ash http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39889 Ash Fri, 08 Feb 2008 00:55:21 +0000 http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39889 I have to say that I'm with you on this one, Andrew (yeah yeah, i tried to leave queerty but i've still been lurking, trying to suck it up and accept the new format). And I am shocked at the people here who are calling you prude or overreactive. You're not. If you were a woman writing this, I doubt you would be getting the same responses. It is not okay to grope anyone, male, female, or in between and I share your outrage. You are not an object, you are a human being, and you decide who touches you. I also don't think you were "asking for it" no matter how you dressed, despite what some people above me have said. This is just sad...your junk is your junk, end of story. I have to say that I’m with you on this one, Andrew (yeah yeah, i tried to leave queerty but i’ve still been lurking, trying to suck it up and accept the new format). And I am shocked at the people here who are calling you prude or overreactive. You’re not. If you were a woman writing this, I doubt you would be getting the same responses. It is not okay to grope anyone, male, female, or in between and I share your outrage. You are not an object, you are a human being, and you decide who touches you. I also don’t think you were “asking for it” no matter how you dressed, despite what some people above me have said. This is just sad…your junk is your junk, end of story.

]]> By: Madman http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39880 Madman Thu, 07 Feb 2008 23:32:48 +0000 http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39880 Ok, I agree already that no one should touch the goods without permission. But in all things human, there are exceptions. For instance, (and I've seen this) I get tired of all the righteous remarks, correct though they may be, and then "if the guy is really hot, you might excuse him." etc. etc. As for the bar thing, I'm with Wolfie - again, its not right, but if you are around drunk people, it might happen. Good example - you can sunbathe in your front yard, $100 bills all over your chest. No one has the right to take them, for they would a) have to trespass on your property and b) they are stealing when they take them. A bit extreme I realize, but the point is people are people and if you can't stand some very occasional boorish behavior, maybe you should stay home. Ok, I agree already that no one should touch the goods without permission. But in all things human, there are exceptions. For instance, (and I’ve seen this) I get tired of all the righteous remarks, correct though they may be, and then “if the guy is really hot, you might excuse him.” etc. etc. As for the bar thing, I’m with Wolfie – again, its not right, but if you are around drunk people, it might happen. Good example – you can sunbathe in your front yard, $100 bills all over your chest. No one has the right to take them, for they would a) have to trespass on your property and b) they are stealing when they take them. A bit extreme I realize, but the point is people are people and if you can’t stand some very occasional boorish behavior, maybe you should stay home.

]]> By: stevo http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39879 stevo Thu, 07 Feb 2008 23:32:28 +0000 http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39879 hmmm... the lady doth protest sooo much hmmm… the lady doth protest sooo much

]]> By: LogopolisMike http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39857 LogopolisMike Thu, 07 Feb 2008 21:18:30 +0000 http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39857 I'll never understand guys who do this. Part of the fun of grabbing a guy is knowing he wants it. Hell, I don't even touch a strippers dick when I'm tipping him unless he makes it clear it's okay. --Not Prudey I’ll never understand guys who do this. Part of the fun of grabbing a guy is knowing he wants it. Hell, I don’t even touch a strippers dick when I’m tipping him unless he makes it clear it’s okay.

–Not Prudey

]]> By: Wolfie http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39844 Wolfie Thu, 07 Feb 2008 20:27:46 +0000 http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39844 Well Andy Peters I don't initiate the groping but I do think it is whiny and little girl like to be all OMG about it. If you a man act like it. Just tell em to stop and move away. But if you put yporself in bars with drunk people you should be aware that this might happen. Well Andy Peters I don’t initiate the groping but I do think it is whiny and little girl like to be all OMG about it. If you a man act like it. Just tell em to stop and move away. But if you put yporself in bars with drunk people you should be aware that this might happen.

]]> By: Andy Peters http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39841 Andy Peters Thu, 07 Feb 2008 20:00:15 +0000 http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39841 Alco: Hear, hear! The rape analogy is perfect. Re: No. 17's "Language of love?!" Have people really been bullshitted into thinking it's a "gay thing?" Personally, I'm offended any time anything other than attraction to and sex with a member of the same sex is labelled a "gay thing." We are not automatons, people. Please stop projecting your own sexual proclivities on the community at large and assuming everyone should be just like you. Christ al-fucking-mighty, isn't that exactly what the conservative right have been trying to force on us for eons? Alco: Hear, hear! The rape analogy is perfect.

Re: No. 17′s “Language of love?!” Have people really been bullshitted into thinking it’s a “gay thing?” Personally, I’m offended any time anything other than attraction to and sex with a member of the same sex is labelled a “gay thing.” We are not automatons, people.

Please stop projecting your own sexual proclivities on the community at large and assuming everyone should be just like you. Christ al-fucking-mighty, isn’t that exactly what the conservative right have been trying to force on us for eons?

]]> By: Alan down in Florida http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39840 Alan down in Florida Thu, 07 Feb 2008 19:55:50 +0000 http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39840 No sex since 1873? No wonder you're snarky. Nonetheless in this instance you are right. I had friends fix me up on a blind double date and within 2 minutes of meeting me this guy had him hand on my crotch. Poor manners. No sex since 1873? No wonder you’re snarky.

Nonetheless in this instance you are right. I had friends fix me up on a blind double date and within 2 minutes of meeting me this guy had him hand on my crotch. Poor manners.

]]> By: Alco http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39830 Alco Thu, 07 Feb 2008 19:21:49 +0000 http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39830 I just don't really get it. Ok we're usually less of a prude than our heterosexual buddies, but does that make us sluts ? So, this "thing" passed on from "gay generation to gay generation" is simply stupid. Rape has been passed on, but I don't see anybody being ok with that. I just don’t really get it.

Ok we’re usually less of a prude than our heterosexual buddies, but does that make us sluts ?

So, this “thing” passed on from “gay generation to gay generation” is simply stupid.
Rape has been passed on, but I don’t see anybody being ok with that.

]]> By: kristy http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39828 kristy Thu, 07 Feb 2008 19:18:39 +0000 http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39828 You should write in first person more often! You should write in first person more often!

]]> By: Charley http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39809 Charley Thu, 07 Feb 2008 18:19:44 +0000 http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39809 I remember the days of boxers, no briefs. In the Navy. Everything was showing hanging down the leg on the fortunate hung few. Couldn't keep my eyes looking up. Didn't dare grope, although I wanted to. I remember the days of boxers, no briefs. In the Navy. Everything was showing hanging down the leg on the fortunate hung few. Couldn’t keep my eyes looking up. Didn’t dare grope, although I wanted to.

]]> By: Rikard http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39778 Rikard Thu, 07 Feb 2008 17:24:12 +0000 http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39778 I'll chime in because I'm jealous and agree with your indignation. An EX has LESS right to grab the goods. That option was forfeited upon break up. The drunk friend, was drunk and well, that covers it. Tell him off when he's sober enough to be sincere when he says he's sorry. The stranger should have gotten a knee to the groin. Finally... Hi Andrew, I'm Rikard, may I touch your penis? I’ll chime in because I’m jealous and agree with your indignation. An EX has LESS right to grab the goods. That option was forfeited upon break up. The drunk friend, was drunk and well, that covers it. Tell him off when he’s sober enough to be sincere when he says he’s sorry. The stranger should have gotten a knee to the groin. Finally… Hi Andrew, I’m Rikard, may I touch your penis?

]]> By: P http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39768 P Thu, 07 Feb 2008 17:17:31 +0000 http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39768 to No. 15, J, call me. For Andrew- I agree with Wolfie. This is a language of love that has been passed down from gay generation to gay generation. No matter how much I may not be into the guy grabbing my knob, I've never gotten pissed. Why would you? Because someone likes you? Just politely decline and move on. Big whoop. I've certainly been on the other end of the hand too, when the mood strikes. You mean to tell me you've NEVER? to No. 15, J, call me.
For Andrew- I agree with Wolfie. This is a language of love that has been passed down from gay generation to gay generation. No matter how much I may not be into the guy grabbing my knob, I’ve never gotten pissed. Why would you? Because someone likes you? Just politely decline and move on. Big whoop. I’ve certainly been on the other end of the hand too, when the mood strikes. You mean to tell me you’ve NEVER?

]]> By: Andy Peters http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39762 Andy Peters Thu, 07 Feb 2008 17:06:24 +0000 http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39762 Sorry, but Wolfie's remarks make him sound like the kind of guy who initiates the unwelcome groping. "He was drunk." What kind of numbnuts defense is that?! If that was an excuse, there wouldn't be laws on the books about driving while drunk. I'm sick and tired of social retards thinking they can get away with inappropriate behavior by raising their hands and saying, "I was drunk. I didn't know what I was doing." Grow the fuck up and take some responsibility for your actions. And it's only worse when OTHERS make excuses for the drunks (no doubt because they're hoping others will excuse their oafish behavior when they, themselves, are blotto). I'm with Andrew. What's in my pants is exactly that--mine. It's nobody's to touch unless I say so. I don't care if it's a horny stranger or someone I dated for two years, three years ago. Mary mother of fucking god, would you walk up to your boss and grab his schlong because you thought he was cute? This is why sexual harassment is a punishable offense: it protects people from unwelcome sexual advances, physical or otherwise. Drunk/Ex/Stranger--it makes no difference. Keep your fucking mitts to yourself, you horny asshole. "He was drunk." Fuckin' A. Sorry, but Wolfie’s remarks make him sound like the kind of guy who initiates the unwelcome groping.

“He was drunk.” What kind of numbnuts defense is that?! If that was an excuse, there wouldn’t be laws on the books about driving while drunk. I’m sick and tired of social retards thinking they can get away with inappropriate behavior by raising their hands and saying, “I was drunk. I didn’t know what I was doing.” Grow the fuck up and take some responsibility for your actions. And it’s only worse when OTHERS make excuses for the drunks (no doubt because they’re hoping others will excuse their oafish behavior when they, themselves, are blotto).

I’m with Andrew. What’s in my pants is exactly that–mine. It’s nobody’s to touch unless I say so. I don’t care if it’s a horny stranger or someone I dated for two years, three years ago. Mary mother of fucking god, would you walk up to your boss and grab his schlong because you thought he was cute? This is why sexual harassment is a punishable offense: it protects people from unwelcome sexual advances, physical or otherwise. Drunk/Ex/Stranger–it makes no difference. Keep your fucking mitts to yourself, you horny asshole.

“He was drunk.” Fuckin’ A.

]]> By: J http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39748 J Thu, 07 Feb 2008 16:14:31 +0000 http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39748 I have to question what you are wearing that guys are grabbing your junk, are you (as they say) "asking for it" ? But I also have to sympathize. I have a big ass and if gets grabbed a lot, so much in fact that I have stopped noticing, which probably makes it a little less exciting for people to grab... but it is always violating. I can't realistically do anything about my ass filling out jeans. When I have snapped at guys who grab they usually say they were checking to see if it was real. Could your situation be the same? Is your crotch so attractive that people simply need to check for themselves? I have to question what you are wearing that guys are grabbing your junk, are you (as they say) “asking for it” ?

But I also have to sympathize. I have a big ass and if gets grabbed a lot, so much in fact that I have stopped noticing, which probably makes it a little less exciting for people to grab… but it is always violating. I can’t realistically do anything about my ass filling out jeans. When I have snapped at guys who grab they usually say they were checking to see if it was real. Could your situation be the same? Is your crotch so attractive that people simply need to check for themselves?

]]> By: Johnnie R http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39733 Johnnie R Thu, 07 Feb 2008 15:35:37 +0000 http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39733 I'm with Wolfie...I've had it happen to me only once and I grabbed the guy's wrist and told him that if he wanted his arm back he would never do that to me again. He got the message. As for Andrew....dry the tears....you're not that hot. And we've met so I can say that.... I’m with Wolfie…I’ve had it happen to me only once and I grabbed the guy’s wrist and told him that if he wanted his arm back he would never do that to me again. He got the message.

As for Andrew….dry the tears….you’re not that hot. And we’ve met so I can say that….

]]> By: Wolfie http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39729 Wolfie Thu, 07 Feb 2008 15:15:58 +0000 http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39729 Andrew okay yes I am going to call you whiney and overreactive. Sorry. The Ex. It was nothing he hadn't felt a no on your point is warrented if don;t like it. but the prude virgin thing is a bit much. You are like a gay man in his mid - late 20's right? The Drunk Friend. Here's the key words. HE WAS DRUNK. Drunk people somethimes do things like that because well.....they are drunk. If you are out boozing in a bad you leave yourself open to that. And pray tell what bar was it? The Stranger. Again it seemsyou were in a bar possibly with someone who was with someone who might have been alittle lubricates and not telling many details at that. Sorry bud with this incompleteinfo I can't get indignant for you on this matter. All i can say is Thank God you were never at Banlands on a Sat or Sun in the 70's and 80's! Andrew okay yes I am going to call you whiney and overreactive. Sorry.

The Ex. It was nothing he hadn’t felt a no on your point is warrented if don;t like it. but the prude virgin thing is a bit much. You are like a gay man in his mid – late 20′s right?

The Drunk Friend. Here’s the key words. HE WAS DRUNK. Drunk people somethimes do things like that because well…..they are drunk. If you are out boozing in a bad you leave yourself open to that. And pray tell what bar was it?

The Stranger. Again it seemsyou were in a bar possibly with someone who was with someone who might have been alittle lubricates and not telling many details at that.

Sorry bud with this incompleteinfo I can’t get indignant for you on this matter.

All i can say is Thank God you were never at Banlands on a Sat or Sun in the 70′s and 80′s!

]]> By: Amber LeMay http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39677 Amber LeMay Thu, 07 Feb 2008 04:46:00 +0000 http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39677 "a perfect fucking stranger"... C'mon on now...he's perfect, he's fucking and he's a stranger!!! Memories, blight the corners of my mind... “a perfect fucking stranger”… C’mon on now…he’s perfect, he’s fucking and he’s a stranger!!! Memories, blight the corners of my mind…

]]> By: sparky http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39663 sparky Thu, 07 Feb 2008 03:53:01 +0000 http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39663 mommy, is that you? mommy, is that you?

]]> By: Dawster http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39661 Dawster Thu, 07 Feb 2008 03:41:49 +0000 http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39661 T H A N K Y O U. i mean... personal space is personal space. view by invitation only. T H A N K Y O U.

i mean… personal space is personal space. view by invitation only.

]]> By: DavidDust http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39645 DavidDust Thu, 07 Feb 2008 01:53:40 +0000 http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39645 Next time it happens, tell them that "Tipping is appreciated". If you're gonna get felt up, you might as well make a couple of bucks! Next time it happens, tell them that “Tipping is appreciated”. If you’re gonna get felt up, you might as well make a couple of bucks!

]]> By: chandler in lasvegas http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39638 chandler in lasvegas Thu, 07 Feb 2008 01:20:11 +0000 http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39638 Wow, just like produce at the market. Has anyone sniffed your goods to see if they were fresh? Wow, just like produce at the market. Has anyone sniffed your goods to see if they were fresh?

]]> By: dvlaries http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39635 dvlaries Thu, 07 Feb 2008 00:48:19 +0000 http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39635 Mae West might have agreed with you, Jack Jett: "It's better to be looked over than overlooked." Mae West might have agreed with you, Jack Jett:
“It’s better to be looked over than overlooked.”

]]> By: Jack Jett http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39627 Jack Jett Thu, 07 Feb 2008 00:20:46 +0000 http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39627 Please...someone grope me. It might take you a while to find it, but you would make this faded gasbag feel so relevant. The grope is always greener on the other side. Please…someone grope me. It might take you a while to find it, but you would make this faded gasbag feel so relevant.

The grope is always greener on the other side.

]]> By: GoodBuddy http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39626 GoodBuddy Thu, 07 Feb 2008 00:04:27 +0000 http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39626 Miss Manners would say that when you meet someone new you shake their HANDS, not other parts of their anatomy. Miss Manners would say that when you meet someone new you shake their HANDS, not other parts of their anatomy.

]]> By: HL http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39625 HL Wed, 06 Feb 2008 23:56:31 +0000 http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39625 On a few occasions my breasts have been grabbed by strangers. One chick apologized and said "they looked nice, I had to." Actually, she didn't say sorry. But I was supposed to accept that. On a few occasions my breasts have been grabbed by strangers. One chick apologized and said “they looked nice, I had to.” Actually, she didn’t say sorry. But I was supposed to accept that.

]]> By: John http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39623 John Wed, 06 Feb 2008 23:42:59 +0000 http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39623 I read every word of your comment, and not because of the accompanying photograph. What is appropriate in social interactions, including but not limited to sexually-charged social interactions is socially constructed. Thanks for doing your part. I read every word of your comment, and not because of the accompanying photograph.

What is appropriate in social interactions, including but not limited to sexually-charged social interactions is socially constructed.

Thanks for doing your part.

]]> By: Alexa http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39622 Alexa Wed, 06 Feb 2008 23:38:07 +0000 http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39622 And I thought only straight men grabbed perfect strangers' bodies. I've had my boobs and ass groped so many times I've lost count (frequently on a crowded train during rush hour). You have my sympathy. And I thought only straight men grabbed perfect strangers’ bodies. I’ve had my boobs and ass groped so many times I’ve lost count (frequently on a crowded train during rush hour). You have my sympathy.

]]> By: Maverick69 http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39621 Maverick69 Wed, 06 Feb 2008 23:24:16 +0000 http://www.queerty.com/sticky-fingers-20080206/#comment-39621 I'm with you on this one. I've been there sooo many times. I once grabbed a guy by the wrist and told him if he wanted to keep it, he would not do that again. I’m with you on this one. I’ve been there sooo many times. I once grabbed a guy by the wrist and told him if he wanted to keep it, he would not do that again.

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