Couples, albeit of the heterosexual variety, have sex on average of four times a week before they’re married, claims Loving Link, a dating site (for married people). But when they get hitched? Three years into a marriage bedtime fun plummets to just once a week. And about half of the 3,000 couples responding to the survey say married life is like living with a friend, not a lover. So, uh, good luck Art and Jesus!
Cam
Yes, but did the survey ask the reason for this? I can’t tell you how many straight friends I have that complain that their wives sex drives dissappear after kids.
Hilarious
Not sure what this has to do with our RIGHT to marry. Even gay couples who don’t want to get married should be fighting for the right to.
Qjersey
I guess our editor has never kept a man around for more than 3 years. Married or not…it happens to everyone, well except for those swinging couples, but sex with other people doesn’t count.
tavdy79
So because straight couples forget how much fun sex is, it’s inevitable that gay couples will too. Somehow I doubt it. I mean, I do know some straights who are kinda adventurous in bed but for the most part they don’t ever get “beyond put rod P in slot V”. There are straights out there who think a blow-job is kinky. I can’t imagine my sex life ever being that dull, but if it were it would explain why I’d forget about it after a few years.
Blake J
Women use sex to ‘win’ men, i.e. get them to marry, then they no longer care.
alessandro
yes let’s stop fighting for this.
Adam
Marriage isn’t what slows down one’s sex life; it’s being with the same guy for more than 3 or 4 years that does it.
NAP79
@ HILARIOUS – EXACTLY!! I will most likely never “marry” my partner unless we stand to gain financially (tax incentives, etc) from it. Otherwise, its nothing an attorney cannot concieve.
Does this survey take into account the fact that most married (straight, and some gay) gain 30 pounds and turn into careless, lazy versions of their former selves? I’m from the Midwest and I can always tell when old friends are married b/c they morph into this pasty, doughy, miserable, desperate caricature of themselves before they had a fat, ugly wife and kids. Really makes you question why people want to get married unless for the previously stated financial incentives.
Misery
Marriage is the great equalizer!
Fitz
So… it’s not a meaningful # without the obvious comparison of gay couples who consider themselves married, but aren’t. Nor if it does not account for peer/age issues. I screwed a lot more when I was 20 than when I was 40. (though at 40, I was MUCH better at it, lol).
CaliberGuy
Did the survay even ask if the couples had kids? Not only dose that affect a good chucnk of womons liabedo, but the kids them selves affect the couples sex life. Who feels sexy when they are drop dead exgushted keeping up with a new born. Let alone trying to carve out the requried priviet “them” time with out the kids around/ totaly asleep so that they don’t get a suprise visitor when haveing sex.
Vincent Clark
I have been with the same guy now in a monogomous relationship for 20 years. We have been together since we met in college when we were 20. Doing the math you can figure out we both turned 40 this year. To say our relationship during the first 5 years was HOT is an understatement. Skip ahead a few more years and one person starts losing interest in sex and then skip ahead more years and find that both people have lost interest. When that happens you just STOP having sex because no one is interested.YOu push yourselves to have sex a few times a year but it’s not exactly fun or hot. This is where your test of true love comes into play because your life is then built on love, respect and mutual interests. We are still monogomous and jerk off separetly almost daily while watching porn or imagining the hot guy we just saw at the supermarket. I think this is part of the circle of life but was left out of the Disney song from the Lion King.
Bisexual and monogamous
Six years into my relationship. About 4 years ago the sex slowed down. However…..
Sex comes in waves (pun not intended). We will have sex a couple times a week on average then next thing we know we have been having sex every day, then I will realize later on down the road many months later that we havent had sex in 3 weeks.
It is cyclic. Desire waxs and wanes.