A straight man named “Mike” says he walked in on his gay roommate “Alex” making out with another dude and felt a funny sensation.
“I thought I was going to throw up,” he confesses in a recently-deleted Reddit thread. “I felt bad for being as disgusted as I was, since there’s no good reason for me to have a reaction like that.”
Afterwards, Mike couldn’t get the image of Alex swapping spit with another dude out of his mind. To make matters worse, every time Alex brought a new guy home, Mike would “just start feeling like shit and wishing that the guy would leave.”
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“I can’t stop thinking about what these guys might have done to him even though I don’t want to imagine that,” he writes. “It makes me really uncomfortable and grossed out.”
It didn’t take long for Alex to start picking up on things. When he asked Mike why he’s been acting so strange lately, Mike froze.
“I didn’t know what to say,” he says. “I want to keep him as a friend, but he’d be hurt if he knew that whenever I think about him with other guys it disgusts me. How do I deal with this? I’ve never been homophobic, but I’ve suddenly developed some kind of homophobia where just the idea of my roommate’s sex life makes me uncomfortable.”
Well, what a difference 72 hours makes. Because a few days later, Mike updated his original post to make yet another confession:
“The day I made the post, I met up with my sister Laura,” he explains. “She read the whole thing and said it sounds like I have a crush on Alex. She talked me through it and we confirmed I’m not as straight as I thought I was.”
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Mike continues: “The next few days were mostly me sitting on my ass trying to wrap my head around everything. I was scared of messing up our friendship and losing him, but I was even more scared that I might just let this pass without saying anything and then he gets a boyfriend and I have to see him with another guy.”
So he sat Alex down and told him everything.
“We talked,” Mike says. “In the end we agreed to maybe try something out, and we kissed. Never kissed anyone with a beard before, so…interesting experience, but also really good.”
“Since then we’ve kind of been easing into the whole dating thing,” he continues. “We had our first proper date last weekend and it was incredible … At home we still do our normal thing, but sometimes we get distracted. Last night I almost burned dinner because I had to kiss him and we got kind of carried away, haha. We’re taking the whole sex thing slow though since I’ve never done anything with another guy before.”
“Honestly,” he concludes, “I can’t remember the last time I was this happy, and I never would have expected this when I made that first post … Funniest self-realization in the world? Plot twist: It turns out I don’t have any problem with Alex kissing guys if it’s me he’s kissing.”
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onthemark
Gee it’s been a whole, like, two days since Queerty has done a “straight” guy article.
Southstguy
This is so stupid. The idea that a grownup, not a teen, could be so un self-aware would make me run. Maybe fuck, but never date
Malcolm Forest
It is NOT stupid to be unaware of your true sexuality into your 20’s. Granted, I personally always knew I was gay from my early teens, but I know several gay guys who only self-identified as such well into their adulthood.
For whatever reasons, they don’t WANT to be gay, religion, or fear of losing family etc, many gay people do their utmost to deny their true sexuality to themselves for as long as possible. Which is very sad.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
I didn’t check the byline…because I don’t need LOL
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
*don’t need to
AtticusBennett
you don’t become “aware” or your sexuality in your twenties. you experience your first attractions at the same time our heterosexual counterparts do (most predominantly at the onset of puberty with the rush of hormones), and every gay man who says otherwise is a bloody liar who can’t cop to the sad truth that they were living in constant denial and fear.
it’s denial, and “i didn’t know i was gay until now” is a way of passing the buck, as if your Homosexuality suddenly appeared out of nowhere and you’re just an Innocent Victim of a sudden “change”
you don’t need to even know what GAY is to know what attracts you.
it’s 2016. enough with the nonsense.
GayEGO
I have always known my gender attraction was to the same gender, but society was teaching me I should be attracted to the opposite gender. It took me until I was 20 years old to decide that I would live my life as who I am, a gay man, rather than to live my life as a lie. The next year I met my lifetime partner of 54 years, married 12 years, and we are both retired and living the American dream.
Each of us are the only ones who can decide who we are and it is much easier to live our lives as who we are. If someone lives in a country that does not support who they are, they should move to a country that does support them, as hard as it may be.
Paco
This read like a gay man’s straight guy fetish fantasy.
The hot straight roommate that is clueless about his sexuality and never had same sex attraction until he met the “One and only One” that awakened his dormant desires, which includes wanting to throw up and feeling disgusted, because if he liked it, it would destroy the fantasy of him being straight to begin with. And magically the special gay man will continue to be the “One and only One” that the guy went gay for.
Some of you with this fetish remind me of the sad hags from my youth that desperately clung to the fantasy that gay men would suddenly wake up one day and be straight for them.
Mack
I spent 7 years in a marriage to “prove” I was straight. Didn’t make that mistake again. And 31 years later my ex wife and I are still friends and talk to each other on Facebook all the time.
avesraggiana
This is so rampantly bogus.
Bauhaus
@AtticusBennett:
And how!
Paco
Oh and I forgot the best part of this story…
He is having to take it slow and ease himself into the whole icky gay sex thing. This story is so fake.
etseq
So Queerty has now relies on a **DELETED** reddit thread for these self-loathing fantasies of one particular author? You jumped the shark when you basically allowed entire blog posts to be nothing more than copied and pasted quotes from a reddit thread with no verification or secondary sourcing – you might as well label these as fiction as that is basically what you are producing. But now you have lowered the bar even further moved beyond copying and pasting what is nothing more than internet fanfiction – no legitimate journalist would rely on pseudo/anonymous reddit posts & comments as the primary or sole source for claims that cannot be properly sourced or verified and which purport to be anecdotal evidence of radical shifts in male sexual orientation that is not supported by our current psychological and physiological theories of sexual orientation – extraordinary claims require extraordinary proof and the wet dreams of some repressed 4chan troll doesn’t pass the bar.
Caleb in SC
Get over your straight boy news. What the hell is your personal fetish?
martinbakman
I literally woke up one morning, felt my straight college roomies boner agin’ me, and began doubting how straight either of us was. At THAT moment I had to decide whether to reach for my bible or his stiffy.
Brian
This is simply a straight-identifying guy who happens to be horny. No big deal. I think that the gay community is too quick to attach identities to human feelings, thus complicating what should be a very simple interpretation.
In the old days, men had far more sexual interactions with other men than what they do today. It was very common to have .casual homosexual interactions. Today, feminism has ruined things by dividing and confining male -male interactions to an identity.
It’s because feminists are anti-male and thus anti male-male.
truckproductions
oh dear god.. enough with these absurd gay fantasies.. Imagine the flip side of this.. You’re gay.. you walk in on heterosex and bam wow I’m straight! Give me a break.. and stop insulting both gay and straights with this crap.
Doug
I don’t believe a word of this, none of it sounds real.
jayson1
I have known a real life situation exactly like this
Robothedestroyer
This is kinda cute. “Thought I was homophobic, turned out to be a crush.” I think its completely possible for this to happen. Love just hits you, and he probably is bi-sexual and just kinda awoke to the gay side of of his sexuality now. Sexuality is about romantic love, not just sexual attraction anyway. If it’s true, I hope it all works out.
startenout
But in the Reddit profile, he isn’t claiming to be in denial or to having his his feelings; he’s claiming he had no idea he was attracted to men and just suddenly realized. That’s a lot different than the “leave him alone/everyone in their own time” ownership of being gay that so many people on this thread are espousing. I knew I liked boys in middle school; I didn’t act on it or talk about it til my mid-20’s. However, I didn’t just come to realize it was an option in my 20’s. LOL
bottom250
Every queens dream to turn kings into queens.
Dave Downunder
It’s on reddit so how much credence can you really give this story. Reddit seems to be full of people’s fantasies and made up stories.
raptor45
I’m 66, prior military, college educated, straight with no extra marital history, married 3x and I have a large family. Been straight as a board, all of my life. I have a friend of 42 years who is gay, we’re great friends and during our friendship we have shared life stories and experiences and talked about the differences in our lives and sexual experiences. There have never been any suggestions or offers between us and we are like brothers, I’ve always accepted him for who he is and I love him dearly.
Recently, while drinking (too much) and talking late one evening, he and I both kind of cued in on each other and we started making out. I’ve never touched another guy before and as far as I can recall I’ve never wanted to but during those brief moments I wanted sex with him so badly that I was shaking like a leaf. We stopped and each of us retired separately for the night but I woke up the next morning, still somewhat intoxicated, and told him what I had felt and that I wanted to pursue it later.
We’ve talked again about doing the deal but I cannot figure this stuff out. I’ve always been a very sexual man and I adore my wife and my family and quite honestly I detest the idea of any kind of unfaithfulness to my wife with anyone. But him. And, if I follow through with this I don’t want to be with anyone but him because I trust him completely in all areas.
So, what’s going on with me? I don’t think I’m bi or gay but I am curious and I love my friend and I think it would be very enjoyable to spend an afternoon in intimacy with him. So, what gives?
Paco
@raptor45: Even if it is experimentation to satisfy a curiosity about having sex with your male friend, it is still cheating on your wife.
How would you feel if your wife cheated on you with another man? Would it feel good? Would you trust her after that to never do it again? How would it feel if their “friendship” continued and you had to endure wondering what was happening every time she spoke to this “friend” and went to hang out with this “friend” that you knew she slept with and has special feelings for?
I guess the question is, how much do you care about your wife’s feelings, should you get caught or feel guilty to the point you need to unload your guilt on to her in an attempt to relieve it from yourself?
Sometimes it is better to wonder about doing something, than doing it and kicking yourself for it for the rest of your life.
Cheating is cheating.
Zekester
@Paco: This whole website is dedicated to that fetish. There is a “straight” guy or “married guy” does something “gay” story on here every single day. It’s tired and annoying but I try to ignore those stories because I enjoy some of the others.
raptor45
@Paco: Thanks for the reply and I think you’re comment is dead on. My wife is one fantastic woman but she wouldn’t be if I went of the reservation. I’d lose my world if I lost her and IMO no thing on this earth is worth that.
Best wishes.
seaguy
@Southstguy: Not everyone is perfect like you!
seaguy
@Zekester: @Zekester: Don’t read them then. Your being overly dramatic to say this site has a fetish, it’s not Broke Straight Boy’s for gawds sake. But seriously not one forces you to click on those stories so what is making you read them?
pscheck2
Times are changing, at a pace that is dizzying, with more and more posts and articles like this one! In one survey they took, less than 50% of the millenniums considered themselves as str8! WOW! Getting back to this post, he hasn’t as yet had sex with his gay pal, and that could be the deal breaker! Kissing and having intercourse are very two different aspects of sexual orientation. It’s possible he may find sex with his friend, repugnant and unsatisfying, but emotionally satisfying on the kissing level. I am looking forward to his post after he has experienced sex with his friend Lol.
arie570
@martinbakman: ok but which did you grab…tell tell…
tricky ricky
I almost burned dinner. yep, you’re totally straight. sheesh.
Kevin Wotipka
I didn’t realize I was gay until I was almost 25. It’s amazing how thoroughly you can hide from the truth when you grow up in a rural part of a conservative state.