“So there’s no more denying I got raped,” Reddit user iwascrewdliterally writes in a thread titled I(22M, straight) got shitfaced and fucked in the butt by a man! It’s been messing with my head. “That much is clear. Rather than use force or coercion to overcome resistance, my rapist relied on me being unable to think or even function normally.”
According to iwascrewdliterally, the incident happened last year. After a hard night of drinking, he crashed at his friend Sam’s (not his real name) house. He details what happened next as best he can given his inebriated state of mind at the time:
Darkness, head spinning, ears ringing. Memory flash: I’m being felt up and fondle. Next flash, I’m with a guy and we’re both touching and ‘crossing swords’ … Next flash, I’m drunk and trying to sleep but “someone” keeps poking me, [later memory] “someone” telling me this is too much of a cock tease and insisting on removing my clothes… Next flash (even more vague), “someone” is literally trying to fuck me in the butt and it hurts! Ow!! Next flash, “someone” is sucking my cock. Gah! I don’t need a blowjob right now. I need to rest and let my liver process as much of this fucking alcohol as I can before it kills me.
The next morning, he woke up beside his alleged rapist.
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“I realize my ass is sore,” he writes. “As I begin to grasp the situation, I quickly dress and flee to the bathroom to inspect the horror. Shaking, I realize I’ve just been fucked in the ass by a man with a fat cock, with spit for lube and no protection!”
The incident left him feeling “emasculated,” like he was “going crazy,” and “full of self-loathing and fear.” So he turned to Reddit for advice.
Over 200 people offered their support.
“You are not less of a man for what that piece of shit did to you,” one person wrote. “His actions are not the actions of a normal gay person. They are the actions of a depraved person.”
“No one should have to feel the way you do,” another person said. “And please remember it’s not your fault. I hope you sort this out but try not to bury it because it will be with you forever if you do not deal with it now.”
“You can control the healing part of this incident,” someone else added. “I hope you do get some help dealing with this and learning that it was not your fault no matter how much you think you remember participating. Your ‘friend’ took advantage and is a bad person. End of story.”
The comments continued pouring in for days. Afterwards, iwascrewdliterally updated his original post thanking everyone for their words of support.
“Accepting the fact of rape was a bit of a struggle,” he writes, “but I feel a bit freer to confront my thoughts on the implications of this.”
He continues: “It’s really heartening to see all the love and support. … At the end of the day I guess I still have some of the same worries, but I think they’ve lost lost their debilitating edge. I even looked up an anal porn scene and didn’t cringe, much. That’s about as far as I’ve got so far. I guess it’s not a thing to digest in a day. Counseling may be the way to go after all, but I’m feeling less crazy for now, so thanks.”
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Peter McKinney
Was the rapist gay?
Ron Loftus
if you must drink. do it alone or with friends you like..l believe most men have lost their cherry this way.. rape is rape and is a crime no matter what.
Peter McKinney
I’m not sure this was rape. What if the other guy was as drunk as him?
Bernard Galeano
That’s rape, hope he gets the help he needs
James Bateman
The man was in and out of consciousness and in no fit state to agree or disagree, that is rape.
Ron Jackson
This reads like another BS reddit post.
ted72
@Ron Jackson: I agree. Too simplistic.
ted72
@Peter McKinney: I’m not sure the story is real for that matter
Scott Haltom
Hope not by a gay man. Sorry it happened. Wish him luck.
Toni Kahwage
mmm horrible story but…i don’t believe in everything i read, especially having the amount of lonely needy people seeking for attention these times
Ummmm Yeah
Or was he so drunk he went along with it and it wasn’t really rape. Did the words no ever come out.
Christopher Lynn
Dont believe everything one reads on reddit
Damon Robbins
I don’t understand why he did not report it to the Police? My partner was raped by another gay man fifteen years ago and it still haunts him.
David Chachki
Bitch please if you were raped and didn’t like it you would if killed beat etc before it happend and definitively press charges
Bobby Lusby
Ummm… Why would you look up an anal porn scene if you had just been raped?
Gerald GeeLocke Panuthos
awful.
Ed Current
How can u not feel a big dick up in a virgin ass. Can’t b true I don’t care how drunk u r
Sean Sullivan
Why does Queerty have a sick obsession with relating stories about male on male sexual violence?
Ron Loftus
Itâ??s generally rare for men to experience sperm in urine, but the two most common reasons this happens are prostatitis, which is a medical issue related to prostate gland swelling, and retrograde ejaculation, which can happen when semen flows backward during ejaculation and gets stuck, usually due to bladder problems. Both of these conditions can typically be treated, although they may cause some discomfort or pain in the meantime. Chronic recurrences may also be a sign that something else is wrong. Men who suspect that they are releasing semen with their urine should usually get evaluated by a medical professional to get to the bottom of the issue, as well as to rule out other possible conditions. Sperm can be difficult to detect outside of a lab, and some men think they see it when what theyâ??re really noticing is pus or mucus, which may be a sign of an infection or something else.
Prostatitis
One potential cause of sperm in urine is a swelling or inflammation of the prostate gland, known medically as â??prostatitis.â? The prostate gland helps with the manufacturing and release of semen, and certain medical conditions may lead to long-term and severe swelling of this gland. During urination, the bladder contracts and bumps up against it, for instance. This can cause a small amount of semen to be released at the same time as urine or shortly thereafter. Urine usually appears cloudy if enough semen is present, which is one of the first signs men may get that something isnâ??t quite right.
Prostate swelling can also sometimes occur if men fail to ejaculate often enough. Although this may take a while to develop, men who constantly become aroused but then fail to either engage in sexual intercourse or masturbation in order to achieve orgasm may have excess semen stored in the prostate gland. This is typically not a serious condition and is not considered full-blown prostatitis. The cure in this case is typically ejaculation, and the swelling will typically go away on its own in these instances.
Retrograde Ejaculation
Another condition which may cause sperm in urine is retrograde ejaculation. This is a condition in which semen moves backward through the urethra into the bladder rather than out of the body. It is caused by a lack of bladder contractions that normally take place during ejaculation to keep urine and semen separate. Men with this condition often notice cloudy urine immediately after engaging in intercourse, but may not see it otherwise.
Treatment and Prevention
Treating either of these conditions typically depends first on properly diagnosing them, which is most often done through a series of tests performed by a healthcare provider. In most cases men will be required to provide a urine sample for testing. The goal here is twofold: first, to make sure that there is actually semen present, and also to get a rough estimate of just how much semen there actually is. This can help a provider determine how it got there.
The patientâ??s prostate and bladder may also be evaluated to help determine the best course forward. There are various forms of treatment for an inflamed prostate, for instance, although choosing one above the other usually depends on the underlying cause. Serious medical conditions such as prostate cancer may also need to be ruled out. Medications may be given to reduce swelling, and if any other sexually related symptoms are present, these symptoms may need to be investigated further, a well.
There are a number of common treatments for retrograde ejaculation, too. Certain medications can be given to close off the bladder to prevent sperm and urine from mixing during ejaculation, for instance. Surgery can also be performed. Operating is usually pretty invasive, however, and the side effects and recovery times often make the struggle only worth it in the most serious cases. The surgery is also not always effective, which can be a deterrent. Having sex with a full bladder is a much more approachable fix, but this may also make sex less enjoyable.
Other Similar Problems
Men may think that they have sperm in their urine whenever it is cloudy. This isnâ??t usually the best indicator, though. Cloudiness can also be caused by mucus due to infection or pus that is seeping from a sore or wound, whether internal or external. Either of these may be caused by a virus or a sexually transmitted disease, either of which may be contagious and may not go away in its own. As such, getting prompt medical attention is usually the best course forward for anyone who notices persistently clouded urine.
jason smeds
This sounds like an awful experience. Let’s just hope they can the assailant.
jason smeds
This sounds like an awful experience. Let’s just hope they catch the assailant.
James Sigmon
Problem is you never haear this being reported to the police because or the same attached to it,
Blackceo
Here we go with the doubters.
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PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
The worst kind of Prurience. Posted for titillation nothing more.
Ron Loftus
If you think you may like things up your ass then by all means do the homework. Lube is used to wank and vaginal uses
William Bishop
i am tired of people using being drunk as a reason they got raped, 9 times out of 10 they wanted it, then afterwards they felt guilty for doing it or afraid someone might find out they had a gay exprience. get over it, its 2015 already. if you did not want it you should have walked away.
Derek Perron
Something about the prose of this story doesn’t sit right with me.
Adam Schmidt
@Ummmm Yeah: What the fuck dude? He was obviously intoxicated. You don’t need to say no. The person who wanted to have sex with him needed to get a “yes” and even then it’s a real shit move to put moves on someone who is sufficiently judgement impaired that they can’t give thoughtful consent.
Wayde Gordon Manning
it’s pretty traumatic
andy_d
@Peter McKinney: It doesn’t matter if the other guy was also drunk. This was not consensual. It was forced upon the victim. The appropriate word is RAPE.
imperator
As usual, a story about a drunk guy getting sodomized without his explicit consent never fails to bring out the fucking scumbags with their rape-apologist bullshit about “if he didn’t like it he’d have walked away” (never mind that it sounds like he was too drunk to walk), or “he’d have put up a fight if he didn’t want it” (never mind that it sounds like he was too drunk to fight), or “well he shouldn’t have gotten so drunk” (as though that’s some kind of excuse for the selfish piece of shit who violated his autonomy). And never mind telling rapist scumbags that *they* shouldn’t go around fucking incapacitated people without their permission, I guess that would be too “repressive” towards us men and our unimpeachable urges to penetrate everything in sight, huh? Holy shit. I wonder if I’ll see anything more disgusting today than other homos- who should fucking well know better- parroting the most vile rhetoric of the “she totally wanted it, bro” set.
Joshua Serpico
All of the strangers casting doubt on this man’s story may be the reason he didn’t go to the cops in the first place. ð???
Sure, it was horribly written. But don’t u see how someone could read this article, including the negative comments by some of u, get raped in the future, and then feel shame or hide it for fear of others’ doubt?
Real or not, it’s a terrible story. He’s not asking for charges against someone. He’s not doing it for profit. When someone shares something like this, u should take into consideration there’s a real person behind it who could be telling the truth.
Ladbrook
@imperator: Well said. Thank you.
As a society, we need to do a much better job creating a culture in which men and women who are raped can report the incident immediately without fear of reprisals and without shame. If someone sucker-punches us, we report it. It someone steals our car, we report it. It someone breaks into our home, we report it. We don’t report rape because of shame and because we fear no one will believe us. It needs to stop. Now.
Stache99
@imperator: Sorry but this started out as consensual sex. They were both drunk so I’m thinking this is more a story of next day remorse. We’ve all had that drunken sex that we regretted the next day.
Joey O'Shay
Damn
George Watts
I would have beat that man with a baseball bat
Chris Tan
Maybe he NEEDS to get RAPED in order for him to find out about his true sexual orientation.If he never try, how would he know????????
Clark35
@Ron Jackson: Indeed. It does sound like a BS reddit story.
stranded
@Ummmm Yeah: This is where things get tricky, i think. There’s not perfect a perfect victim or attacker. This idea that the words no, have to be said is dated. If a person was as drunk as this guy, then he has an inability to give consent. This is where we need more sexual education. The victim’s body might have given his attacker the wrong signs. Remember he’s drunk and not sure what’s going on, but he’s being fondled and the body is going to react accordingly. A stiff dick isn’t consent. There’s a part of me that does want to sympathize with the attacker. As you said, he was drunk too. He wasn’t in the right frame of mind, but alcohol isn’t a get out of jail free card. A drunk driver who kills someone, isn’t a murderer, but they did kill someone and have to pay the consequences. A drunk person may not have had the intent to rape, but if fuck somebody that’s half unconscious, they still raped someone.
Spike
Was this a reddit AMA and verified? Nope. Check the acct history, most likely a throwaway. Take it with a grain of salt.
Stephen Mole
What do people expect? As long as rape and son/father nephew/uncle incest are gay porn staples this is going to happen. Male rape isn’t taken seriously by society. Here in France the same TV channel – France 3 – that reported a ‘fête de Bayonne sans incident’ reported a male by male rape? No reply and no reaction when I called them out on Twitter.
DonW
@Chris Tan: “Maybe he NEEDS to get RAPED in order for him to find out about his true sexual orientation.If he never try, how would he know????????”
Seriously? How did you find out your sexual orientation? Perhaps you need to be raped by a woman to be sure you’re not straight.
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On a more serious note, if he indeed experienced unprotected anal sex with a stranger of unknown HIV status, I hope he went to an emergency room and inquired about PEP.
notevenwrong
I call shenanigans. The story is written in porn-ish language, like a Penthouse Letter.
Karen Puckett
So, this one dude gets raped and it an article, an outrage, blah blah blah. Thousands of women are raped daily, oh no big deal.
sportyguy1983
Reading set off my BS radar.
David Bolton
Oh for God’s sake, why didn’t he just post this on “Dear Abby?”
I tend to take this kind of BS with a very large grain of salt and a margarita.
NoCagada
Please send money to…
Chris
I’ll take him at his word. And for those of you who think that his being drunk somehow excuses what happened, have a cup of tea:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oQbei5JGiT8
Shawn McNeill
Most cops don’t believe men can be raped also they seldom believe that men can be battered.
BigG
I don’t buy it for a second
Sluggo2007
I’m not buying it either. I don’t care how drunk I am. If someone is shoving their penis up my butt, I will damn well know it.
rickhfx
Sounds like he had a great time and has a story ready for his str8 friends.
SonOfKings
I operate on the assumption that 90 percent of these anonymous testimonials are fake. Still it sparks a good conversation about the importance of not getting trashed and wasted.
jcmofungi
I discovered the joys of being taken forcefully by a my bi roommate in what many would consider rape. However i was turned on and actually masturbating and using a decent size prostate toy. This was in a military barracks as well. I noticed him looking at my butt, which is the only feminine feauture i have. I noticed he would get an erection and would watch me change and didn’t mind, actually enjoyed it.
So i am in a chair on a towel masturbating and using the toy. He walks in shuts the door and i was embarrassed to all hell. I noticed he had a hard on which kind of turned me on, i always enjoyed sexual attention from anyone. Well when i got up to cover up he grabbed me forced me to me bed and his large penis pushing into my butt cheeks made my once hard rhen limp penis hard again. He tied my hands behind my back,and told me my round chick ass was going to enjoy being used like a womans ass. He turned me around and being so aroused at something i never thought I would be aroused by was confusing but i decided to comply, and try it. I willfully opened my mouth and after shoving himself in and out forcefully, picked me up and manhandled me into the position he wanted. He then removed my prostate toy and entered me. I started to moan loudly in pleasure and he put his hand over my mouth and quietly asked if i like being his bitch. I nodded yes and pushed back into him. I had a full body orgasn that lasted a minute and had one right after the other. He shoved a clean rag in my mouth because i was screaming loudly with how wonderful it felt.when he ejaculated deep in me i shot my load all over myself and was still having orgasms for minutes while he shoved his penis back in my mouth.
After a couple weeks of weekly total domination i started to initiate at times because how much i loved him inside me. We started sleeping in the same bed and had sex multiple times a day. Him and i spent our off time having sex. Every other weekend we went to a hotel and had marathon sex. I was mever attracted to him or the male form. But i still crave his penis, and while i am married and not attracted to men i do crave having a man dominate me and make me their “bitch” a few times a week. Sex with women is not nearly as enjoyable after spending nearly 2 years having the best full body orgasms over and over several times a day for hours total a day. I didn’t like him touching my penis, or when he tried to kiss me. It turned me off. I just enjoyed how he felt in me and how nasty and dirty the sex was (in the i always went ass to mouth and he would always fill me up with his seed and loved feeling it deep in me.
I honestly could enjoy receiving sex from a well endowed man and love being dominated to the point of seeking sex with the man and ome semblance of a relationship (like best friends who enjoyed lots of kinky sex together several times daily)
Some have told me “it was rape that was survival mechanism” no…. it was not rape. It was him reading me and me reading him. A bit of curiosity and a history of anal stimulation when masturbating for years before mde me open and enticed. But i would still not feel complete without a woman in my life. But alas i may soon have a dominant guy with a nice package who grabbed and groped my booty at the store who him and i may start having regular sex and i am excited.