Queerty is better as a member
I have said this for nearly five decades. If LGBT people want equality you Have to be out and comfortable with yourself.
I have had people say to me “I can’t be out because of my job”
I tell them “I don’t care what your job is, teacher, accountant, factory worker,
pastor, writer, mechanic, salesman….anything….I know an out gay person doing the same job.”
The closet hurts us all.
@iantombower: @Bob: Totally agree! My partner and I have been together 20 years, and in that time we have been out and proud in our community. We volunteer, we are good neighbours and we support our friends and family. Over time, it has a huge affect on public perception.
While we were deep in the closet for so-o-o many decades, people assumed many things about us. Myths, misconceptions and outright lies were formed and aggravated by religious beliefs. These so called “facts” had inevitably became solidified through the profound and yet deafening silence of us being locked inside that closet. As the time went on, this misinformation was repeated, being repeated over and over again from person to person and from pulpit to pulpit unchallenged as it was. This happened so much so that the old saying “Tell a lie enough times and it becomes truth” became true. Now that the closet is wide open. Now that people can actually see us in person. Now that they can see us day to day functioning in the light of truth. They can now see that we are, at root, no different from any other minority. In this, the well established lies about us are being rapidly obliterated. Obliterated by this deluge of truth.
It’s amazing to see that attitudes have changes to quickly. I’m not sure that anyone thought public opinion would change so drastically so FAST. Furthermore, isn’t it Harvey Milk who said that everyone needed to come out for there to be equality?
Harvey Milk was said it so brilliantly in the 70’s when he appealed to closeted gays to come out.
“Gay brothers and sisters,… You must come out. Come out… to your parents… I know that it is hard and will hurt them but think about how they will hurt you in the voting booth! Come out to your relatives… come out to your friends… if indeed they are your friends. Come out to your neighbors… to your fellow workers… to the people who work where you eat and shop… come out only to the people you know, and who know you. Not to anyone else. But once and for all, break down the myths, destroy the lies and distortions”
MANY republican friends have told me that in the last election they couldn’t pull the lever for the GOP because they felt like doing so would be attacking me and other gay friends. IF they didn’t have gays in their lives that thought would have never occurred to them. Harvey Milk had it so right in what No. 6 posted above.
Hopefully more and more will come out and join the party.
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