A new study from San Francisco State University is reporting that gay-male couples face the same problems with sex and intimacy as their heterosexual counterparts.
“When gay couples become parents, they become very focused on the kids, they are tired, there is less time for communication and less desire for sex,” says the study’s author, Colleen Hoff, a professor of sexuality studies at SFSU. “They go through a lot of the same changes as heterosexual couples who have kids.”
Hoff also found some evidence that men raising children with partners were less likely to be HIV positive.”We found that gay fathers have less time for sex and less emphasis on sexuality, which could mean they are at less risk for HIV. Many fathers said they feel a sense of responsibility toward their children which motivates them to avoid risky sexual behavior.”
But gay couples in an open relationship tend to keep that arrangement after the bambinos arrive. “There wasn’t the shift that we thought we might find,” says Hoff.
Though an estimated 20% of homosexual-male couples are raising children, Hoff only interviewed 48 couples. So, gay dads, does this study reflect your reality or is it bunk? Share you experiences in the comments!