Call it progress or mere stupidity, but it turns out a lot of straight guys spend actual moments of their lives wishing they were gay.
And while very few of the below reasons dug up on Whisper ring particularly healthy or legitimate, we can certainly understand the appeal these days.
Scroll down and let the identity crisis begin:
Hank
It’s not a choice, but it is easy for those who fit the standards of beauty and behavior.
Kangol
Queerty’s usual “Whisper” crapola, featuring straight men. YUCK! Being gay is not a choice. If they really secretly desire to be gay, they could support gay equality legislation 100% instead of championing politicians who want to restrict our equality and oppress us!
Me2
Queerty, please stop with bullshit!! Just STOP!!!
Me2
Queerty, please stop with the bullshit!! Just STOP IT!!
Eye of the Beholder
“Call it progress or mere stupidity” ??? Stupid to be gay as if we’re horrible people, and who wants to be like us Queerty? Was that an outright attempt at offending us? And taken at face value a lot of their intimate concerns sounded pretty legitimate. Not stupid in the least. Here’s a sampling:
-Wanting to feel at peace with one’s true-self
-Disillusionment with women, and the expectations of a straight lifestyle
-Fear of not being taken seriously as a kind hearted person
One post even read: Gay men seem to be more honest and loyal than girls are. I wish I was gay.
Why such an objective tone to your think pieces?
GLF
REDDIT is NOT REAL.
GLF
Oh, my bad, this one was WHISPER, which is just as fake. smdh.
Eye of the Beholder
@Hank: Nailed it!
Jack Meoff
I have had straight friends jokingly say they wish they were gay so they could get laid more often and go to saunas etc. but the comments above about guys wishing they were gay because women are to much hassle to have relationships with just sound like misogynists. I also agree with some of the other posts about it not being a choice but I think most guys get that it’s not (bigots and bible freaks not withstanding).
deppa
I’m sure all of these quotes are off-handed jokes. The one comment that being gay would “be easier” is somewhat laughable. Most gay people -especially those just coming out of the closet wouldn’t agree w/ this – and any straight person w/ a brain would recognize this as a joke as well
Stilinski26
Feminazis has really made it difficult now days for men to date women
Chris
And guess what: some gay men (especially those in the closet) wish they were straight. The grass always looks greener on the other side.
uroy71
Nice picture. They appear to be having fun
Brian-E
If these quotations are genuine, they’re very interesting even though they probably hold for only a small minority of non-gay guys. One common thread running through many of them is a desire for intimacy with someone who understands you, and a feeling that you can get that understanding more easily with someone of your own gender. I wonder how much truth there is in that sentiment and how much is just an excuse for finding it hard in general to be close to anyone.
Mo Bro
As a bi guy, I actively embrace my homo tendencies, because sex with guys is liberating (as there are no, or few, expectations), whereas with women it’s . . . complicated. Technical. Sometimes phony. Women feel you owe them after sex; men just high-five you and move on.
So I ask: Who can blame these guys?
Doughosier
Being gay is great if you’re attractive and live in an urban area.
CaliKyle
@Me2: I second that, even though you kind of seconded yourself already lol. These Whisper posts are pure bullshit made up by trolls and losers with too much time on their hands. Guys who want to mess around with other guys because its generally easier and more fun than dealing with girls all the time can and do – all thats required is having the balls to follow through – if they seriously want it then they do it instead of lamenting the shortcomings of heterosexuality in Whisper posts. Enough. Silence the Whispers, Queerty.
CaliKyle
@Mo Bro: Ive been with a lot of women who were just looking to hook up, no expectations. Its boys that have had the expectations, in my experience, and have become emotional and angry if things between us didnt go as they planned. It probably has more to do with which gender one is usually or most strongly attracted.
tameron1
I do think this is a lot of B.S. I just don’t see that many straight men wanting to be gay if they are not oriented that way naturally. You are either sexually attracted to me or you are not. It is that simple. As an older gay man, with a lot of love and attention to give, I would personally, be thrilled to have a man, gay or questioning, who would want my attention and sexual skills, but I certainly never expect it to happen because this is the nature of life. On some level, I find all men to be sexy and interesting. It is still lovely to be a gay man, even if I am an older one.
RamblingManNJ
I don’t know I just don’t buy it. I grew up in an era where one of the ways straight men would bond with each other is by making anth gay jokes, remarks,jokingly referring to one another as gay, etc. Basically this reinforced in my mind and other gays that we could never possibly actually have a straight guy want to be our friend. Times have slowly changed I guess, but my mind is so scarred that I will never feel like I can truly be myself around a straight guy. The thing is that there are lots of straight guys that truly do have no problem whatsoever with gays, but in my warped way of thinking I am always thinking “yeah what do they really think?” Perhaps I am my own worst enemy but can you blame me considering how we were constantly bombarded with an underlying message of how defect we were. I imagine many blacks and other races feel the same way, when even when they do come across a friendly white person they say the same thing “yeah what do they really think?” It sucks to be made to feel like an outsider.
Mkiel
I have Always been very glad to be gay. Seeing the life my siblings have I have been so much better off in all parts of life.