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The Only Homosexual That People Found Sexy This Year

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Ryan Ryenolds, Jake G., Bradley Cooper, R. Patts, and Beckham all made People‘s Sexiest Man Alive issue, which crowned Johnny Depp as this year’s winner (he also won in 2003). So did the magazine find any gays sexy this year?

Just one: Adam Lambert. We’re guessing Lambert’s team didn’t have as much of a problem with the singer appearing on the ostensibly hetero celeb weekly — which ropes in the lady fans — as they did with his Out cover.

But it’s pretty incredible to see People magazine, with an enormous female readership, naming a homo to the “Sexiest” list, given that the last time Lambert agreed to sleep with a member of this demographic he was grossed out. There should be a note in here about “living in a post-gay era” or something.

Meanwhile, three of Glee‘s castmembers made the list. But not the gay one.

(Worth nothing: While straight, Jerry O’Connell made the list … in a Speedo.)

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On:           Nov 18, 2009
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  • 74 Comments
    • Landon Bryce
      Landon Bryce

      I think it’s great that Adam made the list, but I think NPH would have been a great gay choice, too. Neil is seriously sexy, Adam not so much.

      Nov 18, 2009 at 10:36 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • RomanHans
      RomanHans

      > Meanwhile, three of Glee’s castmembers made
      > the list. But not the gay one.

      Maybe because the three heterosexual stars of Glee are attractive while the gay supporting cast member is 2009’s Paul Lynde? Yeah, that show is a real breakthrough in television.

      Nov 18, 2009 at 10:41 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • BJ
      BJ

      You can have Adam Lambert. I’ll get in line for Ryan Reynolds.

      Nov 18, 2009 at 10:42 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • cheekiey
      cheekiey

      GROSS……..

      Nov 18, 2009 at 10:46 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • cheekiey
      cheekiey

      GROSS AGAIN. HE WAS PUT ON THAT LIST ONLY BECAUSE HE HAS HIS CD DROPPING.

      Nov 18, 2009 at 10:48 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Josh
      Josh

      He is sexy.

      I can’t wait to buy his album next week.

      You know, AfterElton and Huffington Post sided with Adam in this Out editor controversy.

      Nov 18, 2009 at 10:52 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • dizzyspins
      dizzyspins

      Johnny Depp sexiest–really? He’s in great shape for his age, but he’s a middle-aged weirdo bohemian. There are thousand of hotter guys out there, younger AND older.

      Also, the link for Jerry O’Connell’s Speedo picture goes to a site called ChurchOuting.

      Nov 18, 2009 at 11:00 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • alan brickman
      alan brickman

      Give me a break!! But I agree with Adam on the Out issue? How “gay does he have to be??”……nobody runs around screaming “straight!!” either…orientation is just “part” of yourself…

      Nov 18, 2009 at 11:06 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • JonathanHasHadIt
      JonathanHasHadIt

      Funny, they did not include Ricky Martin and the real father of his children, Eduardo Verastegui…

      Nov 18, 2009 at 11:36 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • captivity hurts
      captivity hurts

      “Just because I don’t want to stick it in there doesn’t mean I don’t find it beautiful”…Adam Lambert

      Your argument is invalid. The new guard is going to take over. RIP old castrated self hate.

      Nov 18, 2009 at 11:57 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • RS
      RS

      NPH would have been a great choice.

      Nov 18, 2009 at 12:02 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Josh
      Josh

      Hey some of us gay men find Adam very sexy and handsome. He is an amazing powerhouse voice too.

      Nov 18, 2009 at 12:31 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Rocker _Girl
      Rocker _Girl

      Adam is very sexy to women, me included.

      He has the “it” factor with other world vocal talent, charm, sex appeal and good looks.

      Love Johnny Depp too and glad he is #1. Heck, they are all good looking men and yes Adam deserves to be included.

      Nov 18, 2009 at 12:40 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Cam
      Cam

      Johnny Depp? Wow, how 1996 of them.

      Nov 18, 2009 at 1:12 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Tylertime
      Tylertime

      Adam Lambert isn’t sexy. “sexy” for a man is about him being natural. There is nothing natural or real about the manufactured adam and all his bad makeup.

      Nov 18, 2009 at 1:15 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • centralcasting
      centralcasting

      I have not heard his music yet. All I see are pictures of him in the tabloids and such. He reminds me of Elvis in a way, which can be sexy to some. Give it to his PR team. They know how to milk the people’s attention.

      Nov 18, 2009 at 2:02 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • mikeandrewsdantescove
      mikeandrewsdantescove

      I know Adam Twittered about this issue with Out Magazine yesterday. I think he should equally do both straight and gay publications.

      Mike

      Nov 18, 2009 at 2:04 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Bianca
      Bianca

      Well, sexy or beautiful is in the eye of the beholder. For me, Adam is the sexiest, most beautiful man ever. Johnny is hot and Robert Pattinson is fug so there you go.

      Nov 18, 2009 at 2:08 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Rick
      Rick

      Adam’s not exactly my idea of sexy, neither is NPH (he’s adorable though). Johnny Depp seems to be old news. There are hotter gay men out there than Adam, but they aren’t necessarily “out”.

      Nov 18, 2009 at 2:09 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Chris
      Chris

      The reason Adam made this list and no other gay stars did was because Adam is probably one of the only gay stars who is known to have slept with women. That makes him marketable to the women who this magazine targets (after all, they tell readers “you have a shot” with him if you’re an “upbeat PERSON” and from what we’ve heard it seems to be true). I’m not sure if this is a bad thing or not, but I can’t seem to get too worried over a “Sexiest Man Alive” ranking.

      Nov 18, 2009 at 2:14 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Larry
      Larry

      I have to agree he’s sexy in an “Elvis” way: Produced, manufactured, not necessarily natural. I’ve found other “glam” gays sexier than he… Jake Spears of the Scissor Sisters… or if we really wanna dig back, Freddie Mercury. They seem more naturally gender neutral/femme.

      Nov 18, 2009 at 3:26 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • romeo
      romeo

      @Chris #20: “Slept with women” ??? LOL

      An awkward and icky one shot blow-job is not sleeping with women. And what’s your real name, Christine?

      Nov 18, 2009 at 3:44 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • AlwaysGay
      AlwaysGay

      I’m a big fan of Adam’s. I think he has the potential to be sexy, I just haven’t clicked with that side of him yet. The other night I had a dream about Adam working out and that turned me on. He had a swimmer’s build and was in command of himself. I said from the time I found out about Adam he should work out to build some muscle mass and lower his body fat.

      I would pick Jeff Letham as the sexiest man alive. I have a crush on him. He has a show on TLC called Flowers Uncut which airs at 10 pm EST on Wednesdays. John Partridge, Cameron Carpenter, Justin Utley, Willem de Vries, Daniel Broughton, Andrew Oldershaw, Matt Maggiacomo, Gui Wandresen, Matt Bomer, Benjamin Hart, Tim Campbell, Daniel Boys, Christian Coulson, Luke MacFarlane, Jonathan Groff, Francisco Jimenez Tejada, J.D. Jordan and Jesus Vazquez are some other men I find sexy.

      Nov 18, 2009 at 3:56 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • nonotreally
      nonotreally

      He’s not remotely sexy.

      He wears pounds of makeup, dresses like a lesbian, and isn’t even cute without the crap smeared all over his face.

      The only thing people find sexy is his celebrity status. Take that away and he’s nobody.

      If he was so sexy we’d see people like him plastered all over ads, but we don’t…do we? Nope.

      Nov 18, 2009 at 4:13 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Tommy
      Tommy

      I agree with nonotreally! The ladies are welcome to him. I’m a gay man and I don’t find him sexy in the least!

      Nov 18, 2009 at 4:16 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • romeo
      romeo

      Re: Adam’s actual interview in OUT Magazine —

      Forget about the tweet. Forget about the douche publicist that didn’t know his job. Has anybody read the interview that Adam finally gave to OUT? I just did. Wish I hadn’t. Thought I’d clicked into the EXODUS website by mistake. Sorry, Swarm and Bianca, I gotta do a 180.

      Gee, Adam, isn’t there anything about gay people you like? Maybe you should branch out a bit beyond that crowd you’ve been hanging with.

      Seems Adam thinks ALL gay people are promiscuous and unfaithful. Heterosexual relationships are better.(Lot of hot guys into monogamy, Adam, you just gotta go out and look. My next door neighbors are hot and happily married.) There are no well-acted gay movies, (guess he never saw “Wild Reeds” or “Maurice” or a shitload of others). He can’t even stand watching poor LOGO. This is the best he could do with that interview with OUT? I think I might be getting Hicklin’s perspective more into view. Adam owns up to being gay alright, but he sure doesn’t seem too happy about it.

      C’mon guys, Adam’s way too coy with the fangirls, but we need to take him at his word that he doesn’t want to be part of us and our concerns. I’d say we need to stop obsessing on him as a gay anything. Just like that guy he’s always bitching about, he’s not going to do anything but break our hearts.

      And do us a lot of damage if he keeps running off at the mouth with that limited perspective.

      He’s still a terrific singer, and I wish him well with his career. If you’re gay and you like his music, then support his music. But like I said, way too coy, don’t be a sucker.

      Nov 18, 2009 at 4:26 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • chiku
      chiku

      @nonotreally.

      Uh, you wont see people like him modeling, and if you do its, well because its someone like Lambert, but you will in other pop culture mediums, which doesnt mean he isn’t sexy. If you’re going on biology, I might add that facially Adam does represent the symetrical standard…mouth wider than the nose blah blah blah…..I think he looks fine, but so fucking what I suppose.

      siiiick.

      Nov 18, 2009 at 4:28 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Swarm
      Swarm

      @Romeo Of course,bb, no need to be sorry. xoxo

      As a mom and sister I say the kid all the time because he is. He had no gay role models and yes, due to theatrical life.He worked nonstop living alone from 19 on a stupid cruise ship. He’s emotionally immature in this aspect. Which is WHY he is not prepared to be a role model or civil rights leader to anyone. All he ever offered to do was to meet kids and encourage them that he felt out of place, too and they are not alone.

      No more than that. Glambert women lgbt and straight have been screaming this all along. Notwithstanding his sexual performance which are just that. PERFORMANCES. GAMES.

      When he decided to focus on “love” at 24 he found Brad.(Cheeks) Jesus F*kn Christ what could be worse for learning the “normal” mature life of most settled gay men.

      I think he’s been trying to say that and nobody is listening or even researching to understand why. His brother

      Neil a quasi writer attempted to blog about infiltrating a tea party as a teabagger and failed miserably because he had absolutely ZERO knowledge of ANYTHING. It was embarrassing and laughable. And no interest in learning about it either.

      That’s the family he comes from. Father a “poet” (not really) and record spinner and mother an artsy something decorator.

      It’s going to be a long journey and he knows it. Everyone needs to leave him alone with his personal issues and allow the boy to sing.

      Obama is a much better political target. He’s broken many hearts and I also feel the backlash is going over to Adam a little who WILL break your heart if people keep pushing him to talk about things he is so conflicted about.

      I don’t see a conflict about gay as much as about how to live in the world that for him has been to date, completely up to him alone to figure out. It’s what you said. He needs good caring kind neighbors.

      My son is 26 and his brain just stopped growing and he’s still figuring himself out and 50% dork. He’d not last one hour under Adam’s pressure.

      There’s a 4 part interview of LA TIMES online for people who want the chronological and personal interview of his life so far. It was all work.

      Sigh. Love ya and sorry about the whole thing. I get it. Idealism dies a slow death. I don’t know your age but by age 40 you finally accept the difficulty of balancing that. Sorry for the “lecture”, not meant that way. Would have been easier over a mimosa. (smile)

      I think I’m gonna go back to real life awhile. I already have one kid, can’t cyber mother Adam Lambert too.

      Nov 18, 2009 at 4:56 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • John
      John

      @ AlwaysGay

      Christian Coulson is gay? Does than mean Michael Arden is too?

      Nov 18, 2009 at 5:08 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • jason
      jason

      People magazine is a pile of crap if you ask me.

      Nov 18, 2009 at 5:29 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • jason
      jason

      Johnny Depp is so yesterday. Either the staff at People magazine are stuck in the past or they’ve got a disturbingly close relationship with Mr Depp.

      Nov 18, 2009 at 5:30 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Chris
      Chris

      Alright Romeo, whatever he did with a woman. As someone who really doesn’t follow Lambert’s every move, that’s the impression I’ve been getting from comments on other Queerty articles. And really, that’s the message he’s been sending with his boob-in-mouth photo shoots: he’s appearing “open to doing stuff” with women, whatever that means for him.

      I’m a gay man, and I don’t know how what I said makes me sound like a stubborn straight female fan (I don’t even think he’s very good-looking). My point was that he’s a gay man that straight women can, and like to, pretend they have a chance with and that’s why I think he’s in People when other mainstreamers like Neil Patrick Harris aren’t.

      Nov 18, 2009 at 7:44 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • romeo
      romeo

      Thanks, Swarm, for the thoughtful response. I appreciate that you actually read and understood what I said. Don’t hate him, just don’t trust him to consider what he’s saying and the impact it will have on others, like us, because of his status and media access now. He’s entitled to his opinion, no question there. But, he had better be prepared to drop that “it’s just not that deep” crap, because it will get that deep soon enough. We’ll see how he does. Should be interesting.

      Realistically, he needs to stick to the music and do as little talking as possible, at least for the time being.

      Oh, BTW, he’s going on Letterman next week (I think). Wonder if that publicist laid down the law to HIM! LMAO

      Nov 18, 2009 at 7:51 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Gina
      Gina

      Life’s Big Irony for Adam:

      Women love him and find him sexy as hell.
      But he likes boys.

      Who apparently think he’s ugly?

      Nov 18, 2009 at 7:54 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • romeo
      romeo

      @Chris #32: Sorry, we have a lot of straight women coming in here as men to plead the “Adam is really straight” argument. LOL We had quite a lively discussion in here when Adam had that boob in his mouth. LOL Adam is coy, as in he knows where the $$$$$$$$$$ is.

      Being on People 100 is a voting thing, and his fangirls go nuts with that. Bless their little hearts.

      Nov 18, 2009 at 8:17 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • anyway
      anyway

      Hey, dipshits —

      We’re continuously ogling straight guys on Queerty. Why is it so implausible that a straight woman might find Adam Lambert sexy?

      Or better yet, what makes you think that straight women are the only demo for People’s “Sexiest” issue?

      Nov 18, 2009 at 8:29 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • romeo
      romeo

      And a hey, dipshit to you, too, Anyway. BTW, if you’re talking about the models they put up in here that we’re ogling — you’re kidding right? Straight? LMAO

      And just about everyone in here knows that straight women often find gay men sexy, Adam included, of course. What’s your point?

      Nov 18, 2009 at 8:37 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Gina
      Gina

      Hey Romeo, People magazine’s list is not done by fan votes. It’s an editorial decision. Check your facts.

      Nov 18, 2009 at 8:39 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • romeo
      romeo

      Will do, Gina! LMAO

      Nov 18, 2009 at 8:46 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • jimmy
      jimmy

      How does Matt Bomer not make this list?

      Nov 18, 2009 at 8:55 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • romeo
      romeo

      Bomer did make it, I believe.

      Nov 18, 2009 at 9:08 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • AlwaysGay
      AlwaysGay

      John, Christian Coulson is gay.

      Nov 18, 2009 at 9:14 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Sexy Rexy
      Sexy Rexy

      Lambert’s homely and not attractive.

      Nov 18, 2009 at 9:16 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Keith Kimmel
      Keith Kimmel

      I’d hit it. Twice.

      Nov 18, 2009 at 9:42 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • St8tH8t
      St8tH8t

      I just don’t see what the problem is with straight women liking a gay man who they think is talented. This is like saying black men cannot like white women and vice versa, which makes it shameful and taboo.

      I’m glad gay people have set me straight…I now require a scarlet G be branded on all gay performers so that I won’t embarrass them by GULP spending money supporting their careers. Is this progress?

      Adam never said he was the Gay MLK. He is a young man, stuck with shitty 19 management for the time being. I just don’t get the hate just because he tasty fishy vagine once because thats where all the hate is, Adam does’nt hate women.

      Nov 18, 2009 at 10:57 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • romeo
      romeo

      @ St8tH8t #45: What are you talking about? BTW, you got the sex act wrong — and Adam said it didn’t work out. And, BB, spend your money on Adam. No one here objects to that.

      (Where do these moronettes come from?)

      Nov 18, 2009 at 11:52 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • doolan
      doolan

      About the whole straight vs. gay thing. Perhaps gay men are tired of half in half out, mysterious androgenes that continuosly harvest our support whilst holding us at arms length. When will unabashedly gay male pop anything take the courage to be exactly themselves instead of catering to every demographic before the one they most identify with(privately of course). He had a chance from AI to be radical, but its rainbow lite as far as Im concerned and Ive seen it way too many times. pfft.

      Nov 18, 2009 at 11:53 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • romeo
      romeo

      Doolan: early on I heard a LOT of gay men express a distrust in Adam. Something about him was too much the schmoozer, as one friend expressed it. I didn’t share that opinion. I thought he was fierce and brave, but a little disoriented by what was happening to him. Beginning to think I was wrong. He’s just playin’ people. Not too fierce.

      My brother has a dog named Doolan.

      Nov 18, 2009 at 11:58 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Bianca
      Bianca

      Chris-20,not true. People mag chose him as one of the hottest bachelors of the year 2 weeks after the finale. I also remember he was at the top of the list.

      http://www.people.com/people/package/gallery/0,,20283823_20285374,00.html#20634397

      That was before the RS interview where he said he had oral sex with a girl.
      ANother funny thing is that when they posted originally, they called him “American Idol WINNER”, lol.

      Nov 19, 2009 at 12:13 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Leigh
      Leigh

      Reading this stuff – makes one feel really discouraged. Is this the way we treat one another? With regard to Lambert – the guy’s really nice – people who work with him really like him. He’s good looking, puts on a great performance, loves to entertain, has a terrific voice – just an all-round great guy. Yeah, just don’t understand how people, hiding under anonymity, can put someone like this down. If they met the guy, they’d probably really like him.

      Nov 19, 2009 at 12:27 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Kristina
      Kristina

      Adam is so very sexy! I’m a straight married female and I find Adam to be one of the sexiest celebrities ever! He can be straight, gay, bi, whatever, he’s sexy as hell!

      Hope he shocks the $hit out of the world when he performs on the AMAs.

      I love Adam. I totally get him.

      Nov 19, 2009 at 12:31 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Bianca
      Bianca

      Swarm – 33 You said:

      “As a mom and sister I say the kid all the time because he is. He had no gay role models and yes, due to theatrical life.He worked nonstop living alone from 19 on a stupid cruise ship. He’s emotionally immature in this aspect. Which is WHY he is not prepared to be a role model or civil rights leader to anyone. All he ever offered to do was to meet kids and encourage them that he felt out of place, too and they are not alone.

      No more than that. Glambert women lgbt and straight have been screaming this all along. Notwithstanding his sexual performance which are just that. PERFORMANCES. GAMES.

      When he decided to focus on “love” at 24 he found Brad.(Cheeks) Jesus F*kn Christ what could be worse for learning the “normal” mature life of most settled gay men.

      I think he’s been trying to say that and nobody is listening or even researching to understand why. His brother

      Neil a quasi writer attempted to blog about infiltrating a tea party as a teabagger and failed miserably because he had absolutely ZERO knowledge of ANYTHING. It was embarrassing and laughable. And no interest in learning about it either.

      That’s the family he comes from. Father a “poet” (not really) and record spinner and mother an artsy something decorator.”
      ******************************************************
      What a pile of pretentious, arrogant crap!

      He never said he didn’t have “gay role models”. He talked about “gay role models as COUPLES”! Do you have reading comprehension problems? He meant it the same way as a straight person who comes from a broken home says they didn’t have any roles models concerning relationships/marriage/partnership.
      Way to take it out of context!

      Lovely job on his family there. His “quasi writer brother”? He’s 23-24 still trying to find his place in life.
      “Father a “poet” (not really) and record spinner and mother an artsy something decorator.
      That’s the family he comes from”.

      WOW! Just WOW! You tried hard to make his family sound like some kind of trailer trash, didn’t you?

      Nov 19, 2009 at 12:31 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • romeo
      romeo

      @ Leigh#50: If he’s such a nice guy, what was all that shit coming out of his mouth against gay people in the OUT interview. I’m sure Adam can be very nice, but not always, and not always when it could hurt a very vulnerable population that doesn’t have his access to the media to defend themselves against what he says, however off the top of his head it may be. He’s had to put up with a lot of shit. I don’t deny that at all. But he could use a little sensitivity training himself. Like it or not, he’s not the anonymous club boy anymore. There are consequences to what you say when you’re a public person. plain and simple.

      Nov 19, 2009 at 12:44 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Bianca
      Bianca

      Romeo, did you read that HUGE interview he gave the LA times a few months ago??
      The best interview from him ever. Actually, it’s one of the best interviews I’ve ever read with anyone.
      It’s very long and extensive and has 4 parts. If you haven’t, here it is:
      http://latimesblogs.latimes.com/americanidoltracker/2009/08/adam-lambert-the-ultimate-interview-part-1.html

      You can find parts 2,3,4 here:

      http://latimesblogs.latimes.com/americanidoltracker/2009/08/adam-lambert-the-ultimate-interview-part-four.html

      Nov 19, 2009 at 12:46 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • romeo
      romeo

      @ Kristina #51: Baby, you totally DON’T get him, I guarantee you. LOL

      And Bianca: ease up, Swarm is not quoting Adam about the role models, I don’t believe. She’s just making an observation which jibes with what he’s been saying about gay people. And the OUT interview wasn’t the only place he’s laid that stuff on us. What I see is him blaming all the rest of us for his own inability to get his shit together. And I guarantee you that I came out of a worse home life and fucked up childhood than he ever did. We all have a tale to tell.

      Don’t beat up on Swarm. She’s just calling it like she sees it, as am I.

      Nov 19, 2009 at 12:58 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • romeo
      romeo

      Bianca: Yes, I did read the interview when it came out. I’m not trying to hold Adam to an unreasonable standard. And I know he has his own perspective, and he’s entitled to it. But that goes for everybody.

      When he paints ALL gay people promiscuous and unfaithful and stresses, as he did in that interview in OUT, that straight relationships are better, that’s not just as bad as a Mormon politician, or a fundie, or a Catholic Archbishop saying it, and that’s what those people say, it’s a hell of a lot WORSE because it’s coming out of ADAM LAMBERT’S mouth. I know how that can be used against us. Unfairly. We don’t have his access to the media. Sorry, Bianca.

      Nov 19, 2009 at 1:09 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Bianca
      Bianca

      Romeo, my love, just for you, I went and read it again. So, here are the parts it seems you had a problem with (as I understand from you):

      “What was the wall you hit with him?

      Sometimes it’s hard to, like, be a boyfriend for somebody, because you don’t know what that means. What does that mean? Especially if you haven’t been in many relationships. And being in the gay community, we don’t grow up with any role models for that. We don’t know what we’re supposed to be. And I think that’s funny because there’s so much — again, it’s something that’s being evolved out of, but in the gay community there’s so much promiscuity. It’s socially accepted in the gay community to be promiscuous. It’s like, oh, we’re both men, we’re supposed to want to fuck all the time and cheat on each other. And it’s OK, open relationships are fine because we’re all men. And I’m not judging that, but I don’t think that’s for me. I don’t think it’s emotionally healthy.

      .
      .
      .
      And you don’t have all these other models. Not that they necessarily fit so well for straight people.

      No, but there’s more of them. Even in the arts, a lot of art is about love and relationships, and there’s a lot of hetero art about it. But when it comes to the gay community, there’s just not a lot. And some of it’s so — I have such a love-hate relationship with the concept. Like, I can only watch Logo for a couple minutes. It’s a little too —

      Is that it? Where did he say “straight relationships are a better example”?

      You tell me also where do you see he said all gays are sluts?

      Nov 19, 2009 at 1:32 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Bianca
      Bianca

      Found more:

      ‘There’s a way in which both you and Neil Patrick Harris are being talked about as exceptions to the rule, to the idea that there could never be an out, gay leading man or male musical star. You both seem very confident and comfortable with who you are. But that’s not always true of your handlers. We’ve gotten plenty of push back from your management — and many other people’s — who say, “Well, let’s not be too gay…”
      Well, you know, I think that there’s something to that, though. I think the whole magic of this moment is that I’m not alienating anybody. I’m not trying to anyway. I want as many people to feel like they can like the music. I don’t want to edit myself to the point where I feel like I don’t have integrity. But at the same time, I feel like I don’t want to alienate people, so it’s really hard. It’s almost like being a political figure. It’s like a balancing act. I feel really good about how open I’ve been, ’cause I really don’t feel like I’ve hidden anything. It’s like the picking and choosing. When is it appropriate and when is it not? One of the things that I don’t like about the gay community is that people define themselves by their sexuality — and that’s bullshit. It shouldn’t be about that. It should be that it just so happens that you’re this or that, and that’s your sexuality. It doesn’t mean that that should dictate what your social group is or where you go out or who you talk to or what your interests are. That’s bullshit. That’s outdated.

      It’s very narrow.
      The segregation [from straight people] that exists in the gay community is outdated. At a time, it was necessary because we weren’t accepted. And now that acceptance is moving way forward, over the past 10 years. I think that we need to move forward too, and I think we need to kind of like, stop being so segregated and just be.

      How do you describe your sexuality?
      I think one of the things about the gay community that’s really interesting is that while people own their homosexuality, there is a strange aversion to letting the masculine and the feminine exist within you in a balanced way. And for me, personally, I feel I have a very strong masculine side, and I also have a very strong feminine side. And a lot of people are scared to live in that gray area. There’s boys out in Boystown that are either really fem or really butch. It’s at the extremes. I love when I meet people that are just kind of comfortable being both. And they don’t have to identify being really butch or really fem. Why? Why would you have to?

      Nov 19, 2009 at 1:45 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • romeo
      romeo

      “It’s socially accepted to be promiscuous…” “We’re supposed to want to fuck all the time and cheat on each other…” “I don’t think it’s emotionally healthy…” “Even in the arts, a lot of art is about love and relationships, and there’s a lot of hetero art about it…” “But when it comes to the gay community, there’s just not a lot. And some of it’s so…” Negative, negative, negative.

      As for the straight relationships, I think I recall there’s more to the text than you quote, but even what you have shows the tenor of his notion, which, incidentally, is quite ignorant of the enormous volume of excellent gay art, literature, etc.. that show very powerful relationships.

      The problem with Adam is he’s basically uneducated and unformed, and a total loose cannon.

      Nov 19, 2009 at 1:50 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Rob Moore
      Rob Moore

      He makes me yearn for the days before video killed the radio star. He is so much more interesting as a faceless voice. When I see him, I find it very challenging to look past his overly styled hair and the heavy eye liner. I don’t know why he hides himself behind hair over his face and a lot of make-up. Someone like Neil Patrick Harris is sexy for just being Neil Patrick without the gimmicks.

      Nov 19, 2009 at 2:08 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • romeo
      romeo

      Christopher Isherwood, Tennessee Williams, Gore Vidal, Oscar Wilde, Virginia Woolfe, Willa Cather, Somerset Maugham, Walt Whitman, and I literally could go on and on. Some of the very greatest literature has been written about gay relationships, albeit some of the writers had to couch their stories as straight relationships to keep from going to jail in their time. But novels like “Maurice” were written defiantly. “Orlando” is another grand epic lesbian love poem.

      And we are the best writers, painters, sculptors, architects, nuclear physicists — it’s ludicrous how our grand achievements have been denied us and squelched. And Adam knows nothing of all this.

      Nov 19, 2009 at 2:14 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • romeo
      romeo

      Bianca, Bianca, where does Adam get off saying we are segregated from straight society? Most of us never were. Show business types can maybe get away with that, but the vast majority have to navigate in the world as a whole. He’s also very delusional about how easy it is yet to be gay and totally accepted. Maybe in the narrow confines again of show business, but even there. He himself has said he came up against gay paranoia and prejudice in the musical theater, of all places. Adam’s experience and viewpoints are very narrow, and I don’t fault him for that. I do fault him for pontificating on things he obviously doesn’t understand. The fact that he uses a media defined phrase like “gay community” instead of “gay people” says a lot to me. There is no gay “community.” That’s an empty cliche. Adam knows nothing about the vast world of our people that get up every morning, pull up their socks and go out into a real, everyday world and deal with it in spite of all.

      Adam’s just a club boy, a talented one, but a club boy. He knows virtually nothing about the reality of gay people’s lives off of Santa Monica Boulevard. That’s obvious.

      Nov 19, 2009 at 2:27 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • dee
      dee

      Interesting plot diversion, these comments. I’ll put my two cents in. Gay men aren’t promiscuous. That word is coming from a anti-sex sort of whorish way of looking at things. And also kind of idiotic, some of the first chances he has to speak about his tribe, he basically calls us sex starved males with no hope for relationships….He’s lame.

      Get back on the disney cruise ship Adam.

      Nov 19, 2009 at 4:16 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • romeo
      romeo

      And I have news for Adam about straight guys in their 20’s. LMAO Hell, straight guys at any age if they can get away with it. Other than his own sordid life, everything coming out of his mough is all stereotypes and cliches. We can get that in a pamphlet at any local archdiocese.

      I’m serious. Years of struggle to try to speak the truth about the complexity and diversity of our experience so that we can be treated like something other than a subspecies could be greatly harmed by Adam’s mouth and its media access. And I’m not saying he should be a spokesman. All he needs to do really is relate his experience as his own, and not gay people generally. He should, but he obviously knows nothing about what most gay people face, even in this day and age.

      Oh, and newsflash to Adam, the “post-gay” shit is just a bunch of academics that don’t want to be called fag. They’re just blowing hot air out their asses. We are nowhere near yet where they’re pretending we are. And they’re screwing a lot of things up with their delusional rhetoric.

      Nov 19, 2009 at 10:39 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Brandon
      Brandon

      I love how the most homo- and transphobic comments about Adam are found on gay blogs. Way to do us proud, you self-hating sad sacks.

      Nov 19, 2009 at 11:52 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • romeo
      romeo

      @ Brandon — the homophobic comments are coming from Adam. His mouth, not ours. Deal with it.

      Nov 19, 2009 at 1:41 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Tommy
      Tommy

      I don’t think the guy is cute or like his music. but everything he said about the “gay community’ is the absolute truth. So he goes up in my opinion for being honest about that. Some people don’t like the truth.
      There’s a certain amount of people like Romeo who want to sweep anything negative about the gay community underneath the rug and pretend we are all perfect angels.
      Adam didn’t say every gay person like that but there’s a large part of the gay community that is that way.
      Most straight men would love to be promiscuous but women aren’t interested in that so they are out of luck. It’s not because straight men are more moral than us. We just have more opportunities.
      And he didn’t say all gay people, just gay men tend to be that way. I guess lesbians aren’t part of the gay community according to Romeo.
      I’m a gay man because I sleep with men, but I don’t define myself by my sexuality just like Adam. I will never be a professional gay like Romeo here.
      And of course he’s attacked on gay blogs. Gay people always eat their own and attack one another.
      We complain and complain about homophobia. But how do we treat each other? Like crap, most of the time.

      Nov 19, 2009 at 1:59 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • romeo
      romeo

      Tommy, you’ve obviously never read some of my other posts if you think I think all gay men are angels. That wasn’t the point. Gay men are a lot of different things. And often monogamous and faithful. But Adam IS saying in that article that ALL gay men are basically sluts that can’t be trusted in relationships. Look at the interview, Part 2. And Adam uses the word gay at several points and does not specify men, though he may have intended that. He also makes some absurd notions about our not being able to create art – guess he never heard of the Sistine Chapel or…jeez, where can I start from there.

      Adam is blowing hot air in his interviews. He’s not thinking about the damage he could cause, and probably will. We’ve got every right to call him on it because we’re the ones getting damaged.

      As for you, Tommy, just like Adam, you need to get out and meet some nicer guys. They’re out there.

      And I’m not a professional gay. I’m just someone saying something you disagree with. Maybe it’s time you heard a different point of view.

      Nov 19, 2009 at 8:00 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Bianca
      Bianca

      Romeo-59

      As for him (allegedly) saying “straight relationships are better than gay ones” – I’ve NEVER read/seen him say that and I mean NEVER. What he said there I took as meaning that “the straight model” is everywhere and prevalent (which it is) and that’s what people get to see, gay and straight.

      I’ll cnntinue reading the rest of the posts and reply.

      Cheers.

      Nov 19, 2009 at 11:50 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • He's a hypocrite
      He's a hypocrite

      Yes, straight is everywhere, and Lambert is happily contributing to more of it. Details, anyone? Watch for more hot sexytimes with scads of women in his vids and upcoming AMA appearance.

      Nov 19, 2009 at 11:53 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Bianca
      Bianca

      Romeo – 61. You said

      “Christopher Isherwood, Tennessee Williams, Gore Vidal, Oscar Wilde, Virginia Woolfe, Willa Cather, Somerset Maugham, Walt Whitman, and I literally could go on and on. Some of the very greatest literature has been written about gay relationships, albeit some of the writers had to couch their stories as straight relationships to keep from going to jail in their time. But novels like “Maurice” were written defiantly. “Orlando” is another grand epic lesbian love poem.

      And we are the best writers, painters, sculptors, architects, nuclear physicists — it’s ludicrous how our grand achievements have been denied us and squelched. And Adam knows nothing of all this.”
      **********************************************
      Fisrt of all, I generally agree with everything you said there and especially the last two sentences. It’s funny though how in the main paragraph you give a long list of great (gay) ones saying how they wrote about gay relationships but had to mask them as straight relationships. Then they aren’t “gay relationships anymore, are they?

      As for your post #64, we ALL see reality through our own, specific life experiences and the things that happened to US. You can’t say he didn’t encounter discrimination and hate not only because he did mention it a few times but I actually have a feeling he’s not mentioned a lot of what he’s experienced in that sense. You are right probably in the sense that in the artistic world gays are more sheltered and in a sense have an easier life because many there are gay themselves so they aren’t a minority in those circles as in others but I’m sure he’s had lots of unpleasant encounters with the “straight” world up until not long ago.

      As a general comment I just want to say that when reading all kinds of gay sites/blogs, one thing that’s obvious is that there’s by no means a consensus about gay issues and in fact, there’s lots of disagreement about issues.

      Nov 20, 2009 at 12:14 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • romeo
      romeo

      Bianca, I’m sure Adam knows better, and that’s what I find disturbing in that interview. When it came to gay people he chose to concentrate only on the negative. What it is up with that? Why is he doing that? Doesn’t look good to me. Adam has been quite brave, and I applaud him for that. But I’ve seen him be quite weak too. And that will reflect on him. People recognize that, and he’s in a different position than other performers whether he likes it or not – and I’m not talking about perceptions by gay people.

      I’ve never had the impression that Adam values criticism, or acknowledges it. Frankly, I don’t think he does much reading. What I and others say here is for the mostly gay people that like to hang out here. This isn’t mainstream media, and what is said here is not going to stray from these confines. But this is where varying opinions and points of view should be expressed, and as you can see from these threads, they are. I think that now that Adam has a chance at stardom, it would be valuable for him to broaden his horizons and consider some other points of view. It might help him to navigate his own PR. And maybe he’d decide to drop that corny, goddamned “it’s not that deep.” Jeez.

      Nov 20, 2009 at 2:15 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Duh
      Duh

      Our Adam isn’t exactly a scholar, is he?

      Nov 20, 2009 at 2:54 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • miley crisis
      miley crisis

      He is so creepy gross it makes my eyes burn.

      Nov 20, 2009 at 3:35 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·

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