It’s no real surprise that gay dads are subjected to bizarre lines of questioning from (hopefully) well-intentioned strangers.
And the below video does the topic justice.
But for god’s sake — and someone correct us if we’re wrong — can we all agree that nobody should ever approach a stranger and ask how much they paid for their baby?
Other questions like, “Who does the mommy stuff?” and “How does the sperm work? Yours? His?” are almost as cringe-worthy, but fairly believable.
How about we take this to the next level?
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Amanda Carter
My wife and I are expecting our first. We can definitely relate to the awkward things people say and ask. “Who’s the dad, what will the baby call you, will you both be mommy, what will you tell your baby, how did you get pregnant”, sometimes followed by “did you sleep with a man” “what if it’s a girl, or, what if it’s a boy” …. does it matter? With most people is a well intentioned curiosity, but some are just rude.
Tony Chaplinski
with all of the stupidity I wouldn’t doubt those questions at all
Bob LaBlah
“Other questions like, “Who does the mommy stuff?” and “How does the sperm work? Yours? His?” are almost as cringe-worthy, but fairly believable.”
Of course you don’t just walk up and start asking questions like that. Being the old lonely, nosy ass queen who lives in the back, across the street or worst yet, next doorI would simply wait till we were out by the fence (if applicable) on a nice, warm sunny summer afternoon and then start mining all in their business. But knowing todays young queens who decide to invade our god-fearing-white christian neighborhoods it would be just my luck to land two of’um who turn their noses up in the air every time they come out and see me air drying my overall’s and have the nerve to threaten to call the police about my six dogs and a occupied trailer sitting on the lot.
Glücklich
You’re breastfeeding, right?
Cloth diapers or disposable? And for the baby?
When are you going back to work?
I guess you can kiss that cute little figure goodbye. How’ll you lose the baby weight?
Any post-partum depression?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jtU0c1LyHG4
Glücklich
Is that covered by the lemon law?
What’s the return policy?
Can I get back to you later? In about twenty years?
Steven Chapman
Q: why did you adopt?
A: we kept trying the old-fashioned way and it wasn’t working for us.
ScottOnEarth
Sorry, but, “how much did you pay for your baby?” is hilarious!!! How do you take someone like that seriously?
SFHarry
Gay parenting is still a relatively new thing. If you can’t take the pressure of a few awkward questions, maybe gay parenting isn’t the right choice for you. Instead of a stupid glare back at people who ask stupid questions wouldn’t it be nice to nicely, briefly, explain the situation in a LGBT positive response that helps the person understand why their question is stupid without being offensive. It’s a great opportunity to help the next generation of LGBT parents and you might make a new friend. You knew you were entering this fairly new territory, why be surprised when everyone else isn’t undated on the right things to say yet.
Homo Erectus
@Glücklich: I like “you’re breastfeeding, right?” the best.
Or one might try a different approach. Give the gay dad a look of exaggerated, extreme incredulity:
What IS that thing? What shelter did you get it at? Didn’t they have any dogs left?
martinbakman
What’s really cringe-worthy is how over used the word cringe-worthy is. It literally makes me cringe.
Glücklich
@Homo Erectus:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kv3p8kIyqLI
Glücklich
I always thought a big advantage to being gay was that no one expected any kids. If that’s what you want to do, more power to you. No one who knows my husband or me expects us to have kids – I can think of MUCH better ROI for an initial buy-in of $30K+ – but a couple of times we’ve been asked if we want kids or been prodded with “you could provide such a good home…” No thank you. My husband likes his freedom, I like my furniture.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vk_aDAO8qQ4
passingthru
I VERY often get, “Are you the biological parent?”. It’s a simple question and seems fairly innocent and reasonable. However, it does get old sometimes. I try to imagine how it would be received if someone who just met my brother, sister-in-law and their kids would ask that same question, especially in front of the kids. I don’t really get why it would be important to know when you’ve just met someone.
winemaker
Now I’ve heard it all! The answer is simple. When people ask personal questions that are none of their concern, you say “I’ll forgive your question if you forgive my answer”, then stare them in the eye and say nothing. If they are half sane, the’ll get the message. If you’re direct you tell them: None of your damned business”. Problem solved!
tdx3fan
@Glücklich: The initial buy in is $30k. However, it never stops. Some people think it stops at 18. That is just where things start to get even more expensive. Seriously, the beautiful thing about liking dick is I never have to worry about some little brat draining me dry. Its bad enough my partner has kids.