Did you hear that? It was the sound of tens of thousands of hearts shattering because — drum roll, please — Olympic medalist Tom Daley and Academy Award winner Dustin Lance Black are engaged to be married.
The couple, who have been dating for two years, announced their plans to be wed the old-fashioned way — with an engagement notice in the Times newspaper in London.
The engagement is announced between Tom, son of Robert and Debra Daley of Plymouth, and Lance, son of Jeff Bisch of Philadelphia and Anne Bisch of Lake Providence.
Daley, who scored two gold medals for England at the 2010 Commonwealth Games and a bronze for Britain at the 2012 Olympic Games, made headlines when he came out in YouTube video back in 2013.
“In spring this year, my life changed massively when I met someone, and they make me feel so happy, so safe and everything just feels great,” Daley said in the video. “That someone is a guy.”
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He didn’t reveal who the guy was until months later. When Queerty broke the story that it was none other than Black, it made even more international headlines.
No info yet on when or where the wedding will take place, but we’ll keep you posted.
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Andrea Koltz
Congratulations guys!!
Jason Eric Klemm
Is he marrying him or adopting him???
Brandon Etheridge
Happy for them, but Tom is so young and new to the gay scene. He needs some experience.
Simon Jones
If ever there was a case against gay marriage this is it
Pistolo
It’s hard for me to believe Dustin Lance Black thinks this is a good idea so much as it is a great way to obligate Tom Daley to him. The kid is 21, he’s an athlete, he’s famous, he’s got a famous body, and he’s only just come out of the closet- it’s only a matter of time before he slips away. This is the selfishness of older men/women who date younger people, they know better than this seeing as how at that age it wasn’t on THEIR mind.
Look, I’d probably feel the same way if I were him but I could never make a kid believe something like that is a good idea. Is he gonna give him babies next now too? Destroy his youth a little more?
Robert Raymond
lie wow
Robert Raymond
like woow I meant lol
Deon Letsoalo
Tragic! Not to rain on their parade, but this is destined for doom. Dustin is EXTREMELY experienced and has travelled most of his path and Tom is young, naïve and thinks “this is it” and cannot yet think with his head. I personally think it’s selfish of Dustin to snatch and latch onto Tom like this, knowing very well Tom’s still dripping wet behind the ears. He also needs to experience minor break-ups before he settles down, unless they opt for an open marriage, which isn’t ideal but Tom’s out of his depth here, and I ain’t talking about diving!
John Senior
Engayged…
Wilson Ramos
WHO CARES
Enrico Celeste-Tamisen De Esser
I’m jealous but congratulations =)
Ronnyboy
@Pistolo: In my life I’ve gone from relationship based to whore based back to relationship based to just being a little of both now. Not everyone follows the same path.
Not saying I disagree with some of that though. It’s a well known fact that Lance likes em as young as he can get and always will. Lance doesn’t see a human being but a guy that feeds his youth obsession and extreme narcissism. Now he’s found one who can hold his own too but at a price of coarse. It’s also no secret that Daley wants to break into show business and who better to give him that or at least till he finds someone better to meet that goal.
Josh447
Congrats you guys. I’m sure you’ve had lots of time to figure out all the details. The rest is more of an awesome continuance of an amazing adventure. You are both very inspiring.
I wish you the very best and a very long happy life together. May your love for each other last forever.
Billy Budd
Who cares, it will be ETERNAL while it lasts. This is an old brazilian proverb;
sanfranca1
I just can’t believe all the negative comments…Life experience doesn’t come from sitting alone in a corner.
I wish them all the best.
Opine2
I’m frankly shocked, Queerty ran a story on Tom Daley and did it without a picture of him in his trunks. I need a drink and quick!
Bisexual-Transwoman
@Pistolo: Exactly, it’s just a business deal for Dustin Lance Black.
Amaurys Arias
40y/o man marriage to a 21y/o kid … Beside being creepy .. The so called youth DLB should know better… I know he is a Mormon i didn’t know he was the kind of Mormon
Ronnie Faulds
Deon in my honest opinion you’re a fuckin twat who is gag inducing and abhorrent im just saying!
Jane Freeman
Blimey some jealous queens on here!
Steven Burr
oh, yah, another beautiful gay couple………………………..
Daniel-Reader
Good for them. They seem happy together so why not give it a go?
Manu Carreño
And… Who are those bitches?
Billy Budd
I repeat, it will be eternal while it lasts. People should live their lives one moment at a time. You can’t hust give up. ALL marriages tend to end someday.
mz.sam
Haters will hate and trolls will eventually SELF-IMPLODE along with their venomous cohorts. However, a humongous CONGRATS to the guys and continued love and success on their life’s journey!
Mack
@Pistolo: Get a life. Gays aren’t the only ones who marry as old/young. And in many cases it’s lasted much longer than those who marry young/young or old/old. Congratulations to both.
Nate Gallagher
If Tom Daley were any cuter I would want one as a pet.
Pistolo
@Mack: Duh gays aren’t the only ones to marry younger. And duh that has a history of not working too.
I don’t get how you’re branded a “troll” or “queen” or “jealous” or a “hater” for simply being critical of celebrities who willingly publicize the details of their personal lives knowing full well they’re opening themselves up to scrutiny. It’s not like I tweeted them personally.
I think it’s selfish. I’m in my mid 20’s, if I were dating an 18 year old who was incredibly hot but it was his first relationship and he only just came out…I would probably be more concerned about THAT than settling down. C’mon, at 21 I would’ve totally married my boyfriend and it would’ve wrecked my life. When you’re younger, you thrust yourself into things- that’s why it’s important that the older person look out for your best interest. He’s not doing that.
Curty
I think 21 is too young to marry but hey its their relationship… if he is ready to really settle down this young go for it… but I certainly wasn’t at his age. 29 now and with a wonderful man who is older than myself, I’m still not ready. Maybe 2 years tho.
AndYouWillDeal
No fair! I wanna raw Tom Daley real good at least once before he marries
mauikamaaina
Great couple and very positive role models. Congratulations gentlemen!
Peggy McKenzie
Congratulations!!!!
broadshoulder
Congratulations! I suppose when you look like Tom Daley you can get anybody you want. But at 21, I’d think he’d be enjoying London…
Dennis Shaw
Bout time u made him a honest man good luck for the future when’s the wedding
Fvk847
So happy for them! Everyone has their own path/rules, yes he may be young but just because he wasn’t a slut or experienced what gay guys think he need to go through; hope it all works out for them! Cheers!
AxelDC
Daley is awfully young to be getting married.
AxelDC
@Fvk847: Nearly everyone I know who married before age 25 is divorced now.
Daley barely came out 2 years ago when he was 19. I’m sure he and DLB are a great couple, but marrying so young before you know yourself isn’t the wisest thing to do.
Brendan
I’m happy for them. And also kinda bitter. But mostly happy. #Imlying
SportGuy
LMAO!
Brian Johnson-Frazier
Omg 😀 so when is the divorce?
Giancarlo85
I give it a few months… what a disaster. Somebody has daddy issues. They’ll probably divorce shortly anyways.
And to the old guys… stick to your own age.
zaneymcbanes
Congratulations to them! And to everyone who’s saying it’s not going to end well, to quote Bryan Safi from Throwing Shade, “When does it ever end well?”
Curty
@Giancarlo85: Ok almighty. You’re such a bitter, jealous queen. What difference does it make Delay is 21 and they are happy and want to marry. The only disaster is your stinking attitude and pessimism! I bet you die bitter, sad and alone.
john.k
@Deon Letsoalo: No it’s not destined for doom. I met my boyfriend when he was 19 and I was 57. 9 years on we’re still together. Like it or not there it is. We’re still very happy. (Btw, he was and is only interested in guys over 50 with grey hair.)
Brian
Couldn’t Tom Daley have found someone else who could keep him safe? I mean, Dustin Lance Black doesn’t look like the bodyguard-type to me.
Arcamenel
Congrats to them.
Hussain-TheCanadian
Even though generally speaking, when there is a vast age difference, the relationship is not matched at all – However I am still happy for these guys – I’ll give it to Dustin he looks much younger than he really is.
Glücklich
@ Arnold Stollar
Scotch
Glücklich
@Billy Budd:
Eternal while it lasts. I like that.
Hey, Mr. Glücklich and I are headin’ to your home country for New Years!
Spencer696969
Tom was 19 when they met and Lance was 40. Sorry but that’s predatory. Tom’s father died at 40 and he & Lance are pretty much the same age. Just seems wrong.
Giancarlo85
@Curty: Lol oh please. You are disgusting and you post everywhere. Nobody would ever want to date a bigot like you. As far as Daley… He is an attention hoe.
And what the do you know about me? You are such a vindictive bitter hater. I am just calling things out when I see it. This so called relationship screams one sided… It won’t last. I can’t wait to see the tabloids highlighting the cheating.
Blackceo
Congratulations to them both.
And Queerty I need y’all to get your life. This my first post today so why the hell am I getting the “slow down you are posting too fast” warning. #fixitjesus
Zodinsbrother
Where is all this “too young at 21” crap coming from. God, we are alight with 18yo joining the arming and possibly dying for us but woe betide them if they dare to marry someone they love.
Might they break up in a few years? Possibly, but if they do they can. Just like all other couples of all ages. Meanwhile there are plenty of couples with the same age gap who just work and stay together.
And like someone said, all marriages end in either divorce or death. Grow up about it and enjoy what you have got while you have it. Because Mr Reaper ain’t sparing any of us.
Realitycheck
Good for them I wish them the best !!!!
To the sour pusses, let people be happy for christ sake!
Charles Begley
such lovely guys !
lauraspencer
My concern isn’t the age difference. It is the difference in life experience.
If someone is 65 dating a 45 year old or a 26 year old (who has been out several years) is dating a 46 year old I could see it working.
Tom, as 18 as an Olympic athlete, proved he was more mature than most his age. He could work towards a goal. Most teens can’t even do their homework. He lost his father at a young age which certainly made him appreciate life a bit more and focus on what is important.
Dustin, on the other hand, was in his 30s when he made his sex tape having bareback sex. Not smart or responsible for a man of is age. He is also known for always dating guys much younger than him. In some ways Tom is probably more mature than Dustin.
At 19 when Tom came out he should have taken a few years and dated and gotten comfortable. To partner up quickly with Dustin with no experience of being single doesn’t bode well. If Tom had been out several years and then met Dustin I don’t think it would be as much of an issue.
Michael Hunter
Billy Budd
Tom Daley is SO cute I wanna fuck his tight little tush so hard!
Ronnyboy
@Giancarlo85: I might disagree with Curty but he doesn’t strike me as a “vindictive bitter hater”. Do own any mirrors because that describes you perfectly though. I’ll bet most here agree with me too.
Daggerman
..they make a wonderful couple and I hope their marriage lasts? I would like to say or shout–IN YOUR FACE YOU SLEAZY POPE!—obviously, knowledge of this joining of two men would get up his nose!
Ronnyboy
@lauraspencer: Calling Dustin “old” by some here is just hysterics but that’s something I can agree with. Just common sense.
If you like “young” then look for an actual adult with a little life experience. Like you say you can date down but damn. Wait till their out of the Oven a bit first. Teenagers should be with other teenagers. Not getting hooked up with middle aged guys as their trophy IMO.
Ronnyboy
@lauraspencer: With that said I have to say that Tom is no dummy. He wouldn’t be just hooking up with Lance if he was just some non famous middle aged/middle class guy. Lance is a Hollywood director and we all know about the “Directors couch” saying. How many stars and starlets have been seduced by that? Probably something most of us would take advantage of or use.
Southstguy
Tom’s dad tragically died young and he started dating someone the same age. Calling Freud!
PLAYS WELL WITH OTHERS
@Simon Jones: Go away troll………………
Ronnyboy
Edit..”Casting Couch”.
NJjoe
Is Daley related in any way to the Kardashian’s?
stranded
Personally I don’t think anyone that young should marry. There is so much of the world to see and so much personal growth that I feel should be experienced and developed alone. But hey, that’s my opinion.
Ronnyboy
@stranded: You guys are really thinking about this the wrong way. Tom is not just a normal kid. He wants to be famous and successful more then anything. His agent is smart to get him on all these British shows but he really wants to come to America.
Lance is his best option for that in a boyfriend. Why would he want someone around his age who can do zero for him? The kids smart and Lance is well connected. I would be doing the same damn thing and most of you probably would too. Plus, Lance ain’t bad looking himself.
Ronnyboy
Folks this is how the wealthy and/or famous date. Love has nothing to do with it.
Billy Budd
@Glücklich: How nice. I am sure you will love the country. Have you decided which cities youre going to visit?
Bonny1986
@Brandon Etheridge: I agree 100% with you.
Maleko
@Pistolo: OK guys, they are both experienced adults and especially experienced with people, personal relationships, friendships; I suggest that if each one of them puts 100% into this relationship (marriage?) they have a better chance than most to make it work completely for as long as they want or as long as they can (one of them might die, maybe both will). Being in the closet is irrelevant for Tom, I’m sure he die quite alright for himself before he came out. Lance Black, likewise, already shown himself in very positive lights for many years. So, the big question: what relevance is age in a relationship? Because both likely have the means to lice quite well on their own, likewise, retirement planning follows different rule for these two lovebirds that there doesn’t seem to be any issue with age. It’s a situation that can be managed if need be; Tom may still be diving when Lance wants to take it easy: maybe Lance goes with Tom for the big competition or Lance has some time to do his own whatever he wants. Every relationship takes considerable work, effort and time by both partners to be and remain a positive relationship. These things don’t just happen. It is important that they will always put the other man first; Lance thinks of Tom first before himself and Tom puts Lance before himself; the big, fancy word for this is Compromise, all of the time for every reason. Forgive and forget. Nothing is more vital in each of your respective lives than this treasured relationship. You will probably need to compromise several times a day, but when each looks out for the other, compromise is pretty natural; you might even find yourself insisting on doing what your partner wanted over what you wanted, you might even find yourself a bit irritated that you didn’t get to do what he wanted to do and ended up doing 2nd choice which was what you wanted to do in the first place. Anyway, that’s how it works in our home, we’ve made it together for nearly 24 years and looking forward to doubling that number.
I might have a bit of a bias on LTR’s My parents are married for 65 years, I have two younger brothers that have been married to the same lady/mother/wife/companion longer that 23 years we have been a couple.
I WISH THE HAPPY COUPLE ALL OF THE JOY AND HAPPINESS IN THE WORLD FOREVER MORE. PEACE.
Be happy, tell your other half you love them every single day, do good deeds, take care of each other every bit a carefully as your take care of yourself. I think you both recognize bu11sh1+ when you seek, never let it get in your way, never get involved in it and never do anything that might bring you down; people that throw stoned do seemingly have something better to do so they don’t belong in your life, in any way, shape or form.
Bonny1986
@Pistolo: I totally agree with you.