True Blood‘s Denis O’Hare (a.k.a. gay bloodsucker Russell) acted as his own press agent via Twitter, sharing a sweet New York courthouse picture of himself (above left) with partner, interior designer Hugo Redwood, and the message: “Okay. It happened. Hugo and I just got married.”
Congratulations to the former vampire king of Mississippi and his husband.
christopher di spirito
Awesome! Good for them.
Jack
Aw cool! Im so happy for them! sexy couple 🙂
christopher di spirito
I was shocked Denis O’Hare wasn’t nominated for “Russell.” He’s a brilliant actor.
Kamuriie
And now for the weather!–Tiffany?
Marty
How sweet, best wishes to happy (and cute) couple.
gherkin
A spine-tingling announcement. 😉
Darsco76
CONGRATS!!!!! I love happiness
Glen from Memphis
So much for Talbot.
No Queer
why do these hot black guys date ugly white guys?I’m all for interracial dating but why not get a hot white guy.
Aiden
@No Queer: Why bring race into this? Maybe they love each other, and maybe they find each other attractive.
Tony
Mr. O’Hare is one of those actors you’ve seen a million times, but can’t always place. I pulled up his roles on IMDB. This guy has worked steadily for years, and has been in lots of hit TV shows and movies. May he have continued success and I wish he and Hugo well.
catinhat
@no queer Aww, that’s really mean-spirited thing to say about someone’s husband.
Mark M
Actually, he won a Tony for his role in Take Me Out, the play about the gay baseball player, which isn’t exactly low-profile.
Marriage Equality
“why do these hot black guys date ugly white guys?” Get a life! Denis O’Hare is extremely talented and one of the nicest people you could meet – He’s a great guy inside and out!
Sexy Rexy
His man is very cute. Denis must be much oldahhh.
timothy
@No queer I agree with you to a certain extent… but I don’t think that’s applicable here… if you get my drift… I have noticed the phenomenon though I suspect there’s a financial element to consider in most cases.
Anyway all the best to them! I liked Russell I don’t think he is (should be) done on the show.
Alex
Hugo is a nice name. Congrats to the happy couple.
Ogre Magi
@Aiden: Both of them are about equally “meh” in my book, but not every one can be good looking.At least they have each other!
Shannon
@No Queer: Are you jealous because you’ll never get a Tony or because you’ll never land anyone attractive?
Ganondorf
@No Queer:
They’re both unfuckable. But the black guy is decidedly less unfuckable than the vanilla dude, who is revolting in every conceivable way. He’s dating that swamp thing from legend, and can probably do better. Quite probably he doesn’t have the money, because that’s all that really matters regardless of how unspeakably ghastly you look–just ask karl lagerfeld. Anyway, this is in poor taste, which is a queerty MUST! Congratulations to the ugly old couple!
Afro Boricua
@No Queer: I am black and I don’t find this black man to be hot or sexy. They both are middle aged men fit for each other. Now I could see if the black men were Shemar Moore or Boris Kojoe.
Interesting
@No Queer: They love each other, and you know nothing about who Ohare is personally. I would be the first to speak of race where its shown to be a factor, but I don’t anything about their relationship,a nd neither do you.
To end of a positive note, anytime someone finds a life partner that’s a good thing. So, I hope they have a wonderful life together.
CHYKOLAETHAI
@No Queer: LOL…. My stomach doesn’t turn when I look at OHare’s husband but i wouldn’t have him crawlin on my back either…..I mean I don’t want to sound disrepectful towards the newly married couple BUT Mr.OHare’s husband looks like the “typical” black gay dude who dates only white dudes, again no disrespect towards Mr. OHare’s husband… N E way congrats on dere marriage and i do wish them happiness.
j
@Ganondorf: Bet your mum would be proud, yeah?
Also I never knew denis o’hare was gay irl! Congrats to them both! Also, all you vapid youth whores saying denis is old – I’m twenty but I’m under absolutely no illusion that my youth/looks are a)going to last b)important in the long term. This man’s leaving a legacy in his acting, what’re you doing?
Kevin Costello
@Afro Boricua: Ugh. Just shut the hell up. You present your statements as if you’re the “1980’s Jesse Jackson” for all things black and gay.
@CHYKOLAETHAI: So, would I be correct in assuming that you look just like Mr. OHare’s husband? Quit hating.
Danny
They are both ugly so I’m happy the found each other.
Afro Boricua
@Kevin Costello: Kevin, kiss my black ass. However, your face is to gross to kiss my ass. Begone Satan.
Swiss D.
@CHYKOLAETHAI: To my curiosity. What does “typical” black gay dude who dates only white dude look like? (in the US).
TanyaHyde
…..and gay men wonder why they get tagged with such terms as shallow, vapid and excessive…..
Jackson
The old guy has money end of story.I’ve seen black gay guys want a white guy so bad that they don’t care what he looks like,he could be fat,nasty and ugly just as long as he’s white.white is the standard of beauty.
Manny
I don’t know what you guys are talking about the black dude is ugly too.I only want to see hot gay people not one that look like them.
CHYKOLAETHAI
@Kevin Costello: LOL really??? Why would i hate on Ohare’s husband? I have no intrest in white guys..
CHYKOLAETHAI
@Swiss D.: well IMHO, below average looking, with a slightly “lame swagger” and they are usually “weak”, I never seen a proud black or latino dude love only white dudes.. may have a small amount of sex appeal but not enough to attract a strong-minded,good looking black gay dude. which dudes like me don’t mind because they type of dudes black gays like me are attracted to ususally are into black or latino gay dudes. I don’t know how it is where u from but this is how it is in my hood.
Rocky
Why do we care what they look or how attractive they are to “us”? I thought this was supposed to be about celebrating gay marriage and loving long term gay relationships. What is this race stuff and how hot they are have to do with any of that? I really don’t understand us sometimes. We scream and holler about having equal rights and then we get some and try to show through our media how its positively affecting our community and we shit all over the people and call them ugly. And, then if they were not “ugly” and were extremely attractive we would complain about how they didn’t look like a “regular” gay couple and then I know I would be seeing comments about how they probably cheat on each other at circuit parties or have threesomes. I don’t understand gay people anymore.
Rocky
And they are not supposed to be hot for your viewing pleasure-they’re supposed to be hot for each other and that’s all that matters.
christopher di spirito
“Oh the black guy is so hot,” and, “Oh the white guy is so fug.”
Jesus, are you men or a bunch of 14 year old girls? Grow a pair.
Interesting
@CHYKOLAETHAI: I date other black people (well equal opportunity actually) and I have no idea what you are talking about. What?
Interesting
@CHYKOLAETHAI: by the way your “hood” sounds like a bunch of closet case thugs like in my neighborhood. i used to be impressed with these guys when I was 20. then I started to get to know some of them, and now i just find many of them pathetic. If you are “impressed” by the fake bullshit of men who often can not carry on a simple conversation, then I suppose real gay black men are alien to you.
Chitown Kev
Mind you, I am not against interracial dating, haveing done it more than a few times myself.
But as to “the question” Why would successful black gay men be any different from successful black straight men in the respect of dating?
Chitown Kev
haveing s/b having
catinhat
Read these comments. They explain why you are alone.
Ogre Magi
@Chitown Kev: So, enlighten us then do you as a GBM find the other GBM seek out GWMs rather than GBMs and if so why?
As for me, I am white but I will fuck any body that is young and good looking
Oh Dear (John From England)
Oh my god. This is the Queerty I know!
What a change from the last one!
These guys are adorable.
What mean people.
Oh Dear (John From England)
http://hellyeahtrueblood.tumblr.com/post/1032196140/imhereforsookie-weruintooeasy-denis-ohare
Here is a lovely picture of the two. Ahhh….:-(
Oh Dear (John From England)
What is interesting or not, is that all the other blogs full of fangurls were so respectful and sweet about this couple.
Oh well.
Chitown Kev
@Ogre Magi:
Well, if these GBM are seeking them out solely on the basis of them being white AND FOR NO OTHER REASON then I would have a problem with it.
Now if there are more available GWM in certain circles (and I am speaking to the class issue here) and/or more GWM share some of my interests than other GBM then it is what it is.
But seeking out GWM solely bexcause they’re white? I can’t get with that.
Nor, by the way, would I date a GBM solely because they’re black.
Interesting
Being a successful GAY person of any race (and worse yet being one who is both highly education, emotionally well adjusted and smart) means the dating pool is limited.
Race limits the pool further.
I could use my own experience, but I will use the example of a friend of mine. He has 2 PhDs, speaks 4 languages, well traveled, is out and is emotionally well adjusted. He’s also successful in his career. He’s a black guy.
His dating pool is limited. That’s just the reality of simply being able to relate to one another rather than just fuck.
I must say that one of the reason I stopped limiting myself to other black men, and why I became an equal opportunity dater is that I realized that the dating pool of men who would be “perfect” for me was extremely limited.
I disagree that it is simply a class issue. It is an issue of sharing things in common outside of sex.
Interesting
Re class
For example, I come from a low income background, and am now middle class, but I still think in many ways of myself as coming from the lower class, BUT, many guys like me because they can relate to the things I say rather than because we share the same class background. The PhD that I mention likes me because he likes the intellectual nature our conversations and that I can talk about emotions and core values. Etc. For him and myself,t hat’s important. For others, other things are important. Its not merely class. He comes from wealthy background, and I don’t care about money, for example.
Observer
@Interesting: I agree with everything you said. I would add that it’s getting harder these days to find things in common. This is because of how easy it is to travel and international media.
CHYKOLAETHAI
@Interesting: Please baby.. i must have hit a nerve when i mentioned “typical” black dudes who only dates white dudes and the key word was ONLY.. read my comment clearly beforen u start defending Uncle Rukus.. I said nuthing about dating thugs just because some one is from the hood don’t always mean they are just in to african american dudes only I also like latinos and asians not just thugs.. Secondly why do u assume that all gay dudes who live in the hood are in the closet or thugs??? Btw Im only half AA, my pops is a dark skin’d latino.. So props to u sir if u are into white dudes (cheers) just not my thang..
Interesting
@CHYKOLAETHAI: You lost me with the first line. You are a little boy trying to play at being a man.
Interesting
@CHYKOLAETHAI: by the way, even the speech pattern that you use here is that of someone who has no sense of mature identity outside of playing at one.
Chitown Kev
@Interesting:
Well, that’s kind of what I meant about sharing the same class background, that there are common interests shared.
For the most part, when people think of “class” they think of money but there are other factors such as education that I, personally, fold up into the entire class issue.
@CHYKOLAETHAI:
Just because someone is from the ‘hood doesn’t mean that they’re a thug either.
Personally, I don’t like thugs if being and acting thuggish is all that they bring to table.
Now give me a sharp contrast (and that’s really what attrats me to people, is when there are sharp contrasts in their personality and/or looks), say, a “thug” that’s well spoken or who reads a lot (and I’ve run into them, but they do seem to be rare) then I swoon…
CHYKOLAETHAI
@Interesting: yea i bet, lost.. u understood what i said clearly…and if you didn’t then you ain’t as insightful as u thought.. Have a gud nite.
CHYKOLAETHAI
@Chitown Kev: couldn’t agree more man..
Riker
Wow. I’m shocked at the lookism, racism and ageism here. These guys are middle aged men who are talented, successful and extremely intelligent; they’re celebrating their love by getting married, and you vapid queens diss them because of how they look? Gay people used to be compassionate and kind because we knew how hard it was to be hated and judged unfairly. One day – with a little luck – you guys will be older. Believe me, it will come way sooner than you think.
OrchidIslander
@Riker:
Quote: “Wow. I’m shocked at the lookism, racism and ageism here. These guys are middle aged men who are talented, successful and extremely intelligent; they’re celebrating their love by getting married, and you vapid queens diss them because of how they look?”
I agree Riker. They must be young queens indeed. It is really the only excusable reason for such ignorance and disrespect.
timothy
Honestly I understood exactly what was meant by stereotypical black guy who only dates white men. I happen to be a very well educated black man who only dates black and latino men. Its really a personal preference I have plenty of white friends and coworkers. That said if knows Anderson Cooper, Justin Timberlake, Vinny from the Jersey Shore, The dude from Fast and Furious or Jason Stackhouse from True Blood by all means feel free to make me eat my words…
Ogre Magi
@Chitown Kev: Sounds pretty reasonable
Interesting
@Chitown Kev: Education or rather being smart (because education is itself status) has nothing to with class. Class is about money, which is really just a derivative of status. Being smart is about whether the lights are on up stairs or not.
I will give you an example. Right now, I work with this guy. I am not even sure he’s been to college. He probably has, but that’s not what makes him smart. There are a lot of “educated” people who are not smart or interesting.
The thing that makes him smart is the way he connects information that he has learned in a unique way, that’s different, and increases the awareness of those who listen to him. A joke you take a second to get because he’s connected some dots that you hadn’t connected. I admit I find creative intelligence attractive.
Its like that scene in that movie, “Good Will Hunting”, in which the lead shows up the Harvard guy who regurgitates all this memorized text from people with real smarts. The lead destroys him by pointing out that everything he’s saying is regurgitated rather than original thought. The girl is impressed by that because its original thought just to point out all of that. He goes beyond education or class.
What I am describing really is a rare quality. Just like finding a guy who shares your values is a rare quality. That’s what I think its a mistake to base where you might find that based on race. You never know what he’s going to look like.
I am not foolish enough to believe that race does not matter. it is more likely you will find that with another black person, especially, if you are like me, and, you want someone who will understand or at least is willing to accept that race plays a role in our lives, and what that means.
But, I do think its important to not confuse skin color with connection, which is what I think you are getting at in what you are saying. On that level, we are in agreement. For example, many black people seem to think They share something in common with President Obama, but I got to say that as I watch him try to cut Medicare and social Security- that I don’t get it. He may be my same skin color, but he and I do not share the same values. When I look at race now, that’s how I see it- do they share my values, do they have qualities that I look for as far as creative intelligence, what’s their emotional IQ, etc.
Interesting
@timothy: LOL. Well, it doesn’t sound like its a hard rule with you so much as a rule of thumb. I would prefer to be with another black guy too, but I am not wed too it is all I think anyone should say on racial stuff. I don’t get the whole “I am only i nto this race or another” stuff.
Interesting
@Riker: well what you say is true, but honeslty when were gay people ever not like this?hell, forget gay, when were people ever not like this?
Pickles55
How can a wedding announcement incur such wrath and viciousness?
I could understand if these were members for GOProud or someone like Ken Melman.
But you have an accomplished actor and an accomplished interior designer who seem incredibly happy and in love and who’ve just participated in an historic event (getting same-sex married in NYC) after being together for many, many years.
How does such an announcement merit so much nastiness?
We don’t need enemies to say bad stuff if this is how folks are going to respond.
NOM and Westboro should just hire some of you guys to write their copy for them
Sad.
Mike in Asheville
@Ganondorf: What a fucktard you are with itsy bitsy teenie weenie brain. How miserable for you that you can’t find even an iota of happiness that others are happy. Go join your Teabagging twats swatting away the fun of life.
Chitown Kev
@Interesting:
Great post!
I guess that in my head I equate status with wealth (I think it’s for personal reasons that I won’t get into!) Rather like the broke English aristocrat; he maybe broke but he will always be an aristocrat, will always be a member of the upper classes (even if the moneyed aristocrats of his rank stay away from him) and said aristocrat will always look down on the “nouveau riche”
[Well goddamn, that’s a mighty bourgie way to think about it!]
Well…We have the “old money”/”new money” thing here too.
Chitown Kev
Dammit, I just remembered why I came here earlier.
As far as the gay community is concerned, is this a man thing?
I say that because I know black lesbians in bothe intra- and interracial relationships and I rarely hear any black lesbian have a real issue like we’re talking about here.
Joe
Interesting to watch everyone squirm under the guilt and anger of race.
Humans are programmed genetically to fear someone different; it’s a requiremente of survival. But we can think our way through our fears, if we want to. A racist is someone who fears someone different from him and then acts on that fear; maybe he crosses the street to avoid the person, or he chooses a different seat on the train, or maybe he decides to not hire the applicant. He could choose to endure the fear but decides to give into it.
I know I am not a racist because I have never consciously changed my behavior or made a decision based on my fear of a person’s ethnicity or status. I would not date Lil’ Wayne but I would fuck the shit out of him if given the chance; something about him brings out the top in me. Is that racism or just preference? Can I be 100% certain that my preference to not date Lil Wayne is not based in some racism? No, I can’t and neither can you; unless you are Byron De La Beckwith racism isn’t always so upfront.
Just my .02.
Interesting
@Chitown Kev: Its not gender specific. It really depends from talking to my lesbian friends. The same is true of race for my gay friends. The big issue for people of color, that I can tell, is whether the guy, who is white, is understanding of the issues they will face as a person of color in society.
A practical example, a client of mines, one of the people in his company, I discovered from talking to someone else in the company, has issues with me due to race. I knew they were unusually hard on me, but I didn’t understand why until the other person in the company pulled me aside for a lunch to explain why.
If I go home, and I tell my partner this, I don’t want to be told “oh, its probably just in your head” especially since I was not aware of a racial issue until the other person in the company told me. Yet, I have heard that sort of thing, which tells me the person doesn’t understand me (because I don’t assume race and isn’t listening). Race to me is one more thing you got to listen to each other about in a relationship.
Or, as one of my friends, a white guy, did one time- we were in bar, he noticed that I was receiving different (as in bad) treatment from the mostly all white bar, and he called the wait staff out on it, saying that it was unacceptable, and ask me did i want to leave. That was one of those rare incidents where someone being white indicated to me that does not mean they all don’t get it. Only those who are not right for me don’t get it.
I am not expecting a white dude or asian dude or whoever to share my situation with having to deal with racism, but I do expect him to be aware of it, and to want to minimize the pain that causes me as someone who cares about me. If he doesn’t want to do that, and if he thinks of it as just in my head- he’s not the right guy for me.
Interesting
@Joe: since no one is discussing someone with the background or personality of lil wayne, your comment is to the least telling about how you see race.
Jaroslaw
Mike in Asheville – thanks for echoing rational thought in pooh-poohing Ganondorf, but all the rest of the shallow Nancy’s didn’t have to jump right in.
Not much else to add except accidents happen every day and pretty boys become ugly boys as a result (car wrecks, work related mishaps etc.) Not wishing it on anyone, but sad that so much of the conversation revolved around looks and age. No wonder, as Tanyahyde and others said, most of the public thinks we’re silly queens.
MikeE
There is only ONE sure thing in this world: all of the superficial faggots in this thread WILL one day age, and WILL one day be someone else’s “pathetic, ugly, old queen”.
Jesus Christ what a bunch of pathetic losers on this forum. Superficial and vain.
Henry
@MikeE: You’re right, but please, lay off the f-word.
Joe
@Interesting: Interesting, the word “thug” is mentioned 8 times in this thread; I think I am safe in saying that Lil Wayne could be called a thug.
Interesting
@Joe: Another telling. What was the context of its use? What was my response? What was their response? Without that context, one reading your response to mine would almost think there was some justification for what you said. The problem is that the context does not support what you said at all. It just makes your statement even more strange.
Interesting
I think all the people whining about “superficiality” are themselves superficial if they can read these comments to find one trend that’s a simple as they describe.
Joe
@Interesting: Sometimes these threads go from being illuminating to just another feeding trough for douchebags.
hmm
@Pickles55:
i also think we should be happy for another happy gay couple that got just married, however, the side topic of interracial relationships is an interesting topic.
has anyone else checked out the website of the interior designer? i have and i was not impressed. from what i know he might still be an accomplished and successful interior designer, but his website is just full of way to many poorly taken photos of his work for me to think that. as for the actor, his accomplishments are evident to anyone.
now does this make me think that maybe the black spouse is attracted to the other spouse not only for his personality but also for his race, status and financial situation? yes, i do have that doubt. do i think there is something wrong with that? maybe, but i don’t know enough about them to tell.
at the end of the day, they seem to be happy, so it’s all that matters, but despite the harshness of a lot comments on this thread, i think the discussion about interracial dating in the gay community is a valid and interesting one.
Interesting
@Joe: So you went back to re-read the 8 uses, and realized there was no connection to what you wrote.
Jaroslaw
#75 Interesting – so instead of being happy for a successful, newly married couple, people are NOT superficial when they makes comments about looks, age & race? Or is being superficial okay? I guarantee you that I am not superficial. I will say that being less than gifted in the looks and talent department has given me a lot more time for reflection than one of our cutie boys who is spending all his free time dating. But at some point even that becomes boring; once people reach a plateau or goal, there is always something else to want. Just an aside, I have a very beautiful straight girlfriend who told me she gave up handsome men – they were in the mirror more than she was and (here’s that word again) they were superficial. She also has a lot of wonderful qualities besides looks also.
Martin
Most of the vapid queens have no idea what brought them together, how long they have known eachother and main reasons why they got married.
Looking at a few pictures and trying to speculate motifs is not serious, pointless.
There are huge amount of actors, musicians married to non famous people. If you really want to see opportunists check out the wives of worlds 100 richest men, or spouse history of Elton John, Donald Trump, Tiger Woods etc.
Interesting
@hmm: It is easy enough to say,”I think some of you are engaging in lookism, etc” that I think its superficial that you choose in the way you write to not qualify your statement.
Scottsdale resident
@Martin: I don’t think queens makes sense as an insult in this thread ???