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UK: Bullied Bisexual Teen Dad Hanged Himself In Woods

anthony-stubbsA bisexual teenaged father from Lancashire, England was found hanging in the woods after suffering homophobic bullying in school.

Before 16-year-old Anthony Stubb went missing on November 25, he spent the say with his girlfriend, Charlotte Mason, 18, and their four-month-old daughter Lily. His body was found weeks later on January 14, hanging in the woods near his home.

Stubb’s mother, Denise Machin, blames her son’s female classmates, who harassed him about his sexuality.

“Anthony was getting bullied by girls for two years. He would get shouted ‘gay boy’ at, get slapped in the face, come home with his school jumper ripped and even got his phone stolen. He would be upset but pick himself up and go back the next day,” she told The Sun. “I spoke to his teachers about it, but Anthony begged me not to get involved because it was making it worse and he’d get embarrassed.”

Though Anthony had been with Charlotte for two years, his mother always suspected he might be gay. She had learned he had flirted with men online, but hesitated to bring it up. “He was still with Charlotte and I was worried he was confused about his sexuality,” she said. “I kept it to myself as I didn’t want to embarrass him or scare him off talking to me.”

After they learned that Anthony would become a father, Denise finally confronted him, telling him that it was okay if he was gay. “He shouted that he wasn’t gay and loved Charlotte, but eventually confessed he might be bisexual. I told him I knew he loved his girlfriend but that he needed to be honest with her.”

Anthony_StubbsWhen Lily was born, Anthony moved in with Charlotte’s family and things seemed to be going well. According to Denise, he was looking forward to going to college and focusing on being a good father, but she added, “I think Anthony was very good at hiding how he really felt and making everyone believe he was OK.”

After he disappeared in November, Denise and Charlotte responded to a suspicious text on his phone and “our fears were confirmed as the person said they were male and then said something sexually explicit. Anthony was obviously experimenting, finding out who he was.”

When the police found Anthony’s body, Denise was partially relieved from the suicide note he had left in his backpack. “Well, I’m gone but not completely,’” it read. “I will be watching over you and making sure you make the right choices. And don’t forget me, I’m in heaven looking down. Please don’t grieve and try to move on as best you can, I love you all so very much.”

He left his XBox to his younger brother, but didn’t leave any explanation as to why he had taken his own life.

“I think his feelings for the same sex left him struggling to know what to do about it,” Denise Machin said. “I think it got on top of him — coping with these feelings, being a dad and being good to Charlotte. I think there should be someone in schools to support teenagers who may be going through this confusion.”

“There was no one there for Anthony,” she added. “I just feel sorry — I feel like I let him down.”

By:           Les Fabian Brathwaite
On:           Feb 7, 2013
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  • 8 Comments
    • 2eo
      2eo

      Sadly the lack of help from teachers and authorities is of particular embarrassment for the populace of Northern England. This kid was bullied in plain sight for years and not a single step was taken, when it could have being stopped at any time.

      I don’t have words, I’m just sad how little has changed in the 12 years since I left secondary school after getting a scalpel through the hand and pushed down stairs how nothing has changed whatsoever in the system.

      Utmost sympathy to everyone involved, and an assurance that it hasn’t gone unnoticed. It’s just a shame it ever happens at all.

      Feb 7, 2013 at 10:14 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • mlbumiller
      mlbumiller

      Sh*t, some bitch hit me more than once, her face would be in hospital for reconstruction. A woman assulting me gets only one free card. After that, she gets her a$$ kicked. Do not understand why he smeed to do nothing for two years? Those girls… if people can name and give dates when this happend, should not be allowed to return to the school.

      Feb 7, 2013 at 11:42 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • continuum
      continuum

      @oilburner: @oilburner . . . are you really this much of a giant asshole?

      Feb 7, 2013 at 11:42 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • vonlmo
      vonlmo

      nothing changes does it.

      Feb 7, 2013 at 11:55 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • BrianZ
      BrianZ

      2 years? What in the HE:LL are people thinking? I don’t care what rationale you bring yourself to put forward: If you know someone is being bullied and you don’t do something then you are a coward and just as guilty as those actively bullying, and maybe worse.

      I am disgusted to my dark, rotten core.

      Feb 7, 2013 at 2:33 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Chad Hunt
      Chad Hunt

      @oilburner: Flagged and reported. Only way to stop internet trolling.

      Feb 7, 2013 at 9:02 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Chad Hunt
      Chad Hunt

      So sad to hear. From personal experience I know that being bisexual is an extremely difficult misunderstood sexuality. Like transgenderism, bisexuals are often outcast even within the LGBT community. I just wish our school systems would wake up and offer a diversity course sort of the way they do is college. One that would focus on Ethnicity, Religon, Gender, Body Image, Sexuality, and Social-Class differences. This would surely put a stop to many instances of these bullying scenarios.

      My condolences to his family, friends, and his child.

      Feb 7, 2013 at 9:11 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • JayHobeSound
      JayHobeSound

      “I think there should be someone in the schools to support teenagers…”

      That falls in the category of parenting.

      Feb 9, 2013 at 1:37 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·

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