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WATCH: Gay Soldier Who Came Out On YouTube Now Making “Exercise Videos”

Gay military airman Randy Phillips went viral when he recorded himself tearfully telling his mom and dad he was gay (post-DADT) and posted it on YouTube. We even named him one of our 8 notable coming-out stories of 2011 for his heartstrings-tugging contribution.

The cute military man has wiped his eyes and is now combatting America’s obesity problem with instructional exercise videos. Love handles begone!

Source: AreYouSurprised

By:           Evan Mulvihill
On:           Jan 6, 2012
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  • 75 Comments
    • vaxg
      vaxg

      Attention Seeking Much?…

      Jan 6, 2012 at 2:05 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • QJ201
      QJ201

      All that will do is strengthen the muscle, it won’t do crap for the fat that creates the “love handle.” Fat only goes away by burning calories or reducing calorie intake.

      Jan 6, 2012 at 2:14 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Vic
      Vic

      he’s cute, but he spelled attempting wrong… kinda reminds me of Karen from mean girls …. “She asked me how to spell orange”

      Jan 6, 2012 at 2:28 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Ron
      Ron

      He did an interview of sorts with Davey wavey, guess the exercise bug caught him

      Jan 6, 2012 at 2:58 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Top to Bottom
      Top to Bottom

      Uh oh…DW’s got competition

      Jan 6, 2012 at 3:01 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Bryan
      Bryan

      @vaxg: He’s just milking the attention his coming out vid got him. Let’s be honest, if he wasn’t hot, that vid wouldn’t have gained popularity among gays to begin with.

      Jan 6, 2012 at 3:19 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Ian
      Ian

      @Bryan: lol I agree, if he was NOT hot, who the fuck would care.. There are a lot of coming out videos out there by “less-attractive” gays that are a lot more interesting..

      Jan 6, 2012 at 3:31 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • JayKay
      JayKay

      Oh just whip it out already.

      Jan 6, 2012 at 3:38 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Tommy Shepherd
      Tommy Shepherd

      Jealous jealous jealous.

      Jan 6, 2012 at 3:50 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Oscar Raymundo
      Oscar Raymundo · Queerty Editor

      This is absurd.

      Jan 6, 2012 at 4:10 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Esculapio Mitiríades Torquemada de la Cueva
      Esculapio Mitiríades Torquemada de la Cueva

      @Oscar Raymundo: What is? The video? The reaction to it? The human condition? Existence itself?

      Jan 6, 2012 at 4:12 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Iwontgrowup
      Iwontgrowup

      I said it before and I’ll say it again; It won’t be long until he’s working for Chi Chi Larue.

      Jan 6, 2012 at 4:13 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Ken S
      Ken S

      @QJ201: Building muscle does burn fat- actively, as you’re doing the exercise, and passively later on as acquired muscle mass burns up more calories just carrying it around day-to-day than fat does.

      Jan 6, 2012 at 4:45 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • vaxg
      vaxg

      don’t get me wrong i thing the coming out vid#1 was super cute/original/brave, but this make me think, did he did it all just for attention…
      Dan Choi meet your competition

      Jan 6, 2012 at 5:01 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • John
      John

      WOW! I was super impressed with this guy when he made his initial videos of coming out…but this is just horrible! What a dumb, common fag.

      Jan 6, 2012 at 5:12 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Esculapio Mitiríades Torquemada de la Cueva
      Esculapio Mitiríades Torquemada de la Cueva

      @John: What I hate most about him is when he came over to all our houses and spat on our faces and called our moms ugly.

      Oh wait, he *didn’t* do that. So what’s with all the hate?

      Jan 6, 2012 at 5:14 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • QJ201
      QJ201

      @Ken S: my personal trainer would completely disagree. Building muscle does NOT burn fat. The calories burned while exercising to build muscle does.

      Jan 6, 2012 at 5:18 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Dave Lara
      Dave Lara

      Oh stop it. He is cute. Leave it already.

      Jan 6, 2012 at 5:41 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Stefan
      Stefan

      I hate how people are calling him an attention whore. He’s posting a different video everyday. In all the others he has his shirt on.

      Jan 6, 2012 at 6:00 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Miss The Old Queerty
      Miss The Old Queerty

      Once again, Towleroad covered this yesterday. I understand that Queerty now operates on west coast time, but I assume you have a computer that is able to connect to the internet and receive news (or updates on hot men in this case). Or maybe you blog with stone tablets and chisels. In that case, I recommend you go into the business of gay bookstores and see how that works out for you.

      Jan 6, 2012 at 6:00 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Esculapio Mitiríades Torquemada de la Cueva
      Esculapio Mitiríades Torquemada de la Cueva

      @Miss The Old Queerty: Did someone wake up on the bitchy side of the bed today?

      Jan 6, 2012 at 6:04 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • JAW
      JAW

      OK… His meter has expired… his 15 min of fame is up. Where the hell are the meter maids when they are needed?? If I parked on youtube for as long as he has I would have gotten 2 tickets… or perhaps towed

      Jan 6, 2012 at 6:22 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Astro
      Astro

      i always thought if he wasnt good looking, his video wouldn’t have had much traction, but might as well work it if you got it.

      Jan 6, 2012 at 6:31 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • seito
      seito

      ugh. alabama.

      Jan 6, 2012 at 6:39 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Allen D.
      Allen D.

      @QJ201: The wisdom that I’ve always heard (Doctors, trainers, etc) is that the more muscle you have, the better your body burns incoming calories.

      Jan 6, 2012 at 6:53 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Isaac C
      Isaac C

      Just reinforces a good old philosophy that always works well: If you have no talent, nothing to offer, and nothing interesting to say, strip.

      Jan 6, 2012 at 6:54 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Kylew
      Kylew

      Wow, what a bitter bunch of people. If he did not have the coming out video behind him, or he was straight, nobody would have a problem. He’s a young fit guy leveraging his fame to earn a few bucks. What on earth is wrong with that? He’s not demeaning anyone, or himself.

      Jan 6, 2012 at 7:27 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • iDavid
      iDavid

      @Kylew

      It’s called projecting their own self hate, rampant in the gay community from accidently believing they are good’ol down home christian demon seed. Elusive and nasty litttle brain file. Reeeeeally fucks gay people up. Thx Moses.

      Anyway, they must tear down the hot happy and successful since they can’t, no, won’t get emotionally clear and happy. It’s actually threatening to their own personal hell to be supportive.

      A basically happy person would not tear this guy down.

      Jan 6, 2012 at 8:18 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Esculapio Mitiríades Torquemada de la Cueva
      Esculapio Mitiríades Torquemada de la Cueva

      @iDavid: No offense, but … if you were a third party reading your own post, wouldn’t you say *you* seem to really dislike gay people?

      Jan 6, 2012 at 8:20 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Kylew
      Kylew

      @Esculapio Mitiríades Torquemada de la Cueva: He calls it how he sees it, and if he sees it how it is, then that’s not a problem with him is it?

      How could you possibly read all the negative posts about this young guy trying to better himself, and not ask why on earth everyone feels the need to be so hateful towards him?

      Jan 6, 2012 at 10:38 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Esculapio Mitiríades Torquemada de la Cueva
      Esculapio Mitiríades Torquemada de la Cueva

      @Kylew: “He calls it how he sees it.” Homeboy needs prescriptions, then. Because as far as I can tell, he’s taken one — yes, literally **one** — comment on Queerty, and used it to make a blanket statement about the “gay community.”

      Jan 6, 2012 at 11:16 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Muscle Fan
      Muscle Fan

      I don’t hate him at all. I just hate the rag bag that passes for gym shorts these days.

      Jan 6, 2012 at 11:16 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • TJ
      TJ

      Good for him. I see no problem with him pursuing a career in home exercise/motivational video. I definitely think there’s an opening in the market for gay men in smaller cities who maybe don’t want to go to the gym or maybe even younger over weight gay kids who are or have been intimidated out of physical activity by bullies this could be a great media product if handled properly. I’d represent him…

      Jan 6, 2012 at 11:25 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Kieran
      Kieran

      Don’t pay any attention to these jealous bitches Randy. There’s nothing wrong with building a firm, tight body. If you got it, flaunt it baby. My only suggestion…since it’s winter, you might want to try working out in some tight long johns.

      Jan 6, 2012 at 11:39 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • christopher di spirito
      christopher di spirito

      Some of the cunts posting here remind me of the bitchy queens in the 1960’s gay movie ‘Boys in the Band.’

      Jan 7, 2012 at 1:16 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • iDavid
      iDavid

      @Esculapio Mitiríades Torquemada de la Cueva

      Making a statement about rampant self hate in the gay community is not a blanket statement about all gay people. It is there. And no, noticing such does not mean I dislike gay people. You need to reread and see it a little clearer.

      Jan 7, 2012 at 1:38 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Esculapio Mitiríades Torquemada de la Cueva
      Esculapio Mitiríades Torquemada de la Cueva

      @iDavid: I didn’t say “all gay people.” I said “the gay community.” Which is literally what you talked about. Maybe *you* need to reread your own comments better.

      Jan 7, 2012 at 1:45 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Philosophe
      Philosophe

      @QJ201: Your trainer should have his or her certification revoked. Any activity at all, including sitting on your ass, burns calories. Your body consumes calories simply to remain alive. More strenuous activity, like lifting weights, burns more calories. Also, muscle boosts your metabolism. The more muscle you have, the quicker the muscle will break down fat deposits.

      Jan 7, 2012 at 1:46 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Interesting
      Interesting

      He’s cute, and I would have sex with him, which is pretty much all that matters while watching his videos.

      Jan 7, 2012 at 2:06 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Interesting
      Interesting

      Trainer friend says Cardio comes from weight training due to aerobic aspect that’s also occurring, but the key is speed and understanding how to fatigue the muscles right. If you do it right, you get a two in one work out of both Cardio and muscle building. So, yes you can do both, but it takes someone who knows what they are doing, and who will move pretty fast in the weight training.

      Jan 7, 2012 at 2:12 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • ChrisC
      ChrisC

      It should be noted that this was a part of a series of videos that he’s making fro the month of January, like many other YouTubers he’s making a video for everyday of January and this just so happend to one of the videos. The other was him in Paris. God some people are such cunts.

      Jan 7, 2012 at 2:19 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Esculapio Mitiríades Torquemada de la Cueva
      Esculapio Mitiríades Torquemada de la Cueva

      I never noticed this with the coming out video, but … does Randy sound a little bit like Derek Zoolander?

      Jan 7, 2012 at 2:49 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Interesting
      Interesting

      @Esculapio Mitiríades Torquemada de la Cueva: Somewhat, if you don’t pay attention to his facial expressions, but he’s not as comic in his presentation. Zoolander’s voice only matter because of that “I am dumb as a rock” look that the actor had throughout the movie. This guy in the exercise video doesn’t have that look.

      Jan 7, 2012 at 3:19 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • iDavid
      iDavid

      @Esculapio Mitiríades Torquemada de la Cueva

      aaand maybe not.

      Jan 7, 2012 at 3:31 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Kurt
      Kurt

      Another fame whore and attention whore. When he came out to his parents on the phone and then posted the video online that was just tacky and he could have came out to them before DADT ended.

      At least he hasn’t reached Dan Choi’s level, yet.

      Jan 7, 2012 at 4:21 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Isaac C
      Isaac C

      @Interesting: Yeah, like he would really touch you. Do you honestly think he would go for a black like you? I mean, why would he?

      OOPS! Was that racist? So sorry again! I better go watch that “Stuff White Girls Say” video so I’ll know what to say next time.

      Jan 7, 2012 at 5:13 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Lefty
      Lefty

      I like him. He’s super cute – he did a brave thing (though he’s hardly unique in this regard, granted) when he put his coming out video up and his new videos are a positive, healthy thing which we can take or leave. Good for him.

      Jan 7, 2012 at 9:24 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Gareth
      Gareth

      Crikey, dont take it TOO FAR Randy…..I mean, people were with you on the other vids but as some have already commented, the novelties wearing a bit thin as soon as people twig your bordering on attention seeking…..shopping for groceries, driving, exercising…what next??? I dread to think (taking a s**t maybe?) Enough already fella!

      Jan 7, 2012 at 10:19 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mike in Asheville
      Mike in Asheville

      @christopher di spirito: Fuck, I am getting soooo old — no wait a second, Boys in the Band came out when I was a Cal sophomore, not in grade school. (Released in 1979, not in the 60’s.)

      Jan 7, 2012 at 11:48 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • christopher di spirito
      christopher di spirito

      @Mike in Asheville: ‘The Boys in the Band’ was filmed in 1969 and released in 1970 — not 1979. I was not yet born when it was released. I finally saw it in a revival house. A very strange film.

      Jan 7, 2012 at 12:06 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • iDavid
      iDavid

      Go Randy Go! I’d like to see you do an exercise vid in a red speedo next time.

      Jan 7, 2012 at 12:43 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Tone
      Tone

      Geez bitter old queens much?

      He seems like a nice kid. I can’t blame him if he is capitalizing on his recent exposure to the world. Any smart person would. Perhaps he’s seeing an opportunity to change the direction of his life. He’s still a sweetie to me.

      Jan 7, 2012 at 1:20 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Cam
      Cam

      @vaxg: said…

      “don’t get me wrong i thing the coming out vid#1 was super cute/original/brave, but this make me think, did he did it all just for attention…
      Dan Choi meet your competition”
      _______________

      Yes, because them bringing attention to the cause was MUCH less important to civil rights than you sitting there doing nothing and bitching on a blog.

      Jan 7, 2012 at 2:47 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • vaxg
      vaxg

      @Cam: oh relax dude, maybe his first video did something good to the cause but this one don’t do much except for making a few horny guys lick the screen…
      and don’t talk like you know me.. you don’t know nothing about what i do or not do for the cause…
      like you said civil rights is a CAUSE not a show where you get famous for making dumb videos on youtube
      you don’t need to be in front of a camera every chance you get to help the cause, there are thousands of ppl how have done more to the gay right movement than this 2 and provably you don’t even know their names or seen their faces in your life

      Jan 7, 2012 at 3:43 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • GoodForYou
      GoodForYou

      We should ALL be making youtube video. My 16 year old nephew made a ten second video 2 years ago, became a youtube “partner”, got 45 million views & now has enough money for his first 2 years at Harvard. Go look up Harvard tuition. All true. So you whining dudes, get your talents on camera & make some cocktail, vacation or rent cash.

      Why would you begrudge an ex-serviceman, gay person or anyone the chance to make their mark, make money in this economy or make people/himself happy? I don’t see the reason for the hate. You liked him when he was crying; now “his 15 minutes are over”? People today use Youtube/FB/etc for everything. He came out on it (whatever your feelings) & now he’s doing something worthwhile (I know I need it!), possibly turning it into a $$$ maker. What’s the prob.

      It’s one thing to snark a little; but I hope you’re lives aren’t as nasty as your posts.

      Jan 7, 2012 at 4:19 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • GoodForYou
      GoodForYou

      PS Please excuse the typos!

      Jan 7, 2012 at 4:29 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Interesting
      Interesting

      @vaxg: I think you also need to chill. What difference does it make whether this kid is doing this because he’s a fame whore or not? You make it sound like only those with pure motives are allowed to do anything. If you wait for that, you will be waiting a long time. Nor is it clear to me that this video is meant to be anything more than he likes to video tape himself as a way of communicating to the world things he cares about. So what? If he wrote it as a essay and sent it into a paper, would you care? People have different ways of communicating. Why can’t you just accept that?

      Jan 7, 2012 at 4:44 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Kylew
      Kylew

      @GoodForYou: Jeez, what was his video about?

      Jan 7, 2012 at 4:59 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Kylew
      Kylew

      @Interesting: Well said!

      Jan 7, 2012 at 5:04 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • iDavid
      iDavid

      And Randy, if you could change from red to blue speedo while we watch you do abs, preferably shot from the feet up, well ……… you might find a whole new life in movies! You are very charming, keep it clean. ; )

      Jan 7, 2012 at 5:15 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • BubbasBack
      BubbasBack

      So it was all a big ploy to get known, have some coverage. Boy, go back in the closet! Burp.

      Jan 7, 2012 at 6:17 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • chuck
      chuck

      The negative comments remind of gays who comment that a muscle man is ‘real gross’ while at the same time pinning photos of bodybuilders all over their bedroom walls.

      Jan 7, 2012 at 6:36 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • GoodForYou
      GoodForYou

      @Kylew: his video is a comedy thing – stupid, ten freaking seconds! — but caught on. Became viral, made money. I also have a friend whose viral video spawned t-shirts, rings, necklaces, numerous homages, tumblr sites, etc. Featured on Talk Soup, Conan, Fallon, Leno, et. al. He quit his job to “run the business” & makes a good living. It may not last, but he also may come up with the next viral hit. (I would link both my nephew & friend’s “flicks”, but feel inappropriate since I am discussing their financial gain.)

      Who knows if Randy or anyone on this list makes their own and comes away with extra pocket money? That’s why I don’t begrudge this Randy guy. Nor do I think he made his coming out video as a ploy. He did it – then realized, hey I could do something else; or someone advised him to do something more worthwhile. To reiterate a comment above, why the vitriol?

      Jan 7, 2012 at 9:28 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Interesting
      Interesting

      @GoodForYou: Agree with your post. No one knows first of all what follows what. A lot of time people assign all this deep thinking to someone about them planning for a lot of press, but in actually it could be as simple as what was on their mind at the time, and it hit.

      here’s an example of that

      http://blogs.villagevoice.com/runninscared/2012/01/franchesca_ramsey.php

      Its unrelated, but if you read the performer, she explains that she didn’t really think much about its impact, and was a little surprised by it as she just did it as something she had experienced. in fact, she’s right. there are tons of videos that never get noticed at all on youtubes. its not clear what cause one to stand out and hundreds of others just like it go unnoticed.

      sometimes, like with the guy from Glee- its not even clear to me after I see what what made him a hit, that I understand it. I mean the guy ont he show is obviously a star- i can see that now. but his viral video? It did nothing for me. so its all a matter of enough people at first of the same taste seeing it to get it to break off.

      this guy in the video above is good looking but there are a lot of other good looking gay men who came out on youtube so its just sheer luck and he’s trying to capitalize on that fact. I don’t blame him if he is. I am not sure he is. He could be just talking about things he like to talk about. Either way, I don’t see a problem with that. Why does one need to be pure to have a desire to do something? I mean humans aren’t fairy tales.

      Jan 7, 2012 at 10:15 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Peter
      Peter

      @Interesting: By the guy on glee, are you talking about the new guy Damien McGinty? Because his video was one of about 15 people who were chosen to be placed on a show called the glee project where every week they had two challenges and then a bottom 2 with singing for survival, followed by an elimination, and he came in 2nd to Samuel Larsen, but they both won a 7 episode stint on glee, samuel hasn’t made an appearance yet. The 3rd and 4th runners up also won 2 episodes on glee, one of these was Lindsey Pearce, who plays Harmony, the rachel clone who sang with the unitards, freaky pale chick. The other runner up Alex hasn’t appeared yet. So that wasn’t quite a case of viral video as it was a reality show

      Jan 7, 2012 at 11:09 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Interesting
      Interesting

      No, I mean Darren Criss

      “Upon graduation, Criss, along with his university friends, founded StarKid Productions, a theater production company.[32] His roles with StarKid include Harry Potter in the YouTube viral musicals A Very Potter Musical and A Very Potter Sequel. Both productions are musical-comedies based on the Harry Potter series by J.K. Rowling.[33] StarKid’s plays have been viewed more than 100 million times on the company’s YouTube channel, since its launch on June 19, 2009.”

      http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Darren_Criss

      There are a few other stars like this. There are no rules, I think, to how one builds a career other than people who are just doing what they like and it seems to lead to that. So all the negativity here is just negativity.

      Jan 7, 2012 at 11:59 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Kylew
      Kylew

      @GoodForYou: Wow, wish I could come up with something like that, but it seems so arbitrary. When some baby grabbing his little brother’s finger gets 50 million views, and quality philosophy channels can’t even get 1000 subscribers, I find it all rather depressing actually.

      Jan 8, 2012 at 5:24 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Brand
      Brand

      I agree with iDavid, there are a lot of stereotypically vicious, bitter, petty, paranoid, judgmental, sexist, cynical haters on this thread. This does reflect the gay community, it reflects quite poorly. I’m heartened to see the degree of pushback there is on here to that attitude.

      There are several comments that this guy should, or is likely to, sex it up more; these are somewhat demeaning. But the ones who suggest that he’s already sexed it up too much by *gasp* posting a self-help video about oblique muscles with his shirt off so you can see the oblique muscle as it’s being worked. (Yes, I know, there’s gonna be some porn response now.) Think about it. What a certain view here is saying is that someone who presents themselves in a context even only so remotely erotic as to exercise with your shirt off A.) doesn’t deserve sympathy or respect for anything else they may do/have done in their life, and B.) they shouldn’t try to do anything else.

      You don’t want people to be dimensional. You don’t seem to want people to be able to deserve your admiration for one aspect yet also be like everybody else in other aspects of their lives. People aren’t all heroes or sluts, saints or villains. They’re people who do heroic, slutty, saintly, or villainous things. When they do several of one sort of thing and little to nothing of the other, that establishes a pattern you can start to characterize. But the whole point of role models, of someone doing something brave, of the “it gets better” campaign, is to say that nobody’s perfect but you, too, can do what I did, and even if the reaction isn’t what it was for me, you’ll feel better about yourself for having done the right thing, and yes, there will be a community of people who will give you acceptance and support for it. This is the same phenomenon as Jesus, who said “you can do all I have done and more”, and religion which more often than not does a woefully poor job of upholding and following the principles of Jesus, in (the general idea is) establishing a community of people who, having made the same choice to declare themselves thus, stand together and look out for one another.

      What message does it send, then, to those in our community at any age as well as to those outside of our community, when not just a troll here and a drunk guy there and someone just having a little fun somewhere else but a large percentage of real, thinking gay people are so shallow, dismissive, and generally un-community-like when someone so recently lauded and empathized with for capturing the DADT/coming out zeitgeist with his phonecall-with-dad video would be so roundly and robustly lambasted for something as harmless as a timely sharing of some of what he knows about fitness after the holiday gluttony with whomever it is that finds these videos online?

      Honestly I think that some of these kids are in despair not merely for how the straight world treats gays but for how the gay world treats gays, for what little option there sometimes seems to be to live a life where someone who should have your back is not actually gleefully cutting you down at every other turn. Where there seems to be so few options for what to do with yourself, and so few opportunities to, having done one thing, get the opportunity at a second chance to do something different. As condescendingly pidgeonholing as straight people can be about gays, especially from the perspective of a gay youth searching for a safe zone, gays seem to top them with even more vicious pidgeonholing. “You’re keen on staying in shape so why not just do porn.” “You’re viewed as an inspiration so you’d better not do another public thing lest we see you’re human.” “Thank goodness you’re not as bad as that Dan Choi guy, thinking you have more to offer.” Well these attitudes are bull. If we were a group of Christians, I would say these are un-christian attitudes. If we were a group of Americans, I would say they were unpatriotic. And we may be Christians or Americans (though not in these attitudes), but the point of this blog is that we’re gay, so I have to say these are very anti-gay attitudes.

      To anyone disheartened by this, I would say that this is NOT a cross-section of real gay people. It’s a cross-section of the “gay community”, as in gay people who take it upon themselves to go online and cathart their hurt and hate and limitations on blogs. Decent gay people are out there. You see several in this thread even if they’re not always on this sort of thread. Find them and value them. And recognize the difference it makes to be able to identify a decent voice in the crowd, that you be that decent voice for others. You can have a sense of humor, you can express a skeptical opinon, but you can do it in a way that doesn’t dehumanize the object of your commentary. Otherwise, it dehumanizes you, and in the minds of some, it dehumanizes all of us.

      Jan 8, 2012 at 5:43 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Isaac C
      Isaac C

      @Brand: Oh god bitch, shut up and stop whining you whore.

      Jan 8, 2012 at 6:33 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • WillBFair
      WillBFair

      @Brand: Nice try. But people with emotional issues don’t respond to logic. They can’t reason on issues related to their emotional weaknesses. Same with the emotional weaknesses themselves. You can point them out till the cows come home, and they’ll just change the subject, or call you a whore, or say that they just don’t understand Boys In The Band.

      Jan 8, 2012 at 4:02 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Isaac C
      Isaac C

      @WillBFair: You can shut your irrelevant whore ass up, too.

      Jan 8, 2012 at 5:52 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Hephaestion
      Hephaestion

      Where did his Southern accent go? Suddenly he sounds like he’s from Vermont.

      Jan 8, 2012 at 6:23 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Interesting
      Interesting

      @Brand: I don’t think many people are influenced by the negative b.s. you see here.

      Jan 8, 2012 at 8:18 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Isaac C
      Isaac C

      @Interesting: Shouldn’t you be putting something in your comment about racism, Negro?

      OOPS! I need to go watch that video again.

      Jan 8, 2012 at 10:14 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • DJ
      DJ

      I just wanna know if he’s single :/

      Jan 9, 2012 at 4:34 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mike UK
      Mike UK

      vile queens out in force I see!!!! some of you find fault with anything and everything!!!

      Jan 9, 2012 at 9:45 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·

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