They certainly aren’t the sexiest things to discuss as you’re about to get up close and personal with someone new, but condoms should find a way into your precoital banter somehow or another.
For many guys, simply asking, “Hey do you have a condom?” does the trick — it’s direct, lets him know you’re on board to get down, and sends the message that safe sex is a priority for you. If he responds, “Uhh…no, but it’s cool,” then you know you have a problem.
Or, of course, you could try out one of these colorful tactics from Davey Wavey. Our personal favorite is, “You know what my grandmother always told me? If you cap your schlong, you’ll never go wrong.”
Check out more safe sex suggestions from Davey:
How about we take this to the next level?
Our newsletter is like a refreshing cocktail (or mocktail) of LGBTQ+ entertainment and pop culture, served up with a side of eye-candy.
QJ201
I found just pulling out a condom will suffice. No discussion needed.
TinoTurner
Is this for real? Theres never a discussion to be had.
SportGuy
@QJ201:
Exactly, its either condom or you can walk out the door, makes no difference to me!
Alan down in Florida
This should be made clear before the two of you leave the meeting place.
Billy Budd
You don’t even have to bring it up. Safe sex is a must, and you must always bring your own condoms to the event.
onthemark
I think Davey Wavey’s grandmother was trying to say she wished his grandfather had always kept his schlong capped – then we’d have no Davey Wavey!
bottom72
As an Adult gay men who has sex with other Adult men I think we know how to have the condom discussion.