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Where There’s A Bath Pouf, There’s A Way

Raising My Rainbow is written by the mother of a slightly effeminate, possibly gay, totally fabulous son. She’s chronicling their journey on Queerty right here. Read up on RMR‘s cast of characters.

We have these friends. They don’t let their son play with toy guns, swords or weapons of any kind. “Hero Play” is forbidden. Acts of violence or saving another child from a pretend act of violence are frowned upon.

Their son can now make a weapon out of anything. He can build complex weapons out of Legos. A pillow is a shield, a stick is a sword, a play broom’s handle is a super machine gun with an imaginary scope. If he goes into a house that has toy artillery, he can and will sniff it out like he’s jonesing for his next hit of the good stuff. He rapid-fires with his lips, loving the noise and spit that fly out of his mouth.

These parents have forbidden something that he wants and now, either as a result of their limitations or not, he searches out the forbidden fruit. And, if he can’t find it, he’ll create it on his own. He can think about nothing else.

It’s kind of how C.J. is about all things feminine. Not that we forbid it, but we don’t (aren’t able) to spoil our children. His favorite activities are arts and crafts and playing dress-up and make-believe. He’s fine with our assortment of art supplies, but will never be satisfied with our dress-up wardrobe. So, he creates costumes and make-believe girly things on his own. Some people have said that he won’t play with “girl” stuff if we don’t buy it for him. Really? Check this out.

Here he is a while ago. He took Nana Grab Bags’s favorite apron, scoured my walk-in closet for the perfect shoes and used a calculator from the junk drawer as a cell phone. He said that he was “Mommy going to work.”

And, here he is after a trip to the toy store, where he was refused a pair of pom-poms because earlier in the day he had not been a very good listener, had wiped his boogers on his brother and called him a poo-poo head. Yes, those are bath poufs. He wore them for hours and days on end and referred to them as his pom-poms…until they got covered in spaghetti sauce one night at dinner.

The good thing about bath pouf pom-poms? They wash easily. He was back in the game, I mean sidelines, cheering in no time.

Our dress-up drawers are loaded with equal parts traditional girl and boy costumes and accessories. He liked the feel and fabric of this number. The long sash in the back sent him over the edge. It was originally the shirt from a boy’s Arabian Nights costume, but that’s not how C.J. prefers it.

He marched himself straight to the garage and found some rope. He cut it with blunt scissors and made me tie it at the waist. Hello belted shirtdress!

 

Here we have C.J. wearing a Valentine’s Day-themed dish towel as a stylish heart-flecked skirt. After sneaking a belt from his brother’s room he held the towel up to his waist and insisted that I belt it around him.

St. Valentine himself would be proud.

We’ve learned that C.J. is really creative. He doesn’t need new things, as long as he is allowed to turn stuff into exactly what he has in mind. We’ve learned that even if we don’t buy him feminine costumes and toys, he’ll find a way to play with them, imagine them, make them on his own. In our house, our plastic guns, swords and light sabers are safe from C.J., but our belts, aprons and bath poufs are not.

By:           Raising My Rainbow
On:           Jul 22, 2011
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  • 104 Comments
    • JAW
      JAW

      This woman is sick… she needs help before she hrams the child.

      I Fear for him

      Jul 22, 2011 at 10:20 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • NiceTry
      NiceTry

      Sometimes I wish CJ’s mom would stop posting on Queerty just to avoid comments like the one from this imbecile before me.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 10:57 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Raven S Hawthorne-Lockett
      Raven S Hawthorne-Lockett

      @JAW: I fear for a world of your creation. Hate and prejudice are not child nor family friendly.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 11:08 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • inoits2
      inoits2

      To the friends that don’t want their children to play with toy guns, please let those boys be boys. They need to be able to explore those impulses. They will probably go into the military to spite their parents. They will probably insist on playing with the most violent video games imaginable.

      The nature of males should be be tempered with feminine empathy but it certainly doesn’t need to be squashed. You encourage a kid to be a lil queen and yet you deny the impulses to be masculine through acting out their natural urge to learn defense. I don’t get that. If everyone raised their kids to be a wuss then the islamofascist would certainly have our asses up a pole eventually.

      Why is masculine a bad thing? I actually am starting to blame the father because clearly he doesn’t have the balls to tell her to STFU and bond with his son.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 11:20 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Daez
      Daez

      @JAW: Accepting and loving a child the way he is can be so harmful. My guess would be that you would much prefer a good old fashioned parenting of beating the child every time he looks at something pink.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 11:21 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • MissBanks
      MissBanks

      He is very creative and I enjoyed reading this. Sounds like she may have a designer or inventer on her hands.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 11:27 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • inoits2
      inoits2

      @Daez: agreed

      Jul 22, 2011 at 11:30 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Daez
      Daez

      @inoits2: Seriously? Where do I begin? For starters, WOMEN ARE BY FAR THE STRONGEST SEX!! You sexist asshole, women are far far stronger than men. For centuries they have worked harder, handled pain better, had more control of their emotions and been better adjusted than men. They are also the first to pick up a gun, a knife or a frying pan when someone comes to mess with their family. So, take your sexist attitude that girls are weak elsewhere.

      Also, you don’t make your child into what you want him to be. If he has no interest in hunting or fishing or working in the garage then why the hell should he be forced just because daddy wants him to be. I’m glad the father is willing to let the kid be raised how the child wants to be raised.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 11:47 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • RomanHans
      RomanHans

      Yeah, actually I’m having second thoughts about this. Her attitude seems to have moved from tolerance to “We can get a book deal out of this!” She’s turning asexual crafts into breathtaking displays of femininity.

      “Hello belted shirtdress!” she says. Uh, lady, you mean TUNIC? Unless Robin Hood and his Merry Men wandered Sherwood Forest in belted shirtdresses.

      Then he ties a towel around his waist and, voila, it’s a SKIRT? God knows what his intent was, but I’ll tell you, it’s a little difficult for a four-year-old to make pants.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 11:52 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • JAW
      JAW

      Time Out Folks… When I first saw CJ and Mom on the Today show, I thought Great, what a cool mom…

      But each time I read he posts I get scared… I wonder how much of what CJ (at 4yo) does is his own… and how much it comes from Mom’s ideas and encouragement. If CJ wants to live life as fem (and I do not necessarily mean female)… good for him
      BUT… if Mom is the one that wanted a girl, and got a boy… and is leading CJ this way… Then she needs help.

      I find it odd that this story is about parents that stifle their boy, to the opposite extreme then she does. How odd.
      Plus… this post shows that CJ wants to play with boys that are boys… perhaps he wants to play with guns.
      Mom’s last post dealt with her son wanting to play baseball with the other boys. Is there a pattern that mom is not suggesting, that perhaps dress up is fun sometimes… but not all of the time?

      I keep thinking that this child is 4yo… I keep thinking that Mom is trying to create the girl that mom did not have.. Mom does not post how she is trying to balance CJ’s life. mom criticizes a parent, that tries to lead their sun away from violence. Sounds lik mom is helping this other kid build guns out of Lego’s.

      It also sounds like CJ wants to play with boy things.

      Click on the raising my rainbow logo, read all her blog… then see if you do not think that mom is molding CJ the way mom wants CJ to be.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 11:57 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • inoits2
      inoits2

      @Daez: I never said women aren’t strong or that girls are weak. I just said that women shouldn’t try to feminize men. I think they try to make them sissy’s as a way to make them submissive and non threatening. Men are men and they need to be encouraged not made to be that.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 11:57 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • irisgirl
      irisgirl

      I love CJ, his mom, and all of the Raising My Rainbow columns—-my favorite part of Queerty!

      I am a strong advocate of free speech, although I personally disagree with, and am often saddened and/or angry about the negative comments posted here.

      I hope they don’t dissuade CJ’s mom from continuing to share these beautiful moments with us!

      Jul 22, 2011 at 12:10 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • xander
      xander

      @RomanHans : Pefect analysis, there! The The word ‘shirtdress’ is new to me, but versions of tunic or kilt (skirt-like) have been worn by men and women across both history or culture. The pom poms may be another story, I don’t know.

      What’s interesting to me is how Mother’s interpretations skew immediately to modern American women.

      So true also, that a four year old can’t make trousers, except maybe a young Yves Saint Laurent or Tom Ford!

      Jul 22, 2011 at 12:13 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Daez
      Daez

      @JAW: I can tell by your posts that you do not have children. Children at age 4 are very creative and expressive. They can quite easily tell you what they do and do not like. Also, they are not very easily forced into believing or doing anything they do not want to do.

      @inoits2: No, you just implied that men that are more feminine are weaker because being feminine is showing weakness.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 12:17 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mr. Enemabag Jones
      Mr. Enemabag Jones

      I saw a news report about a study done years ago that showed that even if boys are not exposed to gun play, either in movies or TV, and no toy guns are available for them to play with, boys will, as this post has stated–make guns out of anything.

      My nephew was never allowed to watch anything with gun play as a child. Yet when he would come over to my house for visits, the first thing he would do is go out the lumber pile I have in the backyard, and grab pieces of wood and run around shooting anything that moved.

      As far as Rainbows clever ways for finding anything for dressing up; Valentino has made hundreds of millions dressing women for decades. Quite possibly this boy will one day grow up to be the next Valentino, or Armani.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 12:17 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • pedro
      pedro

      This bitch is exploiting her kid…But hey if Kate+8 can do it why not this bitch…Does she think she’s the only mother with a girly-boy? Well she isn’t! The only difference is those other women are too busy raising their kids to exploit them on some pretentious blog…Why the fuck does the daily minutiae of this kid’s life have to be detailed for the whole world? Some people should be cursed with infertility. And by the way, not every kid who liked to put on girl’s clothing at 5 grew up to be transgendered. You nor your little brat are special or unique in any way, except perhaps for your uncontrolled narcissism.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 12:20 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • inoits2
      inoits2

      @Daez: Well IMO no one is afraid or threatened by a feminized man. Therefore they are weaker. I seldom feel threatened by a woman but I certainly can feel threatened by a super masculine man. Women may be strong and can be scary but they ultimately are not going to stand a chance against our enemies in the world at large.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 12:27 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • JAW
      JAW

      @Daez:
      I did not have children… but I do have younger sibs, nieces and nephews that I am close to.
      I also understand that 4 yo’s have a very short attention span..
      I also understand that they can be creative… but he is creating things that he has not seen before.
      I also saw that CJ had a birthday party like, I would bet, less the 1% of the girls in America ever had… Did you have one like his Daez??
      I also saw that he has a friend that likes guns… mom does not say what CJ and the other boy do together… or does mon just know about that boy being harmed?
      I also saw that CJ wanted to play ball… mom never told us what she was doing to help CJ play ball with the guys. Do you think that is right Daez??

      As someone else said… mom smells a book deal, tv deal, or perhaps a Movie deal to make her rich… Hell sh already designed the Logo for her book already.

      Mom is the issue… not CJ
      I think that it is great that CJ is expressing his creative side… BUT Daez… do you think it is right that mom is not helping CJ do things with boys… just the “pink” things

      Jul 22, 2011 at 12:37 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Ganondorf
      Ganondorf

      “…but I’ll tell you, it’s a little difficult for a four-year-old to make pants.”

      Not in Jakarta.

      “Quite possibly this boy will one day grow up to be the next Valentino, or Armani.”

      Not probably, though.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 1:25 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mr. Enemabag Jones
      Mr. Enemabag Jones

      @Ganondorf:

      I’m impressed you could pull yourself away from LARPing long enough to post that comment.

      Just because you can’t get a girlfriend, doesn’t mean you’re gay, Ganondorf. Just means your a pathetic pant-load who smells like fried baloney, and your mom’s basement.

      Since you’re susceptible to projectile attacks, better watch out, after reading your comments here, I feel some projectile vomiting coming up.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 4:06 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Ganondorf
      Ganondorf

      @Mr. Enemabag Jones

      So you’re embarrassed about what you posted? I would be. It’s something an uneducated moron would write. Now go be fat and ugly somewhere else.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 4:12 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • BlueBird
      BlueBird

      As gay men, unless you were lucky to have understanding parents, you probably resent the fact that you had to lie and cover up your “gayness”. There’s a reason they call some of us “straight-acting”, rather than “masculine”. Because we bought into the gender roles that society has continued to force down our throats (no pun intended).

      Why do people assume the worst? Why is it so hard to take it as it is? That is, a mother chronicling her individualistic son that happens to like feminine things?

      Is there any reason why you think it is a crime for this mother to allow her son to play with a Barbie if he wanted to? Or to dress up?

      Are you happier reading that instead of allowing him to play with the doll if he requested it, she takes it away from him, slaps him in the face, and telling him that he shouldn’t play with girl toys? Or to make passive aggressive remarks to her 4 year old son that boys don’t wear girl clothes or play with dolls and that they’ll turn out to be a bunch of “nasty fags”?

      I’m sorry that you bitter queens had horrible parents.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 4:22 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Steve
      Steve

      @inoits2: So feminine men are wussies and sissies? Shut the fuck up. You ask why masculine is a bad thing while you basically rip apart anything feminine? If you really beleived what you said about how feminine men aren’t intimidating, then you should also want to masculinize women, because let’s face it, a womane in a flowery dress ain’t so scray, is she? But no, you simply say that men should big burly guys and women shouldn’t be weak and emotional scenery.

      Your rigid ideals of gender are the only things here that are frightening. There’s nothing in any of these entries that suggest that CJ can’t play with masculine things, and there’s nothing that suggests his parents are either too distant or too smothering. Just like how you said a child shouldn’t be tampered with by feminine things, a child doesn’t necessarily need tampering with masculine things. Go kindly fuck yourself, the world isn’t yours and I’m goddam happy for myself and all other gender-nonconfroming and other gender-queer people that you can’t control the world with your archaic roles of men and women.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 4:30 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mr. Enemabag Jones
      Mr. Enemabag Jones

      @Ganondorf:

      Wicked comeback, bro! Your mom’s totally going to give you two desserts at dinner.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 4:37 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • JAW
      JAW

      @BlueBird:

      I am glad that he has an understanding mom… but come on… do you really believe that these are true stories?

      How about this… “He liked the feel and fabric of this number. The long sash in the back sent him over the edge. It was originally the shirt from a boy’s Arabian Nights costume, but that’s not how C.J. prefers it.

      He marched himself straight to the garage and found some rope. He cut it with blunt scissors and made me tie it at the waist. Hello belted shirtdress!”

      I get upset at the part where she expects up to believe that he knew where to get the rope and then cut it… LOL
      Hell… why did he not just use the sash that came with it??? why did he not get one of mom’s belts or scarves… or one of dads ties… or as the next line said… he got a belt from his brother. The fact that he went for rope says Masculine, esp since he normally roots through her closets and drawers.

      This woman is writing and living a fantasy. We seem to forget that girls like sports, cowboys and grow up to be soldiers also. mom needs to help CJ explore that side also

      Jul 22, 2011 at 4:44 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Anna
      Anna

      As a mother of three children, I’m somewhat uncomfortable with this lady’s blog. However, after reading today, of a five year old little girl in Oklahoma City, being locked in a closet and starved down to 19 lbs while being beaten by her mother half to death, I can say that there are worse things children have to endure. @BlueBird: The only place I have ever heard/read the term “straight acting” is on gay websites and blogs. That is a phrase used by gay men to describe a subset of the gay community. My 6’4″ husband nor any of his friends have ever described any gay man as “straight acting”. “Butch” is also a word I don’t hear outside of the context of gay blogs/websites.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 4:45 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mr. Enemabag Jones
      Mr. Enemabag Jones

      @Anna:

      As a mother of three children, I’m somewhat uncomfortable with this lady’s blog.

      Then don’t read it. No one’s holding a gun to your head.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 4:48 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • inoits2
      inoits2

      @Steve: Now the truth hurts doesn’t it? I believe it is irresponsible to encourage children to be non-gender conforming.

      I am not talking about forcing him to do anything. I am talking about encouraging him to be a boy. Everyone has a right to live as they choose but unfortunately there are consequences. I can be a gay man or a transwoman but the reality is that we might have a harder time in life (some of us). Telling someone its okay to be who they are is great, but you don’t have to live their life. We celebrate gay teens coming out and trans people being who they want to be but in the end there is a rough life ahead. Example would be trans person has to be a prostitute to survive because no one will help her or a gay teen comes out and is kicked to the street. I didn’t make the world okay. A person needs to understand that while being who you are is great you better be prepared to have people spit on you.

      I would want my kid to have the best life he could have. I would let them be who they are but I would try to guide them toward societies norms. If they then chose to be different then thats okay. I would not want my kid to be gay and especially not trans. His father should be ashamed for letting her do that.

      I am tired of hearing that being a real man is a bad thing. I am proud to be masculine and I won’t apologize for it.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 4:50 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Anna
      Anna

      @Mr. Enemabag Jones: Perhaps you are right, but I have never once been to her blog, I usually only read the excerpts as posted on this website and usually only out of morbid curiosity (as the mother of little ones myself). I suppose I can be accused of hypocrisy…I’m not completely convinced that it’s not all make believe and made up nonsense. We all remember the recent debacle of two male, heterosexual bloggers pretending to be lesbians (one supposedly imperiled in Syria). Actually I hope it’s really just some creative soul taking us all for a ride.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 4:58 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mr. Enemabag Jones
      Mr. Enemabag Jones

      @inoits2:

      I am tired of hearing that being a real man is a bad thing. I am proud to be masculine and I won’t apologize for it.

      Yeah, you look totally masculine when you’ve got one up the butt, and another down your throat.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 5:00 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • inoits2
      inoits2

      @Anna: I find it interesting that you read a gay blog. You must be very progressive.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 5:01 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • inoits2
      inoits2

      @Mr. Enemabag Jones: I do! and ya know what …having sex with a man has nothing to do with women or being a woman. It’s about intimacy between men. Something I am sure you never get.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 5:02 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mr. Enemabag Jones
      Mr. Enemabag Jones

      @Anna:

      I’ll tell you what Anna, let’s re-visit these kids in 20 years–the boys from this blog, and your children, and we’ll see which ones turned out better.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 5:03 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • inoits2
      inoits2

      @Mr. Enemabag Jones: No doubt about it…hers will.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 5:04 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mr. Enemabag Jones
      Mr. Enemabag Jones

      @inoits2:

      having sex with a man has nothing to do with women

      I wouldn’t think so.

      Frankly, if I had a choice between hanging out with an effeminate man who’s comfortable with himself, or a self-described “masculine” man such as yourself, I’m fairly certain I’d take the femme. At least he’s genuine.

      The sad fact is, while chastising this mother, you can’t see your own drag for what it really is. If you have to tell people you’re a man, inoits2, you aren’t really. If you want to see what a real man looks like, look at this boys father. He’s more man than you’ll ever be.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 5:09 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mr. Enemabag Jones
      Mr. Enemabag Jones

      @inoits2:

      No doubt about it…hers will.

      No one knows what you’re talking about, inoits2.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 5:11 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • JAW
      JAW

      I did… whse kids will grow up better… anna’s will

      Jul 22, 2011 at 5:12 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Ganondorf
      Ganondorf

      @Mr. Enemabag Jones

      You big bully!

      Jul 22, 2011 at 5:14 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mr. Enemabag Jones
      Mr. Enemabag Jones

      @JAW:

      I did… whse kids will grow up better… anna’s will

      That’s almost a complete sentence. Stratford Career Institute should refund your money.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 5:18 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • inoits2
      inoits2

      @Mr. Enemabag Jones: Youre an idiot and your mind needs an enema. Once again a weak homo that has no concept of what it means to be a man. Being masculine is not drag. It’s natural and why the hell cant you say you are a masculine man, huh. You are just jealous because masculine men don’t give your queeny ass the time of day. His father is a sad excuse for a father. No normal father wants their kid to be gay or trans. He wants grandkids and he doesn’t want to be embarrassed. i am sure he has no friends because I can’t imagine other fathers wouldn’t be disgusted by what they/she is doing. If I were him I would move out and get that kid away from her.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 5:19 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mr. Enemabag Jones
      Mr. Enemabag Jones

      @Ganondorf:

      Go cry to your daddy, (if you know who he is).

      Jul 22, 2011 at 5:20 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • JAW
      JAW

      there is nothing wrong with anyone being Masc or Fem… be they male, female or trans.

      CJ need a chance to explore the boy in him also… let him play with the kid that is into guns (if he exists)

      teach him to play ball so he can go into the back yard an show the rest of the boy how well he hits and throws.

      I BET THIS TURNS OUT LIKE THE LESBIAN THAT WAS KIDNAPPED… YOU KNOW THE LESBIAN THAT WAS ACTUALLY A MAN… BLOGGING AS A WOMAN… CONNECTING WITH ANOTHER LESBIAN… WHO WAS ACTUALLY ANOTHER MAN… I WONDER IF THOSE GUYS ARE STILL AROUND

      THIS IS JUST A BIG JOKE… and if you believe it is all true, THEN… I have a bridge in Brooklyn to sell you

      Jul 22, 2011 at 5:20 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Ganondorf
      Ganondorf

      @Mr. Enemabag Jones

      Gee golly, mister, you sure have a potty mouth, boy howdy.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 5:27 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mr. Enemabag Jones
      Mr. Enemabag Jones

      @inoits2:

      Once again a weak homo

      As opposed to a homo a week?

      that has no concept of what it means to be a man.

      So says the self-described “masculine” man. You remind me off the douchebags who give themselves a nick-name, and insist everyone use it.

      Being masculine is not drag.

      It is when it’s an act played out by someone like you.

      It’s natural and why the hell cant you say you are a masculine man,

      If you don’t know the answer to that question, then you aren’t a real man.

      You are just jealous because masculine men don’t give your queeny ass the time of day.

      If my ass could talk, it wouldn’t ask for the time of day; it would ask for a day off.

      His father is a sad excuse for a father.

      Do you live in the Bizarro world?

      No normal father wants their kid to be gay or trans.

      When you have children, you may raise them as you see fit. Outside of that, you’re just a frightened little queen, pretending to be a man, terrified of a four year old boy being more sure of himself, than you will ever be.

      He wants grandkids and he doesn’t want to be embarrassed.

      Like your father is of you? I think we’re getting a view into your psyche, and it’s ugly.

      i am sure he has no friends because I can’t imagine other fathers wouldn’t be disgusted by what they/she is doing.

      Pussy-ass bitches, maybe. Real men? Not really.

      If I were him I would move out and get that kid away from her.

      Hopefully he won’t move anywhere near you.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 5:28 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Anna
      Anna

      @Mr. Enemabag Jones: You don’t know anything about me or my children. Life is full of twists and turns, many times tragedy strikes when you least expect it. I can only pray that my children make it to adulthood physically and spiritually intact. Recently the News seems overwhelmed with horrific stories of little ones being hurt or even destroyed by sick adults (that poor little boy in NY walking home). I just do the best I know how to as a mother, God will take care of the rest.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 5:30 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mr. Enemabag Jones
      Mr. Enemabag Jones

      @JAW:

      YOU KNOW THE LESBIAN THAT WAS ACTUALLY A MAN… BLOGGING AS A WOMAN

      Anna already made this point, and much more eloquently than you, JAW.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 5:30 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Daez
      Daez

      @pedro: Jesus dude. I do believe you might be jealous. If you aren’t, please explain your extremely irrational behavior.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 5:30 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Daez
      Daez

      @inoits2: Yeah, tell that to the women of the United States fighting forces. There are much better ways of getting what you want when you want it than fear.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 5:31 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Daez
      Daez

      @JAW: Absolutely, if those are the things he is focusing on. He can make his own preferences. Also, why would she talk about what she does to help him play ball or play with guns on a gay blog that is focused on gay topics?

      She talks about his friends who are HIS FRIENDS that he presumably associates with which is why they would be his friends that enjoy a whole range of activity much like this kid probably does, but much like most gay men won’t come here talking about how church went last Sunday, I’m betting she feels no need to focus on the “straight” aspects of her son’s life ON A GAY BLOG.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 5:35 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mr. Enemabag Jones
      Mr. Enemabag Jones

      @Anna:

      You don’t know anything about me or my children.

      Just like you know nothing of this woman’s children, outside of what you read here.
      I find it absurd that could prattle on about children being abused, and hurt in the face of this mother, who protects and loves her children so much. Going by your logic, you should be praising this woman for protecting her son like a mama grizzly, rather than questioning her parenting skills, or the voracity of her blog posts.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 5:36 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mr. Enemabag Jones
      Mr. Enemabag Jones

      @Daez:

      tell that to the women of the United States fighting forces

      No way! Fighting in the army is for femmes, and girly-girls, not real men like inoits2.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 5:37 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mr. Enemabag Jones
      Mr. Enemabag Jones

      @Ganondorf:

      Like the potties you sit on, while hanging out in public toilets trolling for cock? Thank God for glory holes, or you’d never get laid.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 5:41 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Daez
      Daez

      @JAW: Let me just tell you that my niece was able to tell you where to get most household objects at around the age of 2, and could very easily understand the concept of cutting things. We send kids to kindergarten at 4 1/2 these days, why do you think kids have no concept of reality until age 18 (because that is the age you are attracted to?)?

      Jul 22, 2011 at 5:41 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • inoits2
      inoits2

      @Mr. Enemabag Jones:

      As opposed to a homo a week?

      —We dont need to know about your promiscuous sex life

      So says the self-described “masculine” man. You remind me off the douchebags who give themselves a nick-name, and insist everyone use it.

      —You can call me Butch

      Being masculine is not drag.
      It is when it’s an act played out by someone like you.

      —No, drag as in queen is what you are

      It’s natural and why the hell cant you say you are a masculine man,
      If you don’t know the answer to that question, then you aren’t a real man.

      –Everyone has an identity just like a trans person, my identity is a real man

      You are just jealous because masculine men don’t give your queeny ass the time of day.
      If my ass could talk, it wouldn’t ask for the time of day; it would ask for a day off.

      —Yes it needs a break from being constantly full of cock

      Do you live in the Bizarro world?

      —I live in the real world…you should try it

      When you have children, you may raise them as you see fit. Outside of that, you’re just a frightened little queen, pretending to be a man, terrified of a four year old boy
      being more sure of himself, than you will ever be.
      —A four year old does not have the capacity to be secure, he needs responsible guidance

      Like your father is of you? I think we’re getting a view into your psyche, and it’s ugly.

      –As a matter of fact yes, and my father is normal.

      Pussy-ass bitches, maybe. Real men? Not really.

      –oh please

      If I were him I would move out and get that kid away from her.
      Hopefully he won’t move anywhere near you.

      —I hope he does because I would give him a high five and a thumbs up and say “Bro, you grew some balls”!

      Jul 22, 2011 at 5:42 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Ganondorf
      Ganondorf

      @Mr. Enemabag Jones:

      Gee whiz!

      Jul 22, 2011 at 5:45 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Anna
      Anna

      @Mr. Enemabag Jones: I didn’t quite question her parenting skills, I simply stated that I was uncomfortable with her blogging about her son in this way. I’m uncomfortable with the way many people parent their children, that however, doesn’t mean that I think they are horrible or abusive in anyway. Just that I as a mom, wouldn’t choose to do the same with my own children. If this blog is real, then I wish this mother and her sons all the very best.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 5:46 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Daez
      Daez

      @inoits2: You are a fucking closet case aren’t you? It was a societal norm for a woman to be in a kitchen in the 1950s. It was a societal norm for a black man to be on a plantation in the 1800s. Where the fuck do you get off saying that anyone should try to live up to a societal norm.

      I’ve led my life as an out and proud gay male since I was 18 years old. I have never been in the closet. People always knew, and you know what…I’ve gotten more acceptance as a gay male by the straight community than I ever have from the gay community for not conforming to their image of what a gay male should be.

      However, I really don’t give a damn about societal norms. I only want to be myself, and I’m completely happy being that.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 5:46 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • inoits2
      inoits2

      @Mr. Enemabag Jones: Anna don’t listen to that Enemaresult. You are clearly a good mother and someone that has a sane attitude about raising kids.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 5:49 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • JAW
      JAW

      @Daez: is CJ making the preference… or is mom leading him there??

      and what the heck do you mean playing ball is not a gay thing?????
      You better let the Thousands of gays and lesbians that play in leagues all over the country.. that you said that they can’t because it is not gay… guess they will let straight players in the Gay world series

      Jul 22, 2011 at 5:50 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Daez
      Daez

      @inoits2: Dude, you crossed the line. I think you might need some major psychiatric help. Let me guess, your dad drug you fishing even when you didn’t want to go, and probably kicked your ass every time you did anything even remotely feminine. You should seek counseling because your masochistic views are bordering on insanity.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 5:51 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • inoits2
      inoits2

      @Daez: Well if you like being friendless thats your choice but we humans are tribal in nature okay. Society changes slowly and thats a good thing but if you operate outside of what is considered normal for the times then life is going to be tough. I am pleased that gay people are slowly joining the mainstream where they are accepted as full members of society. I am totally out btw.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 5:53 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mr. Enemabag Jones
      Mr. Enemabag Jones

      @inoits2:

      We dont need to know about your promiscuous sex life

      You admitted to doing two guys at once, and you call me promiscuous?

      You can call me Butch

      I reserve that phrase for lesbians.

      No, drag as in queen is what you are

      I know some drag queens who could kick your ass, and not even break a nail.

      Everyone has an identity just like a trans person, my identity is a real man

      I’m sure you’ve met real men, but you’re about as far from a real man, as one could get.

      Yes it needs a break from being constantly full of cock

      Jealous bro?

      I live in the real world…you should try it

      You mean reality as you see it.

      A four year old does not have the capacity to be secure, he needs responsible guidance

      Clearly you have not read this mothers blog. If you had, you’d see that four year old is more self-aware, secure, and sure of himself than you could be in 10 life times. As far as guidance, when her son does falter, and needs a loving hand to guide him, his mother and father have been there to give him the kind of love, and reassurance that your parents clearly never gave you.

      As a matter of fact yes, and my father is normal.

      As opposed to you?

      oh please

      Is that what you tell your tricks when they offer you cock?

      I hope he does because I would give him a high five and a thumbs up and say “Bro, you grew some balls”!

      I seriously doubt a man like this boys father would waste time hanging out with a pantywaist like you. Unlike you, he’s not afraid of women, and I’m sure he prefers to hang with real men, not caricatures.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 5:55 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • JAW
      JAW

      @Daez: #53… I am sure that CJ is artistic I just don’t think he would run out to the garage for rope… which would have made the shirt look masculine… when he knew where mom kept scarves, her belts… or hell his brother’s belts. if he used moms things it would look more fem… don’t u agree??

      and shirtdress???? who came up with that? u think CH did? or mom???

      this woman or man… is crazed

      Jul 22, 2011 at 5:56 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mr. Enemabag Jones
      Mr. Enemabag Jones

      @Ganondorf:

      No problem. That should give you stroke fantasies for a week.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 5:56 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Scott
      Scott

      I can’t wait until CJ grows up and creates a TV series about his life a la “Beautiful People”.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 5:57 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Daez
      Daez

      @inoits2: So, your father is ashamed to have you as a son, and because of that you try really hard to be the “man” your father always wanted without realizing you can never be that man because your father sees your gayness as a weakness.

      I bet you were never allowed to cry as a child either.

      Take it from someone who is partnered with an extremely responsible, good, well-adjusted father… THE ONLY THING YOU EVER TRULY WANT FROM YOUR CHILDREN IS FOR THEM TO BE HEALTHY AND HAPPY! Big emphasis on the last one, not that you or your father would know anything about that I’m sorry to say.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 5:57 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Daez
      Daez

      @Daez: @JAW: I never said that playing ball wasn’t a gay thing. I said that it isn’t something you normally blog about on a gay blog. Why is it more acceptable to you that women play ball than that men play dress up? Answer that one for me since you brought up the amount of women that play ball (which is traditionally a male activity).

      Jul 22, 2011 at 6:00 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • inoits2
      inoits2

      @Daez: THE ONLY THING YOU EVER TRULY WANT FROM YOUR CHILDREN IS FOR THEM TO BE HEALTHY AND HAPPY!

      Exactly! And that’s why it wouldn’t be right to guide your kid toward being gay or trans.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 6:01 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mr. Enemabag Jones
      Mr. Enemabag Jones

      @inoits2:

      You are clearly a good mother and someone that has a sane attitude about raising kids.

      Yes, Anna. And whatever you do, keep them away from inoits2 if you’d like them to remain normal.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 6:01 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mr. Enemabag Jones
      Mr. Enemabag Jones

      @inoits2:

      Exactly! And that’s why it wouldn’t be right to guide your kid toward being gay

      And you’re evidence of that statement.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 6:03 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mr. Enemabag Jones
      Mr. Enemabag Jones

      @Daez:

      Why is it more acceptable to you that women play ball than that men play dress up? Answer that one for me since you brought up the amount of women that play ball (which is traditionally a male activity).

      Don’t confuse him with logic.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 6:07 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Daez
      Daez

      @inoits2:
      TRUE FRIENDS accept you for who the fuck you are. No one else really matters. I’m far from friendless. Funny, but most of the people that called themselves my friends, but that no longer even give me the time of day were my friends when I was pretending to be something I wasn’t.

      I live with an amazing man. I pay $200 a month in bills since he brings home three figures and has a trust. Everything else I make goes into savings. I live in a $500,000 home. I drive a $20,000 car. I get to go anywhere I want to go. I get to do anything I want to do. We are about to take a 7 day trip to Europe. We are madly in love and have amazing sex.

      I have an amazing job where I love the people that I work with and they love me as well.

      All of this while being out and open and proud to be a somewhat feminine homosexual male. I also am very flirtatious with quite a few straight male friends that all laugh when I want them too. Life is grand for me, and I grew up playing with barbies instead of playing ball. I’ve done drag, considered myself transgendered, and been out and open in every way for 32 years.

      Now, tell me life sucks because I had a mother that at the time thought it was perfectly alright for her little boy to be a “sissy.”

      Jul 22, 2011 at 6:08 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • JAW
      JAW

      @Daez: #67…

      In a previous blog post, mom posted that CJ was sad because the other kids would not let him in the yard to play ball… have you read the posts?

      did you read about CJ’ds crazed birthday party etc??

      as I have said… If CJ wants to do some dress up is ok with me… when you read all of the blogs… it seems like mom is leading CJ to this… and she is not trying to show him other things, so that when he wants to play ball, like he tried to… He Can

      Jul 22, 2011 at 6:11 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • inoits2
      inoits2

      @Daez: Sounds like you have a great life. And ya know what, it was okay you were a sissy and your mother was great to not care. But I bet your father and mother didn’t encourage you dressing you up as a princess for a party…. and THAT is the issue. Encourage.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 6:13 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Ganondorf
      Ganondorf

      @Mr. Enemabag Jones

      Were you sexually abused as a child?

      Jul 22, 2011 at 6:17 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • inoits2
      inoits2

      @Ganondorf: He is the result not the bag.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 6:22 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mr. Enemabag Jones
      Mr. Enemabag Jones

      @Ganondorf:

      Why? Are you worried you missed one?

      Jul 22, 2011 at 6:23 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mr. Enemabag Jones
      Mr. Enemabag Jones

      @inoits2:

      He is the result not the bag.

      And if you ever want to find me, just check inoits2 stomach contents.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 6:24 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Ganondorf
      Ganondorf

      Just curious. Were you, 77?

      Jul 22, 2011 at 6:25 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mr. Enemabag Jones
      Mr. Enemabag Jones

      @Ganondorf:

      No I wasn’t. Is that a turnoff for you?

      Jul 22, 2011 at 6:30 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Ganondorf
      Ganondorf

      @Mr. Enemabag Jones

      Would you be honest with me if you were? Were you raped or exploited sexually as a young adult (twenty something)? Your posts hint at psychosexual damage and sexual dysfunction. No offense intended, of course, as that’s not an amusing matter.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 6:33 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • JayKay
      JayKay

      Does this crazy woman realize how hard her kid is going to get his ass kicked in high school?

      Oh and Daez, self loathing men are seriously pathetic. Stop putting wymyn up on a pedestal and try embracing the awesomeness of masculinity.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 6:44 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mr. Enemabag Jones
      Mr. Enemabag Jones

      @Ganondorf:

      If these are the type of pick-up lines you’re using, it’s no wonder you’re still a virgin. And here I thought it’s because you’re a fat, ugly troll.

      That said, I find it disturbing that you think about rape, or sexual exploitation of males. That says more about you, than any one of us would care to know.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 6:54 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Ganondorf
      Ganondorf

      @Mr. Enemabag Jones

      As I said, your posts scream sexual dysfunction. This is usually the result of trauma. I don’t think you’re well.

      Jul 22, 2011 at 8:33 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Ruhlmann
      Ruhlmann

      @Anna: They may just not be aware of the terminology. Straight men always say to me “I don’t care if you are gay you don’t act like it”. They are saying the same thing. They also think it’s a compliment. Many times my responce has been “neither do you” or “oh my god, you’re straight?”.

      As far as this kid goes I just don’t think she is encouraging him. He knows what he wants and I think the parents are just okay with it. However she may interpret what he creates he did search out the shoes. Whatever he may grow up to be he knows who he is. Some of the comments here about this boy give me more concern than his mother and fathers acceptance. He is sheltered from it now but his first sting of rejection will prove how well the parents have socialised him and how strong they have taught him to be.

      Jul 23, 2011 at 2:26 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • BlueBird
      BlueBird

      @JAW

      Sure, why not? I’m more optimistic about things, rather than pessimistic. If it’s a non-issue, why nitpick at every single little detail and keep picking at it until you come up with your own conclusions?

      You would be amazed at how children can surprise you. My dad once said my younger brother, when he was about 3 or 4, climbed up a ladder all the way to the roof where my dad was fixing something. He also climbed all the way back down when my dad told him to go back down. And this is a two story building. So I wouldn’t find the child going to the garage and getting some rope that out of the ordinary. All you have to do is turn a knob, see a rope lying on the floor or on something else, pick it up, and go back where you came from.

      Maybe he wanted the rope because it’s sexier? I don’t know. Why do you add 2 cubes of sugar into your coffee instead of 3? Because you can. A rope is not masculine. It’s a rope. Also, ropes are used as belts in female fashion shows. If anything, I’d be questioning why in the world would anyone want to own a rope anyways…

      Whether this mother is writing and living a fantasy, you don’t know. We also seem to forget that girls like dolls, fashion models, and grow up to be nurses as well. So why can’t the mom help CJ explore that side, especially if he is interested in it already? What makes you think she did not try nudging him to try other more masculine things?

      Again, why should the mother keep pushing her son onto things he doesn’t have an interest in? If you read her earlier posts, she ain’t forcing her older son, CJ’s brother, to play with dolls and what not. People tend to forget this fact when they are ranting how terrible this mother is for “forcing” her son to become effeminate. She has two sons. If she was delusional and forcing the younger one to be effeminate, then she would’ve been forcing the other one as well.

      For those of you who are thinking about replying, “Well, you don’t know if she’s forcing her eldest son to be feminine”, my counter reply would be, “You don’t know if she’s forcing her younger son to be feminine either”.

      Jul 23, 2011 at 3:22 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mr. Enemabag Jones
      Mr. Enemabag Jones

      @Ganondorf:

      Cool story bro.

      Jul 23, 2011 at 9:55 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mr. Enemabag Jones
      Mr. Enemabag Jones

      @Ganondorf:

      I find it amusing that you would present your armchair psychoanalysis here, while ignoring your own self-loathing, and vile attitude towards the LGBTQ community:

      <bIt’s the faggot way… twenty gross little queens…It’s an argument to stay away from the community.

      Normally, I don’t talk to olds…empathize with what I see every time I see an older man

      Some of my fellow homosexualists are fags, and apparently I’m the only one with the courage and raw overpowering masculinity to take a stand and say it

      Clearly you have issues with your homosexuality. And presenting your self-hatred, and distaste for all things gay, you venture off into the last refuge of an imbecile with nothing to back up their argument, except for their delusional opinion. Godwin’s Law was describing you to a tee:

      This isn’t nazi germany or stalinist russia, you hater!

      I think you should leave your basement, go upstairs and thank your father because he didn’t kill himself, after seeing what you’ve grown to become. I’m sure his shame for you is overpowering, yet he manages to struggle through his day knowing his son will never become anything more than a basement dwelling troll.

      Jul 23, 2011 at 10:07 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Daez
      Daez

      @JayKay: I was pretty damn popular in high school. Most of my friends that were more feminine than masculine were as well. Respecting women doesn’t make me a “self loathing man,” but not respecting women certainly makes you a misogynist,

      Jul 23, 2011 at 10:48 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Ganondorf
      Ganondorf

      @Mr. Enemabag Jones

      Eh. I know that your constant focus on sexual activity and sex in the delusion that you’re over sexed or even desirable (you aren’t. No one that invests much time on a blog as you do is, nor are they have a healthy offline life) and apparently define your masculinity and self-image based on sex acts is a product of psychosexual dysfunction. It’s patently obvious to anyone who would read your incoherent rants that you have no control over these impulses to write and behave highly inappropriately sexually (i.e., lack of boundaries), and one can draw few conclusions from this other than that you are mentally ill and are only capable of unhealthy sexual expression. And this constant emphasis on parental disapproval and identifying intensely with this woman’s descriptions of her home life indicate an extremely abusive childhood. It’s pathetic. Seek help if you haven’t already.

      Jul 23, 2011 at 3:00 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mr. Enemabag Jones
      Mr. Enemabag Jones

      @Ganondorf:

      (you aren’t. No one that invests much time on a blog as you do is, nor are they have a healthy offline life)

      That’s odd, considering you’ve posted here repeatedly. So by your own admission, you have no healthy life offline?

      and apparently define your masculinity and self-image based on sex

      Please show where I, “define [my] masculinity and self-image based on sex acts”.

      is a product of psychosexual dysfunction.

      I think your obsession with this belief that others are suffering from a “psychosexual dysfunction” demonstrates that you have some sort of emotional, or perhaps, mental issue.

      Psychologists have known for well over a century that people who are convinced that those around them are abnormal, are actually quite abnormal themselves. In other words, if you’ve convinced yourself that I am psychosexualy dysfucntional, then clearly you are the poor, pathetic slob who suffers such a sad abnormality.

      It’s patently obvious to anyone who would read your incoherent rants

      I think you mean it’s obvious to the voices in your head.

      that you have no control over these impulses to write and behave highly inappropriately sexually (i.e., lack of boundaries),

      I find it odd that you have such an unhealthy outlook on sexuality. Is there some sort of emotional trauma which you’ve experienced yourself, which would cause you to lash out at homosexual men?

      and one can draw few conclusions from this other than that you are mentally ill and are only capable of unhealthy sexual expression.

      That’s a cute analysis, however it doesn’t negate the fact that you have an angry, if not violent attitude toward gay men. As proven by your writing here:

      It’s the faggot way… twenty gross little queens…It’s an argument to stay away from the community.

      Normally, I don’t talk to olds…empathize with what I see every time I see an older man

      Gay men with a healthy outlook don’t call other gay men faggots, or little queens. For some reason you’ve convinced yourself that the gay community has done something wrong to you. In many cases, the slight is imagined, rather than real. Until you really examine your views towards gay men, will you be able to let go of this anger towards us.

      Judging by these comments, you could possibly have violent tendencies towards gay men. it wouldn’t surprise me in the least if boyfriends from you past were subjected to violence, either physical, emotional, or mental at your hands.

      And this constant emphasis on parental disapproval

      Considering you wrote this:

      Some of my fellow homosexualists are fags, and apparently I’m the only one with the courage and raw overpowering masculinity to take a stand and say it

      It’s apparent you suffer from a clear lack of self-worth, and view yourself as being less masculine that those around you.

      and identifying intensely with this woman’s descriptions of her home life

      Please show me where I have identified “intensely” with this woman’s home life.

      indicate an extremely abusive childhood.

      Considering the amount of rage you’ve presented here, I think it’s apparent to readers of Queerty, whom has suffered an abusive childhood. This is proven by the fact that you still live with your parents. You refuse to grow up, and watching your predominately straight friends grow up, and live with, or marry their girlfriends, and live their adult lives has caused you to further become introverted, and seek an existence online, to escape not only your pathetic, and unfulfilled life, but to escape the watchful eyes of your parents.

      It’s pathetic. Seek help if you haven’t already.

      I think the best thing for you is too immediately find a residence of your own, one where you must pay the bills, do the cleaning, and cooking, and generally take care of yourself. Only this way will you feel like an adult, and finally be able to feel equal to the gay men whom you desperately want to be like. When this happens, you will no longer view gay men as the enemy, and no longer feel the need to ridicule those men who have accomplished more than you have with their lives.

      The first step id to come out to your parents. They may reject, you accept you. Either way it’s first step top taking control of your life, and becoming an adult.

      Jul 23, 2011 at 4:30 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Ganondorf
      Ganondorf

      @Mr. Enemabag Jones:

      There’s an entire post of your many psychological pathologies on display here. Not just with me. And further, you’ve taken any reasonable criticism of this raising my rainbow sillyness as a personal insult to you, lashing at uncontrollably at anyone with anything to say, apparently. You’re a page right out of the DSM IV, for crying out loud, and anyone who would invest a second to look at the energy you’re putting into this would hardly need convincing. The only reason I’m bothering to respond to your insane rantings and ravings is to encourage you to seek professional help, as this will only get worse.

      Jul 23, 2011 at 6:54 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mr. Enemabag Jones
      Mr. Enemabag Jones

      @Ganondorf:

      There’s an entire post of your many psychological pathologies on display here.

      Interpreted by a person suffering from a mental illness, perhaps. But most sane individuals will see a patient person trying to help another person, who is clearly unhinged.

      And further, you’ve taken any reasonable criticism of this raising my rainbow sillyness as a personal insult to you

      Well, I haven’t seen any “reasonable” criticism here. Only childish rantings by immature youngsters playing at being adults.

      lashing at uncontrollably at anyone with anything to say, apparently.

      Considering the vile things you’ve written about Queerty readers, I don’t think you should be critiquing anyone’s comments. Your comments have become increasingly angry, and violent. You presented yourself as a laid back, easy going type with your first few replies. But your subsequent replies have become increasingly violent in their tone. Lashing out in such a manner online demonstrates a clear inability to accept the fact that others may have a differing opinion from you.

      You’re a page right out of the DSM IV

      Once again presenting yourself as an authority on mental illness demonstrates your instability. Trying to convince not just yourself, but others that you are normal, while those around you are abnormal is a classic example of a mental disturbance. You’ve told yourself a lie long enough, that you’ve convinced yourself it’s true, even in the face of facts that refute your views.

      and anyone who would invest a second to look at the energy you’re putting into this would hardly need convincing.

      I find it sad that you’re desire for validation is so intense, that you would try desperately to garner support for your delusions. Looking for supporters of your abnormal worldview will only reinforce your persecution complex.

      The only reason I’m bothering to respond

      You’re responding, (and hoping that I will reply back,) because you’re desperate for some sort of communication, some kind of contact with people outside of your fantasy world. You’ve insulated yourself from gay men, and the world at large because of your obvious hatred of your own sexuality, and that of others.

      to your insane rantings and ravings

      Insane by the standards of one who is clearly unstable, or by normal definitions of those viewing your frothing, desperate explanations for your emotional problems?

      is to encourage you to seek professional help, as this will only get worse.

      You don’t appear the type who would seek counseling for his emotional problems, so all I can do is reiterate my advice from my previous comment: come out to your family; move out of your parent’s home; get a job; and learn to care for yourself. Only then can you finally grow up, and learn to accept not only your sexuality, but that of the adults around you, who you at the same time idolize, and despise.

      Considering the vile, violent things you’ve written about Queerty readers–people you don’t even know–I’m concerned that if you don’t seek help, your angry words will become angry deeds.

      Jul 23, 2011 at 9:05 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Ganondorf
      Ganondorf

      @Mr. Enemabag Jones:

      Oh stop perseverating, you crazy buffoon. Go get help. Your derangement is self explanatory at this point. You’re a few rungs above the schizophrenic homeless man with the tinfoil hat, but no better. And it will get worse for you unless psychiatric intervention occurs.

      Jul 23, 2011 at 9:45 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Ganondorf
      Ganondorf

      Actually, my mistake. You can’t stop. You are incapable of a normal responses to stimuli. That’s why it’s pathetic, and should be rectified with psychiatric intervention. Now despite the fact that mental illness in the gay community is extremely common, one needs to be able to recognize it before one can get help (and you can’t). All one need do is look at the comments section of any gay blog (or this one, as this crank attacks random people he has no knowledge of repeatedly for disagreeing with his delusions and projections), and crazy presents itself. Then again, crazy presents itself in the comments section of many blogs, but it seems worse on gay blogs, and that would connect to a higher rate of mental illness reported in the gay community.

      Jul 23, 2011 at 9:56 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mr. Enemabag Jones
      Mr. Enemabag Jones

      @Ganondorf:

      Your derangement is self explanatory at this point.

      Sadly your replies keep getting more and more unhinged. With every comment you fall deeper into whatever delusional world you inhabit.

      You’re a few rungs above the schizophrenic homeless man with the tinfoil hat, but no better.

      I know presenting yourself as sane, and those around you as insane helps keep what little grasp on reality you have intact. But the truth is you clearly need to seek professional help. You’re obviously afraid of whatever assessment medical professionals make, but rest assured, they will have your best interest at heart.

      And it will get worse for you unless psychiatric intervention occurs.

      It’s clear you’re speaking of yourself now. The more you try to put some kind of imaginary psychosis on me, the more your own mental frailties come to the surface.

      You can’t stop.

      If you’d like me to stop, then stop replying. I think as long as you are squirreled away in your parent’s basement, you are not in the street hurting gay men.

      You are incapable of a normal responses to stimuli.

      Considering how angry, and aggressive your replies have become, it’s clear which one of us has trouble reacting rationally to stimulus, whether true, or imagined.

      That’s why it’s pathetic, and should be rectified with psychiatric intervention.

      At this point I’m fairly certain you’ve proved whom needs some sort of intervention. I know you’re not use to having your fantasy world challenged, but here we are. Your reaction is quite sad in that simply admitting you are a childish youngster who refuses to grow up and accept adulthood would help you.

      Now despite the fact that mental illness in the gay community is extremely common,

      As evidenced by your increasingly irrational outbursts. In your mind you’re fooling everyone–no one knows your secret. But the reality is you’ve provided enough evidence to prove you are unbalanced.

      one needs to be able to recognize it before one can get help (and you can’t).

      Yes that’s right, everyone is crazy, except you. You are the only sane gay man here. If only everyone could recognize your infallibility, and genius. It’s obvious you’ve been babied far too much as an adult. Your rantings are infantile in their reasoning, and only further alienates those adults around you.

      All one need do is look at the comments section of any gay blog

      So now I’m not just crazy, all the people commenting on gay blogs are crazy, and in need of saving? You’ve veered off from persecution, to a Christ complex.

      (or this one, as this crank attacks random people he has no knowledge of repeatedly for disagreeing with his delusions and projections)

      Who are you talking to? You’re replying to a comment on a blog, yet you’re writing like you’re carrying on a conversation with someone. Do you do this often; have imaginary conversations with non-existent people?

      Then again, crazy presents itself in the comments section of many blogs, but it seems worse on gay blogs,

      I think we’re seeing where your hatred of gay men comes from. You’ve convinced yourself that all gay men are crazy, and you’re sane. If you’re sane, then you can’t be gay. Yet you loiter on gay blogs, picking arguments with people in hopes that someone will respond, so you’ll have people to talk with. You’re more pathetic than anyone could have imagined.

      and that would connect to a higher rate of mental illness reported in the gay community.

      I wonder who has a tin-foil hat now. Broad sweeping generalizations of the gay community, from a nameless, faceless troll.

      The very screen name you’ve chosen, that of a “warrior” from a child’s game proves you’re a maladjusted man who refuses to grow up. That is the type of thing I’d expect to see from some adolescent, not someone who represents himself as an adult.

      As I wrote before, but now more forcefully–grow the hell up! Stop living off your parents, get a job and move out.

      Jul 23, 2011 at 11:14 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Ganondorf
      Ganondorf

      Look at the effort this crank’s putting into meticulously trying to level the identical charge I opened with after observing this unbalanced interactions with other people (and his violent outburst at a casual comment above with the true claim that this kid probably won’t be the next valentino garavani or giorgio armani. Actually, that’s where his pathology made its debut on this thread with his absurd delusions he passionately defended about this kid’s design genius and fantasies about his adult life. The rage displayed at someone not taking it as seriously as he does would be comedy gold if it weren’t for the fact that he’s deeply troubled). This whackadoodle is just traveling deeper down the rabbit hole. Pull the string on his back and watch him go. Is it wrong that I’m somewhat enjoying it? Arguably. But he’s harmless, as are most disturbed people.

      Jul 24, 2011 at 7:56 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • xander
      xander

      Ganondorf : I’m enjoying the spectacle of someone very badly-educated or untrained attempting to sling around actual and pseudo clinical terminology as if he had any true sense of their proper meaning and usage. How droll!

      Jul 24, 2011 at 8:03 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mr. Enemabag Jones
      Mr. Enemabag Jones

      @Ganondorf:

      Look at the effort this crank’s putting into meticulously trying to level the identical charge I opened with

      Then it writes:

      The rage displayed at someone

      Funny, but I’m certain I pointed out how filled with rage your replies have become.

      The more you post, the more you embarrass yourself. You became incensed when I pointed out that you’re acting like a child, and you should grow up. The more you post your, “No I’m not, YOU are!” replies, the more pathetic, and childish you appear.

      I pointed out that you cannot stop replying because you’re so desperate for attention, and contact with adults, that you’ll continue this absurdity just so you can have someone to communicate with. And here you are replying again.

      I don’t know what issue you have with gay men, especially since you showed up in the blog post about some model doing stroke videos, and you posted this vitriol against gay men:

      It’s the faggot way… twenty gross little queens…It’s an argument to stay away from the community.

      You’re hate for gay men is palpable. But your hate for the kid talked about in this post is disturbing. I can understand hating adults, but some kid you don’t even know? Bizarre.

      Please walk away from your computer, tell your mother you’re going out, and start looking for a job. Please grow up and act like an adult for the first time in your life.

      Jul 25, 2011 at 1:33 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mr. Enemabag Jones
      Mr. Enemabag Jones

      @xander:

      I have to ask, who is that directed at?

      Jul 25, 2011 at 1:34 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • John Santos
      John Santos

      @Mr. Enemabag Jones:

      Why are you bothering? If this little shit feels it’s ok to come on a gay blog and call gays faggots, and queens, he doesn’t deserve the attention you’ve wasted on him. He’s the kind of nobody that usually gets a sweet smack upside the head from me when he starts popping off. Guaranteed if this was face to face, he’d cower like a little punk. And to the other readers here who just ignore his rantings, next time some straight person uses anti-gay slurs, and you all get your panties in a bunch, (xander) I’ll post Ganondorfs comments and tell you all to shut the fuck up.

      Jul 25, 2011 at 1:58 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • xander
      xander

      Mr. Enemabag Jones : That was directed at Ganondorf.

      Jul 25, 2011 at 2:10 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mr. Enemabag Jones
      Mr. Enemabag Jones

      @xander:

      Ok.

      Truthfully, I never finished high school, which I’ve mentioned here before, and I thought it might be a jab at me. I apologize.

      Jul 25, 2011 at 2:56 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mr. Enemabag Jones
      Mr. Enemabag Jones

      @John Santos:

      I don’t know why I’m bothering. Maybe boredom? It’s because of the anti-gay slurs. He shows up, defends using anti-gay slurs, and proceeds to use them.

      He’s the kind of jackass who sits around pontificating on everything, yet does nothing to advance equality for anyone. Judging from his comments here, he’s a self-important nobody who has never been put in his place, and cannot stand to have his opinions challenged.

      The internet is a haven for trolls like him–a person who’s opinion doesn’t matter, with a world wide audience to share that unimportant opinion with.

      Just a lot of blustering, frothing, and anger, meted out from behind the safety of his screen.

      And I think you should consider apologizing for mentioning Queerty readers in general, and xander in particular in your comment. I haven’t seen him write anything derogatory about anyone on Queerty.

      Jul 25, 2011 at 3:08 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·

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