Get off him at last!

Marianna

(Sorry for my bad English.)

Get off him at last!

Marianna

(Sorry for my bad English.)

This is pretty disappointing, all these ridiculous comments on the man’s sexuality, is it really any of your business what his orientation is? And even if it is your business why does it matter so much to you all? I hate that I found this while searching up other jobs he has had. He’s a great actor and it is pretty much all I care about. And are you speaking for the WHOLE gay community when you say you won’t tolerate the “shame”? I personally don’t see any shame in their actions, they’re just protecting their livelihood and their loved ones. Either way gay or not it doesn’t make me feel differently about what I am watching, to do so would make me a close minded fool, which seems most of you are. One day your eyes may open, hope it won’t be too late for you to actually enjoy life a little more.

It is none of all you fools business, so get over it! And keep your noses in your own business!

People have been coming out for decades, in times and places far more unforgiving than today. I find it ridiculous that gay people continue to use the tired excuse of “it’s my personal life” – it was a bullshit evasive excuse when I said it at 16, and it’s a bullshit evasive excuse when others say it today. So….what? straight people can’t have personal lives? straight people aren’t vague about their heterosexuality. straight people are openly straight and still manage to maintain “personal” or “private” lives.

until more of us act like responsible adults and Come Out this closet-culture will only continue, pathetically making people feel as if Hiding is a noble option. it aint. we adults have a responsibility to open the doors for the next generations.

the closed-minded fools are the ones who continue to think selfishly about themselves rather than what they can do to help others. Help Out, Come Out.

To go along with that though, I don’t understand why just because Bomer is in a committed relationship that is suppose to translate to the media as somehow slighting him if they drudge up old pictures of him making out with another guy. I’m sure Jennifer Aniston has had old pics of her drug out for all to see, so why is this supposed to be different?? It’s not somehow magically ‘worse’ just because these are two men kissing instead of a man and a woman so, quite frankly, deal with it. I get that his friend is saying he’s a nice guy – I’m sure every star has a few good friends that think they are decent people too, but that certainly doesn’t stop the media from digging up anything they can on those people, and if they find pics of the star sucking face with someone else, no matter how old the pics are, they are gonna publish them! Should it somehow be different for him because he’s gay? No, it shouldn’t. If you don’t want double standards, don’t try to create them.

I have a double sided sentiment about actors/actresses who choose not to make their sexual orientation public. Just to be clear, I am not an actor and I do not, even remotely, know what it means to be a celebrity, I am just giving my opinion and I have no intention of offending anyone.

On one hand, I’ve always wondered why people get so obsessed over having to know their favourite actors’ sexual orientation, it’s not like you’re gonna get in their pants, so who cares if Mr. Bomer is gay or straight or if another actor/actress is gay or straight, it doesn’t make much difference, we should just appreciate their talent as actors or artists.

On the other hand, however, I think that their coming out could only do good to the gay community, it would make us more visible, it would help people drift away from stereotype of gay men being just hyper camp guys or beer drinking, vest wearing butches on motorbikes.

Furthermore there’s a problem at the bottom of this, “hiding” your sexual orientation just because it could ruin a career (of whatever sort) it’s understandable, but unacceptable. We have to fight this society and not run along with it for our own sake.

I remember watching Ellen when I was fairly young, I remember the episode in which she came out, the famous the “Puppy Episode” with the fabulous Laura Dern. After that Ellen couldn’t get a job in years, I mean this is not the society I want to live in.

Mrs. Degeneres is so so talented and thinking that she had to struggle for years to get back just because she’s gay it makes me furious and sad. So although it is understandable that some actors prefer to stay “in the closet”, it truly is unacceptable.

As someone once said in a Showtime TV show “Sexuality is fluid whether you’re gay, straight or bisexual, you just go with the flow”.

So just get over it already!

Eh? I don’t think it was his choice! More like the show is obsessed with showing his chest lol!

Of course it does.

What I don’t get is why so many people here have been asking “why it matters” about MB and how he is handling (or not) public awareness of his sexual orientation. I can forgive this obtuseness in str8s but not in fellow queers. The very obvious reason this issue strikes such a nerve is because we are not yet at a place in this society where being gay is a complete non-issue. As advanced as American culture is about LGBTQ concerns, thare are still too many places in the U.S. where being gay can get you kicked out of or denied a job, ostracized by your peers and family, or beaten to death. Too many gay kids are still being bullied to the point of suicide. Too many politicians (many of them pathetic closet cases enabled by a squeamish mainstream press) treat the dignity of LGBT people as something of inconsequence and their right to live full lives as something negotiable.

For as long as all that continues to be the case, we’ll care very much how “blessed” gays like MB and his partner, Hollywood power broker SH, deal with The Question–and it’s no good telling us we shouldn’t.

As many here have said, in a just world it shouldn’t matter whether or not Mr. Bomer wants to acknowledge the truth about his orientation. But for too many of us, the world is NOT a just place.

So yes. It matters. Still.

I agree: as a (mostly) straight female, the actual sexual orientation of a hot actor doesn’t matter a damn. It’s not like he’d have any interest in me one way or another, and I’m not gonna stalk the poor boy; I’m old enough to be his MOM. Whether he’s gay, or straight and monogamously married, or whatever, any interest I have as a fan is pure FANTASY on my part.

Besides, he and Tim DeKay are HOT together. :-)

I know a LOT of “White Collar” fans (most women) online, and NONE of ‘em would like him, or the show, any less if he came out tomorrow and marched in the next Gay Pride Parade in drag. (Hell, we’d probably cheer!) He’s a good actor playing a great character in a fun show. OTOH, if I were a celebrity of WHATEVER sexual orientation, I’d hate to have my private life pried into by tabloids, paparazzi, and slimy gossip-mongers like Perez Hilton. The question shouldn’t be “Why is Matt Bomer’s sexuality such a secret?” as much as “Why should ANY celebrity’s privacy be so violated?” I wouldn’t want some hollywood blogger to be posting pics of me smooching my sweetie; why should he have to justify his relationship(s) or see his sex life being dissected by strangers?

ohhh guess what when i saw texas masacre… don´t know what else… the only think i liked a bout that movie was him… curious enough the same actor!!!

let him be hapy if he doesnt want to to tell everyone he know best for him

And with two sentences you lost a reader for life.

Being a celebrity is NOT the same as being an actor. Even a high profile (at least in your mind) one. Folks like Paris Hilton, who are known only for partying, making appearances, looking good, are celebrities. They are fame whores who yes sell their lives, cause they lack anything else to sell.

Actors do not sell their lives, but they do have their lives sold. Or in many cases lies about their lives. Media created relationships that don’t exist, outting folks that are straight cause gay rumors sell more tabloids, etc.

That you can’t tell the difference is distasteful.

Then again, I shouldn’t be shocked with the references about a ‘gay agenda’ or the fact that you don’t seem to care about much about anyone other than sexuality.

If you wish to continue our correspondence, I can be contacted at scrumrob@gmail.com. As the addess might indicate, I also really enjoy rugby, which I have followed for many years on cable via a subscription to a special channel.

Based on my own experience I’m afraid I’d have to disagree. My father and his fellow cronies are typical grassroot members of the local Conservative Association and all the male members of my family would occasionally get dragged down to drinks and snooker at the local Conservative Club. Whilst there I’ve witnessed pretty much all of the attributes you’ve listed, along with anti-Semitism, homophobia and rampant mysogyny (such a weird characteristic for heterosexual men to hold, I find). Granted, the Taleban-like Christianity (such as I’ve witnessed in Texas and Florida) would never go down well with our Conservatives (overt religiosity isn’t quite British, old chap).

The conversation with your uncle reminds me of the dangers of being intransigent with language, particularly regarding race/ethnicity. Back in 1993 a Scottish journalist I knew was encamped outside – and reporting on – the Waco Siege when he heard a US colleague refer to one of the Davidians as being an “English African-American”. It transpired the guy was black and British but the journalist felt she couldn’t use those terms because she thought “black” was prejorative.

I first saw him on Tru Calling, a show I watched because I liked Eliza Dishku on Buffy and Angel. It was a good show but was cancelled. In this show he played a photographer named Luc and was killed by a bullet.

He also appeared on another of my favorite shows Chuck as Bryce Larken and was killed in the end or they make us think he was killed in the end, because he was also killed in the begining of season one and they revived him. Now White Collar.

Before that I understand he played on a soap, never was much into soaps.

I enjoyed Traveler, that too got cancelled. But his resume is very sparse compared to other actors his age for some reason or another either because he’s very fussy or didn’t fit the parts or being accepted to play Superman/Clark Kent then being told no it was going to Brandon Routh because the director who hired him or producer abandoned or left or was told to leave the production and the new guy went another way which may have depressed him for awhile and he hid or whatever. And ironically, Brandon Routh–who replaced him as Superman– replaced him on Chuck. LOL.

His acting is very good, always blended in with the shows he played in, but audience attention spans being what they are, ended with the shows being canclled. White Collar is going onto season three. Huray!

As to his sexuality, since I don’t care about it one way or the other, and can’t understand why this is an issue, no one ever makes issues of straight actors who play gay chactors, so why is it such contraversy if someone who is suspected yet not confirmed, gay playing a straight charactor…well he’s not either in the show, he’s flirty but nothing ever really comes of it.

That hunk “Dude, you’re getting a Dell”, guy is gay or not though he was in a very gay themed off broadway play and bartends at a bar in Manhattan somewhere. I think he kind a would add to White Collar.

In the U.S., conservative carries connotations of deliberatly chosen ignorance, intense racism, Taleban-like Christianity, fascism, and utter disregard of inconvenient facts. In the U.K., most members of the Conservative Party are not usually rabid fascists. I think you have to look at the BNP for that.

Yes, I was being somewhat sardonic! I was shocked when I first read Dashiel Hammett; where the detective would slap his secretary on the fanny. In the UK, fanny refers to the vagina, not the buttocks (or bum). I still grimace when I hear someone in the USA say: “I’ll just see if it’s in my fanny bag”. I was surprised to learn people in the USA finish a meal and then pay the check will a bill (in the UK we pay the bill with a cheque).

I recently got the chance to see Traveler, which was nice eye candy and last month I saw him in The Texas Chainsaw Massacre: The Beginning (2006), which was networked on UK television, and I was impressed.

I see he played “Eric” in Flightplan but I can’t remember him in the film. Which character was that and why was he not memorable, I wonder?

In the unlikely event you are not being sardonic, I will point out that in American English, bum is not usually used to mean buttocks. It is American slang, and “to bum” means to disappoint. If an American says “bummer”, it means disappointing or depressing. If an American says “I was bummed” it means I was disappointed. I cannot tell you why there is that difference, but the word became common in the U.S. in the 1960s during the days of hippies. In America English, “fag” means people like us, but in U.K. English it most commonly refers to a cigarette. A famous incident from World War II in which differences in slang caused problems was a meeting between American and British military planners almost came apart over the opposite meanings of “table the proposal.” To one side, the phrase meant discuss it, but to the other side it meant set it aside or reject it.