If you’re of a certain age — let’s say you were alive when Star Wars was first released in theaters — you’ve probably been deep in a spirited pop culture-related conversation only to have some whippersnapper ask something like “Who’s Gena Rowlands?” or “What’s Rosemary’s Baby?” or, most criminal of all, “Who is John Waters?”
But love is love, and these guys on Whisper are proving that the divide can be conquered:
ChrisK
If you don’t want to keep making excuses keep it within say 20 years. Of coarse if you’re both mature no need to worry about that. Just stay away from the youngies. Let them find themselves with other guys like themselves. Even if you manage to land some 23 yo like the above example you’ll end up paying for it while being laughed at where ever you go. That’s not a real relationship. You’re just a real life peter pan and his bought boy.
Neonegro
A relationship is what the parties involved want it to be.
There is nothing wrong with an older person spending on a much younger partner.
Both are getting exactly what they want and desire.
Those laughing are simply jealous.
viking329
another boring “whisper” article.
john.k
@ChrisK: Big age gaps can work. I met my boyfriend when I was 57 and he was 19. He just likes older men and I like him. I thought long and hard about whether to start a relationship with him but concluded that if I didn’t he’d just find somebody else like me. I have not supported him financially and am not cleverer than him. But I think we complement one another. Anyway with 10 happy years years already behind us I think something is working.
Jack Meoff
When you are in your 40’s you are still young enough to attract a relationship but if you start a relationship with someone 20 years younger chances are by the time you reach your 60’s he will leave you for a younger man because you have become old. The chances of finding another relationship in your 60’s even with someone closer to your own age is statistically that much harder. Why waste your last chance to grow old together with someone on an ill advised pursuit of youth.
ChrisK
@john.k: Jesus. I’m in my 40s and I can’t imagine being with a 19 yo.
Realitycheck
Most of whisper posts are actually fake or made by whisper employees to get an emotional rise out of whisper users……..
mighty
My husband is 3 years younger than I but I look younger than I am and he looks older than he is. Someone asked us once if he was my father. I literally almost fell out of my chair laughing. People just be happy. If you love someone older or younger etc just love each other and be happy.
ChuckF
I find it curious that men who date older men don’t think their parents will approve of an older man. Sounds like they’re projecting their own fear onto their older lover. I say, it you have the balls to come out your should have the balls to tell the world you’re gay and be proud of it.
ggreen
@viking329: Whisper is like reading a bathroom stall wall only not as personal and a lot more whiny.
Bob LaBlah
Hey, if the old geyser is hitting it right then I say love the one your with.
nmharleyrider
I’m 78 and my partner is 58. We could not be happier and my sex life is better than when I was 20.
NateOcean
27 and 60 here.
Mostly he explains Snapchat, Skype, and Fuel Injection.
In turn, I explain, typewriters, dial telephones, carbon paper, and carburators.
djbear
When I first started dating men (age 57) my first BF/partner was 72. He died suddenly 9 months later but he helped me become comfortable as a gay man and I was blessed to know him. Three years after he died I met my current partner (we have been together 23 years and last year he was half my age (35 1/2 years different in age). Age doed not matter. Personality and repsonsibility do. My current BF has taken on major responsibilities for his family in his home country (his parents died before I met him).
Heywood Jablowme
@ChuckF: “I find it curious that men who date older men don’t think their parents will approve of an older man.”
That’s a very common concern even with a daughter who dates a much older man. Parents tend to worry that the young person is being taken advantage of. (Sometimes it’s the other way around, in reality, but most parents aren’t going to think of that, not at first anyway.)
Also, parents probably freak out if the older boyfriend has a strong resemblance to the dad. “Calling Dr. Freud!”
ChrisK
@Bob LaBlah: Do you mean Geezer.
ChrisK
@djbear: It does matter if your trolling for youth itself. Like you can only be attracted to twenty somethings and your nearly double their age. Like Klien, Geffen, Singer types. Of coarse their rich and famous and get away with allot more. The rest of us have to deal with the real world.
Neonegro
I for one am not interested in relationship.
I only need a man for sex.
I am 45 and have been sexing the 20 to 35 age group.
All I do is go to work and workout to stay in shape.
When I am too old to get them, I will buy them for a few hours.
I have friends of my own age for conversations and companionship.
Doughosier
My boyfriend is 29 I’m 53. He makes more money than me but we are happy. Going on 5 years together.
SnorlaxationKH
I always been attracted to older guys. While it’s not easy, nor are most relationships, what with the decade(s) between them, the experiences, on top of all the typical differences, but you also have to make sure that you’re both at the right place in life to want to be together. Communication is even more important when the age gap is so different.
Brian-E
It’s good to hear from people in longterm relationships where they are different in age from their partner. I, too, have been in a relationship for 31 years. The fact that my partner is younger than I am has never been a problem. In fact we even have different birthdays, because he is a full four days younger than I am. Since I was born at the end of a month, our birth months are different too!