“I got bullied… because of my size,” Stavros Louca told the Guardian when recalling his teenage years. “[They’d say:] He’s gay because he’s so fat. He can’t get himself a woman.”
34-year-old Louca has struggled with his weight for his entire life. He currently weighs approximately 420 pounds. Even today, he says he’s still bullied because of his size.
“When I attend gay bars, clubs, and cruising areas, people are picking on me because of my obesity,” he said.
As a result, Louca has never had a “one-to-one relationship” with a gay man.
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“When I have dated, it’s been with bisexual guys,” he revealed. “I’m looking for a one-to-one relationship with a gay guy now. That’s always been my dream.”
Earlier this year, he decided to take a stab at making that dream a reality… by entering the Mr. Gay U.K. competition. Because, he said, “everyone deserves a little happiness.”
What happened next, he never expected.
When Louca showed up to the competition, he stood out like a sore thumb. “The other guys were muscle-y, tall, slim, sexy,” he explained. “I thought people would laugh at me, boo, throw abusive language at me.”
But much to his surprise, the crowd was very supportive, cheering him on throughout the evening.
Louca noted that it was very hard to believe at first, but the icing on the cake came at the end of the night when he was awarded the top prize.
“It was like being in the O2 arena,” he said with a smile on his face. “It was an amazing atmosphere. I couldn’t believe my luck at first. I thought… the tables are turning!”
But the high was short-lived. Because just a few days later, a magazine published a recap of the competition. It listed a different man as the winner. Not just that, but Louca wasn’t mentioned once in the article.
“What they’re trying to do is say that I don’t exist,” he said.
Louca then received a phone call from the competition’s organizers saying he had been disqualified because of a technicality. During the competition, contestants were required to put on underwear. Since Louca didn’t fit in the underwear provided to him, organizers said he was ineligible for the title of Mr. Gay U.K.
“They took me out of the competition because the underwear wasn’t my size,” he observed. “I don’t think it’s fair because I did win the title of Mr. Gay UK London.”
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Ron Jackson
I don’t know what to say about this article. I’m flubbergasted! But a friendly note to Mr. Louca. Lose those pounds or you are going to die at a relatively young age. Just sayin’. Best of luck to ya.
skcord
He should lose weight for his health… that aside… WORK!! I wish I had that kind of confidence! Strong man!
moonman157
Our community as a whole can be devastatingly superficial and image-obsessed. For people who so openly and passionately preach tolerance and acceptance, we can be judgmental and dismissive. Everyone is deserving of love, respect, and friendship, regardless of their sexual orientation, religion, race, or body type. We should all reflect on ways we can work to make people feel like they belong, not ways to make them feel ashamed or excluded.
Alan down in Florida
As someone who tips the scale into the stratosphere (and who has lost over 100 pounds 3 different times in my life) all I can say is if Stavros’ equipment is as big as his b@lls he’d make someone a fine husband.
Daniel
I am Asian, 25, toned, 2 master degrees, with stable job, but I have been struggling to find one to one relationship with man. :'(
bottom72
I am not attracted to obese men call me shallow but I am not. Even if I was I would be scared to be in a long term relationship with that man knowing there is a good chance we may not have a long life together. Sorry I am just one honest queen.
hotshotkc
He is number one on my list. A very beautiful man.
Gigi Gee
Health issues of being obese aside, he seems like a great guy. And kudos to him for entering the Mr. Gay U.K. competition.
DarkZephyr
There are a lot of unhealthy habits that many of us have. Overeating is one that this man likely has. Others smoke, or drink or have lots of unprotected sex, etc. But men like him tend to get more crap for his vice than others. I have a feeling that a lot of the people who give “friendly notes” don’t give similar “friendly notes” to other people who may have excessive vices but are slender.
jonasalden
@DarkZephyr: Good point.
Charlie in Charge
@DarkZephyr: A… wait for it… men!
It takes a tremendous amount of testicular fortitude to sign up for a pageant like that and doing so at his size? Much more fortitude. Here’s to him finding the right guy.
Jody
Fat people just don’t, as a rule, die sooner than thin people. It’s a popular myth, one that research doesn’t support.
http://www.slate.com/articles/health_and_science/human_nature/2013/01/if_fat_is_unhealthy_why_are_overweight_people_less_likely_to_die.html
There are some diseases that increased weight is associated with. There are also diseases that being a certain gender, ethnic group, or, yes, sexual orientation, are also associated with.
“Fat” is a really relative, and medically misleading, term.
darkanser
He’s gay because he’s too fat to get a woman…Oh, the ‘logical’ thinking of youth!!…..;-)
JaredNorthcutt30
Friendly note to @RonJackson: stop having anal sex. You will get HIV and have a short life. See how that works?
Comixbear
I knew that the comments here would be this way. Everyone is focused on his weight and NOT on the fucking contest who cheated him of the title. Yes, I’m fat. I don’t claim to be sexy and don’t have the balls of this guy. But the focus should be on the fact that he fucking won this contest and was cheated out of it by a contest that didn’t want someone non-clone to represent them! And for those of you who are chanting ‘lose weight’, maybe you should re-read the comment in the article where it says that he has struggled with his weight his entire life. Losing weight isn’t as easy in a lot of cases as tv would make you think!
Will L
If the organizers provide the underwear, it isn’t his fault they didn’t fit. That technicality should be counted against him. This is unfair to him since he won at the end of the night.
Aside from that, he would certainly feel better if he were able to lose some weight. For some, it’s impossible without surgery and I accept that. He seems nice and I certainly have to admire him for entering.
Stevenw
I’m not completely sure, but if I recall correctly the Mr Gay UK title comes with a modelling contract thrown in.
I suspect the sponsors may have had a hand in this disqualification.
tk92
It is OK if society does not consider you sexy, but why do we have to pretend that people who do not take care of themselves physically, watch what they eat, etc. are sexy? Not every person is smart. We do not label every person a genius. Same logic should be with appearance. Not every person can be considered hot. Defeats the rarity of it.
Sansacro
@Jody: Reread the article. This guy is morbidly obese, which, even according to the Slate article you cite, poses a significant threat to health. Hey, if the guy is happy, more power to him. But let’s not pretend obesity is purely just another social construct. Further, quality of life IS hindered in a host of ways due to obesity, whether traveling on airplanes or in cars, or getting around public facilities, find clothes, and potential related health problems. According to http://www.wvdhhr.org/bph/oehp/obesity/mortality.htm, the National Institutes of Health, “obesity and overweight together are the second leading cause of preventable death in the United States, close behind tobacco use (3). An estimated 300,000 deaths per year are due to the obesity epidemic (57).”
DarkZephyr
@Sansacro: But I bet you don’t post things like this under pics of hot people who smoke.
@tk92: Not everyone has to pretend that they find chubby men sexy, if you don’t, that is your preference, but don’t assume everyone on earth shares your preferences. One of my closest friends identifies as a chubby chaser. He is an athletic, muscular man that most people would consider very hot (I know that I do) but he only has eyes for men like Louca. When we are out and about together, when an athletic hottie walks by or a cute twink he will say “There’s one for you!” and if a big guy walks by I will say “there’s one for you!”
aliengod
Let’s not venerate this lazy obese man. Hopefully he finds the willpower to live a healthier lifestyle.
jwtraveler
His weight and health are his business. I admire is courage in entering the contest. He won the contest and deserved it. For the organizers to find a “technicality” to disqualify him is despicable. The fact that it is a gay contest makes it even worse. As gay people, we have all been victims of bullying, discrimination or some other form of mistreatment. For gay people to treat another gay man like this because he’s fat is beyond contemptible.
jwtraveler
@aliengod: Fuck you!
Blackceo
I wish the gays had an anthem for the big fellas the way the ladies do with “Watch Out For The Big Girls” But yes, for health reasons he does need to lose weight. There’s a little overweight that is still healthy and then there is morbidly obese. Simply for his blood pressure and extra strain on his heart and organs he should consider one of the weight loss procedures.
Love his attitude tho.
mgkbus
@jwtraveler: I agree with you.
JimmyJ
Oh, shame. Poor guy doesn’t have a neck. I honestly think he needs to lose some weight as well. He probably suffers from apnea which can be quite serious. He just has to avoid what he knows he has to avoid, and he’ll be fine.
I'm Black, and HIV-Positive.
@DarkZephyr: Bitch who are you to judge? You’re two faced. What kind of a model is that to follow?
I'm Black, and HIV-Positive.
I find it really revealing that instead of commenting on the complete hypocrisy of the gay community you offer him positive, constructive “advice”. Like lose the weight. I think he knows that already.
Oh, the thoughtlessness of “thoughtful people”. You never heard that one before?
Oh, but then commenting on the hypocrisy of the gay community would be to self-examine wouldn’t it you bunch of scared, coward-ass women!
He said they went throughout the whole night with the organizers of the contest performing the sham of putting on a show, and then when the even was over they found a reason to discredit him at a later date, and then even the newspapers white washed that he even there! But you didn’t want to comment on that part did ya? You people are heartless bitches, and I can’t wait until he finds out that “not finding a gay man with a heart” will still happen even if he’s thin!
What are you afraid of appearing like you have a heart? This entire thread board is ridiculous. Gay men indeed. No wonder unarmed black men are being killed by the police in this country, and there’s no outcry. I could have told him he wasn’t gonna win. I’d have said it like this, “Imagine if your the best looking gay man in the world, but you’re black.” He’d a got the picture then.
Take that you bunch of lame, pretentious upstarts!
I'm Black, and HIV-Positive.
Every single gay man who commented on this page so far (except me) is a cornball.
I'm Black, and HIV-Positive.
Don’t worry Louca. I heard your story. You people are lame!
buffnightwing
@I’m Black, and HIV-Positive.: I don’t think you are gay. What is your Facebook page so we can comment on your page directly to your face.
buffnightwing
@I’m Black, and HIV-Positive.: @I’m Black, and HIV-Positive.: I just sent Queerty another letter to get YOU OFF this website so we can have nice conversations and discussions without all the hatred coming from you.
winemaker
MAN O FRIGGIN MAN DID THIS ARTICLE BRING UP OLD MEMORIES FOR ME. WHEN I CAME OUT IN JUNE `1977, I WEIGHED IN AT 378 LBS., HAD A 54′ WAIST AND GENERALLY WAS UNHAPPY WITH MY SITUATION. WHEN I REALIZED I WAS GAY, I STOPPED DENYING THAT FACT. ONE FRIDAY EVENING I RECALL GOING TO A VERY POPULAR DISCO IN WEST HOLLYWOOD, “STUDIO ONE”. THIS DISCO AND GAY BAR WAS VERY POPULAR WITH THE “IN CROWD”, LIKE STUDIO 54 IN NEW YORK CITY. AS I RECALL, I WAS TREATED RUDELY, GIVEN ATTITUDE AND WASN’T WELCOMED. NOW I UNDERSTAND THAT EVERYONE ISN’T EVERY BODY’S “TYPE’, BUT THAT EXPERIENCE CHANGED ME IN MORE WAYS THAN I COULD UNDERSTAND. I NOTICED A MAJORITY OF THE MEN ON THE DANCE FLOOR AND IN THE BAR WERE PHYSICALLY FIT, “GYM BUNNIES”, AND GENERALLY WERE GOOD LOOKING. PREVIOUS TO THIS, I’D HAD A FEW DATES WITH FEMALES BUT SOMEHOW IT NEVER CLICKED WITH ME THAT I WAS GAY. ANYWAY, I DECIDED TO LOSE THE WEIGHT, GET FIT AND FINALLY, HAVE THE LIFE I DESERVED. I ALSO JOINED A GYM AND GOT REAL SERIOUS, SO MUCH SO I WAS GOING TO THE GYM 7 DAYS PER WEEK, COME RAIN OR SHINE. THANKFULLY, I FOUND A DIET THAT WORKED FOR ME, ONE I COULD STAY ON AND NOT BE HUNGRY AND ONE THAT OVER THE YEARS, HELPED ME SHED 200 LBS. THIS WASN’T EASY, IT CAME IN SPURTS, I PLATEAUED OFTEN, BUT I WAS DETERMINED TO MAKE THE NEW ME HAPPEN, “COME HELL OR HIGH WATER” LOSING AN APPRECIABLE AMOUNT OF WEIGHT ISN’T EASY AND ANYONE WHO FLIPPANTLY SAYS “GO ON A DIET AND LOSE SOME WEIGHT’ HAS NO IDEA HOW HARD IT IS. IT IS USUALLY SOME MORON WHO’S NEVER HAD WEIGHT ISSUES AND NEVER HAS HAD TO LOSE WEIGHT AND KEEP IT OFF. DUE TO BODY ISSUES I’VE HAD SINCE I WAS A YOUTH, AND YOU GUESSED IT, I WAS BULLIED IN SCHOOL, I’VE ALWAYS FELT CONSCIOUS ABOUT MY WEIGHT. TODAY, i STILL HAVE TO WATCH WHAT I EAT, AND HONESTLY, OVER THE YEARS, FOODS I LOVED WHEN I WAS OBESE, DON’T INTEREST ME LIKE THEY USED TO. I FIND MYSELF ATTRACTED TO GUYS IN SHAPE, WEIGHT IN PROPORTION TO HEIGHT AND FRANKLY DON’T MIND A GUY HAVING A FEW LBS ON HIS FRAME AS LONG AS I’M INTO HIM AND VICE VERSA. YES THE GAY COMMUNITY CAN BE CRUEL AND VERY JUDGMENTAL, BUT SO CAN STRAIGHT SOCIETY.
Trippy
@I’m Black, and HIV-Positive.:
At the moment, I happen to be dating a man who teaches a course at a local university on social media, blogging, and web presence. He’s a PhD in psychology, so he comes at his subject matter from that perspective. I showed him collective posts yesterday and asked him what he thought. This is what he said:
“Clearly, he has some issues. I’d guess, based on his comments, that he’s a white guy pretending to be black. He’s gay, but not really out. He probably wants to be straight, and he’s probably not poz. His linguistic style says to me ‘here’s how those silly black queens talk, and I hate them, so I’m going to do my best to show everyone how stupid they are’.”
“So he’s a bigot? And a self-hating homosexual?”
“Yes, clearly self-hating, and probably a bigot as well. Probably in his 40’s. This isn’t an official diagnosis. Just, you know, first impressions. I will say that he’s incredibly hostile toward others, and seems to enjoy being in the spotlight. No doubt he’s socially awkward. I would guess that he has no real friends, resents those who do, and so he lashes out and revels in the negative attention he’s getting on the site. Negative attention is better than no attention.”
“Any recommendations?”
“Yes. Report him.”
“Did that. I flagged the comment he directed at me. He’s still there.”
“In that case, just ignore him. He needs (craves) attention. You guys are giving him exactly what he wants. Like I said, negative attention satisfies him. If you refuse to respond to his posts, he’ll ramp it up hoping to get a reaction, but if you continue to ignore him, treating him like a ghost, he’ll head for greener pastures.”
buffnightwing
@Trippy: Whatever he or she is, the comments need to be taken down. The real question is where is Queerty?
Do we want to stay on a website where they don’t care about the very POLICY they have at the top of the page?
This guy is mentally ill, and maybe he is HIV positive and not taking his meds. That would explain the dementia and the hate attacks. HIV can really mess with your body after a long time doing damage.
Trippy
@buffnightwing: True…or he could be a straight bigot just here to mess with us. Who knows!? Either way, he’s crossed the line. You’re correct that he’s violating Q’s policies, and yes… he’s going to drive away a lot of us. Sad but true.
1EqualityUSA
Trippy, He works in the jail or prison system and is so bored with his job that he posts on Q. The lingo is osmotically picked up in his environment.
Comixbear
Screw this place. In almost EVERY single comment here, people decide to focus on his weight (so they can be morally superior) and offer advice that he ALREADY KNOWS instead of commenting on the contest that fucked him over.
Trippy
@Comixbear: You make a valid point. The true bad guys in this piece are the vacuous idiots who ripped away his crown and tossed him on trash heap. They should be called out. It was shameful and cowardly.
DarkZephyr
@Comixbear: I agree. First off, he isn’t likely even reading the comments here, this story did not originate with Queerty, and I am sure these “friendly note” givers know this. Secondly, as you said, he probably *already knows* the things that his gay brothers are posting here ad nauseam and doesn’t need to hear it over and over again even if he were reading the comments here.
KMF11
Oh Come on! get real people! He is not sexy in any way. He might be funny, smart and a nice person but him winning that competition is bullshit. It’s offensive actually. It’s obvious he was their charity case and he has the audacity to say it’s unfair that he was disqualified, when he shouldn’t have been in the competition in the first place. Mr. Gay UK is for pretty and sexy people, just deal with it and accept the fact that not everyone is “beautiful in their own unique way”. This is the real world, so wake up and stop kidding yourself.
vive
@Trippy, I don’t know if you are responding to a comment that was taken down, but I don’t find fault with his long comment in support of Louca (the overweight contestant) and calling out the hypocrisy of some gay men commenting here (and of the organizers of that contest).
On the other hand, I find a lot wrong with your ad hominem “diagnosis” of him. Even if true, that is just nasty on your part, and what good can come of it?
Trippy
@vive: Sorry, it’s not nasty. That “man” has been launching VILE attacks on multiple threads for a long time. In the past week or so they’ve only gotten worse. You can scan the comment threads and see for yourself. I have no problem disagreeing with a commenter or seeing that one has disagreed with me, but he attacks, curses, and threatens people daily. He’s disgusting and I have zero patience for that sort of thing. If it continues, I’ll seek out my news and fun elsewhere. I’m fairly certain that others will, too.
Besides, I’m not even sure that he’s gay… or black… or poz… or even sane.
NG22
Louca is more than his weight. He is more than his body. Just because someone isn’t a sexual object doesn’t mean he doesn’t deserve decency and respect. He’s a human being first, and he’s inherently no better or worse than the rest of us. (Okay, let’s be honest, he’s better than a few of us.)
For me, this isn’t a question about his weight, body, or appearance. It’s a question about a competition governing body that disregarded a ‘lawful’ (for lack of a better word) victory, and created retroactive policies to undermine a just victory. All for superficial reasons that feel more ugly than Louca could ever be.
I think Louca’s story can teach us all something about how we treat others. It’s not about lying, leading someone on, or feigning attraction. It’s about not being terrible to someone because you’re not attracted to him, and because he’s an easy target. Listening to him — how people harass him in social settings, just because — is heartbreaking.
I thought we were the people who stood up against bullying.
Blackceo
@Comixbear:
You are right. I didn’t even talk about how he got screwed over by the competition by that weak ass technicality, which was the main article of the story. However, I stand by my comments, which I think we’re supportive and just real. No he won’t see the comments as was pointed out here, but how many of the people written in articles see the comments we post here. So that is a lame argument. If you don’t like what I had to say I’m trying to look for a f*ck to give but can’t seem to find any.
Paco
@NG22: “I thought we were the people who stood up against bullying.”
Our “community” is only against bullying when it is homophobes bullying gays. When it comes to bullying our own… it’s open season on all with hardly any pushback against the bullies. That’s how it often seems to be anyway.
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If Mr. Louca was voted the winner, then he should be acknowledged as the winner and the organizers should do a better job of disqualifying contestants during the competition rather than after the fact. It really makes them look bad.
ktlong
‘Sexy’ is not based on one person’s opinion only. If that were true, why do we classify ourselves in so many ways? Twinks? Bears? Bulls? If you don’t find this man sexy …that is fine ….but do Not presume to tell me or someone else who is and is not sexy. I might completely and uncategorically disagree.
As far as the article … I applaud this courageous man! Best of luck to him in finding a wonderful person for a relationship.
DarkZephyr
@KMF11: Your notion of what is sexy is not everybody’s notion of what is sexy. That’s the truth. That is something that you need to come to accept. I am not personally usually into chubs (there have been acceptations however and I do like bears and husky guys in addition to athletic men and twinks) but I know multiple men who find men like Louca to be absolutely irresistible, they have even used the term “god” for big men. They are called chubby chasers and their community is a lot more widespread than you might think. One of my very best friends has educated me to this fact. So I think the one kidding himself here is you. YOU find big men unattractive and the notion that others might seems to p*** you off to no end. Its not gonna hurt you that big men get some love, you know. Live and let live.
@Blackceo: Its not an “argument” that I made, just pointing out a cold hard fact while I agreed with comixbear.
“we’re supportive and just real”
I am thinking that this kind of “support” is the kind that he gets quite enough, probably every single day.
jwtraveler
@NG22: I’m with you 100%.@Paco: And, unfortunately, I agree with you too, although not the part about disqualifying him sooner. Anyone who wants to should be allowed to compete and evaluated according to the rules of the contest. I don’t know what the rules of this contest were, but apparently his victory was achieved within those parameters.
Paco
@jwtraveler: No argument there. The organizers should have had to supply underwear for all sizes. To disqualify him because the underwear they supplied didn’t fit, is their problem. Not his. I’m willing to bet that one of the contestants pitched a fit about it when Mr. Louca was voted the winner. I don’t think he should have been disqualified at all, but to do it after he was declared the winner, looks really bad.
Jack77
This right here is the reason people commit suicide. Our community is so obsessed with “physical” beauty and arbitrary ideals of what’s beautiful that people suffer at the hands of their own community. You hateful judgemental typical men who act high and mighty and superior. You are the reason why biggots, and hate mongers judge us so harshly. This man was robbed of his win no matter why or how he won HE WON! And no one should take that away from him ever. What harm does it cause, what does it hurt them to let him when. If theh really cared which they don’t because they are all sanctimonious ass hats like some of you people. They could have turned his life around made him their success story. Helped him lose weight of that’s what he desires. He’ll even helped him find a man. Made themselves look like true humanitarians and maybe even helped foster love and acceptance, but no they threw him away just like every one of you hateful people who dismiss him because he’s fat. It’s a damn shame.
DarkZephyr
@Jack77: *Thunderous Applause*
I'm Black, and HIV-Positive.
@buffnightwing: Your comment must seriously have been posted in embarrassment. I called everyone out on this board who didn’t actually focus on the misdeed itself, and you took offense to that even though you hadn’t even posted a comment on the board yet yourself, but I noticed you still didn’t want to actually acknowledge the actual point that I was making in my post yet either. Just a mindless attack.
Maybe I should thank you proving me right about what kind of person you are then. There clearly isn’t a mind working there, and I knew that you would only end up exposing yourself with your level of bigotry, and hatred. And I also see that you still haven’t learned how to stop projecting all of your negative qualities onto other people.
Well, nice try razist. And I say that for all of the other attacks, and lies you’ve spread throughout Queerty here your damned self you “illegitimate gay person”. Atleast I’m only in danger of being called a fake gay person, because I have a heart. Whereas you and your merry band of cyber bullies on the other hand are in danger of being exposed as not even being human.
And I additionally see that you tried to spin doctor a story for everyone else who didn’t know that I’ve already contacted Queerty about your constant stalking of my posts, bullying, and rasist innuendos here twice myself already? Mad that I have self respect, and the self confidence necessary that it takes to stand up to bullies like you? Yeah, but let that also stand as a marker of how weak you are. And if I help just one other person here to stand up to you too then my work here is done! Because you’re nothing to be afraid of. Just to pity.
Have fun sleeping in the gutter. When you make friends with asses like Dark Zephyr that’s exactly where you wind up!
Saint Law
It was either pressure from the company what makes the underpants – or their anticipated disapproval by the promoters on the night – that was responsible for Stavros being ruled out of the competition despite winning the heat.
The Black Cap is my local. I wasn’t there that night as the whole idea of Mr Gay UK gives me the dry heaves, but to their credit, the organisation responsible didn’t know that Stavros had been found ineligible and have since issued a statement reinstating him in the comp.
Saint Law
@Trippy: ‘Black and HIV Positive’ isn’t black or HIV positive – he’s an ageing suburban HIV negative white man’s idea of an angry black man in drag gleaned from what watching the ‘Big Momma’s House’franchise.
I don’t think he should he banned though. It’s lol to watch him work his way in to an aneurysm.
Saint Law
@Saint Law: “what watching”
*Hiccups.
Saint Law
@I’m Black, and HIV-Positive.: Ha ha ha! And here he is right on cue wanking himself in to a stroke.
I'm Black, and HIV-Positive.
@Trippy: You need to believe that I’m not a real person, or you need to believe that I’m not really a gay, black man? Because it’s funny to me that you would immediately jump to discrediting a person’s identity just because that meant that you had to then take a step back, and learn something about yourself. What was the quality that I displayed that made you say that I wasn’t black? Heart & temerity? Boy! You and your supposed boyfriend must really be rasist! Maybe that should be the issue.
Funny how you even tried to say that I must be a white person, because I displayed a heart, and showed tenacity against your torrent of attacks, but then you still didn’t show solidarity in my thinking. You must really hate black people! But more than that. You must really hate gay, black people! And that’s the issue isn’t it? That is the elephant in the room that you don’t want to address, because even if you thought that a straight white man knew to present himself like me in order to make that point clear then you’ve already lost the battle. Because you just acknowledged that even a straight white man can see here that you are the problem.
And was I supposed to be flattered at reading you put together a thesis paper showing that my cognitive brain patterns are equivalent to that of a straight white man? Man! You and your boyfriend are really rasist! Maybe it’s the other way around, and you’ve been getting that wrong since the beginning of time you bunch of seething rasists! Additionally, maybe you should seek help for that little problem of yours?! Gay black men are real, and we do sometimes show alot more heart and temerity than you (and your doctor boyfriend) apparently! I’ll give you thing: It is funny how there’s never been one here on Queerty before though (slight jab).
“In that case, just ignore him. He needs (craves) attention. You guys are giving him exactly what he wants. Like I said, negative attention satisfies him. If you refuse to respond to his posts, he’ll ramp it up hoping to get a reaction, but if you continue to ignore him, treating him like a ghost, he’ll head for greener pastures.”
Funny how you didn’t follow his advice then, and even posted it to me directly. That tells me your lying. I wonder what your supposed doctor boyfriend would say that meant about your mental disposition then. He’d probably assess that you had a crush on me! Tell me something. Is your supposed doctor boyfriend a black man now? Lol. I wonder if this man that you claim to be dating is really the person here who doesn’t exist.
Lastly you say that if I don’t stop then all of the people who are like you will leave? You mean all the rasists? Because you can go Trippy. Trust me on this one. In fact just go! You won’t be missed (with your hollow threats), and take your mixed bag of insensitive, rasist, internet bullies with you! I’m sure that where ever you go that Dark Zephyr will be happy to be in your company. Just as long as you’re there. I told you that you should have changed your name to Trippin all along just to be honest, and accurate in the first place.
Go to Hell bitches!
I'm Black, and HIV-Positive.
@DarkZephyr: *Thunderous Applause* @ Jack77.
Umm. You’ve got some nerve applauding his response dumb-ass. He was talking about YOU!
I'm Black, and HIV-Positive.
@Saint Law: “Ha ha ha! And here he is right on cue wanking himself in to a stroke.”
I repeat: Either you’re really rasist, or you’re really mentally unstable, or you have a crush on me! Either way, I’ve already rejected you time & time again, so don’t you think it’s time that you got on to the next stage of your denial or loss, and just committed suicide already? I mean really? You’re being really pathetic. I’m embarrassed for you.
I'm Black, and HIV-Positive.
@1EqualityUSA: “Trippy, He works in the jail or prison system and is so bored with his job that he posts on Q. The lingo is osmotically picked up in his environment.”
Ha ha ha! You’re so funny bitch! Where’d you pick that up? The sewage plant where you work?
I'm Black, and HIV-Positive.
Don’t get scared now bitches!
buffnightwing
@I’m Black, and HIV-Positive.: Since queerty can’t even seem to repond to the HATE speech that you spew, I am OFF this website for good.
GOODBYE QUEERTY.
I hope you make black and hiv positive the NEW EDITOR.
Black and HIV positive. GO_FUCK_YOURSELF UP THE_ASS!
buffnightwing
@I’m Black, and HIV-Positive.: WOW. This is serious and where is QUEERTY?
You are a total loser. LOSER
I hate you for bringing our community down to this shit.
If you were in a waiting room for HIV doctors, you would be THROWN OUT FOREVER for talking like you do.
GO GET HELP.
LOSER
niles
Come on, people. This was like in the movie Carrie, where they nominated her out of pity. Someone that heavy is a danger not only to himself, but to others in close proximity to his extreme bulk. We do not want to see our icons with huge rolls of flesh cascading from their torsos. This male beauty contest was right to snatch his crown, especially with the issue of not obeying the pageant rules. Dry your eyes, you bunch of wailing pussies, life is for the fit and fine – not the fat and fugly.
hijinxross
This makes me angry! This guy had the guts to do something many with “ideal” bodies would not do and how do people react? Not just the way he was slighted by the article and pageant but the comments with this article are horrible! We do not know his medical history or conditions, and they are none of our business. If he is trying to find his happy, why do we have to break him down? As part of a group of people that is a big target of discrimination I will never understand why we must hate each other so much just because someone is not our “type.” Not that it matters but I am far from perfect like most but in pretty damn good shape for my age because I want to be and my health conditions and finances allow for it.
KMF11
@niles: I agree with everything you said, except for the last sentence :p A bit harsh!
KMF11
@hijinxross: Good for him for being courageous and believing he is sexy and is qualified to enter a beauty contest. But truth of the matter is, it is a BEAUTY contest, for fit and sexy people. i think we can all stop pretending that sexy comes in all shapes and sizes and that everyone is beautiful. I am sorry, life is not fair. Not everyone is born beautiful or sexy. If you had the choice to sleep with Colton Haynes or Joe Manganiello vs Chris Farley or Luis Guzman, who would you choose???? (google them if you don’t know what they look like)
Plus, applauding him for trying out for this competition is like applauding a disabled man for entering a 100 meter race. It is not his place! Simple as that.
KMF11
@DarkZephyr:Good for him for being courageous and believing he is sexy and is qualified to enter a beauty contest. But truth of the matter is, it is a BEAUTY contest, for fit and sexy people. i think we can all stop pretending that sexy comes in all shapes and sizes and that everyone is beautiful. I am sorry, life is not fair. Not everyone is born beautiful or sexy. If you had the choice to sleep with Colton Haynes or Joe Manganiello vs Chris Farley or Luis Guzman, who would you choose???? (google them if you don’t know what they look like)
Plus, applauding him for trying out to this competition is like applauding a disabled man for entering a 100 meter race. It is not his place! Simple as that.
I'm Black, and HIV-Positive.
@buffnightwing: Since queerty can’t even seem to repond to the HATE speech that you spew, I am OFF this website for good.
GOODBYE QUEERTY.”
Ding dong the witch is dead!
You didn’t want beef with me, then maybe you shouldn’t have stalked my posts, and attacked, berated, and bullied me senselessly all over Queerty, and for whatever sick pleasure your warped mind received from it. You even illustrated here on this page that you weren’t even being referenced in my posts before you showed up to do nothing but lie, crybaby for attention, and attack. Good thing I’m stronger than assholes like you though.
You need to learn to respect people whether they are gay, straight, black, or even HIV-positive. Funny that you didn’t get that basic message on a website that was set up, and designed to showcase the many diverse arrays of gay personalities by allowing them the freedom to provide their opinions at the ends of their articles. I am genuinely enthralled at how different, and multifaceted gay men are in actuality. But you? You in the end you are a lesson: What not to be! Sick & disgraceful.
“I hope you make black and hiv positive the NEW EDITOR.”
I hope they do too. Or someone else with enough common sense to understand that you only tried to create a moral vacuum by which you could have the power undercover to bully, and intimidate all of the regular people who come here to read, and comment on the stories.
“Black and HIV positive. GO_FUCK_YOURSELF UP THE_ASS!”
Nice tongue on that girl, huh? Bye Felicia. And I hate to debunk “the myth” about black men, but my black d*ck isn’t that long. Lol. It’s just your regular, average, everyday ten inches, but I maybe I just have a nicer ass than most too then though. You have some nerve associating all gay men with your low class level of mean spiritedness bigotry. You hated me just from my name alone. Draw some conclusions about who you really are from this experience.
I'm Black, and HIV-Positive.
@buffnightwing: “WOW. This is serious and where is QUEERTY? You are a total loser. LOSER”
Ha ha ha! Where is Queerty? Probably taking note of just how toxic and venomous you are for this environment yourself. You certainly do sling alot of insults yourself for the being the self-proclaimed innocent victim, and hero of the story. Never a conscious eye on your own behavior you charlatan? I’d never champion a villain like you, and it’s a lesson for all of the other gays out there: You’re not allowed to hate just because you are hated. There is such a thing as taking the high road, as I have displayed here. Afterall, like they say: The proof is in the pudding.
“I hate you for bringing our community down to this shit.”
Ooo. My ears are burning now. Hate, hate, hate! Take note: You actually wrote that! No spin doctoring involved! And that’s actually exactly the double standard under which you operate. Not that I wanted to be so hateful, but that you accused me of everything that your own ugly little heart was secretly guilty of is speaking volumes. I’ve never seen something so ugly. You’re like the witch dissolving after being doused with a bucket of water. And water is meant to cleanse you. Your inside ugly is reaching to the surface, and it’s a sure sign of a weakness of character, and a cowardice of both spirit and nature.
“If you were in a waiting room for HIV doctors, you would be THROWN OUT FOREVER for talking like you do.”
If I were in a waiting room for doctors? As opposed to a waiting room in the lobby of a bank waiting to see the president? After hearing your mouth bitch you would be the one to be thrown out honey, because anyone with a brain can see that you attacked me for being either black, or for being HIV-positive with no provocation in the first place at all. Trying to make a rasist argument that we all just should be labeled violent by virtue of not being you? And quite frankly you wouldn’t have even been let inside in the first place. See, because for one I can’t believe that you didn’t get that my “HIV doctor” could have been (and is) a black woman! You’re so rasist, hateful and small-minded. And she would help me stomp your bigot ass into the curb. She’s a soldier too! And she cares about me a great deal. You hate that I have that: People who care about me! You wouldn’t believe how healthy I am.
“GO GET HELP.”
You go get help honey. Where ever it is that you, and all the hatred that you won’t let go of are running to next!
“LOSER”
Projecting again? My first comment for you is now my last. Which proves that you didn’t learn anything. Did you? You’re a quivering ball of fear and cowardice. I pity you.
onthemark
“buffnightwing” vs. “I’m Black, and HIV-Positive”:
Talk about the pot calling the kettle black. So to speak. “Ha ha ha!”
buffnightwing has generally been a nasty pr!ck here so if he’s really gone, good riddance.
Garrett
@I’m Black, and HIV-Positive.: Lord girl. Get hold of yourself. Have a martini and calm down. Nobody likes a screamer.
machuffin
@moonman157: Our community doesn’t preach tolerance. It wants it. It does not give it.
I'm Black, and HIV-Positive.
@Garrett: Lol.
Mike Maser
Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes..
Santio M. Hudson
It’s bad enough to be judged by unopened minded straight people but to be judged by your own kind it’s just down right pitiful. Just love one other and stop being judgemental. Nobody perfect