5 Ways Gays Outflank Straights When Hunting For Love Online


OK Cupid collected the personality traits and interests of gay and straight cisgenders from their personal profiles and put them into these handy graphics. In the first chart the LESBIANS LOOK LIKE ROCK STARS!!! Adventurous, kinky, horny, violent, and into drugs??!! Sign me up! All I need now is to be a woman. Could it be that having already defied traditional gender roles lesbian women feel freer to express their kinky, horny, artsy, violent, sides more often than straight women? Are the lesbians just being true to themselves or expressing those things because they figure other lesbians will appreciate them as much as straight men might appreciate a religious, polite woman who like sports?

In contrast the straight guys come off as dorky meatheads and gay guys seem like sensitive art nerds. But remember the chart only shows which group expresses a certain trait more often than the other. So while straight guys may have expressed their adventurous side 10% more often than than gay men, gay and straight men are almost equally generous, competitive, and kinky too.

In contrast, the interest lists designate which pop-cultural signifiers men and women use to express their sexuality and make themselves more attractive to others. At first glance, the hetero lists come off as boring and typically sex-typed — of course straight guys like cars and straight women like lip gloss. But what’s more interesting is that the straight lists have lots of generalities like “country music” and “sports” while the gay lists tend to mention specific artists and artworks. Maybe the limited amount of gay characters and gay-themed media have bottlenecked our shared pop-culture experience into a more specific set than straights as a larger group can refer to. After all, almost every show has straight characters and creators — but you really have to be in the know to find gay media.

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  • TomEM

    Impressive: You folks did an excellent job writing this up, and arranging it, for Queerty.

  • Lawrence

    I have never been so happy to live in Canada! :P

  • Chris

    Uh, I’m going to go out on a limb and say that way more than 1 percent of gay men have had more than 20 partners. I doubt they’re using OK Cupid, though, considering I’d never heard of it before reading this article. Wonder what the stats from adam4adam would look like?

  • Charlie

    Errrrrrr… here’s the thing with OK Cupid. Even if someone doesn’t get to actually see your responses the internal system will keep you from matching up with people that are outside of what you say you want. So it is tempting to not answer questions accurately so that you seem like a better match.

  • Charlie

    It’s probably also worth pointing out that OK Cupid only has the data for people who are actively looking for a relationship. Gay folks that just want to hook up won’t be counted on OKCupid.

  • Ash

    @Lawrence: Haha, me too! That orange was a happy sight to see.

  • TR

    Oregon oh oregon! the bi-curious-est state in the union!!!!
    so proud to be from the beaver state.

  • dukeofhurl

    Ummm…correct me if I’m wrong but is Queerty failing at geography now, too? Oregon appears to be the most red state in that map, not Washington.

  • Nate

    1. I want to move to Canada.
    2. There is no way strait men are as horny as gay men…unless they are horny because they are not getting any.
    3. congratulations quested, this report is amazing, and very nicely put together

  • fabul0us03081992

    I have a friend and he is a gay. I always try to find some perfect guy for him and even create an accountant here And at last he is happy and even engaged! I am so happy for him=) I can’t wait his wedding=)

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