Hey Jake,
I’m one of the 47,000+ people who follows Aaron Schock on Instagram. When Queerty was reporting on him a while back, I read every article. The man is a hot mess. Emphasis on the “hot.” Now, I get it. He’s awful. Not only did he do harmful things to LGBTQ people when he was in office, but he seems like a real narcissist who’s incapable of self-reflection. Which is why it brings me great distress to admit… He’s totally my type. (Minus his political leanings.) You can’t deny he has an amazing body. And his face isn’t bad either. When his nudes leaked, I’ll admit, I peeked. I would never in a million years date him, but if he tapped me on Grindr, I’d tap back. And if he wanted to hookup, I probably would, but I would NOT tell my friends about it. Does this make me a bad person?
Sincerely,
Totally Schocked At Myself
Dear Totally Schocked As Yourself,
How about we take this to the next level?
Our newsletter is like a refreshing cocktail (or mocktail) of LGBTQ+ entertainment and pop culture, served up with a side of eye-candy.
Physical attraction is physical attraction, plain and simple. Sure, sometimes a person who we might have otherwise thought of as super-hot can become less attractive once you get to know them, their views, or what they stand for. But other times, that’s simply not possible. We are biological creatures, after all, and there are certain prototypes that get those hormones raging.
You’re right. There’s no denying Aaron Schock has a great physical physique… if you’re into that sort of thing. The washboard abs, the defined chest, the square jaw, the handsome face. And there’s no shame in finding him attractive, as that’s out of your control.
That said, I would like to add a caveat here. While you can’t control that you find attractive, you can control whether to follow him on Instagram or whether to hook up with him, should he hit you up. Know that by doing those things, you’re agreeing to give him the validation that some people, especially people from the LGBTQ community, feel he may not deserve.
A lot of people would probably say that, after years of opposing gay rights in Congress, you giving him what he so desperately seeks (read: attention) may be sending a message that “everything is forgiven.” Sure, maybe having some compassion can be awarded here, but simply caving into his thirst traps might be indicating that not only is his deplorable past forgotten, but it really doesn’t matter because he’s hot.
Is that something you really want to perpetuate? Do you want to let pure unadulterated lust override your sense of decency and morality?
As evolved humans, we do have the capacity to not always act on our lustful desires. Maybe this is an instance where admiring from afar is okay, or even engaging in a little fantasy from time to time (Aaron Schock role plays, anyone?). But before you actually interact with the guy–and, yes, “liking” his Instagram posts counts as interacting–ask yourself, “is he truly worth it?”
Jake Myers is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and the Founder of Gay Therapy Space, the first online therapy platform for and by the LGBTQ community. He has a Masters in Clinical Psychology from Antioch University Los Angeles, with a specialization in LGBT Affirmative Psychotherapy.
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Liquid Silver
Nope, not a horrible person. My ex was exactly my physical type. He was trim, built, covered in apricot-colored hair, and so on and so on.
He just wasn’t a very nice person. There’s no harm, no foul in being physically attracted as long as you don’t make the mistake of encouraging bad behavior. Which is why my ex is my ex.
Keep Aaron in your fantasies and look for a nice Democratic gay who looks like him. There are plenty.
Aaron
Probably the most mature response. Kudos.
BoomerMyles
Brian Sims. WOOF!
GayConservMan
OR, let people have their OWN beliefs and opinions and respect them for that – as they respect you. This entire thought process of ‘I can’t date or fuk you because you don’t believe like me’ is ridiculous.
WashDrySpin
@GayConservMan
This is how conservatives think…don’t judge me on my heinous actions or inactions…move past that in order to get to the skin…you do not have a moral compass to think that someone should separate themselves from their ideology
DarkZephyr
@GayConservMan Its not about “you don’t believe like me”, its about actual negative action taken against the LGBT community. I get along great with plenty of people who don’t *believe* like me. This is about *actions*. Aaron Schock is a bad person who’s done bad things to the LGBT community who hasn’t shown one drop of remorse yet. And when it comes to the broader GOP, they consistently try to hurt the LGBT community through legislation. I will *never* date anybody like that because I am not self loathing. What I don’t understand is why gay men like you enable and defend that kind of stuff. As for the “respect” angle…they don’t “respect” us at all. Are you kidding?? How can you respect someone and yet support discrimination against that person??? It makes no logical sense.
GayConservMan
and @DarkZephyr, he apologized for those things. When you are scared of your own truth, and scared of something that you feel like is wrong, you do things from that fear. It does not make it right, but HE DID apologize. But of course, there’s 0 forgiveness of the pasts of other people UNLESS you are a DEMOCRAT. Remember, y’all, it wasn’t too long ago that BIDEN, CLINTON and the rest of the dems ALSO disagreed with gay marriage.
Cam
@GayConservMan
Oh, is the right wing troll account STILL trying that tired old defense of hiding hatred, bigotry, working to harm the community, self hating, etc. behind the words “Having their own opinion”?
As I say to you under all of your screenames…..your troll game is sad and tired.
wikidBSTN
Yes GayConservMan – that is why you would have dated Adolf Hitler if you found him attractive, but just disagreed with his politics. Well said.
WillParkinson
@GayConservMan
So he spent his adult life holding gay people back by his own cowardice, while he was luxuriating in his closeted privilege, and an apology is supposed to make us forget those things? Sorry, but forgiveness needs to be earned, and those who were victimized by his arrogance and idiocy owe him nothing. We don’t HAVE to forgive our abusers.
DarkZephyr
@GayConservMan When did he apologize? I read his coming out story, there was not one apology to be found in it. I would have been a LOT more impressed had he *actually* said “I am terribly sorry for the untold damage and hurt that I have caused the LGBTQ community” but he didn’t. And once again, the GOP does more than merely “disagree”. You sure do love to downplay their anti-LGBT action and deed.
AxelDC
He makes me ill. He has a nice physique because he doesn’t work and lives off stolen money. When he was in Congress, he hypocritically supported all the Republican antigay agenda while he was using tax money to fly his tricks around. He left Congress because he was embezzling taxpayer money.
No outer beauty can compensate for such an ugly, unethical personality.
Donston
Let’s be real. Aaron looks like a sea of random white guys who thirst trap on social media. There’s nothing standout or distinct there. A lot of folks who follow him are into him because he was a closeted, corrupt Conservative who voted for anti “queer” legislation. His history turns them on. It’s a kink. That’s what a lot of these folks who stay on his jock and give him follows and likes don’t want to admit.
frapachino
Someone’s not getting laid by the hot white guys!
Goforit
In answer to the question; yes, it makes you a horrible person.
bgeorge59
Agree right to the point.. he s a piece of trash! What he did as a congressman to the LGBTQ community should not be forgiven. Watch porn, there are many more attractive men and you see everything.
barryaksarben
I have to agree with you 100%. As another person commented there are a million other white guys with the very same attributes so find a good one and leave the one that has a rotten black soul out yr mind. You may have found Saddam or Putin is your type but there is no excuse to give them any attention. this guy harmed gay people and should NEVER be forgiven to he at the very least apologizes without making us look like the bad guys for pointing out his flaws like his so called apology was. He is trash and should be stepped over like the pile of dogshit he is.
WashDrySpin
Aaron is the epitome of gay white privilege, he is only about his body because when he had power he did nothing to benefit gays or other marginalized groups…he is a pathetic human
IWantAFullBeard
Imagine the exceptional fear he must feel knowing that his only positive asset will fade overtime. At a certain age, he will truly become worthless.
barryaksarben
He is dogshit and as my dad said “you play with shit you get it on YOU” so dont play with shit
Vince
IWantAFullBeard
Not everyone fancies a twink darling. Believe it or not there are those of us that are very much into..gulp…mature men.
HankHarris
Ugly on the inside negates whatever physical beauty he may possess.
AZ71
How handsome is he when he takes a gay person behind a building and beats the living daylights out of them? Cause that’s effectively what his policies he stood for did. Moreso…since he’s out and proud now, what has he done to make up for this? Does he campaign and try to talk to other republicans to change their opinions and policies? I would think as a former member of Congress he owes us that at minimum.
WashDrySpin
Aaron is nothing but an elite body nazi gay that would never interact with anyone that is not a clone of him and that includes race
HaguePeter
Can people change?
WashDrySpin
Aaron has not shown any change…he is flying all over the world getting his hole plugged
Donston
Did he “change” though? He’s always been obsessed with promoting his looks and body. He hasn’t apologized for the way he voted and the politics he promoted. He hasn’t apologized for using tax-payers money on vacations and on his boytoys. When “coming out” he claimed that he wasn’t on no “gay” stuff when in office, which is very likely a lie. The only things that have changed is that he’s “out” and no longer in office.
Prinny
The answer is yes
powersthatbe
The Gym: Helping ugly people (inside and out) get laid since 1848.
Fahd
This reminds me of when college kids used to write in to Ann Landers with outlandish, but just barely possibly credible, scenarios – the contest/challenge was to see if Ann would take the bait and take the question/scenario as authentic and offer sincere advice.
Nothing really that special about standard 30/40-something gym bunny Aaron Schock – you can take the boy out of Peoria, but you can’t take the Peoria out of the boy.
He hasn’t done nearly enough penance (community service) to be redeemed. He doesn’t seem to have taken responsibility and he just managed to slip through the justice system with the help of some good lawyers.
Any man who lusts after Shock or follows him as a fan might not be a horrible person, but he is engaged in behavior of which he should be ashamed – he needs to ask himself why he would do such a thing.
IWantAFullBeard
His left quad looks like it has a tumor and is bloated.
lord.krath
He is meat. So no it doesn’t make you a bad person; enjoy.
But if you liked his personality, that would be quite another thing.
Since we’re objectifying him it’s not an issue. How many of you would actually interview someone before ogling someone or sleeping with them? What are we doing when we see a cute guy and wonder if he is single without even saying a word? Think about all those ludicrous “husband material” on thirst trap posts for people we don’t know personally; like at all.
Finally, the real question we should ask ourselves is: “isn’t objectifying humans bad?”
Personally, if their entire existence is reduced to that objectification and it confers an advantage or disadvantage, then I’d say yes. But admiring meat in and of itself isn’t a problem. People do need to keep in mind that people’s thoughts are their own.
Does that make me bad? Who cares?
Donston
I do think giving him likes and follows is doing too much if you’re that self-conscious about it and that concerned with being a “bad person”. You can get off to him without giving him that validation. And as I said, what is so stand-out about Aaron? It just seems like the main reason folks would still be that into Aaron is the sensationalism and fetish behind his past behaviors and politics and status.
greekboy
Why no! Being attracted to him doesn’t make you a bad person. You already are a bad person.
PoetDaddy
Yes, it does. I would block you in a hot nanosecond.
Jon in Canada
Well, if you’re ok with being thirsty for a homocon and who actively sought to restrict/deny LGBTQ rights while in the closet, I guess it’s fine…oh who am I kidding? If you’re that self-absorbed and shallow then YES, you are a horrible person. Have some damn standards and principles for fake Christ’s sake.
BoomerMyles
This guy has talked about running again for public office.
The damage his anti-gay voting record and policies must NEVER be forgotten.
Give him zero likes and attention and do what you can to stifle any of his political aspirations.
Just snap a rainbow rubberband around your wrist when you catch yourself thirsting after him.
Alex_S
This trash is long time forgotten. Why bring Aaron Schock over and over again? Need clicks, Queerty?
Frank Lee Mideer
I’m 70 years old and came out at 19. I’ve seen a lot of people, angels and devils. EVERYONE makes mistakes in their lives. Give the guy a break and stop constantly berating him! Who will stop casting stones???
Hdtex
B@LLSHIT. He voted against my basic civil rights while privately being a meth-addled pass-around party bottom. He’s GARBAGE, and so are you for defending him. I don’t care how old you are. It just makes you old and stupid.
WashDrySpin
Nope I am casting stones because it is the right thing to do against Aaron
WillParkinson
If he honestly put forth the effort to earn forgiveness, maybe. But he’s the same person he always has been. The same one who voted time and again against gay people. That’s not something that simply goes away.
BoomerMyles
BTW there’s a site with ALL his nudes.
He’s not that impressive size wise. Like 4-5″ max.
Kangol2
That was evident on first glance at Shock. Yet another micropeen right-wing closet case hypocrite who has yet to speak out against the GOP’s past or ongoing war against LGBTQ people.
I hope Queerty will report on it, but in 2021 alone, all across the US GOP legislators have proposed 100+ anti-LGBTQ bills. It’s absolutely hateful and disgusting!
Cf here: https:// www. aclu. org/ legislation-affecting-lgbt-rights-across-country (close up the spaces)
DarkZephyr
Are you suggesting that if his penis had impressed you, you would change your mind about him?
Godabed
Is it wrong that you find him attractive, no, but the real question is why are you attracted to trash?
Robothedestroyer
No.
The ability to look inside yourself and be honest that your dk gets hard for somone not worth it and furthermore can admit that you’d bone them despite that fact is a pretty good quality to have. I’m certain I’ve had sex with at least a handful of guys who I’d never want to be associated with if I actually knew them. Physical attraction is just that and our little head often makes the wrong decisions.
DarkZephyr
If Schock wasn’t such a god awful person who has done such god awful things I might find him attractive, but right now when I look at his image, I just want to vomit. That is how I sincerely feel. He’s a gross, nasty, selfish and evil person without even the slightest hint of remorse for his past actions and that ruins any impact his looks might otherwise have. At least with me.
MissTerri
So many Delusional Queens thinking they can Control who they’re Attracted to! Hi-LAR-ious!!!!!
WashDrySpin
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toddlicious
This didn’t need a story, just an answer, and the answer is yes
PerhapsYesNoMaybe
He’s in the Jeffrey Dahmer category of non-redeeming community members.
neutralbystander
I think this is a rather complicated answer but I’m going to go with no? Don’t get me wrong, some folks can do some morally questionable things, but when it comes to politics I’ve learnt to let bygones-be-bygones. To discriminate against someone based on politics (especially in a US 2 party only system where towing the party line is quite serious) when social issues walk hand-in-hand with economic and policy issues is not the most friendly/inclusive/decent.
He’s a classically handsome guy, with his own options and thoughts just like anyone on here. If the good folks of his former riding didn’t like his politics or persona, then that’s their vote on election day. In the end, he’s just a guy making his own way in the world. If you don’t like him, that’s fine. If you like him, that’s fine too. Like it or not, he a member of our community even if he’s just that distant cousin you wont ever really meet or be directly affected by. If you do someday meet him, just give him the same common sense curtesy you’d want to receive in return.
Short answer: Your not a horrible person for liking someone, and there’s already too much negativity in the world to go out of ones way to add more of it.
Charlie in Charge
Except that he’s not just a guy with conservative opinions that politically minded could debate back and forth. He actively hurt the gay community with his votes.
Cam
If you’re attracted to Schock, just go into any random bar or gym in any gay neighborhood, you’ll find 20 just like him who didn’t vote to harm you or your family.
He wasn’t prosecuted for everything he did, but not only is he a self hating guy who sought to hurt LGBTQ people, he’s also a criminal that stole money from taxpayers and his voters every single chance he got.
Winsocki
This is so silly. Your eyes see someone in the media and you are never going to meet, date or screw but find them sexy .. Big deal and normal because blood rushing to your dick is not a sin. There are many hot actors I cannot stand their politics. I bet a lot of conservatives find liberal actors male and female hot. So this Schock dude is vain and superficial. Duh so are a lot of gay men. Besides, if you really met him and shagged him good for you. Used his like a cum dump. that’s a good thing. If a liberal person was in the E.R…. are you going to ask the Dr. his politics before saving your life ?
BoomerMyles
How many times do we have to say this?
HE ACTIVELY DID HARM TO THE LGBT COMMUNITY.
Josh in OR
He’s a reasonably attractive white man with a good body he enjoys showing off.
Hes also a former politician who made a living ripping off his constituents and doing everything he could to dehumanize, other, and delegitimize the very people he’s now thirteen trapping.
There are plenty of other mediocre white men who take their shirts off for attention. Why waste time on one who spent his career dehumanizing all of us, himself included?
Josh in OR
*thirst, not thirteen…
Charlie in Charge
This is where I am at. The Internet has made being hot a viable career path and many have answered the call. Follow some hot dude who hasn’t made money destroying gay lives.
oscarjames
It would be much more appropo if TOTALLY SHOCKED AT MYSELF would change his sign off to TOTALLY DISGUSTED BY MYSELF! Because that’s what he is – DISGUSTING! Hooking up with Schock would be like a Jewish guy (during the Holocaust) hooking up with a brutalizing murdering Nazi because he’s just soooo HOT and soooo IRRESISTABLE! Yes, I have plenty of GAY PRIDE. And with idiots like SHOCKED AT MYSELF, I also have an unfortunate amount of GAY SHAME! If Schock would give a truly sincere, truly humble and abject apology he would probably be welcomed into the fold. This he steadfastly refuses to do which makes him absolutely PERSONA NON GRATA to any self respecting gay man! Self Respect is something SHOCKED AT MYSELF has decided he can live without. Sad for him and very sad for us, his Gay Brothers.
Toofie
You can be attracted to him. Doesn’t make HIM a nice person. A closeted gay actively voting against gay people deserves what negative attention he gets. He’s also given a half assed apology if I recall. If he looked like Lindsay Graham we’d see how much “leave the poor man alone” comments we’d be reading….
bsg1967
Yes!
Topazme
No you are not a horrible person but a really shallow one……many of us do look at a person’s inner character more than their outer appearance…i for one cannot help but feel disgust and angry with him because of his history and actions when i look at him…thats the first thing that comes to my mind even though i do think he has a nice body but that does not excuse his behaviour…i do priortise mind over body of a person
JoshGL
To the extent that he monetizes interactions with his social media accounts, you’re handing him cash, albeit in very small individual amounts.
That’s morally repugnant.
ggreen
Why not just base everything in life on the ultimate gay get out of jail free ethos. Awful Person: It’s OK he’s hung, thief: It’s OK he’s hung, murder OK he’s hung. Instead of the judicial system get out the tape measure to determine guilt or innocence! When a culture only worships penis size no one will ever really measure up. (this is only slightly satirical)
storm45701
He’s attractive, built and packing. So what? He’s destructive and would sell us all out in an instant. I’d rather suck a banana.
Winsocki
LOL …. people actually act like sex is going to happen so boycott Schock. He hurt the Gay Community? His existence did not change my life in the slightest. Would I date him …NO… is he cute Yes. Get over your sex police tactics for gays like a bunch of Evangelical Zealots who tell you what should turn you on. I do not care what anyone thinks here and I am sure no one gives a rats ass of my opinion. This is all fun and games posting…… Blah blah blah ….
Cam
Did he change your life? No??
Interesting how the people that keep coming on here to defend Schock keep trying to pretend that LGBTQ people aren’t effected by federal laws.
LumpyPillows
On the long list of people who have done harm to the LGBTQ community, he’s there, but very low on the list.
tjack47
I know little of this man. I was in a 12 year relationship with a narcissistic, Republican. I’m liberal. He was Catholic. I’m atheist. The only reason it lasted 12 years is, because of how little self esteem I had then. I couldn’t do it again. I enjoy being alone. I would be alone from now on rather ever allow anyone, give them permission to control, gaslight and abuse me. It matters not to me how gorgeous he is on the outside.
ShiningSex
He’s gross and if you like looking at that hateful maggot, then so are you.
LumpyPillows
Yes, I think he is hot and no that does not make me a bad person. Would I be his friend? Probably not, but that is a different question.
james7
Does that make you a horrible person? YES.
Miles
I like this term thirst traps. Part of what makes them titillating is that Aaron seems so darn hungry and horny. Like an animal being released in the wild. I beg to differ on the “packing” comment. He seems rather normal to me.
rickh710
Yes.
ChrisGMN
It doesn’t make him a bad person, but it does make him pretty damn shallow. The gay community will never get further until we move beyond beauty as the primary judgment of a person. There are wonderful, outstanding, loving gay men who don’t have Schock’s body, or who are 25 years older than Schock. Character matters.
frapachino
Only to the jealous racists. He did something terrible, he apologized, but the smug self righteous and “morally superior “ types will never forgive him!
Cam
Right wing troll account ALWAYS defending Republicans who sought to harm the community.
Your troll game is boring.
madc090
I don’t know, Queerty seems obsessed with Colton Underwood. Perhaps they should be asking Jake if it’s okay to normalize the lives of stalkers?
JED08
Yes.
cuteguy
Aaron Schmuck preys on m0rons like the fool who asked the question. Aaron is the worst human piece of poop there is and there are hotter guys out there who aren’t douches