Canadian actor Francois Arnaud revealed his bisexuality in Instagram postings yesterday.
The actor, 35, took to social media during Bisexual Visibility Week.
He shared the messages in postings to his Instagram stories on Sunday.
“Last week, I was chatting with work friends, and as I brought up a trip I’d taken with an ex-girlfriend, I asked myself —for the ten-thousandth time— how to tell such a story without making it seem like that was the whole story of me,” Arnaud posted.
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“I’m sure many bisexual guys feel the same and end up doing as I did: letting other people’s assumptions of straightness stand uncorrected,” he continued.
“Perhaps out of fear of oversharing. Under the guise of privacy, maybe. Probably because ‘masculinity’ is a most fragile currency, ready to nose-dive at the first sign of vulnerability or difference. And because it’s really f**king scary to give up your privilege. Without a doubt because stigmas of indecisiveness, infidelity, deception and trendiness are still clinging to bisexuality.
“But here’s the thing. Silence has the perverse effect of perpetuating those stereotypes, making bi guys invisible, and leading people to doubt that we even exist. No wonder it’s still a chore to acknowledge bisexuality without getting into lengthy explanations.
“So yes, labels are frustrating and words imperfect. But I’ve always considered myself bisexual. Not confused or trying to look edgy. Not disloyal. Not ashamed. Not invisible.”
He ended by wishing everyone ‘Happy #bivisibilityday this Wednesday’.
Arnaud was born in Quebec. He’s best known for his performances in The Borgias, Blindspot, and Midnight, Texas. Many might also remember a notable cameo he made in Schitt’s Creek, playing an ex-boyfriend of David Rose called Sebastien who arrives in town to do a photoshoot with Moira.
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JessPH
Midnight Texas was an awful show but I watched it because of him.
jayceecook
It was soapy and neo-camp and made for good “escapism” television. Though I hate to use that term. The first season was well done but they used up all the books’ plot. That gave them almost too much creative freedom. Getting new showrunners for S2 because NBC wanted to make it sexier was what killed it. Alongside the loss of a few regulars from S1 and bad casting choices for their replacements. I’d also add that moving it from a summertime time slot to a regular prime time fall slot was a very bad choice as well. I do wish it were still airing but it is by no means a huge loss.
Cam
Good for him. And a thoughtful message.
barkomatic
It’s good to hear more bisexual people coming out. I’m used to thinking of human sexuality as a simple binary with a few outliers. Now it’s looking like there are more people on a gradient or fluid than I ever thought.
Also, he was one of my biggest celebrity crushes while he was on Midnight Texas.
BaltoSteve
Most of humanity is one form or another of Bisexual, think the Kinsey Scale of Sexuality where only a very few are either exclusively Heterosexual or Homosexual. It’s good to see him acknowledge where he stands in the world.
Donston
I don’t know about “most”. But orientation and who is what is borderline impossible to gage. Fluidity is an experience for many. Some people become more this or that as they get older or contend with a lot of paraphiliacs or contend with ever changing shifts. “Lifestyle” doesn’t always correlate to inherent orientation. The romantic, sexual, affection, emotional investment, relationship contentment spectrum is incredibly wide and varied. And people can present themselves however they choose. All of this makes identity, sexuality, orientation an enigma and a very individual thing. Even the Kinsey Scale is basic and outdated. We keep wanting to see things as simply as possible. But folks are just too individual and nuanced for that.
It’s great that more guys are comfortable revealing that they have dimensions. The next step is to stop filtering everything through the prism of hetero-normalcy, hetero pressures and identity politics. And for guys it’s very important to stop filtering everything through the prism of conventional masculinity and to stop constantly looking for validation. I think these remain the things some entirely homo people and people who are entirely comfortable being “out” have with a lot of “bi pride” folks. And even though this particular “coming out” message is important and well thought out it’s still ultimately filtered through hetero expectations, contains a defense of conventional masculinity and feels like another guy looking for female approval and approval from that “straight world” above anything else. I understand the different struggles, circumstances and journeys people have. But we’ve got to evolve past these problematic instincts that are driven mostly by politics, ego and sociology.
PhillyProud
I agree. I think our society requires us to fall into a single category. I’ve never been real fluid until I met, uh, John. He was HOT. But, the only way we could play was if his wife joined. She was cool, nice, and did I mention he was hot? So, for about a year, we got together somewhat regularly. I wouldn’t identify as bi because I think my being gay is based on who I can fall in love with. But, it felt good, so why not. Did I mention he was hot?
Donston
PhillyProud, I actually have experienced genuine fluidity and now have an pansexual orientation. In fact, in some ways I’m more sexually into women than dudes nowadays. And I was entirely inherently homo just six or seven years ago. So, genuine fluidity is legit. Attractions and desires (not just enjoyment or comfort levels) can waver. I still don’t really mind being seen as “gay”. I’m married to someone of my sex. And I have far too much same-sex passion, affection, emotional investment to try to be with a chick. I like sleeping next to a guy, pleasing a guy, liking a guy wanting me, building a life with someone of my sex. I could become entirely hetero and still would have same-sex preferences. But I also have no problem sharing my dimensions and journey. Everyone is different and has their own motivations, their own struggles, and their own journey. It’s so important to get a level of genuine self-comfort and really get to a place of not giving a shit about social validation.
I’ve come to terms with how identity centric society is. No matter what you attach to yourself to, you’re gonna be in a category. Gay, straight, bi, pan, fluid, queer and so on are all categories and are all interpreted in different ways. Even “I don’t believe in labels” is a category. I just wish more people would invest some time in genuinely understanding things beyond identity or who someone claims to have sex with.
strap2900
I don’t understand the whole coming out thing. Who you sleep with should be a non-issue ( and no one’s business).
Donston
“Coming out” isn’t really about identity or telling the world who you sleep with. Though yes, some people make it more about those things.
A lot of people have a difficult time being themselves either due to internal or external pressures. A lot of people are surrounded by certain pressures or expectations. A lot of people, through a significant portion of their lives, feels embarrassed or take a while to come to terms with their dimensions and what they want. While some folks just want to share their story and journey with others. And ultimately, this is still a world of hetero normalcy and hetero expectations, especially for males who can “straight pass”.
However, I’m guessing you are already aware of these different things. You’re just looking to troll or be a dismissive, pompous jackass.
Cam
Except straight people “Come out” every single time they walk down the street holding hands, have a picture of their spouse on their desk, have an engagement party, have a wedding, bring a girlfriend/boyfriend to a work event etc.
Apparently it’s only LGBTQ people who should hide away their livevs as “Nobody’s business”.
JessPH
It is important for LGBT celebrities to come out. Some societies still promote an idea that homosexuality or bisexuality is either a sickness or an evil deed worthy of condemnation. Influential public figures who bravely come out help shatter these harmful ignorant notion. They help move society’s culture forward to be more inclusive and diverse. Celebrities coming out is empowering for the LGBT community.
PhillyProud
He explains in the article. He has a voice and he used it. I was surprised to read only one bi denier on here. Good for him.
LumpyPillows
It should be a non-issue, unfortunately it still isn’t. The entire LGBT movement only made progress when we all start coming out and everyone realized we we’re their brothers, sisters, cousins, etc. It was a revelation to many that we all weren’t Satan’s Disciples…we’ll most of us 🙂
Daggerman
..there is an incredible number of goodlooking men in film. I am never surprised about those actors deciding to come out, why, because HOMOSEXUALITY is the natural order of things! Francios Arnaud is a handsome and virile young man who can have physical relations with anyone he chooses.
Donston
I actually love attitudes like this, instead of the “us ‘queers’ are so different and unusual” perspective. I actually feel bad for guys who are entirely hetero or who have decisively straight preferences and ambitions. There are things I struggles with, but I see gay passions, affections, love, relationships as a privilege not a burden.
PollyDarton
Interesting article. I wish I knew who this was, though.
Lancealot
He also played a gay character in the 2009 film J’ai Tue Ma Mere (I Killed My Mother).
amanwithanedge
MORE BI BS. NAH.
ShiningSex
He’s sexy. Does he have a boyfriend or is he one of those “BI” folks that are in a straight relationship and scream, “I’m bi”. Oh ok. good for you girl. NEXT!
Wheelerman
Wonderful! I loved Midnight Texas and an still annoyed with NBC for cancelling it after two terrific seasons. I didn’t know this actor, but he had a presence that was very watchable! BRING BACK MIDNIGHT, TEXAS.
PugsBuddy
Oh, ohh…I’m havin’ a seizure. “Hello, operator, get Jesus on the line!”
I’ve been in love with him since the first moment I laid eyes on him.
bluewindboy
I claim Francois as tribute!
UncleFloppy
I just watched him earlier today in the episode of Schitt’s Creek that he did. I was hoping that he was going to kiss Dan Levy but it didn’t happen.
stuffedpuppy
I have to admit that his love scenes with Xavier Dolan in “I killed My Mother” were so damned BELIEVEABLE!! At the time, I thought he was the most beautiful man on earth. TBH, I’ve seen him in Montreal, a little over a year ago and he’s still extremely handsome!!!!
stuffedpuppy
@pugs buddy I, SO, hear you ?