Everyone know I was gay before I did. I got bullied for wearing girls’ clothes, so I stopped and I started wearing guys’ clothes and tried to butch up.
I was worried about being femme in any way. I was trying to hook up with girls in middle school. They hated it.
And then in freshman years of high school I met this guy who was a junior and I fell in love with him. I was 14. He never actually became my boyfriend but it opened me up and I came out.
I didn’t realize you could have physical relationships without being ‘in’ a relationship. Then I started dating older guys for a while in high school because there weren’t any gay kids when I was growing up.
[They were] in their twenties, when I was 14 or 15. because I had a fake ID, I was going out. That was where I met gay people.
—13 Reasons Why star Tommy Dorfman, talking to Attitude about his awkward first gay experiences and coming to terms with his sexuality.