Oh hey, heterosexual advice dispenser Onision read your comments about him. And he wants to set the record straight about his advice to young gays — or young “questioning” persons — about coming out. It’s not that he has anything wrong with your gayness (something we never assumed), he just doesn’t want people in the minority to be oppressed by the majority (something you should tell Jews of the 1940s and blacks of the 1960s).
Onision is talking about immutable characteristics that you can hide, and how possessing those immutable characteristics can work against you. But only if you “admit” to them. Skin color is a difficult thing to hide. Some would argue sexuality is less so.
How about minority statuses that you can change, like your religion? Should young people also hide that?
Because Americans hate minorities, you can’t be “impulsive and even stupid” about revealing your minority status, Onision argues. So for all you Muslim kids out there reading this, if you’re not sure you will always be a Muslim, take off your kofia and stop telling anyone you might be different. Because you should feel shame about this, not pride.
TheAwfulTruth
I am always amazed at how people think that by talking to a little camera in their bathroom at home they can spew whatever they want. People like this guy or Davey Wavey, who are they? What credentials do they have? Are they licensed psychologists, therapists, counselors? No.
This man Onision ends by saying “I am here to help, not to make you feel ashamed.” Umm, gee, thanks, but, who really gave you the experience, the clarity, the authority to talk about delicate issues that pertain to one’s life or homosexuality?
This kind of talk is very dangerous coming from people who are obviously Internet narcissists, who are addicted to YouTube and sit at home thinking of way to be “web famous”, while at the same time designing T-shirt with sayings of them that they believe will envelop the world and at the same time make them a quick buck.
Stop the psychobabble. Work with teens, go to college, get a degree in the field you pretend to be offering advice in, join an organization, and THEN maybe you can have some weight to what you say.
In the meantime though, you’re nothing but an attention-seeking grabbing dude sitting at home and bound to make inane arguments, like the one presented here.
In other words: get a life.
Mr. Enemabag Jones
With friends like these…
Cam
Ok, leaving aside all coments on his Susan St. James Circa 1972 hat…..perhaps somebody should tell him that having to hide who you are COUNTS as being opprressed.
Mike in Asheville, nee "in Brooklyn"
The road to hell is paved with good intentions …..
1EqualityUSA
mmmmglad I don’t know him. Goon-o-meter is tweeking.
tikihead
But that isn’t all he said (bad as it is). He also said, ‘Don’t speak up too soon, ’cause you’re probably just all confused, not gay at all!’
onCloud9
@Cam: whose susan st. james?
Jose
Jeez you guys need to calm the fuck down and stop acting like he’s a member of the Westboro Baptist Church or something.
He really is trying to be fair and is putting out (for the most part) a good message.
Personally, I have awful shitty parents here in the South and I regret coming out about a year ago because now my family just ignores and despises me. I’m 17 now and can’t fucking wait to get out. -_- It’s just really up to each person to judge whether or not coming out is an appropriate thing to do at the moment as opposed to believing some huge weight will magically be lifted off their shoulders like I thought. I wish I had heard more opinions like this.
You all seem like such catty assholes desperate to tear someone apart for no good reason. Give the guy a break and if you take issue with what he’s said, then calmly express how so. His response to all your attacks was calm and empathetic, doesn’t he deserve the same in return?
Cam
No. 7 · onCloud9 said..
@Cam: whose susan st. james?
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If the station in your area does old reruns she was a TV actress in the 70’s. But I think I meant Ali McGraw anyway, not great on 70’s references. Anyway, here is a picture, I think he stole her hat and took off the side thing.
http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_BHgiueztMY0/SpS-48QLXGI/AAAAAAAAAnw/u_GfyQhoLvc/s400/crochet-hat.jpg
Cam
No. 8 · Jose said…
Jeez you guys need to calm the fuck down and stop acting like he’s a member of the Westboro Baptist Church or something.
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It’s always amazing to me that somebody can come along here, basically tell gays to stay in the closet, which amounts to oppressing us, and if carried to extream would be the death of gay society and yet, for responding to that we are comared to people that celebrate the death of gays, soldiers, etc… Your Hyperbole is as ridiculous as your comment. Are you ACTUALLY saying that us not agreeing with this guy and getting a little heated about his comment is akin to showing up at a funeral and celebrating the death with cheers and verbally assaulting all the mourners. Is that REALLY what you are trying to say here?
Mr. Enemabag Jones
You all seem like such catty assholes…
Now I know why your family ignores and despises you.
Cam
Awww crap Jose, I thought you compared US to westborough, rather than saying we were treating him like he was from there. So let me rephrase. Trust me, a Westborough member in here would get a LOT different treatment than this guy.
1EqualityUSA
Why do I get the feeling that this clown is a predator? I had an orthodontist that used to talk with his eyes closed, leaving nothing for my eighth grade eyes to focus on except the white goobers collecting near his tear ducts. The white goobers came from sanding plaster molds of the mouths of children. He was weird. His son shot him with a shotgun. So his son was weird too. Both parents were shot. Thanks Onision, for bringing back odd memories from my youth. I think I’ll go floss now.
Jose
@Mr. Enemabag Jones:
gee thanks. -_-
The community here is terrible and you’re really not helping.
@Cam:
Yes that was a hyperbole but considering he means well and even responded to concerns of ours calmy he’s still being treated horribly like he’s as hatefulas a westborough member.
robertplattbell
Gregory Onision says that you should stay in the closet until you are out of school.
He’s only 24.
Perhaps he’s still working on that Master’s Degree. 😉
Hey, it took me until I was 25. Give him some more time….
robertplattbell
Jose Said:
“Personally, I have awful shitty parents here in the South and I regret coming out about a year ago because now my family just ignores and despises me. I’m 17 now and can’t fucking wait to get out.”
Which is why, all kidding aside, I would probably give the same advice as Onision did, if Jose had asked me.
There is no need to rush these things. You have the rest of your life to explore your sexuality.
While we have come a long way in many parts of this country, there are other parts (and other people) who are not as advanced.
Would you advise the following people to “come out”?
1. 15 year old Mormon
2. 17 year old from a devout Catholic family
3. 16 year old in a small town in rural Georgia
4. 14 year old with homophobic and abusive parents
Just some examples. We all survive our childhood. Sometimes it is best to let people believe what they want to believe, at least for the time being.
I think Onision means well. But a lot of his comments regarding homosexuality appear to be soliloquies aimed at himself.