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This week, we asked members to weigh in on whether or not the terms “top” and “bottom” are still relevant in 2016. Their answers may surprise you.
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And now it’s over to you. Do you think the terms “top” and “bottom” are still relevant? Were they ever? Weigh in in the comments below.
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Guy068
Fucking morons. Of course they’re relevant or you wind up with two bottoms or two tops and a night playing Parcheesi instead of screwing like rabbits. Asking the question also leads to finding out if someone’s verse. And why the hell should we come up with new terms since straight folk also use those terms? It’s all trendy speak that you’d use only to have to rephrase it in human so who you’re talking to knows what the hell you’re saying!
robho3
Omg please queerty don’t insult your reader with more stories like this dorm Grindr???? Lmao
ingyaom
“Top” and “bottom” aren’t hetero terms; “male” and “female” are. In sociology, I think they say something like “insertive” and “receptive”.
Bob LaBlah
Look closely at one of those guys in the photos. He is a “case” if ever one existed. He is at the top on the right.
charlie_jackpot
Definitively – I want to get fucked, so I need a top
Ron62
For some of us, the terms “top” and “bottom” were never relevant because we never wanted that kind of sex.
frankcar1965
Good for you now go stand in the corner. We’re talking about penetrative sex not jacking off or oral.
Rocinante
I like both equally. Each offers a different experience. Also depends on how lazy I feel. :)))
scotshot
@Ron62: So you don’t want sex? Or are you into frot, mutual or some type of spiritual?
ChuckF
Gay men are sexual beings, top and bottom have been part of our culture since the first cave man threw out another uncut hairy hunk because he was also a bottom.
Prax07
Of course they’re relevant. Not everyone is vers. I’m a bottom, not a top, not vers. If I want to meet tops I need to use the term bottom on my profile.
And it’s not limiting myself by saying I’m a bottom. It’s what I am. I can’t top, never ever could. So I’ll never be vers, I’ll never be a top. Why some gays are offended by that fact I don’t know. Not everyone can be vers, I don’t get why some find that fact impossible to comprehend.
frankcar1965
You got that right, I am secure in my aggresive bottomness.
Tobi
I always preferred “butch or bitch?”.
jag4313
We should all be versatile! You prefer top, vers-top. You prefer bottom, vers-bottom. I would consider myself a vers-bottom but my boyfriend is strictly top. He used to like bottoming on occasion but no more. 🙁
tdh1980
As long as there are those who enjoy one much more than the other, there always will be a need for language that describes such preferences. There’s nothing complicated or ambiguous about that.
Josh447
Is it true that 95% are bottoms?
Gates
To me it’s not relevant because I have never had anal with anyone on a first hook up. It just seems too intimate to do with a total stranger. Of course I realize I’m in the minority.
frankcar1965
I don’t want intimacy I want hot nasty sex, and do not talk too much either.
ShaugnR
What should it be changed to? Fuckor and Fuckie.
Charlie in Charge
Team verse! The sex is twice as long!
Masc Pride
They are more relevant than ever now that we have so many options for finding exactly what we want and nothing less. It’s unfortunate because they seem to be more than just sexual preferences; these positions are typically reenactments of hetero relationships. It’s funny because the same anti-masc gays dictating that we should all be free of “heteronormative” male gender roles are usually the “wives” in their relationships.
Masc Pride
@Guy068: I’ve found that two tops can play quite well together. Two bottoms? Yeah, break out the Parcheesi.
@Josh447: It sure seems like it!
FRE0
@Ron62:
I agree. Those terms assume that all gay men want anal sex, and that’s just not true.