David Toussaint loves men. He loves loving men. He loves being loved by men. And he’s not apologizing for it.
“I don’t know when the gay world got so prudish and judgmental when it comes to penises interacting without adult supervision,” Toussaint writes in a new think-piece.
He’s talking about slut-shaming, of course, or the idea that gay guys who are not in a wholesome, monogamous relationships and who rather enjoy the company of multiple partners are somehow less than.
“There’s just a slight creepiness in saying gay men in committed relationships are slightly better than those who are not,” Toussaint says. “The male body is okay, finally, as long as one of the fingers has a ring on it.”
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Slut-shaming single men or guys in open relationships, Toussaint says, goes against everything LGBTQ activists have been fighting for since Stonewall–acceptance, tolerance, personal freedom, etc. Not just that, but it’s kinda, well, illogical given the advancements made in modern medicine.
“We spent a couple of decades where sex, literally, killed us, and now that we’re finally in a better place, how dare we enjoy the relaxed benefits,” Toussaint writes.
Thanks to things like rapid HIV testing and drugs like PrEP and PEP, gay men no longer have to live in fear simply because they had sex. One would think people would consider that a good thing. Yet there are still plenty who seem to think it’s not, that PrEP is just a “party drug,” and that anyone who takes it is a “slut.”
Two separate studies published earlier this year by AIDS and Behavior looked at the stigma that surrounds people who take PrEP.
The first examined how queer men and trans women viewed the drug. Around 41% said they believed anyone who takes PrEP is “a slut.” Another 41% reported that they believed people who take PrEP are actually HIV-positive but are lying about their statuses. The second study found similar results. 42% of respondents reported beliefs that people on PrEP were promiscuous.
But that way of thinking, Toussaint argues, is flawed.
“Since I was a child I’ve been told by factions of society that desiring the male body was wrong,” he says. “Provided I’m not hurting anyone, there’s nothing morally or ethically wrong with me having sex with a stranger, a friend, an ex, or a Ken Doll.”
I’m over hearing the phrase “casual sex” almost always used as a derogative, something that needs to be explained, justified, defended. I don’t hear many partnered couples saying “I had sex with my husband and—I know—it was wrong and I’m laden with guilt over it. When will I grow up?”
The bottom line, Toussaint says, is this: “Casual sex can be a lot of things—terrible, wonderful, boring, fabulous, regrettable, scintillating. It depends on way too many factors to list. It can also be a wonderful way to spend some time, and if that makes me a slut, well, color me ‘Boy Toy.'”
Related: ‘PrEP Diaries’ author talks controversy, slut shaming, and how it’s more than just a “party drug”
h/t: HuffPo
KaiserVonScheiss
Ridiculous. Monogamy works. Sorry, sex is not a ‘casual’ thing. It’s a meaningful thing. You’re debasing yourself and others by being promiscuous. It treats people as things merely to be enjoyed rather than as human beings with value.
True love is metaphysical, transcendent. With promiscuity, you only focus on the physical and ignore the metaphysical elements of life.
jkb
If he’s not using you’re dick, I fail to understand your concern
oddchild1
Thank you for that pie in the sky; pseudo religious bullshit. Sorry to break it to you snowflake. There is only the physical; love is an accident of hormones and chemicals in your body, nothing more. Sex is merely a mechanical and physical act that our culture has arbitrarily given more importance to than is reality. Take your easily offended Politically Correct garbage elsewhere.
KaiserVonScheiss
@oddchild1
Abstract concepts exist, but they exist metaphysically, not physically. Your premise of the non-existence of the metaphysical is wrong. Emotions, too, are metaphysical. They may have physical origins, but they exist in the metaphysical.
I used to think very much a you do on this subject. I, too, used to reject the existence of the metaphysical. But I believe I was wrong.
Science can only explain what is, not what ought to be. For the latter, one needs reason — something that is metaphysical.
I find it odd that you accuse me of being ‘easily offended’ and being ‘politically correct,’ when you are the one using ad hominems.
Danny595
That’s a really lovely comment and I couldn’t agree with you more.
Xzamilloh
“Science can only explain what is, not what ought to be. For the latter, one needs reason — something that is metaphysical.”
For the former, one needs reason… the latter lacks it. How does “reason” lead one to something for which there is no evidence? Ultimately, metaphysics is nothing… no evidence for it or against it, so the concept — much like a god — is useless to ponder.
tommyz
Monogamy is purely a social construct enforced for economic survival with little to no relevance for gay men, and certainly not gay men in the year 2000. You posit that sex treats people as things ‘merely’ to be enjoyed is preposterous. Certainly that can be – but if you free your mind of antiquated religious contructs you will see that sex can be comforting, freeing, and given out of compassion. True lov eis metaphysical but by no means restricted to ‘2’ people in a ‘monogomous’ relationship. Learn to love yourself and others as they are – and you will experience true metaphysical love.
tommyz
If we take in our hand any volume; of divinity or school metaphysics, for instance; let us ask, Does it contain any abstract reasoning concerning quantity or number? No. Does it contain any experimental reasoning concerning matter of fact and existence? No. Commit it then to the flames: for it can contain nothing but sophistry and illusion.[18]
KaiserVonScheiss
@Xzamilloh
You need evidence for science, yes, but it’s base on empirical evidence. Science can only explain what is, not what ought to be. For that, you mainly rely on reason because the empirical evidence can only show what is, not what ought to be. As Hume pointed out, an is does not make an ought.
You have to make value judgment using reason. If, say, you value happiness – then one tries to determine what makes one happy. Certainly evidence should be used as much as possible. But your value judgments are largely based on reason.
As for metaphysical existence, I’m not on to claim that the metaphysical can exist without the physical. Certainly there is no evidence for that. But does that mean the metaphysical doesn’t exist?
Of course not. Ideas exist, so do emotions. Physically, they might be chemicals and electrical impulses, but they are not experienced as such. No, quite the opposite. We experience them as abstract things.
This website, for example, is merely stored data and electricity using electronic gizmos, but do we say it doesn’t exist? Of course not.
I’m not saying, however, that the metaphysical is independent of the physical. Metaphysical simply means beyond physical because that’s what it is. It’s still there and we still perceive it.
adam_stevens
The issue here is that the writer is talking about sex and you are talking about love.
These are 2 different things.
alexwills
queen please I put up with crap for being gay for years I dont need your narrow minded judgmental attitude and as far as your metaphybullshit step away from he bong chief
KaiserVonScheiss
@adam_stevens
No, my first paragraph talked about sex. Shouldn’t sex be an expression of love, or used to search for love? Love, not just physical pleasure, should be the end goal of sex.
Heywood Jablowme
Yeah – we should all get our most profound philosophical and metaphysical concepts from a great thinker who calls himself the “Emperor of Sh*t”!
Kieru
Maybe I just live in a little bubble where people just let other people live…
But me? I’m married – coming up on 2 years; been a couple for nearly 12. We’re monogamous and that makes us both happy. A friend of ours doesn’t even date… he’s not into having a boyfriend; when he wants sex he just goes through his proverbial black book and sees who is available.
And you know what? That works for him. It doesn’t work for me, but that doesn’t make me judge how he fulfills his desires/needs as somehow ‘wrong’. Just like he doesn’t look at what I have with disdain, as though by choosing a single partner I’ve somehow shown myself to be a flawed thing.
It’s almost as though it’s possible to interact with people who make different choices than yours without being a jerk about it…
Donston
Another “pro-slut” article from Graham. Shocker.
Wanting to have concurrent sex with multiple partners is your business. And no one should have to feel like a bad person for living that life. However, the constant promotion of promiscuity from gay media (which is at least equally as promoted as actual gay relationships or families), the treating of promiscuity as if it’s connected to the “gay struggle”, treating HIV and other STDs as if they’re all different forms of the common cold, and using “culture” as an excuse for irresponsible or self-destructive behavior- that is what actually goes against what people have been fighting against for decades. Simply, do what you do.
This likely has more to do with men in monogamous situations simply not wanting to hang out with guys in “other” situations. And the “other situations” being offended by that. Because ultimately, very few people actually give a damn. And if they judge, get over it and keep living your life.
surreal33
Amen
Danny595
“. . . the idea that gay guys who are not in a wholesome, monogamous relationships and who rather enjoy the company of multiple partners are somehow less than.”
Correct idea.
“There’s just a slight creepiness in saying gay men in committed relationships are slightly better than those who are not,”
I agree. Gay men in committed relationships are not slightly better, they are vastly better. We should celebrate these men, and properly shame conduct which, in the aggregate, leads to morbidity, early mortality, loneliness and unhappiness.
Donston
I wouldn’t go as far as you did, but it does seem that gay/homo-dominant men that aren’t at all interested in monogamy or marriage or children are more likely to suffer from depression, be extremely narcissistic, have addictions, contend with self-loathing/internalized homophobia and more likely to eventually self-reject or reclaim hetero dynamics.
Danny595
Hey Donston. It’s a pretty massive correlation b/t multiple partners and HIV, syphilis, all forms of hepatitis, depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, drug and alcohol use/abuse, “homo negative” attitudes (i.e., negative attitudes about being gay), loneliness and suicidality. It’s so bad that this minority of G/B men (perhaps 15-20%) is able to skew the averages for the entire gay population, which is why you see gay health outcomes (reported as population averages) coming up uniformly worse than outcomes for hetero men. If you factor out the promiscuous minority, that gap shrinks dramatically.
While it’s true that not every monogamous G/B man is happy and healthy and not every single promiscuous G/B man is depressed and sick, the outcomes are so dramatically different in the aggregate that it is immoral and unethical to pretend that there is no difference and that we should treat each life choice as if it is equal to the other.
Heywood Jablowme
” this minority of G/B men (perhaps 15-20%)” – CITATION PLEASE!
It’s worth noting also that the male same-sex marriage statistics have always been fairly anemic compared to the population as a whole. (Lesbians are about twice as likely to marry as gay men are; this has held up consistently since 2004.)
Wanting/hoping to get married, eventually, someday, is hardly the same thing as actually finding someone emotionally compatible to marry.
Gaytaffuk
What the hell is wrong with the concept of two (or more) adults having a good time together? If it’s doing no-one else any harm what the hell has it got to do with you, or anyone else?
Men like sex, gay men like sex. We are now able to have sex whenever we want and, within legal guidelines, with whomever we want. Why shouldn’t we?
Why do you feel the need to control others sex lives? We have had enough of that from the straight ‘moral majority’ and the religious nuts, why should the prudish few control the majority?
Look at straight men (probably a good number of straight women too!) – are you telling me they wouldn’t be shagging as often as possible with as many women/men as possible if they thought they could get away with it? There’s a good few who do anyway, hence why the divorce rates are so high!
We have the opportunity to create our gay culture to reflect whatever we want. We do not have to reflect straight culture with all of it’s rules, restrictions and hang-ups. We are free to live our lives as we see fit, not to be dictated to by prudes or the religious, who, nine times out of ten are at it behind closed doors anyway.
Grow up, accept that some people are getting more than you, and shut up!
PinkoOfTheGange
“…massive correlation b/t multiple partners and HIV, syphilis, all forms of hepatitis, depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, drug and alcohol use/abuse, “homo negative” attitudes (i.e., negative attitudes about being gay), loneliness and suicidality…”
See I thought that it was the always being judged by others that think they are better was the root cause.
BTW idget, correlation is not causation.
Luna1979
I don’t think the gay movement was based around how many guys you could bang, as Toussaint alludes. Not getting arrested, not losing your job, etc were the biggies. I’m not ready to marry, maybe never will, but I’m monogamous with whoever I’m seeing because of how it makes ME feel. If I effed around with every dick that came my way, I’d feel like a human dumpster and slut shame my damned self.
davidtoussaint
I never said it was. I never alluded that it was. I said it started with a “Live and Let Live” attitude, which means do not judge. That could apply to sex or same-sex marriage or a myriad of other issues, including the ones you mentioned. Please find the section in my column where I say the gay movement started on the notion of “how many guys you could bang,” so I can actually address that idea.
Further, I plainly state that monogamous relationships are great, if that’s what you wish to have. When I’m in a serious relationship it’s my preference as well.
Thanks,
David Toussaint
BitterOldQueen
Wow. The level of smug self-righteous judgmentalism on display here is worthy of a right wing, fundamentalist christian site, not a gay one. Let’s stop deciding that whatever our particular lifestyle is is the one and only proper one, and all others are regrettable failures. Just because we can get married doesn’t mean we have to turn into the people who oppressed is for centuries. Get over yourselves, monogamists; not everybody is straight, not everybody is gay, not everyone is monogamous, not everyone is polyamorous…let it go and live your own life.
tommyz
Well said.
Danny595
We would be well advised not to take advice on life from someone who calls himself a “bitter old queen.”
BitterOldQueen
Wow. The level of smug self-righteous judgmentalism on display here is worthy of a right wing, fundamentalist christian site, not a gay one. Let’s stop deciding that whatever our particular lifestyle is is the one and only proper one, and all others are regrettable failures. Just because we can get married doesn’t mean we have to turn into the people who oppressed us for centuries. Get over yourselves, monogamists; not everybody is straight, not everybody is gay, not everyone is monogamous, not everyone is polyamorous…let it go and live your own life.
Donston
If the gay media and “gay culture” wasn’t so sex driven and sex focused and if everyone wasn’t so concerned with how the “cis hetero” world viewed them this would be a non-issue. Most monogamous people in same-sex situations couldn’t care less about other people’s situations. But being told that you don’t have a right to an opinion and that we have to treat promiscuity as something that is apart of the “gay struggle” is not something everyone is willing to embrace. And there were monogamous gays long before marriage law was passed.
The reality is is that every demo has fractions and differences of opinion. Not every “group” is gonna support each other’s every idea. There is no united front on every issue. That’s something that non-monogamists need to “get over”, because it’s the non-monogamous who are constantly begging for approval not people with monogamous instincts. And no one is victimizing proudly slutty people. So, that narrative needs to stop.
Danny595
Why should we be able to judge behavior? If yo can’t judge that, then what on Earth can you judge. Promiscuity harms gay people. A promiscuous life is, on average, far more likely to be a life characterized by disease, sadness, mood disorders and early mortality. Monogamous, loving couples are, in the aggregate, more likely to live longer, healthier and happier lives. Why should we pretend that these are equal?
jayjay333
This may sound harsh, but why do you think the AIDS epidemic happened? If gay guys weren’t so promiscuous we wouldn’t have been in the situation we were/are in. My older brother died of AIDS in 1990 and he was very promiscuous. I’m not religious and I’m not making a moral judgement – its just a fact. Gay men have a higher rate of STDs than any other group and obviously, still have the highest number of cases of HIV.
Prince (the musician) once said something to the effect of “You cant just stick your thing into any hole you want and not expect consequences”
Again – not a moral judgement just a fact.
Heywood Jablowme
@jayjay333: Prince was a religious nutbag and an anti-gay closet case. Fact!
Donston
No one knows what Prince was. There’s simply not enough evidence. And he simply could have been an effeminate hetero/hetero-dominant man. However, he did indeed come off like a possible homo/homo-dominant man who was too much of an egomaniac to fully embrace that. The bouts of depression and addiction to prescription pills is also telling. As was his obsession with having his women be in full make up and hair at all times and his tendency to use women as arm candy. He definitely came off like a megalomaniac, narcissistic, hetero-dynamic obsessed gay. But I wouldn’t go so far as to say: fact!
PinkoOfTheGange
@BOQ
Well now don’t you just feel the shame brought down on you by the hetero-normatives?
Next thing you know they will be yelling “witch”
ChuckF
Being sexual is as human as taking a shit. Being gay hasn’t been easy for some, but using big words and arcane theories doesn’t change it one bit. Coming out in 1971 in San Francisco was like falling through the looking glass, and i never spent a second explaining what i’d done. There is so much to life, trying to label it is a waste of time. My advice: celebrate what Nature gave you and don’t look back.
Polymath Level8
More stupidity from the gay mainstream.
It’s not about sluts vs husbands. It’s about being safe every minute of every day. It’s about stopping the spread of HIV in this community once and for all. When that even begins to happen, I’ll start listening to your self-indulgent bs.
Heywood Jablowme
If monogamy-minded gay guys are such an overwhelming majority, and promiscuous gay guys are such a tiny minority – someone here estimates 15%-20% (without citation, of course!) – why do the monogamous go into a deranged hysterical frothing-at-the-mouth meltdown every single time this subject comes up? Why the extreme defensiveness? Why the pearl-clutching?
jayjay333
As I mentioned in a previous comment, I don’t know why the gay culture celebrates promiscuity. It damages the validity of gay marriage. I recall seeing Bette Midler on Larry King prior to the gay marriage ruling and he asked her about gay marriage. She said something like “In theory I’m for it, but I cant imagine gay men actually committing to another man”. Maybe b/c she spent so much time in bathhouses but she had a valid point….There are many straight people I know who have made snide comments to me about the validity of gay marriage considering “how promiscuous gay men are”.
Don’t you think if gay guys were less slutty in the 1980’s the AIDS epidemic never would have happened? Or at least, not to the degree it did? That;s not a moral judgement – just a fact.
Lastly, many of the guys I know who are perpetual sluts are indeed lonely and constantly looking for that ideal something that they will never find. Then, they find themselves middle aged or older and alone. That is their business but it is kind of sad.
Heywood Jablowme
” I don’t know why the gay culture celebrates promiscuity.” It doesn’t. All the f*ck we ever hear about is marriage, marriage, marriage, marriage, marriage.
A major problem HIV agencies encounter nowadays is people in monogamous relationships who think that monogamy itself would magically protect them from HIV. Turns out one partner didn’t get tested, not in time anyway, and infected the other.
PinkoOfTheGange
Or only one partner knows they are in an open relationship.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
Self-control and delayed gratification are grown-up sexy.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
is* sexy
Concern over a potential partner’s “bodycount” might be hardwired into the typical male brain (men, regardless of sexuality, are basically working with the same system of evolutionarily adapted psychosexual cues etc)? That’s a theory in evolutionary psychology anyway. So stop shaming the slut-shamers? Discuss
jayjay333
I don’t know why I keep seeing these articles on “slut shaming”? What the F is that? Anyway, In my experience, many of the guys I know who are perpetual sluts are indeed lonely and constantly looking for that ideal something that they will never find. Then, they find themselves middle aged or older and alone. I don’t know why the gay culture celebrates promiscuity. It damages the validity of gay marriage. I recall seeing Bette Midler on Larry King many years back and he asked her about gay marriage. She said something like “In theory I’m for it, but I cant imagine any gay men actually committing to another man”. Maybe b/c she spent so much time in bathouses but she had a valid point.
Heywood Jablowme
“Then, they find themselves middle aged or older and alone.”
This makes no sense. If there are SO MANY guys in the exact same situation, they can still date each other when they’re middle aged. Getting around when you’re young doesn’t preclude anything, later on.
Conversely, a lot of young guys who are just playing around, unexpectedly encounter someone they connect with. So they settle down, without needing to make a Grand Philosophical Decision ahead of time to do that.
” I don’t know why the gay culture celebrates promiscuity.” It doesn’t. All the f*ck we ever hear about is marriage, marriage, marriage, marriage, marriage.
surreal33
This funny and sad at same time. A contingent of gay men trying to rationalize irresponsible behavior.
CDC.gov has stated since Prep an “alarming” increase in STI’s has occurred. Therefore, it should be crystal clear that you cannot have an endless number of unprotected sex partner without consequences. That is not slut shaming that is an irrefutable fact. If you choose to be a filthy, self-absorbed, skank expect to be ridiculed, shamed and ostracized.
Jaxton
Slutty behavior is a form of self-destruction through short-term gratification.
Heywood Jablowme
To any perplexed, 20-something, horny guys out there reading all of this:
You get the message. Settle down and get married to the FIRST guy who asks you! – even if he’s abusive, fat, whatever, just do it! – so that you can avoid STDs. Also, you will impress straight people! (Well, a certain kind of straight people.) Also you’ll get that real estate tax credit and you’ll be able to tell kids to get off your lawn! (I’m surprised they left out that part).
The Trump fans have spoken. Yes, almost every frantic hysterical monogamist here has a long Queerty history of pro-Trump and anti-“liberal” comments (as they imagine liberals in their feverish minds), including Kaiser Sh*t, Danny595, surreal33, and the inimitable Jaxton/Brian/Jason.
Donston
I’m actually pretty far left in most respects and no. That is clearly not what anyone here is saying, even the typical kooks. There is nothing wrong with having (responsible) fun. No one has to settle down with the first guy they hook up with. I certainly didn’t. Hell, no one has to live a life of monogamy ever if they don’t wish to. But the constant promotion and sanctifying of promiscuity, debauchery and self-destructive behaviors is simply not cute or helpful. And many gays are sick of being associated with that and are sick of being told that that is a part of the “gay struggle” and a part of “gay culture”. It’s that simple.
Heywood Jablowme
What alternate universe do you live in where you see “constant promotion and sanctifying of promiscuity”? I see constant promotion of marriage marriage marriage marriage marriage marriage marriage marriage marriage marriage marriage marriage blah blah blah blah blah non-stop since 2004.
surreal33
Mr Heywood your attempt at subterfuge is extremely transparent and inane. I can virtually see your form as a bitter, sad, willfully ignorant, malcontent. You cannot justify your narrative, therefore, you resort to platitudes to distract from the real issue. Despite your hyperbole at the end of the day reckless, unprotected, sex leads STI’s and self-destruction. No amount of Prep will change that fact.
Donston
Not really. I’ve been peeping a lot of lgbt sites over the past half year. When there is talk about marriage and relationships it’s mostly to focus on b and c list (or below) celebrities or it’s connected to the fight for gay marriage or the fight for gay relationships to be respected and seen as legit. And when there is talk about monogamy it’s always connected to “slut-shaming”. Has this site ever gone a whole 24 hours without posting something about sex trade, porn performers, drugs, kinky sex, sexy guys on the DL or “non-conventional” relationships? There is no example of a “gay lifestyle” site for people not interested in being constantly bombarded with stuff like that. So, you’re kinda off there.
As I said, the only issue I have is that it’s treated like something that is a part of “gay struggle” and “gay culture”. When multiple sex partner, drugs, partying and narcissism is not inherently connected to male homosexuality.
Heywood Jablowme
@Donston: I agree with you that drugs, partying and narcissism are not inherently connected to male homosexuality. (Even Toussaint in this article isn’t saying that.)
The tendency toward multiple sex partners… well that is an inherent aspect of having testicles!
PinkoOfTheGange
You forgot the “Annoying little dog too…my pretty.”
Heywood Jablowme
It’s ironic that Kaiser, Danny595, surreal33, Jaxton/Brian/Jason. etc. etc. etc. have apparently supported candidates who HATED same-sex marriage and fought against it for years.
This may come as a shock to you guys, but Neil Gorsuch and any future Trump/Pence nominees, are NOT impressed that you’re monogamous. Not at all. They hate same-sex marriage, they fought against it all the way, and they will get rid of it if they get a chance. They’re not impressed that you’re monogamous. They don’t care that you’re monogamous. They still think you’re a dirty disgusting sinful f***** who’s going to Hell even if you’re only having sex with ONE other dirty disgusting sinful f*****. They’re not impressed. And they’re going to try to get rid of your marriage.
Kenny C
Is anyone else tired of beating this dead horse? THis isn’t even interesting any longer. I honestly don’t see this mass move towards purity and pious base of gay men who seek to “slut shame” other gays. I’m sure everyone has anecdotal examples of people who do that but I surmise they are anomalies and frankly probably not well received by anyone. I guess it’s still click bait but I just don’t see it.
surreal33
Mr Kenny C, on the contrary, I am tired of selfish, bitchy, parasites, trying to justify unacceptable behavior. You and your ilk will NEVER get a pass to engage in random, unprotected sex, with multiple partners!!! Condoms, prep, home HIV testing are mandatory. If you choose to be a vile, apathetic, pig then expect to be shamed, ridiculed and ostracized.
Heywood Jablowme
@surreal33: Gee, I must have missed the part where Kenny C, or anyone in this comment thread, is defending “random, unprotected sex”… hmmm… nope, no comments like that anywhere.
Well, now that you’ve lost the argument and changed the goalposts: Now suddenly you bring up “condoms, prep, home HIV testing” which I’m sure we ALL agree about… oh dear, no, I recall that Danny595 thinks PrEP is awful and only sluts do that. Argue with him awhile!
PinkoOfTheGange
Well it does get the comment board a hoppin’
Danny595
If you aren’t seeing it, then I am not trying hard enough. I’ll do better.
Seth
Stop hoping for people to applaud your decisions, be it sex, body image, etc…, and it’s amazing how little their opinions matter. Burden yourself with expectation and you really only have yourself to blame, and no one wants to hear you complain about that.
Josh447
The religious right judgment bomb has rubbed off on many for all the wrong reasons. Remember. Free will. Love it or leave it.
Danny595
lol. Everyone judges. You have just judged people who judge other people, comparing them to the religious right. Further, putting all sexual choices on an equal footing, regardless of outcome, is a judgment.
Heywood Jablowme
@Danny595: As someone who supports same-sex marriage, I judge people like YOU who make a big fuss about supposedly being pro-marriage while at the same time you support political candidates who fight against and want to destroy same-sex marriage. You are a disgusting, ridiculous HYPOCRITE.
Danny595
Heywood – I don’t believe I have ever once commented here on any political candidate. So, you are full of cow poop. Needless to say, marriage is of the utmost importance to me, and it is the single most important development for LGB people, so no candidate who would try to take it away from us would get my vote.
Ronbo
He who is without sin should cast the first slut shaming.
Bob Scardino
Sex with strangers is a great way to meet people.
Hank
There is no point in LGBT people trying too hard to achieve the ideal of a monogamous heteronormative relationship just to try to fit in, since straight people will never accept it. Marry for love and not to prove anything.
Geeker
Being a slut is all well and good until the next killer STD pops up.