This just in: Bisexuals are really no different from anyone else.
The good folks over at BuzzFeed have compiled a PSA featuring various bisexuals from all walks of life talking their identities and trying to dispel some of the common misconceptions about the bi community.
Related: 4 Things Everyone Should Know About The Science Of Bisexuality
Basically, not all bisexuals are selfish sluts, confused, incapable of monogamy, going through a phase, or carrying an STD among genders.
How about we take this to the next level?
Our newsletter is like a refreshing cocktail (or mocktail) of LGBTQ+ entertainment and pop culture, served up with a side of eye-candy.
In fact, most of them are just regular people who happen to be attracted to both men and women.
Who knew?!
Check out the video below, and feel free to pass it on!
Jim McHardy
Great video it is as it should be. Let people be themselves don’t discriminate
Giancarlo85
I respect everyone in our community… whether they be LGBTQQI. This community is supposed to be about inclusion, but some are as exclusionary as the republican party. That type of hatred is not permissable.
John Kuehnle
Sexuality is so complicated. I wish poeple wouldn’t assume anything.
Billy Budd
I firmly believe that, if society were not a repressive force, MOST people would be bisexual, just like it was in ancient times (500BC-50AD). Being bisexual IS THE WAY TO BE.
Grant Mealey
Well yeah everybody is similar but different…..ð??? all good
Brian
The word “bisexual” is phony. It’s phony because it suggests that people who swing both ways do so in equal strengths. I would say that the vast majority of people who are “bisexual” are more heavily attracted to one gender.
There is also a difference between men and women. Men’s sexuality tends to be genuine – a man cannot fake his arousal. Women’s sexuality tends to be fake – a woman doesn’t need to be aroused to have sex, and there is no obvious evidence as to whether she is genuinely aroused or not.
This leads to “fake female bisexuality” – ie the woman who pretends to be bi in order to appear “trendy” or because she wants to impress men.
Marky
@Brian: “Women’s sexuality tends to be fake – a woman doesn’t need to be aroused to have sex (ROFL), and there is no obvious evidence as to whether she is genuinely aroused or not. This leads to “fake female bisexuality” – ie the woman who pretends to be bi in order to appear “trendy” or because she wants to impress men.” <– spoken by a man who has never seen a pussy. Are you SERIOUS?! LOLOLOL OK, you need to do some actual research or get some life experience before you make these comments. Doing 5 minutes of research on wikipedia doesn't make you an expert.
Marky
” woman doesn’t need to be aroused to have sex ” <– what rapists say. 🙂
Michael Feather
As humans, we use systems of categorization and numbers to simplify and dumb down the universe to a scale that we can understand, often to the point of crude binary systems. When you look at sexuality and gender as infinite spectrums (like light or radiation); the two concepts are actually very simple.
ralrod13
There is biphobia among both heterosexuals and homosexuals. It’s quite unfortunate.
Shannon1981
There’s lots of biphobia floating around this community. Definitely the assumptions that bisexual people are unable to be monogamous, that they are greedy sluts, and all the other hurtful shit needs to stop.
However, on the other side of that, the policing of people’s relationships and sex lives needs to stop as well. People are allowed to date/have sex with whomever they damn well please, and holding the bigot label over the heads of people who prefer to date homosexuals exclusively is really nothing more than sexual coercion, and that is in no way okay.
So, complicated issue, but the bigotry does need to stop. Calling bisexuals fake, confused, etc is the same sort of bigotry we all face from homophobic straight people, which makes the gay people who perpetuate it the worst sort of hypocrites.
o.codone
@Giancarlo85: you really don’t respect everyone in “our” community as you say. You’re delusional if you think you do. Read your own posts.
John Snyder
Duh.
ButtStuff
@Giancarlo85: “I respect everyone in our community…”
Unless they are fat, chubby, hairy, older, isn’t a fan of condoms, has tattoos, smokes pot, eats fast food, lives at home, takes drugs, does anal, American, can’t read, ugly, enjoys life, owns a gun, dates an older man, straight, dates an younger man, lives in the South, over 40, rich, has sex with strangers, shops at Target, Republican, right of left, on PrEP, a troll, disagrees with you, farts, assumes chemtrails are just jet exhaust, doesn’t wear a tinfoil hat, owns less than 10 cat’s.
youarekiddingme
@Brian: @o.codone: Two of the emptiest minded posters on the entire site…thanks for your mindless contributions once again. Your posts are given the same value as usual (flushed down the toilet with the rest of the turds)!
Brian, keep your bullshit, nonscientific, unsupported nonsense to the fictional writings section of your latest fabrication of the “Nancy Drew” novels…you pathtic troll.
Oxycodone, you are one to talk…seriously. How in the fuck can you call ANYONE Delusional? When was the last time you stayed consscious long enough to respond to a post you pathetic numbskull?
Alistair Wiseman
@Giancarlo85:
You stated, “I respect everyone in our
community….”
Do you honestly believe that? You are one of the most bigoted and hateful people I have ever come across.
You only respect people if they fit within your very small world of what you deem acceptable.
animaux
@ralrod13: Heteros are biphobic because they conflate bisexuals with homosexuals.
Ladbrook
@Alistair Wiseman: Well, in his defense, he defines “our community” as raging LGBT Marxists who think Bernie Sanders is too conservative and who see Hillary Clinton as the second coming of Joan of Arc. It’s all about the definitions. Personally, I think he went off his lithium a couple of years back and his family is just too scared to intervene.
Brian
Women’s sexuality is VERY different from men’s. In fact, I would recommend that people refrain from using “sexuality” in relation to women. Sexuality primarily belongs to men.
Mother Nature has decided that women don’t need to be aroused to agree to sex. She is the receiver – receivers don’t need to be aroused before they agree to sex. They MIGHT be aroused but they don’t have to be.
This enables women to use other reasons for consenting to sex. The desire to impress or reward a man, the desire to make money, the desire to obtain some form of promotion…these are all reasons that can be inserted into the raft of reasons that women use for consenting to sex.
Just as important is the fact that a woman can hide whether she is truly aroused or not. Men have no such option.
These observations about sex lend themselves to the concept of bisexuality. That’s why I maintain that female bisexuality can easily be faked.
JerseyMike
bisexuality is just as real as homosexuality and heterosexuality.. it doesn’t matter if you like men more than women its the fact that you are interested in both sexes.. sexuality is as complicated as anything else dealing with living beings..
alphacentauri
@ralrod13: Indeed there is. I just ignore the bigots or sometimes call them out as being as hypocritical as homophobic people.
alphacentauri
@Brian: Blah blah blah you don’t know shit about human sexuality, or women.
Baba Booey Fafa Fooey
All of those guys seemed exceptionally fem, but, I guess.
broadshoulder
Heteros are biphobic because they conflate bisexuals with homosexuals
homosexuals are biophobic because they conflate bisexuals with straight people
Bisexuals need to work on this. Choose one sex and stick with it
Glücklich
Did Moon Unit Zappa write the headline?
“Bisexuals? are, like, tooootally normal people…”
Kangol
Good video, but um, DUH!!!!!!!
DeserTBoB
Finally, after a lifetime of shame and scorn applied to me by the 100% gay crowd, some relief and comfort. @Glücklich may have a point about the author’s word choice, however…”Gag me with a spoon, I’m like SOOOO sher!” Although there’s been a lessening of biphobia with the “Gs” (with whom I lived and played for years in WeHo), it’s still out there…but it’s getting better for us “Bs”. Even the “Ts” like us now! To be honest, I’m never suffered any such non-acceptance form the “Ls.”
Bauhaus
@Glücklich:
Like, barf me out, gag me with a spoon, I’m soooo sure!
AtticusBennett
the best way to raise awareness is to be VISIBLE. so kudos to all in this video 🙂
jayj150
It’s rare and refreshing to see bisexual people actually acknowledging their bisexuality, instead of hiding behind ridiculous, homophobic labels like ‘DL’, ‘heteroflexible’, ‘open-minded’, etc. If more bi people were this open about their orientation, there wouldn’t be such a stigma about bisexuality. Bi people have only themselves to blame for their erasure from mainstream culture. If more of them accepted themselves and came out as such, people wouldn’t just assume they’re really just gay beating around the bush.
AtticusBennett
@jayj150: wellll, it’s two-fold….
non-bisexuals who falsely adopt the Bi label as a transitory step towards finally admitting to being GAY is a big part of that.
the more we eliminate the negative stigma about being gay, the fewer gay people will co-opt the bi label as part of their coming out journey, thus reducing the “bi now gay later” stigma unfairly placed on actual bisexuals.
but your point still has merit – if you want people to know more about bisexuals, you have to own it and be open about it.
it’s like those guys who complain online that “people don’t realize that people like them are gay, too” – well come Out more visibly and vocally. get yourself on youtube, blog, etc. you can’t complain about a lack of visibility when you then give excuses to not be visible yourself.
jayj150
@AtticusBennett: Yes, you have the gays pretending to be bi, because apparently that’s not ‘as bad’. Then the Bi pretending to be straight, and using all kind of absurd, self-hating labels(‘heteroflexible’ comes to mind, God I hate that word). It’s like the further away you are from being gay, the better you are to society. I agree, if there were no homophobia, there would not be biphobia either, and no one of either orientation would have to pretend to be something they’re not, because they wouldn’t feel the need to conform to a heterosexual standard.
JaiCee
Well there are some clearly small minded people here… Most of you are gay, so it’s just one gender for you, that’s cool and that’s great but now here is where I get annoyed. A majority would tell me to choose between men or women, but yet if someone said to you that you chose to be gay, you’d lose the plot and make a drama out of it. So why should i be told to chose between the two genders? It is very difficult to find men and women to date because most will assume all that nonsense stigma that surrounds bisexuals.
“So you’re basically gay/straight?”
“You’re just experimenting, you’ll figure things out soon”
“Isn’t that being greedy?”
“Can’t you just choose?”
“You’re probably confused”
“But how do you really know?”
“There’s no such thing”
“Are you a sex addict or something?”
“Aren’t you gay if guys screw you?”
Things that are asked & said to me quite a lot and mostly by the LGBT community. It really gets under my skin. I try to explain to people about it but it is hard. When I try to describe how it is for me, only one part of it seems to click with people. Some will say “You have to like one gender more than the other” I do believe I am genuinely 50/50 on the scale. Here’s an example, when I’m kissing a girl, I find I get the exact same reaction to when I’m kissing a guy. “You wouldn’t be able to be faithful” tell that to 4 long term relationships I’ve had since I was 13. My 1st one was with a girl until I was 15, my 2nd one was with a guy until I was 18, my 3rd was with another guy until I was 20 and my last one was with a girl until i was 22. Not once did I ever cheat on any of them (even thought people had tried to get involved with my last two), I did window shop (like every faithful guy/girl does). Bar my 2nd one (cos she was a cheating tramp), they all ended on good terms.
jayj150
@JaiCee: What gay person here is asking you to choose between the two genders?. The general tone in this thread has been celebratory of Bisexuality and encouraging bi people to come out and be visible. BI means 2, we get and respect that. It seems to me you are one of those people who try really hard to get offended all the time and who like to demonize gay people for no reason. Don’t blame bi erasure on gay people; encourage Bi people to come out; that’s the best way to gain visibility.
alphacentauri
@broadshoulder: More biphobia from someone who doesn’t understand human sexuality let alone biphobia.@
DeserTBoB: A lot of lesbians really do hate bisexual women.
alphacentauri
@DeserTBoB: But a lot of lesbians also hate lesbian women who have had sex with men, or who were once even married to men at one point, and some even claim that it’s impossible for an actual lesbian women to have had sex with a man or even been married to a man.
jayj150
@alphacentauri: “A lot of lesbians really do hate bisexual women”. So? What’s your point? A lot of bisexual women hate lesbians. A lot of bi men hate gay men. A lot of straight people hate gays, lesbians and bisexuals. And, this is my favorite, a lot of bi men and women HATE being bisexual. But if I were to point that out to make a generalization about bi people, I’d be branded biphobic automatically. Stop demoning gay people; if bi people want to be visible, they need to start COMING OUT, that’s on you bi people, not on us. We are not the enemy, you cowardice is the enemy.
alphacentauri
@jayj150: *yawn* What’s your point troll? A lot of us bisexuals are already out and have been out for decades, all while most gay men and lesbians worldwide and in the Western world too are closeted/DL and in marriages of convenience to people of the opposite gender and pretending to be “straight”.
alphacentauri
@jayj150: You also have a lot of men who are bisexual pretending to be “gay” or they use terms like “mostly gay”, “pansexual”, “open minded”, or “homoflexible” or anything to not identify as bisexual.
youarekiddingme
I guess I’m one of those horrible 100% gays out there…never been sexually attracted to women…never slept with one. Really don’t get the whole “judging” bullshit…never did. I say as long as you’re enjoying yourself and you’re consenting adults, have fun! Who am I to judge? After all, that’s what straight people have been doing to us for decades, so why the hell would I judge what other people do? If bisexuals have sex with both men and women great…more candy for them!
The titles: heteroflexible, pansexual, etc., whatever makes people feel good. If it helps them sleep better at night I don’t care if they call themselves Klingons!
I experimented with cousins (male) when I was a young boy. They enjoyed it as much as I did. They all grew up to be “straight”. They say experimentation as a young person is completely normal. I believe it is. Does iit make you “bisexual”? I don’t think so. I believe it’s more of a long-term sexual attraction to a person of the same sex (along with opposite sex, to be bisexual).
Gay brothers…Yes there are REAL BISEXUAL MEN out there. They do exist. Even if you don’t understand it!
Billy Budd
Of course bisexuality exists. It is predominant in many species of mammals and would be predominant in ours too, if we were not repressed against it.
DerekR
@Giancarlo85: LMAO -lolololololol – lack self awareness much? You wouldn’t know irony if it slapped you upside your nasty, viscous head.
xantheis
@Brian: So Brian either has zero idea how a vagina works, has been burned and hates women, or is just already a sociopathic rapist murderer. Wow… Yikes
ButtStuff
@xantheis: Brian is Giancarlo85. He does this all the time.