“I have been out as bisexual for three years,” blogger Travonte Harris writes in a new op-ed published by The Current. “A downside to being bisexual is the fact that no girl will date me because I’m openly bisexual.”
“As if it wasn’t enough,” he adds, “now I have to deal with racism from my own people.”
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Harris says it all started shortly after he joined Grindr.
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“Before I came out, I never had a problem with racism,” he says. “I could get black girls, white girls, some mixed girls. But in dealing with trying to go after my dream guy, I was met with opposition.”
He continues: “I saw a lot of posts on the dating apps like ‘Anyone but black,’ ‘No blacks allowed,’ and I had to stop myself and think, ‘Am I in the 60s or is this reality?’ … I questioned, ‘Am I unattractive? Am I not good enough for them?'”
He quickly learned that, no, he wasn’t living in the ’60s, this was reality, and that many guys didn’t want to date him simply because of the color of his skin.
Harris says he quickly grew frustrated by this, and eventually took to social media to voice his outrage.
“I started saying really offensive stuff on Facebook,” he says. “I was starting to hate the LGBT community and hate myself for being a part of it. I found myself being just as closed-minded as the people I hated.”
Related: Young Gay Black Man Explores The Intersectionality Of Racism And Homophobia
He continues: “But after much backlash from friends and family, I realized that hating them would solve nothing.”
Harris says he’s now focused on opening people’s minds to the racism that exists within the LGBTQ community.
“Recently I went into a gay club and there were a lot of people—mostly couples,” he writes. “The few single people who were there were out of my league. But I walked up to a guy, and his friend, a girl who said, ‘What do you want?’ in the rudest voice possible, like she was superior to me.”
“All I wanted was a dance,” he says.
“I have gay friends who are black and they only date black people because it has been an issue trying to date a white guy,” he continues. “I hope that this article helps people become more aware of their racism.”
He conludes: “This should not be a world where people kill themselves because they are lonely or because their own LGBT social group will not accept them. I hope that reading this article causes readers to consider how their actions might affect other people, whether intentional or not.”
Related: Too Many White Guys On Grindr & Too Many Are Racist, Blogger Laments
Chris
“…..in dealing with trying to go after my dream guy, I was met with opposition.”
My inference from this article is that his dream guy is white because he’s complaining of white guys who don’t want to date him and not homophobia in the Black community.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
There’s a sense of entitlement that comes across with this guy (admittedly I’m judging from limited evidence of selective quotes presented) that would pertain whatever his orientation or skin colour.
If you choose to view EVERYTHING in the universe through the lens of White Supremacy guess what you’ll find?
Prax07
I only date white guys, because that’s what I am, a white guy, and I’m 99.9% only attracted to other white guys. I’m also not attracted to blonds. Or obese guys. Or gym bodies. So I should force myself into dating and sex with guys I’m not attracted to just to make these guys feel better? By thinking like that wouldn’t it make sense to force a gay person into sex with women? We’re attracted to what we’re attracted to, whining about guys that don’t find you attractive does no good to anyone at all.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
@PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID: * interpret EVERYTHING in the universe through the the conceptual framework of “White Supremacy.”..
(It’s the new entirely scientifically objectively irrefutably self-evidently true modern day version of Marxist theory)
ki4t
“All I wanted to do was be open-minded and date outside my race, preferably with someone who was Caucasian or Latino. ” sorry, but he lost any credibility or sympathy with that sentence.
Heywood Jablowme
I’m a white guy who LIKES black guys a lot. I definitely never had any trouble finding black men to have sex with. But I never got the impression I was a rarity or unique. Lots of white guys enjoy having sex with black guys. WTF with all the lamentations recently about white rac*sts on Grindr & Scruff. Is this some new thing where millennial gay white guys are 95%+ rac*sts?
Having said that, Harris makes a mistake I see over and over and over on Queerty and the other gay news sites. He actually calls Grindr a “dating app.” Ridiculous. Grindr is NOT a dating app! It’s a hookup app. It’s okay for what it is, but it’s always going to be full of shallow, one-track-mind guys who just want sex (or worse, “PnP”). Grindr is not the place to look for your “dream guy” – LOL – so just stop it, stop it, stop it, stop it, STOP IT. If you’re looking for your “dream guy,” go to a serious dating site!
ki4t
@Chris: from his original article he says he was looking to date someone who was preferably Caucasian or Latino, so I think you hit the nail on the head. Sounds like someone who’s more concerned about gaining acceptance than taking on perceived slight or injustice.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
Could it be motivated by r@cism that some of these guys don’t want to have sex with you? Well duh! Obviously in some cases; but by no means all — or you would have to ascribe the same motivation to all black guys who won’t date or even have sex with white guys. And we all know that concept is impossible! <_<
But the really crazy part is that by this logic a white guy who will sex you is proof he is NOT r@cist!
Xzamilloh
When you’re not looking for validation from one particular group, you won’t be bothered with their “preferences”. I couldn’t care less what white guys are attracted to because I’m not out looking for their validation. In fact, I prefer people just let you know what they like and save you the wasted time. I’ve never had sex with a white person. Not that I wouldn’t, but I just haven’t. If Conor McGregor or Colin Farrell ever wanted to hook up, I’m down. Or any rugged Irishmen, because apparently I just realized that Irish does it for me.
Bob LaBlah
From the article:
“The few single people who were there were out of my league. But I walked up to a guy, and his friend, a girl who said, ‘What do you want?’ in the rudest voice possible, like she was superior to me.”
Here’s what I find VERY interesting about this guy in the article. He doesn’t say how old he is, describe his body nor mentions one word on what HIS profile says on the dating apps. Based on that quote I think the guy needs to look in the mirror and take a long look at himself. He might still be seeing himself as a teenager or still transfixed on sexual encounters when he was younger that he hasn’t told us about in the article. Based on what I read were it me I don’t think I would have told anyone about all of this. What else but a self loathing person would get offended by a persons profile online saying what they DONT want to hookup with. A lot of black guys who are into white guys will put in their profile WHITE GUYS ONLY and have no shame about it. The smart ones simply move on till they find what they want. The self loathers do just what this guy is doing, mope about being rejected. Sheesh, if its that bad dude just go to a bathhouse like I do.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
I’m very attracted to [in no particular order of pereference] white guys, black guys, Indian/Pakistani guys — because I grew up in a cosmopolitan British city surrounded by these types and thus formed my crucially important and lifetime-lasting sexual cues in that context. I don’t find my self as attracted to East Asian guys [I’ am however attracted to asian women several orders of magnitudes more than I am to black or white women], and not attracted to (unmixed) Australian Aboriginal guys. Does the fact that I would NEVER specify that or indeed any r@cial exclusions on my profile make me somehow a more enlightened noble being? Or does it make me a cowardly time waster? For while I genuinely wouldn’t discount the possibility of being attracted to any ethnicity including Asian or Aboriginal..the truth is I’m only going to be interested in the outliers that closely approximate the template of my preestablished r@cial preferences. “It’s complicated”
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
I think the Internet and increased migration will break down these etno-sexual ghettos within a generation
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
That’s not to say I don’t find East Asian guys beautiful, because I do. But that’s the problem for me esp South East Asian guys. I respond more to the exaggerated sexual dimorphism of other races. Also Bruce Lee was always hot as fuck to me but then I found out he has German ancestors.
Tobi
@PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID: I agree, I’ve often seen a woman I’ve thought is incredibly beautiful and sexy, doesn’t mean I want to bed her. I’ve lived in India and seen some truly gorgeous blokes but they don’t do anything sexually for me. However, I think taste and manners should come into play. Is it really necessary to put No Blacks, No Fats, No Fems or the similar on a profile?
inbama
@Prax07:
Sexual Orientation is an immutable physical trait.
it has nothing to do with attraction to skin/hair/eye color which can change with experience as you grow as a person and hopefully become less provincial.
Tobi
@PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID: I agree, I’ve often seen a woman I’ve thought is incredibly beautiful and sexy, doesn’t mean I want to bed her. I’ve lived in India and seen some truly gorgeous blokes but they don’t do anything sexually for me. However, I think taste and manners should come into play. Is it really necessary to put No Black s, No Fat s, No Fem s or the similar on a profile?
Tobi
@PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID: I agree, I’ve often seen a woman I’ve thought is incredibly beautiful and sexy, doesn’t mean I want to bed her. I’ve lived in India and seen some truly gorgeous blokes but they don’t do anything sexually for me. However, I think taste and manners should come into play. Is it really necessary to put No Bl-acks, No Fa-ts, No Fe-ms or the similar on a profile?
Tobi
@PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID: I agree, I’ve often seen a woman I’ve thought is incredibly beautiful and sexy, doesn’t mean I want to bed her. I’ve lived in India and seen some truly gorgeous blokes but they don’t do anything sexually for me. However, I think taste and manners should come into play. Is it really necessary to put No B lacks, No F ats, No F ems or the similar on a pro file?
Tobi
@PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID: I agree, I’ve often seen a woman I’ve thought is incredibly beautiful and sexy, doesn’t mean I want to bed her. I’ve lived in India and seen some truly gorgeous blokes but they don’t do anything sexually for me. However, I think taste and manners should come into play. Is it really necessary to put negative requirements on a profile?
Tobi
@PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID: I agree, I’ve often seen a woman I’ve thought is incredibly beautiful and sexy, doesn’t mean I want to bed her. I’ve lived in In dia and seen some truly gorgeous blokes but they don’t do anything sexually for me. However, I think taste and manners should come into play. Is it really necessary to put No Blacks, No Fats, No Fems or the similar on a profile?
Tobi
@PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID: I agree, I’ve often seen a woman I’ve thought is incredibly beautiful and sexy, doesn’t mean I want to bed her. I’ve lived in India and seen some truly gorgeous blokes but they don’t do anything sexually for me. However, I think taste and manners should come into play in regard to profiles, it isn’t necessary to put anything negative up.
Tobi
@PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID: I agree, I often see women I’ve thought incredibly beautiful, doesn’t mean I want to bed them. I’ve lived in India and seen some truly stunning blokes but they don’t do anything sexually for me. However, I think taste and manners should come into play in regard to profiles, it really isn’t necessary to put negative qualifications on display.
Tobi
@PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID: I agree, I often see girls I’ve thought incredibly beautiful, doesn’t mean I want to bed them.
Tobi
@PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID: I’ve lived in India and seen some truly stunning blokes but they don’t do anything sexually for me. However, I think taste and manners should come into play in regard to profiles, it really isn’t necessary to put negative qualifications on display.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
@PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID: Maybe several generations in the case of America..given the deliberately divisive outrage culture of eggshell sensitivity. Who wants the “white privilege” lecture for not taking out the trash or the “white supremacist” for not wanting to spend another xmas at his mothers.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
@PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID: Maybe several generations in the case of America..given the deliberately divisive outrage culture of eggshell sensitivity. Who wants the “white privilege” lecture for not taking out the trash or the “white suprem@cist” for not wanting to spend another xmas at his mothers.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
@PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID: Maybe several generations in the case of America..given the deliberately divisive outrage culture of eggshell sensitivity. Who wants the “white privil?ge” lecture for not taking out the trash or the “white süpremacist” for not wanting to spend yet another xmas at his mothers.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
@PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID: Maybe several generations in the case of America..given the deliberately divisive outrage culture of eggshell sensitivity. Who wants the “whit? privilege” lecture for not taking out the trash or the “whit? suprem@cist” for not wanting to spend yet another xmas at his mothers.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
@PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID: Maybe several generations in the case of America..given the deliberately divisive outr@ge culture of eggshell sensitivity. Who wants the “white privilege” lecture for not taking out the trash or the “white supremacist” for not wanting to spend yet another xmas at his mothers.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
@PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID: Maybe several generations in the case of America..given the deliberately divisive outrage culture of eggshell sensitivity. Who wants the “white privilege!” lecture for not taking out the trash or “white supremacist!” for not wanting to spend yet another Christmas at his mothers.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
@PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID: Maybe several generations in the case of America..given the deliberately diivisive outrage culture of eggshell sensitivity. Who wants the “white privilege!” lecture for not taking out the trash or “white supremacist!” for not wanting to spend yet another xmas at his mothers.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
Comment being flagged over and over again and I’ve checked and rechecked each and every word and even substituted the spellings of the most innocent of word but it’s failed. And this shit is why this site will fail.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
Is someone up to his old tricks with the vindictive blocking for no reason?
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
Yay I’m unblocked!
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
@PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID: Maybe several generations in the case of America..given the deliberately divisive outrage culture of eggshell sensitivity. Who wants the “white privilege!” lecture for not taking out the trash or “white supremacist!” for not wanting to spend yet another xmas at BF’s mothers
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
Abandon ship!
Brian
Women are horribly homophobic when it comes to male bisexuality – horribly, horribly homophobic. They see bisexual men as a threat to their ability to use consent as a means of controlling male behavior.
Don’t underestimate women’s homophobic attitudes in this regard. I think we should fight back by removing some rights from women.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
@tobi I think you made your point abundantly clear LOL! As did I. I applaud your persistence. Seriously, this comment system needs a major overhaul
o.codone
@Prax07: dude, you said it. so true. this kind of thing ISN’T rac ism. as a white guy I’m sick of being called rac ist for everything. yes, I bought the vanilla cream cookies, not the chocolate ones. subpoena my receipt from stop N shop and open a case at the human rights commission. madre de dios.
o.codone
@PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID: I thought for a minute that Giancarlo was back.
Mo Bro
I’m half-black half-white, I’m bi, and I have no trouble whatsoever with men, women, straight, gay, whatever.
This guy’s the equivalent of the fat college girls who protest “rape culture” simply because they can’t get laid.
spiffy
Why all this need to dismiss and invalidate somebody’s feelings?
Kangol
@ki4t: Yep. Oh well. R@cist and white supremacy exist, but for so many people, like this sad, entitled person, neither is an issue until they’re directly affected. He can’t have the white man of his dreams. GAG!
And to other pathetic queens who feel the same way, black men don’t only date other black men because they can’t have a white man/person. There are more colors under the sun than white. Asian American, Latinx/a, Native American, Arab, Pacific Islander, mixed race, etc. guys are all out there. I’ve had boyfriends from all these backgrounds. Decolonize your mind, stop whining and affirm yourself and who you are!
Kangol
@PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID: I had this with another thread. Queerty absolutely would not allow me to post David Leonhardt’s list of Donald Trump’s 20+ lies (with fact-checked links) from Sunday’s debate. No matter how many ways I tried, it kept getting flagged. As I have posted before to Alistair Wiseman and Bob LaBlah, they do this regardless of political ideology, and there’s no (or some hidden) rhyme or reason as to why.
Kangol
Final point. It’s ironic to see this article keep popping up on Queerty (these are often the only ones focused on black men or men of color), when right next to it you have photo sets like the one from Atlanta’s Heretic bar’s Leather Bear night, in which men of all colors are hanging out together. Maybe 1) Queerty (PLEASE) feature positive, affirmative articles about US people of color, rather than this same rant-type piece and 2) the guy who wrote the article can get off apps like Grindr and Jack’d and take his behind to a gay bar, where clearly he’ll meet men–including his beloved white ones–who might show him some interest.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
@Kangol: Yeah I guess I knew rit was simply due to the automatic and extremely capricious comment system they have. I don’t think they even care enough TBH. That said, In the past I have had entirely innocent and uncontroversial (honestly) comments deleted by one particular writer out of pure spite (I’d been unfavourable towards an entirely separate article of his) and once even had him alter my wording to make me look bad (which I actually found quite funny and badass move and said so). I wonder if they’d be better with Disqus? Although Imhate the way that follows you around.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
Ugh * I hate
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
Blocking me again without even flagging
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
Maybe it won’t let me post because I’ve pasted a quote from another site, in this case Pinknews. This is so frustrating. It hinders proper discussion
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
There no danger of any shortage of interest in black guys on the part of white guys. Farrrrrrr from it!
Pornhub reveals what guy guys are searching for:
“Its insight team revealed: “the most viewed category on Pornhub Gay in the United Kingdom is ‘straight Guys’, followed by ‘Black’.
“They were also the two most popular gay categories in the United States, although ‘Black’ cane first among Americans. Falling into third place is ‘Daddy”.
http://www.pinknews.co.uk/2016/10/05/pornhub-reveals-what-gay-guys-are-searching-for/
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I guess that also accounts for the overabundance of str8 guy stories on this site. These guys know what’s up!
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
@PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID: Yup. Had to retype the pasted quotes.
figerino
there is no racism i the lgbt community you liberal fruitcake
LGBTQLMNOP
Another POC crying about not being validated by White Men….Cry Me A River
LGBTQLMNOP
“It struck me that so many Caucasians did not want to date a black guy; I questioned, “Am I unattractive? Am I not good enough for them? How is it that my brother can get all the white girls he wants, but when it comes to me I can’t even get one guy?” ” I struggled with self-doubt. I even pondered killing myself” “I even have gay friends who are black and they only date black people because it has been an issue trying to date a white guy”
I honestly don’t think a black man wrote that crap. Black men don’t ONLY date each other b/c we have issues dating white men LMBO. What tf.
Bob LaBlah
@PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID: @Kangol: I have a two try limit. After the second attempt to post anything I say to hell with it. I tried to be on the look out for gay related articles that might be of interest a few years ago. They acknowledged with a thank you message, whether the article was used or not. All of a sudden that stopped. It made me feel as though I had been blocked. No biggie, there loss, not mine. This is why their loyal readers such as us no longer send in shit.
In the NYDailyNews.com I read where that guy who bashed the other over the head with the chair in Chelsea was sentenced to nine years in prison but thought what good would it do to send it knowing what they outcome would be; no appreciation or it being simply ignored. The verdict has yet to be printed here.
Eye of the Beholder
As a gay Black man who dates outside of my race too my problem with his article is his belief that he’s stated the case for his attractiveness by precluding first that he’s bisexual. Oh right, like a Black guy that has sex with women is a surefire catch for any gay man — White or Black. See the problem there? He feels entitled to say the least, but then he’s trying to throw a slight at the same time.
ErikO
We all have our own preferences. I know black men who have dated and had relationships with men of all races but they now prefer to mainly date and have a partnership with other black men.
Hank
I have to think the guy attractive, then he can be: black, white, Hispanic, Indian, mixed race, Asian, effeminate, male, young, old (up to 50), muscular, lean, hairy, smooth and chubby since he has a hot ass. But look for ethics in grindr is at least very naive.
Jonesy21
So are we really not going to just simply acknowledge the racism in or community because its there so why pretend its not people
startenout
@Chris: he may actually be talking about the fact that all men of all races seem to have been brain-washed into seeing white as beautiful and don’t even want to date within their own races much less other racial minorities. It’s not just white guys who exclude black men.
startenout
The article isn’t saying that it isn’t fine to have preferences. It’s about looking to see why the preferences have been created in the first place. Small kids don’t think one color makes another person better or worse until they are taught to think that way by the adults around them whether directly or indirectly. Your deciding that an entire blanket statement race of people (or ALL other non-white races) are unattractive simply due to the pigment of their skin…that’s about your socialization and not about people trying to force you to love them.
SumSay
@ErikO: There’s a difference between preference and just plain exclusion. If you’re not into black or other for no other reason than for what they are, then you’ve got a problem with race. There are plenty of profiles on various dating and hookup sites that state they’re only into “white only” or “not into black or Asian”. These type of people have racial bias. That part of his experience is pretty credible and real, despite what the commenters here feel about his situation. We know it’s there. It should be acknowledged that race affects the LGBTQ community just as much as any other community, especially in America.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
@Jonesy21: Are Black people who only date other Black people examples of Black racism?
Same question to @SumSay:
dwes09
@spiffy:@spiffy: “Why all this need to dismiss and invalidate somebody’s feelings?”
Because feelings are not necessarily based on anything real. I don’t go to Grind’r because it is about the shallowest and least engaging of the phone hook up apps. But I have hardly ever seen anybody saying “no blacks” on the apps i do use. They are more likely to cut me out with age preferences that end at 50. And you know what, that is their loss, not mine.
This guy seems a slave to his “feelings”, not their ruler as he should be. He should save his outrage for actual examples of social injustice, not the illogical nature of sexual attractions. If “invalidating” (read actual critical consideration) makes him realize his feelings are his and he is allowing them, that does him a service.
dwes09
@Kangol: “they do this regardless of political ideology, and there’s no (or some hidden) rhyme or reason as to why.”
As far as I can figure there are three things going on here:
1.Longer posts seem to sometimes get hung up regardless of political stance and take a long time to appear.
2.There are specific words that automatically cause posts to be moderated. Sometimes you can see your own post with a bolded message below it saying that it is being moderated. It may then take hours to show up to others, if at all. Again, regardless of political leaning.
3.This posting platform sucks big time and sometimes posts simply disappear, or the algorithm thinks you have already posted the same comment when you have not. I don’t think there is any reason for paranoia or to think one is being singled out. Don’t know who they paid to write their code, but they truly got ripped off!
Heywood Jablowme
@dwes09: @Bob LaBlah: @PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID: (& co.)
Also their system seems to reject any post with more than ONE link. I used to think it was the links themselves that upset it, but it doesn’t mind just one link.
The oddest thing is the rejection of any word ending in “!st” or “!sm” – even when it’s in the article itself. Not something that anyone – even a recent Oberlin or Yale graduate, lol – would guess ahead of time.
Yet several (or all?) of George Carlin’s 7 famous bad words are okay to post here.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
Test:
neoliberalism schism orgasm ostracism jism
Classist phenomenalist exhibitionist fist
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
*Organism
@Heywood Jablowme: Works fine
Masc Pride
Totally agree with lots of the other posts here. This guy’s psyche seems to be riddled with internalized rcism, which makes his arguments pretty hypocritical. It’s interesting how the black guys that moan about “sexual rcism” 24/7 seem to be mostly interested in white and/or Latino.
Heywood Jablowme
@PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID: So much for that theory! Thanks for “jism” btw.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
@Heywood Jablowme: No problem bud. I’m here to supply all your “jism” needs
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Eye of the Beholder
@Chris: My inference from this article is that his dream guy is white because he’s complaining of white guys who don’t want to date him and not homophobia in the Black community.
Who’s to say he doesn’t complain about homophobia in the Black community?
Eye of the Beholder
@Chris: I take that back Chris. I can see where he doesn’t complain about it. I’ll post a follow up in a bit.
Eye of the Beholder
I read a lot of comments on this board, and some of you questioned whether or not this was even a real person. I’m starting to question that myself.
It’s one thing to insinuate that a Black man dates White because he wants to feel validated by: White people. It’s another thing to impose that a Black man: Wants to feel validated by the gay community with whom he feels is only represented thru White people, because there is so much homophobia in the Black community. When you begin to look at the problem this way then you begin to understand that our question actually is: Why am I being shut out of the lifestyle? He does not seem to ask this question. He holds himself up on a pedestal for being bi. That’s a homophobic approach to the gay community indicative of how homophobic even Black who are flexible can be.
Okay so I made this entire topic about me, but if he’s real then he just validated why a lot of us gay Black men don’t date within our own race. The face of his kind of two-faced homophobia is UGLY. It needs to be acknowledged! This guy has one foot in too many different lifestyles while complaining about a racial bias here. I don’t think it should be dismissed that no one ever says this much bile against those who would trigger racial conflict, but please — I don’t even see the commitment he should be making to this community in the first place. F— his DL swag!
Now where’s my White man already? Was that good enough White people? C’mon let me have one now. (jk) I love: the community.
Eye of the Beholder
“I could get black girls, white girls, some mixed girls. But in dealing with trying to go after my dream guy, I was met with opposition.”
He’s just a player turned crybaby. He doesn’t have a “dream” anything.
SumSay
@dwes09: Feelings don’t matter? The reasons you go to non-Grindr apps are your own, you can only speak for yourself. This was his experience, THROUGH GRINDR. The area and the demographics he’s searching in are probably loads more different than yours so what you see in your findings probably don’t mean much of anything. Ageism in the gay community is definitely a subject the community should acknowledge more, but it’s different from race. Everyone can experience that at least once in their adult life, not everyone can experience being a different race.
Zabik
Being a sixty one year old gay white man. I have always had friends of all races and genders. Maybe I am different. The men I dated were not cut from the same cloth. They were all very different.