A 29-year-old woman says her 32-year-old boyfriend of five years keeps pressuring her to have another MMF threesome but she’s really not into the idea, so she’s seeking advice from relationship expert Deidre Sanders.
“My partner and I decided to have a threesome with another man,” the woman writes. “That was a couple of years ago but he keeps pressuring me to do it again.”
She continues: “Our sex life was brilliant until I suffered bullying at work three years ago which nearly broke me. That was resolved in the end but it knocked my confidence. We weren’t making love much and my partner kept on about having a threesome.”
She says her boyfriend kept telling her it would be “good for me, would get my sex drive back and really turn him on too.” She eventually gave in to his requests in hopes that he would “drop the subject.”
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“He found someone online,” she explains. “A really good-looking guy about my age, and he and my partner started getting it on. I thought I was going to be able to get away with just watching but half an hour in, my partner insisted I join in.”
“I pretended I wasn’t really there and it was OK,” she confesses.
The threesome lasted over three hours–way longer than she wanted it to go– before the woman says her boyfriend paid the guy and he left. Afterwards, she told him she never wanted to see the man again.
“But since then he frequently texts random men, sending them pictures of us naked,” she continues. “I’ve even caught him taking pictures of himself erect and texting them.”
“When I confronted him about it, he said I want sex with other men really but won’t admit it. This is not true at all. I want to have normal sex with him. I thought we had a great partnership and would always be together but now it has all gone wrong. I can’t get him to understand that I don’t want sex with any other men.”
Now, she says, she wishes she had “never gone along with his threesome idea” in the first place.
In her response, Deirdre tells the woman she needs to put her foot down and demand her boyfriend
“You should not take responsibility for his behavior,” she writes. “It is wrong of him to be sending pictures of you naked without your permission, so tell him he must stop or you may report it to the police.”
Clearly, Deidre says, the man is bisexual. There’s nothing wrong with that, of course, but the woman needs to have a serious discussion with him about it if they want their relationship to work.
“I reckon he knows full well that you don’t want sex with other men, or another threesome,” she writes. “He is using that as a smokescreen for him wanting sexual involvement with men. Say you need a serious talk and find out how strong these feelings of his are.”
What do you think of the situation? What advice would you give this woman? Sound off in the comments section below…
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rikard_pearson
why would we gloss over the bullying she suffered that broke her and damaged their sex life? he may be projecting his desires, but he has also latched on to the idea that proving her desirable to other men will build her confidence. she says he is wrong, but it seems like she has not fixed the damage she has and outing his bisexuality is helping her avoid that.
Doctor Benway
It’s just his fantasy That absolutely doesn’t mean he’s bisexual or else, it’s just he has the fantasy of having a threesome with his girlfriend and another guy, she doesn’t.
Again, each time you read those article about couple crisis, the solution is always the same : talk to each other (but please, stop bothering anyone with your personal s**t please).
startenout
I feel like you missed the part where he went at it with the guy on his own for thirty minutes before he made her join in. That’s less fantasy threesome and more justification of him getting it on with a guy. He surely ain’t straight.
Chipper
Dr. Benway. Fantasy?, you are wrong. at best he is bi. It is more that a fantasy It will be up to her if she wants to continue anything with the boyfriend. But from what was stated, it sure sounds like he likes guys better. And if that turns him on, then come on out as gay. If he can not be true to himself he won’t be true to anyone else either
bonbon
Some guys get off on seeing another guy nail their girlfriend most don’t. This has nothing to do with bisexuality. Btw, that guy in the stock photo is hot. He can plead for a threesome with me any day (no women invited).
Aromaeus
He was fooling around with the guy for half an hour before he acknowledged his girlfriend was still there and invited her. Generally if a straight guy wants a MMF threesome they don’t have much contact with each other or not intentionally.
John1954
He’s bisexual. Period. That good, if that’s what you want in a boyfriend. If not, then you need to leave the relationship.
MrMichaelJ
OK, this article is bonkers. It’s like “They were getting it on for 30 minutes before she joined in” was just like some minor detail.
rbernard
yep, uh huh, that is exactly what stuck out in this story.
It doesn’t matter whether you call it bi or gay.
This is basic – her man was hungry and needed to be fed.
She is going to either have to feed him his diet or find another lover.