THE GOOD WORD

Brave Teen Uses Dan Pearce’s “I’m Christian, Unless You’re Gay” Essay To Come Out To Mom

Some months back Dan Pearce (right), the Utah blogger behind Single Dad Laughing, wrote the fairly amazing essay, “I’m Christian, Unless You’re Gay.” Though he’s received a mountain of responses to the post since then—and had pretty much decided to move on to other topics—Pearce announced this week that he had gotten  an e-mail about i that he just had to share.

And we felt the same.

The e-mailer, “One Proud Mom” says her 15-year-old son was given a copy of “I’m Christian, Unless…” by his teacher and told to write about it. The lad decided to use the assignment to come out to Mom, even though she had always been rabidly (and vocally) anti-gay. Having learned the error of her ways, OPM forwarded Pearce her son’s plea for acceptance, which—fair warning—will just shred your heart.

He writes, in part:

I am gay and only my one friend knows so far. My mom doesn’t know yet. My dad doesn’t know yet. You didn’t know it when you gave us this homework. I am only 15 years old and I have never felt so alone. My mom and dad always are being angry about gay people and talking about how they are bad and going to hell and they also always talk about how all the gays should be shipped off to their own private island or something so that the rest of us could live God’s commandments in peace.

I have been so scared of them finding out that I’m gay because I know that they would hate me and would want me out of their life and at the same time I can’t keep this secret anymore because it is not something I asked for, never in a million years would I ask to be gay in a town like this where everybody would hate me. And anyways I can’t keep this secret anymore because I’m about to do something crazy like run away or hurt myself or something. I just want to be dead sometimes…

Tonight I am going to send this to my mom and see what she says I guess. I don’t know what will happen but I know that I deserve to be loved just like everybody else does I just hope she thinks so too.

Read “A Teen’s Brave Response to ‘I’m Christian Unless You’re Gay,” in its entirety to learn how a scared gay boy’s courage and honesty helped open his mother’s mind and her heart. Then hop back here and share your thoughts in the comments.

Photos: Dan Pearce, Lord Ash