At Washington D.C.’s JR’s Bar & Grill this week, adult film star Brent Everett and his husband/manager Steve Pena made a sold-0ut appearance.Everett, looking every bit the sex icon he is, was Skyped in on the big screen, since the Canadian citizen is currently unable to visit states because of a tricky immigration issue.
Also in the flesh was Everett and Pena’s mutual boyfriend Jayson Smith (a popular JR’s bartender). The throuple (yes, there is such a term) took turns recounting graphic sex scenes live from Drunk in Love, the romance novel based, ahem, loosely on their lives. (The author, Olivia Black, also appeared via Skype.)
Oh, and did we mention that Brent and Steve’s characters are shapeshifting wolves? Can’t make this stuff up.
In this industry, successful longterm couples might seem a rarity. So you’d think throuple would be next to impossible. Celebrated by some, trashed by others, dismissed as a mere publicity stunt, the three brushed off the criticism, saying they just want to make great entertainment for the male masses (and more than a few ladies, we suspect). They’ve been together 18 months now, probably longer than Mike Pence‘s presidential aspirations lasted, so they must be on to something.
Brent and Steve say they have no plans to slow down their presence online, on film and in the written word, further fueling the speculation that someday Jayson will officially join the family business.
For your viewing pleasure, we bring you very rare PG-13 images of perhaps the world’s most famous male throuple…
sportyguy1983
I am sure that this is a very healthy “relationship” that will stand the test of time.
TSizzle
Funny how they failed to mention how this was started while Brent was (and still is) deported, the three haven’t spent more then 2 maybe 3 weeks together let alone lived together, and that Steve treat Jayson more like a sex toy than a boyfriend, and Brent RARELY tags or sends I love you tweets or facebook status to Jayson like he does to Brent. Talk to me when all three have actually lived together for 18. You damn right it’s a publicity stunt.
Scribe38
As the Pope said, “Who am I to judge?”. If it works for them, I’m happy for them. Either it will work or not. Relationships fail every day between two person type, so what if they have three? @TSizzle: I got a 20 yr relationship and its open. So I guess that allows me to talk? Honesty is the MOST important component in any relationship whether its between 2 or 10. Being honest about needs, wants, desires, jealousy, fears, and behavior is the first step of staying together.
Sansacro
@sportyguy1983: you mean, like most relationships in the country. . . .
ThatCEO
Im sure ma and pa Smith are REAL proud. From Marine, to Federal employee, to bartender, to public Fuck Boy on a leash for two porn stars. Think that picture will be on the next Smith family Christmas card.
Josh447
ThatCEO
I totally agree with you. Such a well rounded life and at such a young age. What parent wouldn’t want that for their child?
You are very insightful. So good of you to bring this up. I’d love a son like that!
Josh447
PS You obviously like 3 ways. Do you prefer to yank the chain or get yanked?
A great sport for all ages. Wouldn’t you agree?
ThatCEO
@Josh447: No i don’t like 3 ways, Im bisexual and happily married to the the woman I love for 15 years now, never once went outside the marriage, Neither of us have.
Also, being a public side hoe is NOT well rounded. Well rounded is speaking multiple languages, being able to enjoy both a football game and the opera, or being starting quarterback but also takes ballet lessons. THATS what well rounded looks like, being at the end of a leash while your married boyfriend holds it is not.
Props for being in the military and working a regular job, seeing the world yeah, I’ll give you well rounded their, but degrading yourself, a former marine, by allowing pics of you at the end of dog leash IS NOT well rounded. This man obviously missed some of the ideals the Marine Corps tries to instill in it’s soldiers.
Maybe the dog leash and lace panties he tweeted himself in are reason why he’s not a marine anymore.
underboy
jesus the most depressingly judgmental queens on this site – the commenters not the subjects of the story…
AtticusBennett
@ThatCEO: believe it or not, some of us play sports, love art and culture, have university educations, speak multiple languages AND enjoy polyamory and a healthy frisky adventurous sexual life.
we get it, though – your idea of “degradation” was passed on to you by a judgmental father. thanks for sharing. you’re still living in fear of what others think. may you one day develop a spine and grow a pair.
your fear and insecurity about someone else’s luxuriating in, and celebrating, their sexual-selves smacks of the same old insecure tired conservatism that way too many gay men are still slaves to.
they’re not degrading themselves at all. you, however, just let everyone know that you still live each day trying to impress conservatives in your life. way to fail at life, bucky.
polyamory works wonderfully for those who understand how to communicate with their partners.
those who can’t stop denigrating polyamory are usually those who can’t fathom how others live life without the insecurity and jealousy/possessiveness that rules them.
AtticusBennett
@ThatCEO: we get it. your parents would be ashamed of you if that was you. amazingly not all LGBT people have parents as pathetically judgmental as yours 😀
ThatCEO
@AtticusBennett: Your parents would be okay with you allowing pictures of yourself at the end of a dog leash with you married boyfriend holding it, and I’m the one with parent issues? yeah, that makes a whole lot of sense. Unlike some people, I don’t need to add partners to my marital bed for sexual adventures, nor do I need to blast it over social media. Im not trying to impress anyone. So because I too busy making my marriage as strong as possible and focusing on the love of my life now Im jealous and possessive? jealous I’ll give you, it just means I know who I have and what WE and I don’t want to loose that or her. Possessive Im not and neither is my wife and we are both the furthest thing away from “conservative”
Funny how it’s being judgemental when it goes against YOUR belief system.
edwardnvirginia
WHO CARES?! for millennia men have had mistresses, … in some cultures multiple wives, harems, etc. Women have had multiple lovers at the same time … in some cultures multiple husbands. AND men and women have had countless adulterous and group sex and polyamorous relationships. This is nothing new, novel, creative, innovative, or interesting.
AtticusBennett
@ThatCEO: yeah. they would be. because they don’t live their life worrying about “what others will think”, like you do, and no doubt your parents do/did. yes. you have the parent issues. you still worry about “what mom and dad would think” – i don’t have that problem. never did, never will. you can see us on my blog if you’d like to have your mind blown.
yes. you’re jealous and possessive. if you were even half as happy with the woman you’re sadly married to you wouldn’t have made any of the statements you made. you’d instead be saying “awesome! glad they’re happy!”
you didn’t do that. you decided that they must be embarrassments to their families. which, as i pointed out, points out that you yourself a grown man who still worries about what mommy and daddy think. did marrying a woman make them happier than your years spent sucking dick?
http://littlekiwilovesbauhaus.blogspot.ca/2010/01/what-is-monogamy-all-about.html
“Funny how it’s being judgemental when it goes against YOUR belief system”
I can explain this, because i’m smarter than you. you judged them. negatively. because they’ve found a different dynamic to make their relationship work than the one you’re using. i then judged your judgment of them.
i can try dumbing it down more for you if needed.
“jealous I’ll give you, it just means I know who I have and what WE and I don’t want to loose that or her. ”
therefore you live in fear of losing her. therefore your marriage is nowhere near as strong and secure as you wanted people to think it was. hence, your criticism of these guys who are enjoying a three-person relationship.
stop being mad at them for enjoying what you can’t.
Saint Law
@ThatCEO: I think they come across as a bunch of vapid skanks. That said, the idea you should live your life in order to please your parents is pathetic.
ThatCEO
@Saint Law: They do
ThatCEO
@AtticusBennett:
Im going to say this and drop it because Im about to take my beautiful wife and kids out for dinner then the wife and I will have alone time while the kids spend Easter with my loving parents.
Im sorry that respecting my parents is a character flaw. I have lived my own life since I left their house and I do value the opinion of my parents, but I have always lived my own life.
There are many reason celebs and porn stars use alias, and protection of the family name against backlash is one of them. Not to mention this man is a fucking marine, how do you think this makes the unites state marine corps looks. My brother in law is a marine and I already know what he will say about this. and Im refering to the dog collar and leash not the polyamory thing. As on commenter point out, this has been done for years, except, people had the decency to keep their private lives private.
And yes, before I started dating my wife, I sucked dick and ate pussy like a bandit. Im good at it too. My parents supported me through everything. They didn’t always like my boyfriends or my girlfriends and no I didn’t break up with them for that reason.
You should always have that concern that your partner will leave you, it’s 2015 and the divorce rate if 50%+, this is why you communicate, find new ways to strengthen the relationship (an bringing in a third is not one of those ways, if it is, then your marriage is in trouble already). I let my wife know everyday that she is the only one that I want and she lets me know Im the only one she wants. I would be concerned if my wife didn’t raise and eyebrow if she saw me talking to a pretty woman, or man.
My marriage is strong because we do any and everything possible to keep each other happy.
They can fuck who they want and probably already do. Plus it’s not like anyone is holding them to a high marital post. They are in porn and soldier boy is their bitch.
Thank You, but I have to go help my kids jackets on. Have a good one.
AtticusBennett
@ThatCEO: it’s not that respecting your parents is a character flaw. i respect my parents. the difference between my parents and yours is that yours are judgmental pricks with archaic conservative views on morality, and mine don’t. 🙂
“and bringing in a third is not one of those ways, if it is, then your marriage is in trouble already”
wrong.
we get it. your parents are idiots, your brother a meathead marine, and you the former-pole-smoker who tried to please them by marrying a woman. congrats!
what, a marine can’t embrace his sexuality? he can’t express himself sexually, because it’ll make your shi**y parents upset, and your dumb ol’brother?
stop being upset that a former marine is enjoying his life while the timid boys of your family are still trying to please your daddy.
yes. they’re in porn. a much more noble profession than being a goon hired by the government to kill innocents in a bullshit war 😀
Cam
Every 3 years or so Queerty does a post on a “Throuple” and every time they write as if it’s some brand new thing that will change all the rules of dating.
Prove it to us for once by writing a post a few years later on the three or four Throuples that you profiled before. To save you time I checked, they are all histore. As for this one. I love that the article talks about the bar being sold out. Unless it’s a night club, what’s the capacity in a normal neighborhood bar? 60?
Tebn
I respect it but I think this is not the ideal type of relationship. Michael Glatze had this type of relationship and he felt so empty that he finally rejected his own sexuality.
Shane Buchanan
Nothing is more romantic than knowing your husband is still getting laid while you’re in another country unable to be there with him so you spend your nights on Grindr in Toronto and he spend it shtooping the guy he met after he pledged his love to me. Ah, gay love. So beautiful
skcord
When every argument somehow goes back to a “fathers shame” you have to wonder who really has the daddy issues here…
DarkZephyr
@Shane Buchanan: Please don’t lump this in with all “gay love”. I am in love with ONE man and he is in love with only me. I am glad all these “throuples” are happy and my philosophy is “to each their own” but that is not something I could ever do myself in a million years. I am very deeply in love with my man and there just isn’t any room in my heart for anyone else. If I try to picture myself in a scenario like the one in this article it just doesn’t work for me. I don’t want anyone else. I don’t even need sexual playmates or an “open relationship” because my man’s touch is plenty good enough for me. I don’t need the hand touching me to be attached to a different body every few months to have sexual fulfillment. I think that some people are wired for monogamy and others are not. I don’t think we should judge each other for the different ways we choose to live our lives, personally. We have to do what works for us, and makes us as well as those that we love happy. I was once approached to be a member of a triad relationship or “throuple” as we are calling them now. I was honored that these two men that I respected cared for me in that way and wanted me to join them in a deep bond of love, that they trusted me that much to bring me into their intimate to share it with them and I was very grateful to them for thinking of me that way but I just knew from the bottom of my heart that I was not wired that way and it would not have worked out. So I had to decline and simply retain them as very dear friends, and I have. 🙂 And now I am very happy with my beloved.
AtticusBennett
@skcord: the one who instantly bring up “disappointing parents” when denigrating others. #DUH
AtticusBennett
i @Tebn: no, he ended up being one more feeble-minded homo who ran back to jeebus and an anti-gay family because he suddenly got scared of “Hell”
natmas
I have no doubt that a non-traditional relationship like this can work over time – but the reason why these three get so much shit because it’s so transparent that Brent doesn’t want this. He doesn’t acknowledge Jayson at all over media (while the other two media whore their love for each other) and the fact that Steve only visits him like once every two months is pretty telling. If I were married to a man and we were forced into a long distance relationship, I would at least visit him once a month and these two have the financial means of visiting each other more often.
I’m all for healthy relationships – but it’s pretty obvious that this one is either for publicity and it’s clear that one of them isn’t really into it. And that’s why they get so much shit for it.
That and everyone in DC despises Jayson – the dude is a total asshole and a terrible bartender. Steve’s a nice guy though.
jwtraveler
@TSizzle: Who cares?
jwtraveler
@ThatCEO: What are those ideals that the Marines try to instill? Arrogance? Intolerance? Close-mindedness? Violence as a solution to all disagreements? You embody those perfectly. As a parent, I’d be disappointed if my son joined the military. The fellows in the pictures above don’t seem to be hurting themselves or anyone else. I’d be proud of that.
TSizzle
@natmas: Steve was a pretty decent guy, when he around Brent and it’s just the two of them. When he’s with Jayson and since this “Relationship” the guy has been the epitome of douche as is Jayson. Brent is still a sweetheart and know to keep his mouth shut and let thing run their course. For some reason Jayson can’t and Steve treats him publicly like a whore, yeah that’s love. Maybe more people would accept it if Steve and Jayson didn’t act like asshole 90% of the time. Most fans, of Brent, would deal with but the other two make people hate this. The negativity they get is because of their arrogance. Notice all the negativity is directed at them NOT Brent. That’s no coincidence.
jwtraveler
It never ceases to astound me: Gay men who so unequivocally assert their right to define their relationships as they choose and have those relationships recognized my custom and law, as intolerant as the most right-wing, fundamentalist Christians when it comes to other gay men who choose to define their relationships differently.
The hypocrisy is so glaringly blatant!
jwtraveler
@jwtraveler: “BY custom…”
Cam
@jwtraveler: I don’t really care about these guys or what they do, but my problem is that every time somebody disagrees with somebody else on here it becomes an indictment on the entire gay community.
You claimed the gay community were hypocrites on here and as intolerant as right wing bigots.
Please point out to where anybody on here said that they wanted to pass a law against these guys or what they are doing. They didn’t did they?
So how about if somebody disagrees with another person we deal with that instead of yet ANOTHER person who is LGBT at acting and mislabeling the entire community because they got upset at a difference of opinion. Indicting an entire group because you don’t like what one or two says is ACTUALLY more like what the right wing bigots do.
AtticusBennett
@jwtraveler: EXACTLY.
i have gay friends in the adult film industry who have the support and respect of their families. clearly, that really upsets some of the gay men in the world who were only able to earn their parents’ “tolerance” by being a conservative heteronormative eunuch.
Tebn
@AtticusBennett:
In my opinion, Michael Glatze finally rejected his own sexuality because his life was empty and he felt lonely and unhappy. And, I think this type of relationship contributed to that emotional state. A happy and emotionally mature guy wouldn’t have reacted like that.
Furthermore, other determining factor was probably a low frustration tolerance. He was a gay activist who dreamed with a perfect world, this perfect world didn’t arrive. And he preferred to surrender completely instead to face the facts as an adult.
AtticusBennett
if your life is empty and unhappy it’s because of choices you’ve made, not the gender or sex of the partners you’re choosing.
might as well hang out at one gay bar, have a crappy experience, and say “that’s it! i hate being gay! i hate the gay community! i’m going to be straight again!”
he didn’t leave “throuples” – he ran back into the arms of “Jeebus” and his anti-gay parents pithy tolerance.
many insecure gay men blame their gayness for their unhappy lives, when in reality what makes them unhappy is their inability to reconcile their baggage from the past and actually live, and enjoy, the present.
Cam
@Tebn: said… “I respect it but I think this is not the ideal type of relationship. Michael Glatze had this type of relationship and he felt so empty that he finally rejected his own sexuality.”
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No, he turned to the Mormon church and then to evangelical Christianity after a health scare with heart palpitations.
Funny how his story about gay life seems to get more and more outrageous the longer he is parading around the evangelical blogs doesn’t it?
That said, the fact that you feel the LGBT community should be guided somehow because of some drama queens baggage is disturbing at best.
Tebn
@AtticusBennett:
The sexual promiscuity and the lack of affection (that is inherent to the promiscuity), in the long term, lead to the dissatisfaction and the lack of self-esteem.
Cam
@Tebn:
And it’s certainly a shame about the sky high divorce rate among Mormons, and the even higher rates of out of wedlock children among evangelicals. That promiscuity and disatisfaction certainly seem to be causing them problems.
whatever39
if by sold out, you mean that Brent and Steve and Jayson have, then yes is the answer. It was not a fundraiser to help Steve pay off TAXes, it was free. Just exactly what does Steve do other than sell out his husband for cash and live with Jayson for free? And why wasn’t Brent there in person? Anyone in the throuple have an answer? And not the “he had a gig” answer, because he didn’t. Once Jayson wakes up and realizes he’s been taken advantage of or whipped by his lover, hopefully he’ll ask us all why we didn’t tell him. Or maybe he can’t leave the only one who’s ever treated him like dirt and has him begging for more no matter what the cost (rent, food, steroids, dignity). Is it working for them? Yes. Should it? Maybe. I think if they were all totally honest with each other, it might be palpable…like “i’m using you for your home, food, rent, cash, hole” and “I’m whoring you out for profit” would be a start. Once you’re honest, let the pieces fall where they may – but in this case, I doubt it’d be any different. They seriously do deserve each other.
TSizzle
Brent wasnt there because he and his arrogant manager didnt make sure he had clearence to re-enter the country after over staying his visa, not paying taxes. So they, in their infinite wisdom traveled to canada and on the way home a customs agent in Chicago caught their ass and he hasnt been able to enter the country for 2 years. Hmmm coincidently, shortly after Steve left San Diego, moved in with the Rent Boy Jayson, they started dating and decided to included Brent. Basically Brent is deported. Thats why he wasnt there, he cant enter the USA for about another year.
notevenwrong
Now if they could get married, the immigration issue would be easily solvable. But oh, I forgot, the Gay Marriage movement doesn’t support non-traditional families.
TSizzle
Brent and Steve are legally married. If not in USA, they are in Canada.
Tebn
@Cam: Respectfully, you are mixing apples and oranges. I can agree with you but your arguments are not directly related to what I said.
TSizzle
@AtticusBennett: You sound like one of those assholes who thinks you can’t be both christian and Gay. I think you have the real issue here dude.