Last week we told you about C*ckblocked, a new website that lets users see who’s blocked them on Grindr. The site was developed by Trever Faden, a tech professional from Washington, D.C.
“I discovered that Grindr actually gives each user the profile IDs of all the users who blocked you on the app,” Trever told Queerty. “They don’t display it anywhere on the actual app itself, but the data is there.”
Related: This simple new tool lets you see exactly who’s blocked you on Grindr
“So, I decided to build C*ckblocked. Basically you can login with your Grindr creds and it’ll show you all the users who blocked you on the app.”
How about we take this to the next level?
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Matthew Rodriguez over at INTO asked Grindr users to share their experiences using the new tool. While many found it to be a silly distraction, Rodriguez noticed a sad pattern reported by many men of color.
Most of the men who had blocked them fell into the same category: white dudes who had they had never spoken to.
One user said he was blocked by over 700 guys, the majority of whom were white strangers.
Related: Rapper Le1f shares disgustingly racist Grindr screenshots
“This site serves as a reminder that, while there is blatant racism on dating apps, there’s also a lot of covert ways—microaggressions, if you will—that people can show their discrimination,” Rodriguez writes.
Check out some of these tweets…
I’ve heard a lot of WGM use the block button liberally, but let’s see if white gay men are really trying to make their digital space whiter.
— Bae-ricua (@mathewrodriguez) March 18, 2018
Oh how funny. Mine is about 10% people I know, 10% people I messaged, and the rest are strangers. Of the strangers, about 75% of them are white and at least half of those are the headless buff torso variety.
— Crystal Methanny (@RafiDAngelo) March 18, 2018
@TheAdvocateMag @gaystarnews @RawStory @instinctmag @PinkNews @topgaynewz @DallasVoice @gaytimesmag So this link allows you to see how many people have blocked you on Grindr. My husband was blocked 250 times-nearly all by white males. https://t.co/edBCHOaPHL
— JD (@LAPDinTx) March 20, 2018
lmao all 63 of the dudes who blocked me on grindr are ugly, well known racist gays in philly, no surprise lmao
— slam II (@JoeyxRoss) March 19, 2018
Mine is literally like 90% white or white passing guys but Boston is also very white, especially on Grindr so ????
— Russell (@IAM_DJ_Michael) March 18, 2018
it’s mostly just white guys who block POC liberally so that grindr looks whiter for them tbh. i had the same thing
— Bae-ricua (@mathewrodriguez) March 18, 2018
Hmm, it’s literally all white guys.
— Akul Gulrajani (@akulofficial) March 18, 2018
422, almost exclusively WGM, not that I’m surprised anyway.
— Ben Donkor ? (@FR314) March 18, 2018
jetrocky
Oh my God. When will this generation learn that analytics are not the key to life; and that people are still allowed to make choices in their lives?
I love Italian food. I do NOT like Indian food. Oh gee—I don’t ever want Indian food. So by this genersrikn’s definition I’m a racist? What bullshit. And I hope people don’t buy into that.
Preferences change. I grew up spending summers in Maine and wanted nothing to do with lobster. Now, decades later, it’s one of my favorite things.
When I was dating, I didn’t date black men. I didn’t have an interest. That doesn’t mean I’m a racist. A racist is someone who seeks to define an entire group by a set of generalizations and seeks to define them as less than equal in the eyes of the law, or in the eyes of man.
Nowhere does it say that if I make my own choices about who I’m attracted to that I’m a racist.
For the record, through my 30s and 40s, I’ve developed attractions to black men, Asian men, Indian men, Arab men….my tastes have expanded. I have t all of a sudden become “not racist”.
And please—if someone blocks you on Grindr, don’t waste your time figuring out why. Just move on.
Worry more about the people who are desperate to know what everyone thinks about your every decision and choice and preference.
chryso
Thank you for that response
troyfight
^jetrocky – excellent …add: & technically, if we’re not attracted to a woman, we’re sexist…it goes on and on. Yes, if someone blocks you, consider it a time-saving gift. Move the f on.
san39730
I’ve never seen someone miss the point entirely. This is clearly about you you feeling associated guilt for your past actions.
troyfight
^ …smh.
SumSay
There’s a term for men who don’t want to have sex with women. It’s called GAY, not sexist. Gay males have a biological/psychosexual reason for not being sexually interested in females (though that doesn’t stop all gay men from “doing the deed”). Straight men are completely attracted to women, but when they don’t see them as equals, or they view them as being nothing more than sexual objects then they’re SEXIST. When gay men view women as being less than men, then they’re being SEXIST. The not being interested in women analogy does not work here. Glad I could help.
Apolodorus
Why do any of you read these articles? I mean honestly. Not the first article on the topic.
Title is pretty explicit, and yet here you all are, with your fragility on your sleeve, your false equivalences and protestations.
If you don’t think you are racist because you don’t date black people and think it’s reasonsble to compare actual people with food preferences just leave it be. Stop trying to make me and people who disagree with you believe that sexual racism doesn’t exist.
apatinage
you REALLY don’t get it…. You need to look at the reason WHY white boys in this country tend to have their preferences ONLY for someone who looks like themselves and will actively avoid other races.. This country was built on dividing the races where one race was made to feel inferior to another… Although slavery and Jim Crowe laws are long gone – this mentality still subtly present in this country…. Why is it that the same looking white boys in other countries will date / fuck black guys?
troyfight
^SumSay ….yep, I see what you are saying. I wrote too fast, posted then thought “wait!” and of course couldn’t go back and edit……hope you feel better.
woodin
Well said!
Darryl997
I can provide one anecdotal story of someone I know that told me he goes thru and blocks all the black guys that show up just so that he can see more white guys. Thus, this really doesn’t come off as surprise.
mhoffman953
I’ve been blocked by 304 people so far. I don’t even know all of the people who blocked me and never sent them a message. I’m white and some of the people who blocked me are black. Does that mean those black men are racist?
mhoffman953
@Kangol
If that were true, isn’t that the definition of bigotry?
I don’t block people for their skin color or even if their profile would say they’re an extreme, left wing, socialist or even if it’s a fat old guy telling me that he’ll be “generous”. You seem to be jumping to extreme generalizations as to why people block others just like the people mentioned in this blog post.
To say that if a person of the opposite race blocks you that the reason is definitively racism is absurd. People might block others for a whole list of reasons. Maybe someone wrote something really obnoxious in their profile to get blocked. I have people on Grindr hitting me up asking if I parTy a lot, to which I just chastise them by calling them junkies which usually results in them blocking me. There are a whole litany of reasons for a block. I just laugh it off if I get blocked, I don’t cry about it and ask for sympathy.
I merely stated that I noticed some black guys blocked me when using c*ckblocked. Does that mean I was blocked due to racism? Probably not. For these black guys to assume that every white person blocked them because of racism is absurd.
Godabed
most minority groups are left leaning, and tend not to mix well with right leaning ppl, who tend to be close minded, racist, sexist, homophobic, with strict moral compasses and a superiority complex. It doesn’t make sense to go against your own interest. So as a black man, I make a point not to date or seek the company of anyone who is right leaning. That doesn’t mean i’m not open to having a dialogue or getting to know them. Judging people on the content of their character should be how it’s done. I’ve met out of the bedroom and some cases in the bedroom those very same men before finding out their political views too. It gets messy real quick when they start saying very ignorant things. So those 304, most of which are probably white, and some are people of color. Most likely has less to do with your skin color and more to do with your personality. Like the previous poster said, reading some of your post. I can only guess what your profile looks like, if you aren’t a troll and just making the number up in the first place.
mhoffman953
@Godabed
So when you say, “Most likely has less to do with your skin color and more to do with your personality.”, does that hold true for the people in this blog post? Or were they blocked solely because of skin color?
KaiserVonScheiss
I’m never going to buy into the whole preferences are racist thing. Just like I’m never going to get a “smart” phone and use grindr.
I find the idea of a “micro-aggression” laughable. Some of the things listed as such include simple questions and even complements. It’s really nothing more than a way to find and search for things to be offended by.
Who wants to live their life searching for things to get offended about? What is the deal?
truckproductions
There most certainly IS racism on the app. HOWEVER I think it’s absurd to say because white people blocked you that means they blocked you because of your skin color. None of the guys listed in the story were particularly attractive men. Maybe they were blocked because those guys weren’t into them. There are far more white people on the app than people of color so of course there are going to most likely be more white people. I’m white and I checked mine and almost all the 120 people who blocked me are white.
am_psi
The guys on Grindr who’ve blocked you have chosen the most benign way to show disinterest possible. They’ll no longer see you and you’ll no longer see them. They don’t have to put “no group-x!” in their profile and you don’t have to cry “group-y is racist!” every five minutes. The only reason to dig in to who’s blocked you is because you’re looking for an excuse to be offended.
troyfight
^am_psi exactly. It’s a time-saving gift actually…..also, you’re avatar is cute, i have to tell you.
Brian
Man, that really is micro. You literally never interact with somebody, and they only discover you blocked them because they went snooping into something that was none of their business in the first place. It’s so micro, it’s non existent racism.
Of course, this “evidence” is purely anecdotal in the first place. Something tells me that guys that are this liberal with the block feature are blocking plenty of guys of all races, especially if the goal is to keep them off the screen so they can see more guys they find attractive in the first place.
Prax07
Grindr gives you 12 free blocks per day, why shouldn’t I use them if a profile isn’t someone I’m interested in talking to?
I’m into white guys, so almost all my blocks are used for filtering out guys that don’t meet that criteria. I also use them to block trans, guys only looking for trans, crossdressers, guys looking to make a buck, guys outside my age preference, ugly guys, fat guys, guys that are too fit, guys that are too thin, etc. We use these apps to meet people we want to have around us, blocking you is the easiest drama free way to do that.
ChrisK
Wow. You get the shallow of the year royal POS award. I don’t feel a need to block anyone unless they’re being a pain.
jrh311
ChrisK, Grindr is for hooking up with strangers… There’s nothing deep about it to begin with.
WindsorOntario
I see more examples of classism than anything. The second after you reply to questions like what you do for a living or what part of the city you live in etc – if you somehow don’t sound wealthy or successful get ready to be blocked.
If you don’t have much money and especially if you’re over 30, get ready to be ignored by a hypocritical community that demands society be inclusive and tolerant of them, but they don’t have to be tolerant of each other.
Heywood Jablowme
(sigh)… I’m always so amazed and mystified by your posts. (And I apologize if it seems like I’m picking on you.)
But are you the ONLY non-wealthy guy on those apps? That’s hard to believe.
I’ve always been fairly poor by conventional standards; I’ve never been conventionally “successful.” But there were always SO MANY GUYS in the same situation that I rarely had any trouble finding sex partners. Okay, I occasionally got rejected for the reason you state here. (Or at least I think that was probably the reason.) But there are plenty of non-wealthy gay guys out there. You’re not the only one.
On the plus side, “successful” guys are often working 60 or 80 hour weeks and have little time left over for relationships, or even casual sex aside from the extreme quickie sort.
And as usual, you make a very strange analogy. How is “society” trying to have sex with you? How is “society” trying to avoid having sex with you? That analogy just doesn’t work.
Brian
I don’t think you understand how Grindr works.
CastleSF
Heywood, your response is clever and to the point. This Windsor guy often mentions being wealthy plays an important part in finding a partner. It may well be his unique life experience and he has witnessed it over and over so I don’t want to just dismiss it as odd. However, not everyone is as capable of finding sex partners as people like you, charming and seductive. But having too much random sex can lead to loneliness and missed opportunities to lead a more fulfilling life.
Heywood Jablowme
@CastleSF: I should have added Windsor’s “over 30” complaint, another perennial obsession of his.
There are hundreds of thousands of single gay guys older than 30. When you turn 30 it’s hardly the end of the dating world, since there are still a tremendous number of single gay guys in your same situation. But of course Windsor never looks at it that way. His automatic default position is to blame the “ageism” of “the gay community” (which “demands society be inclusive and tolerant of them, but they don’t have to be tolerant of each other,” blah blah blah). It’s just a very weird way for someone to look at life.
Anyway, Grindr is for the younger set, and someone over 30 might consider Scruff for instance which caters to more of an older demographic.
Castle, thanks for calling me “charming and seductive” but you raise an important point there, in that most of my charming/seductive activities were conducted in real life, or at least on Manhunt (lol), before the apps took over. I’m no expert on the apps, but obviously there are ways to be charming on the apps, or at least try to be charming. If someone is incapable of being charming in real life, they might actually be able to do it on the apps. But they never seem to look at it that way. A lot of guys here seem determined to be non-charming and off-putting, and then complain about the negative reaction.
jd.cali
Looking at stats on a grindr app is ridiculous. Who cares? If you do, you have a problem. You are setting yourself up for paranoia and victimization.
Don’t do it. It’s none of your business anyway.
miserylovedme24
…so what? I’m a bear and I found I’ve been blocked by a bunch of guys I’ve never messaged even once. No surprise there, and I don’t see the issue. If anything, it frees up spots on your app so that maybe you’ll come across someone that’s into you and you’re into. Why would you want someone taking up space on your app that you’re never going to meet.
kille31
Must this site always come up with race batting stories?!
Who cares who blocked you! Rejection is a part of life, learn to deal with it.
BTW, do these ppl also cry when you swipe left on tinder or they save their faux outrage to the gay apps?!
Ummmm Yeah
When is someone going to take on the rampant violent black homophobia?
troyfight
^ so true….severely exemplified by jaylove47 videos on youtube….
chris33133
Anyone using an app to find micro-aggressions expressed via Grindr has way too much time on his hands.
PinkoOfTheGange
Unless they analyze the accounts that blocked them, to see who else the blocker blocked, aren’t they jumping to a conclusion?
Now i wouldn’t be surprised if their conclusion is somewhat accurate, truth be told.
Catholicslutbox
we click because we have no life.
SumSay
They most certainly do. It’s just not as discussed on this blog as much.
Cylest Brooks
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Daniel-Reader
So you’re giving another app your grindr log-in info which means they can then catfish others with your info if they want.
jd.cali
We don’t need enemies on the outside.
LGBTQ is determined to destroy themselves. This is another example of that.
Divide, Ignite Fears, Demonize
Check, check, check.
DCguy
I think this could have been more effective if they also had some white members and looked at how many people had blocked them.
One person interviewed said that 25% of the people who blocked him weren’t white. Are they racist? Maybe there is something in his profile that they didn’t like.
But if the article also had a bunch of white guys and none of them were blocked by more than a few people that would have been revealing. But as it stands, for it to be a really effective article we would need to know the racial breakdown of Grindr and have a diverse sample size. Otherwise this article could be trying to create an impression of something that doesn’t exist.
i.e. if Grindr is 90% white, but the percentage of white guys who blocked that one commenter was still 75% That would actually show that white people in Grindr were LESS likely to block him than people of other races.
Not trying to go all statistics nerd here, but these little tweeks wouldn’t be difficult and would make a much more effective article.
troyfight
^DCGuy….I agree. And what about the big picture of: how do we not get nailed if we’re sexually attracted to some and not sexually attracted to others? What is the best etiquette?
barkomatic
I’ve read several articles about Grindr and race issues and I agree that when a guy makes a racist comment on their profile or states they aren’t interested in guys of a particular race it’s pretty rude/racist. It’s also rude to say things like “no fats/fems” etc.
However, the block feature is meant to be a private way to manage the people you see and talk to. If no mean/hurtful/racist statements are made on the profile itself than I would strongly disagree that using the blocking feature is racist. For those that consider the use of the blocking feature to be racist, what is the solution? Disable the blocking feature? Taking it further and assuming the blocking feature is disabled let’s say a man messaged you that you aren’t interested in. Would it eventually be considered racist if you didn’t respond? Racist if you didn’t respond and hook up with the guy?
Let’s face it, there are some really attractive guys on Grindr who probably get a *lot* of messages — and having to respond kindly to each and every one while simultaneously trying to find someone *you* are into is unreasonable.
DHT
Not surprising at all. I mentioned to some gay guys in a bar in Boston that I thought a lot of black men were handsome…this instantly labeled me a size queen. I mean what does one thing have to do with the other and seriously who really cares about the size of someone’s dick? It’s about how someone else makes you feel.
DCguy
Maybe I’m off base here, but you’re on an LGBT site. Why would you specifiy that you mentioned to “Some Gay Guys”. That seems like something that a non-gay person pretending to be gay would say.
CastleSF
Some of us get taunted a lot by friends or acquaintances when we express an admiration for black men. That’s just an unfortunate reality. Keep your chin up and ignore those condescending comments.
Cylest Brooks
@CastleSF
Legitimate question… what do your friends say when they taunt you about being attracted to black men? Like, are they trying to gently call you out for some kind of problematic behavior?? Or do you just need new friends??
DCguy
Hey CastleSF,
Since you’ve been on here supporting Trump and often attacking LGBTs…….and since we know that one of the tactics the anti-lgbt group NOM was caught advocating was to try to drive a wedge between lgbts and other minority groups by coming onto lgbt pages and creating racist arguments……AND now here you are saying you get “Taunted” for even “EXPRESSING” an admiration for black men……
I think you see where I’m going with this.
CastleSF
@Cylest, these are not just friends but acquaintances or buddies. They would imply that most black guys are on the DL to raise your suspicion, then the usual stereotypes of a black guy’s physique. Nothing you haven’t heard of. Most of the comments are just old and disrespectful.
Cylest Brooks
@CastleSF… sounds like shitty friends/acquaintances. 🙁 That sucks.
Deepdow
The usual suspects will continue to bleat that everyone has personal choices and such but when it’s overwhelmingly white gay men blocking people of color wholesale there is troubling meaning in that. The backlash against people expressing the fact that racism exists in the gay community says a lot.
BTW when looking into the gay community’s history, especially the 1970s, it was much more interracial and more progressive than it is today actually.
If you don’t like a person in any capacity for the color of their skin YOU ARE A RACIST. It’s your choice, but you are a racist and you do not get to say otherwise.
barkomatic
Again, the blocking feature is meant to be a private way that guys can manage the people they see and communicate with — and it has limited information. Could it be that the reason these white guys mainly blocked people of color is because that they are actually mostly interested in POC and blocked *particular* guys in that group they weren’t interested in? We don’t know for sure.
If a group of white guys blocks POC on Grindr it *may* indeed indicate deep seated biases and some guys probably are biased. However, how would we address that within Grindr without violating the right of guys to decide who they are intimate with?
Cylest Brooks
In my personal communities I always get so annoyed with racist, transphobic white gays who seem to forget that our entire friggin liberation was built by trans women of color. How quickly we have forgotten our roots is astonishing.
I don’t love your last two sentences, but in general, I agree with you here.