For three years, Mary Catherine Trollinger attended Gracewood Baptist Church in Southaven, Mississippi. She served as its college director for a while and even met Olivia Jennings, the woman who would become her wife, a year ago at the church.
When Gracewood’s pastor Barry Baker found out about their relationship a few months ago, he told the couple to leave the church and not come back. Now, months later, Pastor Baker has sent a nasty letter to Trollinger continuing to slam her “unbiblical” lesbian relationship, and Trollinger isn’t having it.
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The letter reads:
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“It’s been about a year now since you left your church family to live an ‘unbiblical lifestyle’ with Olivia Jennings. At the outset, I kindly, but firmly reminded both of you that a homosexual relationship is forbidden in Scripture and against God’s official design. For a professing Christian to live openly and unremorsefully in sin is degrading to name of Christ, defiling to his/her church family and destructive to himself/herself. I told you that the church could not allow you to live in unrepentant disobedience without addressing it. We love you too much to neglect you.
I had hoped that you would repent. However, after numerous attempts by family, church members, and friends to convince you of your error, you have remained resistant. In face you entered into a “marriage” contract with Olivia on Father’d Day, no less. Therefore, on July 14, 2019, the deacon body unanimously recommended that your membership at Gracewood Baptist Church be terminated. With much sadness, he church held a special business meeting on August 7, 2019 and voted without objection to end your membership.
Upon your request and evidence of repentance and reformation, however, you may be restored to full leadership at Gracewood by the vote of the body. As the Father rejoices over one “lost sheep” being found, we will celebrate your “homecoming.” We will pray and wait expectantly.
While it’s hardly surprising that a Southern Baptist church would kick out any its queer congregants, Jennings said, “It’s one thing if you send out a letter that’s generic, just a template, but it’s another thing to personalize the letter. In that sense, all the things that were said it wasn’t out of love, it was more out of spite.”
The letter also poured fresh salt into an old wound, especially since Trollinger’s own family kicked her out of their home on the same day that the church initially asked her not to come back.
Being kicked out by her church and family initially sent Trollinger into a months-long depression, but she’s apparently feeling better now and not dismayed by her church formally voting to oust her.
In fact, in a devil-may-care Facebook post, she shared an image of Pastor Baker’s letter and simply wrote, “Hmmmmm, ok whatever. Going to a better church now. Love my wife and Christ! ‘Nough said…”
Chrisk
What’s that saying about God hating all the same people you do? As a rational logical thinking human I’m glad they got out of that cult of insanity.
RIGay
I am nearing 60 and have learned, yup, religion, even the flighty, touchy-feely ones, are all just BS.
You want enlightenment, you are better off taking yourself for a walk without the use of ear buds. Forrest, country, seaside, city – look and listen to the world around you. That… is the one true religion, everything else is just theater.
Mack
I’m 72 and I agree with you. Being outside with the “life” around you makes you more aware of what life is about. I walk ever day, up until 3 years ago I walked outside in the wildlife areas around my house, unfortunately I can’t be outside that much any more. I quit Church years ago because of out right hatred to anyone that wasn’t as they were. I find it interesting when so-called “Christians” don’t act any thing like Christ.
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1 Timothy 5:8
8 Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.
CenterRight
The Baptist Church is the worst and the most ignorant among the Protestant denominations. They should try the Episcopal Church if they want to remain religious.
James Hart
The Episcopal Church is imploding. It’s lost 70% of its members since 1970, and, everyday, you can read of another conservative offshoot from that denomination.
Cy
“We will pray and wait expectantly.” Maybe try holding your breath too.
Cam
My My My….he certainly seems to be obsessed with them doesn’t he?
Chrisk
He’s just reminiscing when they were just young girls ripe for the picking and opportunity lost. 100% guarantee if they were males they would’ve been booted out and no such concerns about their salvation.
Tombear
These fundamentalist and Evangelical Christians sure show unconditional love to their gay congregants. Jesus would be proud, NOT!
JJinAus
You’re defending religion. Have you actually read the vile book which forms its basis?
EricNYCity
Just left this church a Google review… I suggest you do the same. 😉
bonbon
It’s not like this is inconsistent with Christian theology. Maybe they should find an affirming church or even better no church at all.
charlieeod74
Why on earth would any member of our LGBTQ family want to be part of a religious group, Southern Baptist, when there are several Christian denominations that openly welcome us. I was once a member of the southern Baptist church. I was told point blank that I would burn in hell for being queer, that my best friend, who was Jewish would burn in hell and that my cousin who was catholic was going to hell. It didn’t take long for me to realize that all evangelical Christians have in their hearts is hate. I quickly told Reed Memorial Baptist church to go to hell.
JaredMacBride
I have zero sympathy for for a gay or lesbian person who is a member of a Baptist church. What part of “we despise you” did they not understand?
1mary2catherine
My whole family went to that church. First of all, no one knew about Olivia and I until after I told them. Then I chose to go to a different church with my wife. A year after that is when he sent that letter. Anyhow, not asking for sympathy… too busy to worry about this stuff while in graduate school. Peace
Josh447
Religion: The root of all evil.