Ben Lindaman is a graduate of the University of Northern Iowa where he was a 4-year member of the Men’s track & field team as a decathlete. Growing up, he always knew he was gay, but he wasn’t totally comfortable with it.
“I observed my fellow peers and classmates who were ‘different’ and the way they were treated,” he recalls in a new essay published by Outsports. “I was infused with the ideals that society preaches about aspiring to heterosexual marriage.”
He continues:
These confusing thoughts were only compounded with the success I achieved as an athlete on both the high school and collegiate level, where homosexuality is not universally accepted. … In my mind, it was just easier to fall in line with society and suppress those gay thoughts as much as I could.
So he kept a low dating profile, relying mainly on apps to meet guys and keeping the relationships a secret. One of the guys he met was, as he describes him, “a very handsome man who worked at Dyson in Chicago.”
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During his junior year at the University of Northern Iowa, Ben returned home for Thanksgiving break. He had no idea when he got there that he was about to come out to his family.
“My mother said during a family dinner that she had her eye on a $700 vacuum made by Dyson,” he explains.
Immediately, Ben thought of his handsome “Dyson friend.” He texted him about the vacuum. The friend wrote back to say he could get it for Ben for just $200.
“I was shocked at such a significant price dropped and was ready to sign on the dotted line,” Ben recalls.
There was just one teeny tiny problem. How would he explain to his mom how he, a penniless college student, managed to score a $700 home appliance?
Before he had a chance to come up with a believable story, Black Friday rolled around.
Ben writes:
My mother was thumbing through the local ads in the paper and spotted that $700 vacuum for a grand total of $600! Anxious to jump on that “deal,” she encouraged me to get in the car to go pick up this Dyson vacuum. In the back of my mind, I could not in all good conscious let my mother overspend on a vacuum that I know had a significantly reduced priced waiting for her in Chicago.
Unable to think up a convincing lie on the spot, Ben broke down and told his mom everything–that he was gay, that he had a “friend” who worked for Dyson, and that he had already gotten her the vacuum at a $500 discount.
“I still love you with all my heart,” his mom replied.
Coming out to his mom and seeing her response gave Ben the courage to come out to teammates back at school.
“To my relief, I received nothing by positivity and outreach from the dozen or so friends and teammates that I came out to over my junior and senior years,” he says.
All the worry and anxiety Ben had experienced over the years proved to be for naught.
“My ultimate hope when people read this story is an understanding that it is okay to be unconventional,” Ben concludes. “Whether it is being an athlete who is gay or coming out over a vacuum discount, it’s your life and you have to be in control of what you do.”
“That’s something we all can aspire to do, whether we’re gay or straight: taking ownership of our lives and not watching it from the sidelines.”
Oh, and as for the vacuum, Ben says it “works great.”
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h/t: Outsports
kurt_t
In related news, Dyson fired a gay man for letting his grindr hookup use his employee discount to buy a $700 vacuum cleaner. “That’ll teach me to date a guy who texts during Thanksgiving dinner,” said the newly unemployed homosexual.
Rex Huskey
Ha!
RIGay
That was a nice story; not the ending that initially popped into mind, but a nice story.
I had initially thought perhaps he got caught using a Dyson vacuum cleaner while watching gay porn and perhaps the end result required a trip to the ER…
fredo777
@ RIGay I thought the same.
Heywood Jablowme
Ha ha. Dyson vacuums have the best suction… they suck… they suck real good.
phallictomato
Same, lol. Such a click-bait title: “This college track & field star thanks a $700 vacuum cleaner for helping him to come out”. Although 69% of people find something dirty in every sentence…
Jere
He saved Mom $400 on a high end vacuum by coming out? If I was Mom, I’d have been thrilled too. “Son, would you mind finding a “friend” at Apple? I need to update my iPad.”
PretenderNX01
I had a female cousin who would always end up dating a guy who did whatever needed repairing. A plumber, electrician, car mechanic. Whatever it was she needed, she happened to meet a guy who did it for a living. LOL
4of14
Clearly the problem here is Dyson. They fire a guy who could have opened a, whole new market for them. Bad businessmen, doing bad business.
MikeE
I think your confusing kurt_t’s joke for “news”.
No one was fired by Dyson for being gay.
NateOcean
Alternate ending:
So he took his mom’s $700, gave her the $200 vacuum cleaner, and pocketed the difference.
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Many of us were first introduced to the ways of the world via a vacuum cleaner.
stevetalbert
$600. It was on sale.
stevetalbert
And used the $400 for a call boy
phallictomato
A DYSON!? Why does everyone rave about these vacuum cleaners… we tried it, and it didn’t suck. At all. Literally. It couldn’t even pick up crumbs properly. Go with a Miele. It sucks way better. There’s a reason why Miele’s are excluded in sales – usually all the good stuff is excluded from sales.
Rex Huskey
Thanx for this. I’ll check it out. I have had very good results with Electrolux but do need a new canister.
Bob LaBlah
This story makes me love my $89 Target Dirt Devil all the more.
demetreus
Um…. ok… not to discredit this guy’s coming out, but…. his story sounds like it would have been better told back in the 1960s, no?
stevetalbert
From the picture i was thinking dirt filled crotch and butt crack..and helpful Dysen saleman…