Time for the Queerty Week in Comments, with the most compelling, thought-provoking or just downright bitchy comments that came directly from you, the readers!
“No family life equals no true joy (especially in old age). If gays don’t learn to build real intact families and instead choose to put all their eggs in the body-beautiful and partying basket, they eventually turn into pathetic lecherous old men making a spectacle of themselves while trying to keep younger men as company… or the male version of the cat lady. I know many gay men love to scream the alarm about heteronormative sell-outs, but the circuit parties and easy tricks can’t last forever.”
Pedro has some heated views, in Suicide Of Self-Help Therapist Raises The Gloomy Specter Of Gay Men And Aging
“So a former closet case makes money drafting a law that makes our lives difficult, hooks up with a woman, and is now making money lobbying to get DOMA repealed? Must be nice being GOP trash. I don’t know what is more offensive–that she helped make this law, or that she didn’t see us as people.”
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MEJ‘s choice words about Kathryn Lehman, in GOP Lesbian Who Had Hand In Writing DOMA Now Lobbying For Its Repeal
“You don’t do that in public view. You don’t do that at a foreign island that is anti-gay. Did the smallest amount of common sense ever cross their minds?”
David in Houston tells it like it is, in Incriminating Photo Of Couple Arrested On Gay Cruise Surfaces
“Public sex for gay men is sort of an outdated idea, really. It was a thing in the ’70s and earlier, when there were [no] ways for men to otherwise meet and hook up… Now, men have dating sites, apps, etc., to meet, more gay men are out and in public relationships. The social forces that were largely driving tea rooms in the 1970s are basically gone now.
I’m not suggesting people shouldn’t have public sex, but the question of whether they should just seems to be a bit dated, even in light of these arrests. Public sex is much less transgressive now than it used to be.
Now, even as a fellow gay man, I have to wonder why they just don’t get a room.”
Peter ponders the ethics of cruising, in “Is It Time For Gay Men To Stop Engaging In Public Sex?”
“I really loathe the celebrities who whine about people and paparazzi taking interest in their personal lives. You cannot be so naive to such a symptom of fame when you’re trying to break into show business. If you don’t want it, get a desk job.”
DenverBarbie is not so happy with Jeremy Renner, in Bourne Identity‘s Jeremy Renner Once Choked A Dude Who Called Him A “Fag”
Photos: Sgt. Michael Connors, Holland & Knight
LLM
I maintain that Queert’s headline was misleading (as was Towleroad’s) on the Jeremy Renner story and turned what might have been a positive story into a negative one painting someone in a homophobic light. A lot of bashings (and an even greater amount of bullying) start exactly how he described: someone physically hassling you–blocking your route, tripping you, pushing you, or pulling on your coat or scarf to choke you, then that person calling you slur like “fag,” and attacking your “gay” clothes/look/speech/etc., and upping the physical altercation by pushing or shoving the weakest member of your group. I have been there personally.
If Jeremy Renner was openly gay and the exact same thing had happened we would all be applauding hike for fighting back and not allowing himself to be bashed or bullied for his sexual orientation (and frankly knocking someone out is one of the few ways you can make sure they don’t come after you once you let go of them and give up your advantage), but we are divided here. Why? You can be a straight man bashed or bullied for your PERCEIVED orientation. This guy saw his scarf, started pulling on it/choking him, taunting him with “fag!” and then started shoving Renner’s sister. Whether he *is* gay or straight is irrelevant, he was being bullied for the perception that he was and he fought back.
If a guy had called him “gay” from across the street and he went over and beat him up in response, he would be a homophobic jerk. This, however, is totally appropriate for a person being bullied and potentially bashed by a true homophobe for “being” gay. Whether or not the victim is or was simply thought to be gay is irrelevant.
Dirty Ole Man
At 70 years old, I am living the heteronormal life: Two guys in suburbia surrounded by straights. Both sets of children and grandkids coming over for Easter dinner. Seems better than Tearooms in the Park watching for cops.
Bipolar Bear
@Dirty Ole Man – I think you might find a lot of those straight men surrounding you in suburbia are off down doing Tearooms In The Park when their wives aren’t looking. Glad you’re having a nice Easter with your families, mate. 🙂
Shannon1981
@Dirty Ole Man: Perhaps that is for you, but here is my take on heteronormativity.
http://soyouwanttobealesbian.blogspot.com/2012/04/series-dykin-it-up-unconventionally.html
Ryan
Thank you LLM, and shame on Queerty and towleroad for their trolling bullshit in this ginned-up fake Renner story. No, he didn’t attack someone for calling him gay. That never happened. Words matter.
James
@Ryan: @Ryan: @Ryan: Shame on you, Ryan. If you read the article you would know this a$$hole Renner said, “It’s not f!cking true!” So, f!ck you and f!ck Jeremy Renner.
Ryan
@James,
Seriously, I don’t understand the obsession some in our community have in being offended by absolutely nothing. You really need to grow up a bit. He said various suppositions about his sex life (including saying he’s gay and/or dating famous Hollywood starlets) aren’t fucking true. Why does this offend you?
And then Queerty tried to imply that he attacked a man for calling him gay, which never actually happened.
Aren’t you embarrassed now that you were “offended” for no reason at all? Even just a little bit?
J
It’s pathetic that the gay media and many in the gay community is always so desperate for some star to be gay.
DenverBarbie
@J: If over half of the kids in our high school drama camps were gay, why should we believe only a handful of Hollywood actors are?
Representation is important, and I don’t believe that gay gossip rags are speculating to merely be salacious.
Thanks for the recognition, Queerty!
FunMe
“or just downright bitchy comments” . . . I’m surprised it only took you a week to find them!
James
@Ryan: Ryan, he said the gay assumption “wasn’t f!cking true” He didn’t say anything about starlets. Gay is not an insult. Stop being a self-loathing f@ggot. Did I insult you? Probably not. But, that’s what you are. Accept it.
Ryan
@James, reading comprehension is important, especially if you’re going to call someone a homophobe for no reason at all.
Here’s the quote:
For Renner, Internet speculation already has centered around whom he’s dating (everyone from Jessica Simpson to Scarlett Johansson, if you believe the tabs) to his sexual orientation. “I want my personal life to be personal, and it’s not f—ing true,” he says of the suppositions.
You embarrassed yet, or still “offended” for no reason?
And no, you didn’t offend me, because I’m not self-loathing. “Gay” is not an insult, you’re right. And Jeremy Renner never said it was.
MKisNE
Of course he’s not gay. And if someone thinks he’s gay he’ll have another plastic surgery to make his face look more masculine. He’s a movie star, he’s beyond gay.