Is it possible to become addicted to threesomes? According to blogger Aaron Little, the answer is yes. And he’s living to tell about it.
“Studies show that gay men tend to bring a third into the bedroom at some point in their relationship,” Little writes in a new op-ed. “It can be healthy for some, as it eliminates the need for infidelity, but in others, it can be their demise.”
For him and his boyfriend, it proved to be the later.
Little writes that he and his boyfriend decided to try the whole threesome thing in an effort to spice things up and possibly strengthen their ties.
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“We continued to invite guys over to our house, or we would go to their apartment,” he says. “Sometimes the sex was great, other times he just wished we could take back the last hour and a half of our lives.”
After several mediocre threesomes, Little says he and his boyfriend hit “rock bottom” when they flew to Melbourne for a holiday weekend and “decided to just stay in the room and [have sex] all weekend–we did six guys in a period of 72 hours.”
Sounds exhausting!
“It was so bad,” Little continues. “We were both on Grindr finding the next guy 20 minutes after the last one left. We even had the bartender downstairs in the hotel bar leaving bottles of wine and champagne at our door.”
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But it didn’t stop there. Because after the holiday was over, the guys returned home only to continue having nonstop threesomes, which were followed by arguments, which were followed by more threesomes, which were followed by more arguments. It became a vicious cycle.
“We had a lot of issues that stemmed from these random threesomes,” Little writes. “I was always extremely jealous, and some of the guys we had brought into our bedroom had been a terrible mistake.”
Eventually, his boyfriend moved out of their shared apartment and Little feared their relationship was done for. Luckily, they were able to patch things up eventually.
“Nine months and three threesomes later, my partner has moved home, and our relationship is stable and secure once again,” Little explains. “What we had gone through was all part of our journey, and I hope I never have to go through this again.”
We hope so, too, Aaron. We hope so, too.
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stranger2myself
We have a saying in my country: “If you give your heart to someone you shouldn’t give your butt to the others”. If you decided to be in relationship with someone what’s the point in having sex with strangers?! If two sluts get into relationship it’s doomed to last few months. It’s just better to have flatmates and civilised sex encounters scheme than relationship that is abomination in society.
skipbar
this is one of the stupidest articles I’ve ever read. Is it even real or are is it “fake news”? This guy sounds to ridiculous to be real.
I have many friends in committed relationships, and the majority don’t “tend to bring a third into the bedroom”. My late husband and I were together for 15 years, and we never even considered a three way. so please stop generalizing to validate your own infidelity.
and you’re an idiot if you don’t think of a three way as infidelity.
if people want to fool around in their relationship, that’s their business, but being honest about your commitment to each other.
Frank
First of all stupid article…which is far too common place of QUACKY!!!
Second of all, far too many people whether gay or straight think they are spicing up their relationship with threesomes and/or open relationships…just stop and think does your brand of relationship really need more spice or does it need to actually simmer more with what is in the pot to bring out the flavors and enhance the taste…
SO many people think that spice is BETTER and nothing could further from the truth because in truth many have not brought out the real flavor of the person that they are in relationship with.
Lust is the quickest to develop, and the quickest to fade. Intimacy develops more slowly, and commitment more gradually still.
Kangol
Can someone make this into a TV series for Netflix or HBO? Yeah, people would b!tch and complain about the depiction of gay men and promiscuity, but if even done semi-decently, it’d be a hit. I’d definitely watch it, and I know I’m not the only one.
oilburner
There once was a shitty lil show on HBO called LOOKING. That show had shit similar to this , had LOOKING still been around this story would be season 3
AlexEf
Eastsiders – second season http://www.imdb.com/title/tt2558816/
NateOcean
“…six guys in 72 hours…”
Amateurs!
Armiya
No surprise that it was possibly lifted from another source. Now that they’re not featuring the “groundbreaking” and “important” advice from Davey Wavey on a thrice daily basis, it seems lately either their sources are a copy and paste or an all important Reddit thread somehow created into an article. Then again this is a website where an entire lame ass article can be written about a D-List celebrity because they happened to take their shirt off someplace.
parrjj03
Meh. I’ve been with my husband for 7 years (married for 2) and we’ve had countless threesomes. Hasn’t strained our relationship. We enjoy it. It’s fun. Guy comes over, and he goes home. That’s it. It’s is defiantly not hard to get a threesome in the gay community.
Who care what two consenting adults do. The comments on Queerty are ridiculous.
miserylovedme24
Yeah, same here. It’s just something we do for a bit of extra fun once in a while, mostly when we’re out of town for whatever reason. I can see how being addicted to it would be a problem, but that would seem to be more of a sex addiction problem than one specific to threesomes.
Heywood Jablowme
Agree about the “out of town.” Doing it in the place you live might have the potential for problems. Doing it in a faraway city always just seemed fun.
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PacoMDFACS
When you have a need to have sex with someone else besides your partner is simply because he does not fill all your needs. So you need to reassess your issues and your relationship.
randym
Well, no one person is going to fill all my needs. My barber does not fix my car, for example. Reassessment is always a good idea (Catholics used to call it “examination of conscience” and run through it every day) but that doesn’t mean I/we won’t come up with the same answer.
jag4313
One couple that hook up with regularly don’t ever have sex one-on-one. They only have sex in threesomes or more. It’s been like this for 15 years and it seems to work for them.
Godabed
There is an old Christian saying, “you can’t turn a hooker into a house wife”. I really don’t care about these people’s so called relationship, from Little’s description, they both seriously lack self control, and seem unstable.
randym
Yes, there are a lot of Christian sayings. I don’t believe this one either.
M K
IF… and that’s a big if…. this situation and story are actually true, clearly the issues in this couple goes way beyond the threesome encounters.
randym
The problem is the addiction, not the threesome. Any addiction is a problem, to sex, drugs, alcohol, coca cola, or threesome.
My husband and I have threesomes every chance we get. Sometimes, he picks the guy, sometimes I do. Sometimes it works out for him, sometimes it works out for me, sometimes it works out four both of us, sometimes it’s a bust.
We have sex with each other alone, too.
It’s the addiction that’s the problem, not the threesome.