Ancient grudges

Cyberbully harasses man with creepy notes after being rejected by him on Grindr six years ago

Everyone handles rejection differently. Some people cry and get depressed, others shrug their shoulders and move on more quickly, and then there are those who go absolutely apeshit crazy. This is the story of one of those guys…

A Grindr troll with the screen name “Hung Top” has been endlessly terrorizing men in San Diego whenever they reject his advances, continuing to harass them for weeks, months, and even years.

Ricardo Sousa is one of his victims. Six years ago, he turned down “Hung Top.” Ever since then, he says, he’s been harassed with hateful late night text messages, notes, and even death threats.

Related: Turns Out Grindr Is A Godsend If You’re Gay, Twentysomething, And Disabled

Earlier this week, Sousa posted one of the messages he received in the middle of the night to Facebook:

“This has been going on for six years now,” Sausa wrote in the post. “I have ignored, I have blocked, I gave him warnings and he won’t stop.”

Speaking to San Diego Gay and Lesbian News, he added, “I have reported to Adam 4 Adam and Grindr; he gets deleted but creates another profile with a different email. That’s just how these apps work.”

To make matters even worse, “Hung Top” apparently lives in the same building where Sousa works.

“He put notes on my car,” said Sousa. “Threatening notes. … I’m scared of this guy.”

Related: Grindr wants to become your new “lifestyle brand” while helping refugees and stopping AIDS

Apparently other guys in the area have fallen victim to “Hung Top” as well.

“He sees other profiles in the area and hits them up,” Sausa explained. “If you did not reply he would get upset and send those texts.”

After dealing with this guy for more than half a decade, Sausa finally contacted the San Diego Police Department’s LGBT liaison Sgt. Daniel Meyer for help, but the sergeant was out of town. So he went to the San Diego LGBT Community Center during their bi-weekly free legal advice service. He’s currently putting together a legal case to file a restraining order against the cyberbully.

“I only want letters from people who have been harassed by him and send screenshots, that helps a lot,” he told SDGLN.

So far, Sausa says he has collected four letters from guy who claim they, too, have been dealing with “Hung Top.” He hopes more people will come forward to strengthen the case.

“I don’t want him to hurt anybody,” he said, “but he should be in jail for a while, because this is way over the top. There was a shooting in Florida… we don’t need another one.”

Related: Grindr Has Ruined Absolutely EVERYTHING, Disgruntled Blogger Laments

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  • Danny279

    Another tale of the joys of “sexual liberation” via Grindr! Who needs love, stability, connection and marriage when you can have lots of loveless hookups with wackos and stalkers? It’s transgressive, y’all!

  • Heywood Jablowme

    @Danny279: Apparently you didn’t notice this is NOT a pro-Grindr article, so it refutes your theory about Queerty’s supposed pro-Grindr agenda.

    And there are plenty of bitter divorce stories out there!

    And I’ll ask you again: where did you and your bf meet? At a church picnic?

  • Donston

    This doesn’t seem pro or anti Grindr. It’s just typical sensationalism. And there is a lack of gay sensationalism if you avoid Grindr stories.

  • Jordy

    6 YEARS? Gurl, I would have hunted that motherf***er down after two weeks and hit a curb-stomp on that ass with my new Louis Vuitton.

  • Chris

    This story illustrates why people get restraining orders.

  • truckproductions

    lol danny279 what? are u suggesting there was no stalking or date rape or any kind of violence BEFORE grindr??

  • nowliveit

    Hung Top is obviously a Trump supporter. He can do whatever the fuck he wants to do to anyone without recourse.

  • Kangol

    Here’s an option: agree to meet the nut, bring bodyguards as backup and a cop, and let the cop arrest this freak for harassment!

  • timshundo

    @Danny279 NICE TRY, “HUNG TOP!”

  • MaxTaste

    Grindr has been around for 6 years?

  • QJ201

    too bad you can’t block people in real life… like in that episode of Black Mirror!

  • Bob LaBlah

    I’m willing to bet ol’ Hung Top is neither.

  • readycarlos

    This guy is still active on Scruff! I just saw him today! He had a face pic but he has deleted it!

  • stevetalbert

    Is the hung top guy commenting on the sorry profile pic?? Or is that his??!!

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