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Salem-Keizer Volcanoes baseball player Bryan Ruby has come out as a gay man. The confession makes him the only player at present in major or minor league baseball to openly identify as LGBTQ.
Ruby, 25, shared his truth as part of a lengthy interview with USA Today. In it, he details how he first identified his attraction to other men at age 14, as well as the long and tumultuous road that has led him to today.
“I kept thinking about the little 14-year-old me, who was scared because I’m a baseball player who loved country music,” Ruby said. “Those are worlds where people like me are told they can’t belong. I’m not a hot-shot prospect. But today, you can’t find a single active baseball player who is out publicly. I want to help create a world where future generations of baseball players don’t have to sacrifice authenticity or who they really are to play the game they love.”
“Being closeted for basically 10 years, it was a struggle the whole time,” he recalled. “I used to hate myself. Hate how I felt. I’d ask why am I feeling this way? I kept having people tell me, ‘Be very cautious of who you tell’ or ‘They don’t need to know your personal life.’ The best way to describe the hiding as an athlete is like you’re running with a weighted vest on. It’s on all day and you can’t take it off. I’ve been gradually taking that weight off.”
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Ruby’s life outside of the baseball diamond didn’t yield much relief, either. He moonlights as a country music singer/songwriter in Nashville–another world known for macho male attitudes and a dearth of openly gay singers. Lil Nas X and TJ Osborne have both spoken about the homophobia they experienced in the country scene–a sentiment echoed by Ruby.
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“As a country music songwriter, at first I thought being gay was a huge weakness,” Ruby added. “There’s this genre about drinking beer and hooking up with girls in the back of the truck. Then I realized that I can bring something different to the table. Love songs don’t need to be gay or straight. And I’ve been able to write my best songs by being authentic.”
In the same interview, Ruby goes on to explain that he’s long since come out to close friends and family. He has, however, always kept his romantic life intensely private for fear of damaging his baseball or music careers, often vaguely mentioning a relationship. Coaches, Ruby also says, encouraged him to keep his sexuality hidden.
One person he did tell was Billy Bean, MLB vice president and special assistant to the commissioner who came out as gay in 1999. Bean gifted Ruby a pair of cleats with rainbow shoelaces as a sign of blessing and support.
“I’ve worn his cleats everywhere I’ve played – on three different continents,” Ruby said. “I look down at them, and know I have support. I didn’t think about the symbolic meaning until recently, of me wearing his shoes and what I’m doing.”
For Ruby, who joins the ranks of footballer Carl Nassib and hockey player Luke Prokop, both professional sports players who have recently come out, going public is both a personal liberation and a political sign of the times.
“Each time somebody comes out in industries where queer people have not been historically represented in the mainstream,” Ruby insists, “it helps to crumble the myth that you can’t be yourself. But we’re in the 2020s. It’s about damn time for this.”
“If I can help just one person from this,” he adds, “then that’s greater than any single hit or home run or win that I ever get on the field.”
Now that’s a home run.
Cam
So which attack will the right wing troll account use on this thread?
Either screaming “Nobody cares”
Or posting that anyone who publicly comes out is just “Looking for attention?”?
That said, congratulations to Ruby!
CatholicXXX
FYI, the American football player that came out awhile ago is a right-wing trump fanatic.
Cam
@CatholicXXX
Awwww, how adorable, the troll account tries to deflect from the baseball player who came out.
Your troll game is still sad and weak.
Fahd
Good for Ruby. Baseball players, especially minor league players, with whom I have interacted are pretty “unsophisticated” (Some are hot of course and there are some who are engaging in gay sex even if not identifying as gay – but we all know that.).
One can empathize with the pressure to remain closeted that he must have felt, and so more is his coming out valuable. Kudos!
Kangol2
Congrats to Bryan Ruby. I’m curious to see how fellow players will respond if he makes it to the major leagues. In the early 2000s there was a bit of hubbub, on Outsports and other sites, about a major leaguer potentially coming out, but it never happened. I always wonder what really transpired with that story and whether the person thinking about coming out got a lot of pushback, cold feet, threats of losing sponsorship, no support from the team, or some combo of all of these and more.
banditboy
I’m happy for him, but seriously, this guy is playing for what is essentially a semipro team not affiliated with a major league team. There has to be some benchmark to what constitutes newsworthy, and a journeyman playing semipro does not rise to the level of “OMG, a pro baseball player just came out.”
skeldare
So he’s a ‘pro baseball player’ but not in the MLB. Baby steps I guess.
Happy for him though.
barryaksarben
My brother in law played in the BIGS for 9 years and people do not realize exactly how few people make it to the BIGS or who make it to the minors. VERY DAMNED FEW is the correct answer. I applaud this guy for his honestly and wish him well. You may think it a small step but for HIM it is a giant leap so stfu you negative bitch
Gourmet Guy
Bravissimo, Bryan Ruby! I hope you realize how many young–and old–people who are living in the closet have seen the light come through their closet door, thanks to you. Imagine how many you have helped in their struggle! Bless you.
maddog
“There’s this genre about drinking beer and hooking up with girls in the back of the truck….”
With respect to Country Music he is welcome to have a beer with me anytime.
CatholicXXX
Did he come out in hopes of getting his own Netflix reality series?
linedrive
Sounds like he was tired of hiding and he wanted to inspire others. Great reasons
Cam
I love it, the very first comment on this thread, by me pointed out that the same old right wing troll was going to come in and cry that this guy was just doing it for attention.
Thanks for proving that when it comes to your sad trolling, I’m always right.
mateo
What a lame comment, especially since it concerns somebody who you don’t even know. If you want to know why he came out, WHY DON’T YOU ASK HIM YOURSELF, instead of making stupid speculations?
Essie
Good for him but, really, he is a 25 year old MINOR LEAGUER. There is very little chance he will make the majors. Wake me when a MAJOR LEAGUE PLAYER comes out. There are plenty. (I personally know one but he’s retired and still scared to come out.)
lou lou de la falaise
that hair……..
Heywood Jablowme
With baseball this is probably the best way. A nice guy minor leaguer comes out, then some more minor leaguers come out, and eventually an openly gay one will get to the majors. Up to now it’s as if everyone was waiting for some “gay Jackie Robinson” to pop up, an acknowledged superstar with an ideal personal life and demeanor to deal with the haters, etc. But it’s not 1947 and the racial analogy doesn’t really fit here. Guys are usually aware they’re gay at a very young age, but MLB players often don’t get there until their late 20s. Bryan seems like a great guy. Best of luck!
SDR94103
YEAH!!
PollyDarton
I’ve never heard of him. But I’ve also never heard of the Salem-Keizer Volcanoes.
Toofie
That’s great! The more people comfortable being out, the better. The negative and snooty responses of some of the people here is disappointing. Not unexpected, just disappointing.
dhmonarch89
A couple minor leaguers have come out it past- it’s great, but the ‘it’s about damn time’ headline should be reserved for a MAJOR league player. ONE out player would be more valuable than 10,000 Pride Nights.
PerhapsYesNoMaybe
Handsome and talented.
wikidBSTN
“The confession” ???? WTF??? Since when does one “confess” to being gay? I thought this was gay site.
G R
Good for Ruby but those waxed brows were a dead giveaway for anyone with working eyes.
cuteguy
Thank goodness for the younger generations. Gen X and prior generations were so homophobic and full of hate. Thank goodness they will be dead soon
Heywood Jablowme
Be careful walking while staring at your phone and falling 20 feet into an open manhole.
mlo88
With those eyebrows how can this be news to anyone? Seriously…