Are apps like Grindr and SCRUFF turning people into crazed sex addicts? According to Dr. Wendell Rosevear, the answer is: Yes.
In an interview with the Curious Mail, Rosevear says the urge for “instant sex” due to the rise of hookup apps is turning people promiscuous and warping their judgement when it comes to safe sex practices, leading to an increase in STIs, particularly among people ages 15-35.
“I think people are a bit immune to the burden of having to be safe with sex and a lot of people don’t like condoms,” he says. “But also there is now a sense of entitlement where people think: ‘it’s my right to have unsafe sex’. … They have disinhibited sex under the influence of ice or marijuana or alcohol, so they live in a world of no consequences.”
Let’s not paint with a broad brush, doc!
According to Rosevear, these dangerous apps are causing people who lead “desperately lonely compartmentalized lives” to become “addicted to quick or anonymous sex.” He claims that some of them even have sexual relations with strangers up to 10 times a day. It’s their way of feeling like they belong.
“People are becoming more reliant on social media and app connection,” the doctor explains. “They are desperately wanting short, anonymous connection to alleviate that need to have a sense of belonging.”
But it gets worse. Because Rosevear, who admits he met his own partner on a dating site, also says gay men are especially vulnerable.
“People can be quite lonely, a lot of gay people fear they will end up old and alone, but equally, the internet does allow people to connect who may not otherwise meet,” the doctor warns. “I have patients who spend their whole lives through internet socialization but can’t meet face-to-face with friends on the internet. Some patients have only internet lives, they even have sex only over the internet.”
As a result of all this rampant sex, Rosewear says, STI infections are on the rise and people are forgetting what it means to be in a satisfying long-term relationship.
“People are pushed into seeking validation from as many sexual partners as they can,” he says. “That recipe of using attention as a substitute for acceptance means they get tunnel vision of only seeing the immediate gratification.”
OK, doc. …Or maybe they just want to get laid?
What do you think? Have hookup apps caused you to become absolutely addicted to casual sex with complete strangers? Are you getting naked with a different person up to ten times a day? Share your thoughts below…