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Davey Wavey Is Tired Of Hot Guys Telling Him They’re Not Attractive

On a crusade to make everyone think they’re more beautiful than they feel, Davey Wavey says he’s getting messages on Grindr (ahem) from hot guys who aren’t responding to his “You are beautiful” project the way he wanted. So what are self-deprecating guys to do about finding some self-confidence? “Even if you don’t like the way you look, fake it.” Yeah, gays! Fake it until you make it … to the gym, six times a week, cut 500 calories out of your diet every day, get your crooked smile fixed, start a Proactiv regimen, and do something about that nasty breath. In the meantime, stay pretty!

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  • Spike

    Davey would be SO HAWTE in a sleep sack and ball gag!

  • TJ

    Who is this moron? He needs to sit down and just shut up.

    Maybe even get a job?

  • justiceontherocks

    @TJ: This is his job. Sad, I know.

  • Jerry

    Why is his shirt off?

  • DJ

    @Jerry: I don’t think he ever wears a shirt. But I don’t mind…

  • Jeff K.

    I’d do him. Does that make me a bad person?

  • JoshP

    for our enjoyment don’t act like you didn’t like it.

  • kernelt

    he’s cute and nice body, just need to be a little more masculine and talk less with a lovely voice

  • Charlie

    Guys, his message is about feeling good about how you look no matter what and all you can say is “He’s a moron, get a job.”

    If he posted a video saying he hoped we can one day end war and cure cancer people here would probably still say “Shut up no one cares what you think!”

  • Bill

    Cute vid, nice positive message. Good for you.
    And I think you’re cute.

  • Jaroslaw

    He is certainly correct that being confident and positive is much better for success than being gloomy and negative. Speaking personally however I did go to the gym for 6 days a week for a year and I had very little to show for a lot of effort. People’s bodies are different. Surely people are familiar with the term scapegoat? I don’t know what the term is for perpetually unsuccessful at romance, but I think there is something similar for that. Remember “Ted” on Queer as Folk? In other words, no matter what you do (popularity or influence at the office, politics, neighborhood groups – anything where there is a pecking order) there will be a few at the top, some in the middle and some at the bottom.

  • Ian Ridley

    @TJ Your fail comment has failed. Go away, troll.

    Anyway, great vlog. I agree with this message so much. However, I’m a bit peeved about the article’s closing. Way to undermine the message, guys.

    I mean, of course one should always seek to keep healthy and improve themselves, but the flippant attitude with which you bring it up here seems far less like encouragement and more like demanding everyone conform to mainstream standards of beauty. Weird way to close an article about being confident with what you’ve got.

    Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing attractive about bad breath, but crooked smiles happen to make me weak at the knees. And, while, if you want to lose weight I totally encourage you in the endeavor, you don’t have to be skinny to be drop dead gorgeous.

  • Shannon

    WHY….why do you guys keep telling this idiot he is goodlooking? Cause he is NOT!!!! now he THINKS he is all that when he is nothing…..really….

  • GetBalance

    He is delivering a good message. Where did he say anything about judging him, didn’t hear that request.

    So don’t shoot the messenger, cuz he has nothing to do with the message except for delivery. Would u shoot your mailman?

    Listen up. Some of you guys make the judgmental religious right look like Mother Teresa.

  • Kamikapse

    Losing his shirt doesn’t matter, when I still have to look at his fug face…

  • Kamikapse

    And no, his message isn’t good / positive… it’s pretentious and asinine,insincere bullshit.

  • Sven

    Some people bitch just to hear their own voice (or read their own comments.) I think davey is very cute. And I highly doubt any of you would kick him out of bed. For now I have more important things to complain about than his well defined pectorals, DOMA, prop 8, Maggie the hutt, the logistics of finding a hot foreign husband and getting him into the country.

  • Qjersey

    I don’t need someone who looks like a gay ghetto stereotype to tell me to think of myself as beautiful.

  • porter

    I think he’s super cute and I like his sing song/daffy girl voice. His philosophy on self love, however, is fairly simplistic and somewhat easier to embrace if you’re genetically gifted. Beyond that, I don’t agree with him. I remember a guy I dated actually BLUSHED when I told him he was cute…the fact that he had little idea of how attractive he was was actually refreshing and very sexy in a sea of men trying to “own” it. Yes, confidence can be sexy, but so can modesty, shyness and awkwardness…depends on the guy. But good for Davey Wavey for trying to put something positive out there.

  • me

    Go Davey Wavey! Everybody online who is responding so negatively were young at one point, and would have benefited from hearing such simple, straightforward, sincere advice. Now, they seem to have attached importance to values other than self-confidence, empathy, sincerity, and the desire to effect change and to be of help.

    You go!

  • Scott in NYC

    Davey seems like a nice guy, but I can not for the life of me figure out why he commands umpteen articles from Queerty? He’s got nothing of particular insight to say yet he’s treated like he’s some sort of pundit. I just don’t get it.

  • Eric

    It’s funny hearing about positive body image from someone who looks like body fascism propaganda incarnate.

  • Soupy

    Yes, go Davey Wavey! Go far, far away, where there are no cameras, computers, or cell phone reception. Then keep going.

  • GetBalance

    Gotta hand it to him for his PR work. He creates quite a stir. Keep it up Davey tho u would become more realistic if we saw a bit of the opposite cheerleader side of u. Currently ur pretty one dimensional and bottom line, we are the rainbow group. A bit of a mix of June Clever and Max Headroom. Buttt. It’s when people don’t talk about you that one should be worried. ;) The worst thing is becoming irrelevant. Ageing “stars” go thru it all the time, ‘taint pretty.

  • GetBalance

    (( or, Valley grl mts Ru paul))

  • Tim

    Wow… half of your responses just make me depressed. Are we all that cynical? Whether or not he means what he says or gets paid to say it etc, it’s a good message. If you can’t understand it, then I feel very sorry for your negative mindset. Just enjoy it for what it is. A hunk with an adorable voice giving a positive message, whether or not you agree with it. Don’t be petty and bash him, that’s the most immature form of opposition. Plus, it just makes you look jealous, and jealousy is never pretty. :/

  • TJ

    @Ian Ridley: Nah, not going away, so F off douchebag.

  • Jacob

    This is what I have been saying to people all along! There is no such thing as ugly!
    A person can either be your type or not be. Physically everyone is attractive to someone.
    The only ugly people are the ones who say things like this:

    No. 2 · TJ
    Who is this moron? He needs to sit down and just shut up.
    Maybe even get a job?
    Posted: Mar 2, 2011 at 6:54 pm · @Reply · [Flag?]

    WOW, Really? come on. Didn’t anyone ever teach guys like this that if you don’t have anything nice to say . . .

  • Jacob

    BTW Davey, So CUTE :)

  • TJ

    @Jacob: Maybe you need to sit down and shut up too? Get over it already. This guy is a dope. Move on!

  • MJBChicago

    It’s a nice message, but he is really inarticulate. How many times did he use the word like?

    And he has a beautiful chest.

  • Oprah

    He would have been ‘Hot’ if he wasnt such a declarative bottom. :)

  • Oprah

    Tickle pink? Really?

  • Jeremyfitzroy85

    It ain’t fake, it’s true. Just because you look a bit better, doesn’t means your confidence goes with it. Mostly people who think are aren’t.

  • Johnny

    So you have to be gym fit, acne free, and smell good for other guys to be attracted to you?

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