This isn’t the first time Dear Abby has shown her sufficiency in handling social issues in her advice column, but the simple logic she used recently to a mother of a maybe-gay teen is worth sharing.
“Modern Mom In Maryland” wrote:
My 17-year-old son told me he has finally had his first kiss, and it was with another boy. I’m not sure what to think.
When he was in the eighth grade, he had a crush on a girl named “Lisa.” She rejected him because she had a girlfriend. Then he dated a girl, “Annie,” but it didn’t last because he said he felt only friendship for her. Then he became friends with this boy “Joey” in high school, who spent the night several times. He told me from the start this boy was gay (this is the boy he kissed). Now Joey has a girlfriend.
To say the least, I’m confused. I know that in this generation, everything is acceptable. I have no problem if my son is gay, and I will love him no matter what, but I honestly think he is just confused. (He says this, too.) Is there anything I can do to help him through this?
— Modern Mom In Maryland
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Abby’s response is brief but succinct:
Yes. Tell your son you love him and all you want is for him to be happy. Then let him figure this out for himself. Trust me, he will. Things will be clearer in the future.
Here’s how it appeared in the paper: