Patti Stanger, the blunt star of Millionaire Matchmaker might have had so much Botox she can’t move her head, but that doesn’t stop her from spitting a little venom at the gays. On Sunday, she coiled up next to Andy Cohen on Bravo’s Watch What Happens Live, where she proceeded to explain how no one wants to date a “queen” and that “there is no curbing the gay man[‘s promiscuity].”
We’ve said both those things—and worse—over brunchtime mimosas with the boys, but we’re not sure Stanger is Kathy Griffin-level fag hag enough to make a statement like that on national TV.
Sensing the crowd was turning against her Stanger rushed to The Joy Behar Show, where she issued a hasty mea culpa—sort of.
At first Stanger seems to beg away from her comments, saying she was talking about how the whole town of L.A. is down on monogamy. She then pulls the “I’ve done so much for gays” card. (Patti, getting your picture taken with “NoH8” scrawled on your cheek isn’t really advocacy work.)
Ultimately though she circles back to her original statement that gays are slutty hos. “When we do the mixers, the guys are passing around the telephone numbers, they’re sleeping with each other, even after the millionaire gets the date he’s sleeping with the pool of people,” Stanger tells Behar. “[Gay men] get involved and then they find out later whether or not they want a serious relationship. And I hope they use the privilege in New York of gay marriage, because now they have it. And a lot of gays aren’t getting married, even though they have the privilege.”
Um, you’d think a relationship expert would know marriage isn’t a privilege, it’s a right.
At any rate, it’s hard to deny Stanger’s basic point that it’s harder to find a husband in the queer world because on the whole, the gay-male community doesn’t put the same emphasis on monogamy and relationships. But her abrasive and dismissive tone certainly raised some hackles. Maybe Stanger should get out of matchmaking and into stand-up comedy?