The folks at Impulse Group NYC, a chapter based social advocacy organization for gay men, just launched a brand new video series called “Ask & Tell.”
Five men living in New York City sit down to share their personal opinions about the issues that affect them. This week’s topic: Sex.
The guys answer questions ranging from “What’s your favorite thing about sex?”, “Does size matter?” and more. Some of their answers may surprise you.
The video series aims to open up dialogue surrounding safer-sex to New York City’s thriving gay community.
Check it out below.
Ladbrook
Seriously, Queerty?
Bottom line: I want to feel it, but I don’t want to bleed out after he leaves. How’s that for an answer.
Matt
I wasn’t surprised at the answers. I was surprised they chose stereotypical gay men.
ric
With me. I am a versatile top. And when I am in the mood to get screwed. I don’t like small ones because they can travel only so far. For me a perfect size is between 8 and 10. Because when in the mood I want it deep.
SteveDenver
Big dicks are the ultimate fashion accessory, but sometimes they’re a chore. Sometimes they’re attached to bigger dicks, which really is disappointing.
Give me a man who is smart, funny, INTO ME, and not wanting to be somewhere else; and I’ll make magic with whatever dick he brings along.
Gay men get too hung up on porn types. My best friend hasn’t hooked up in years because he’s 30-something, not athletic, not rich and decent looking; but he wants a tall slender 21-year-old with a beautiful face and big dick. I ridicule him at every turn, because kind words and friendly advice didn’t work. Now I don’t want to listen to his complaints.
dvlaries
Well, a big airplane is always visually impressive, but once the ride gets underway, the only thing that counts is the skill of the pilot.
dannyboi2
I’m usually okay with someone of equal size, not too big not to small. But, in reality it’s the whole package. Everything has to be just right, which seldom happens but, when it does it’s magic.
Trippy
Does size matter? This has got to be the dumbest question gay surveys ask. Can we just retire it once and for all.
Everyone rod is different: Big to me is average to you and small to someone else.
Bottoms are different: What feels good in my chute might hurt the next guy. And yet another guy might not even feel it. Every chute varies in flexibility, depth, shape, etc.
The pilot matters: as someone else pointed out, if the Top doesn’t know what he’s doing, or is too selfish to care about his bottom, then his equipment matters not one bit. Period.
My favorite Top was a middle-aged black man with a fairly average piece of equipment. He knew exactly what he was doing. I’ll take him and his 5? over just about any footlong you throw my way every time it’s offered.
Blackceo
Hmmm…definitely not a “size queen”. My man is a bit larger than I would prefer. Ideal for me is 8″ and not too thick, but not pencil size either. Sometimes when I’m bottoming I like to have my back blown out like a dirty whore and when u r too big you cant get that good full thrust ball against ass slapping thing going. I don’t want my prostate in my chest. (That was probably way TMI but we’re all grown)
Overall, too big and too small arent good but I’d rather deal with smaller than super large. But…still gotta give me something to work with. And…there is truth to the “its not the size of the…but the motion” I’ve been with really huge guys who thought because they had big dicks they didnt need to practice using them and been with average or less than average who had good stroke game. In the end, just depends on what your taste is.
Stache99
I absolutely hate size queens. That and small dicks.
wpewen
This is indicative of the times. In 1976 we had the magazine Christopher Street a New York monthly that discussed gay men and rarely brought up porn type stuff. Now we have media like this that places gay guys squarely where the stereotypes are. Parody.
kingmark1964
Stereotypical NY queens. Give us a break Queerty. It’s old & tired. I don’t know a decent/true (power) bottom who doesn’t go for size. Myself included 15+ yeah, not my ideal but ya gotta take one for the team once in awhile. The one(s) talking about love?? How ok was she?? Was she an actual girl?? WTF?? Btw, women’s rags always talk about size & girth of men. Justifiably so I might add. Who the hell wants to be pummeled by a broken off pencil?
enlightenone
“Keeping it real,” I would have liked to hear from a masculine gay, top, black man!
petensfo
It ain’t the car, it’s the driver. To be a good top, you need to occasionally be a bottom and pay attention whilst doing it. Sex is sex and it can be good lots of ways, but for me the best sex is connected-sex with a person I’m emotionally involved with.
cleverusername
I honestly do not care at all about penis size. It doesn’t enter my mind when I am interested in someone. This is likely because I am the owner of a large penis and know it usually does not make any positive difference in sexual encounters. The vast majority of men are within like 1 inch of eachother; the difference from man to man is not that substantial and we should all stop giving a shit if we can.
Numlocker
Being thicker than average and longer as well I learned back in my 20s it was all about the foreplay and the technique. It’s not always about pumping a guy’s ass like you just got out of prison. I let them set the pace most the time.
As for me taking guys those guys with 5 or 6 inches who try to see how many times per minutes they can pull it all the way out and push it all the way as fast as they can usually get flipped over for a tutorial.
Xzamilio
@Matt: That surprised you?
Xzamilio
@Matt: That is what surprised you?
frshmn
Why don’t size queens just jump over into fisting if they’re looking for long and deep?
Aromaeus
There is so much internalized homophobia and misogyny in the comment sections. Yes when you connect all things feminine with being weak or undesirable that’s being misogynistic.
theszak
Take your potential sex partners word? It’s very challenging to say to a potential sex partner, “I hear what you’re saying. We can go get tested together.” That’s hard, but it’s all about empowering the community and encouraging them to take care of their sexual health, and their partner’s sexual health, and the community’s sexual health. The Strategy BEFORE sex get tested TOGETHER for A VARIETY of STIs then make an INFORMED decision (websearch… tested together before).
bottom72
Sorry sweethearts but I love a huge one. I love feeling every inch of it as it stretches me open. I love the surprise of unveiling a huge one as you take his pants off. I am a queen and size queen. Thank you lord all mighty for big ones.
bottom72
frshmn @frshmn:
I know I have “jumped over” to fisting. I do enjoy it very much.
vive
For me, MUCH more important than the size is that the dick be (1) hard at the drop of a hat, and (2) sensitive. It shouldn’t be work to get someone either hard, or off. There is nothing worse than trying to suck off someone who doesn’t respond, or getting ploughed until you are raw. The best guys are the ones you can get close easily and then slowly edge for as long as you want.
Tommysole
I want my ass, OPENED!
Not speared by a little willy.