Its “saddening” and “embarrassing,” the sort of problem Reddit was designed for.
Whatthedells, a stay-at-home dad, is in turmoil after his girlfriend of seven years — with whom he has a 5-month old daughtr — cheated on him based on the “incorrect belief that I’m gay.”
And by “cheated,” we mean she’s been seeing another man for four months.
Her reasoning is ruthless. He likes musicals. He’s “content staying at home with our daughter and cooking.” And he hugged his best male friend “after his mother had been hit by a car.”
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I’m extremely upset and my heart is broken. I love this woman and have done everything to be a good husband to her and good father to our child. I don’t know what I could’ve done to drive her away, and according to her it’s because she thinks I’m gay….
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On top of that, “she seems to think I don’t work and therefore I’m not providing.” He admits she’s been manipulative in the past, but doesn’t know what to do this time.
I tried telling her the truth, which is that I know I’m a heterosexual. There are no skeletons in my closet. I don’t want to lose her, I don’t want my daughter to have to lose her. I said I’d do whatever it took to make her happy but she keeps saying I’m gay.
As of this writing, only 11 people have responded to offer their advice, perhaps there’s only so many ways to say Break up with her and run for your life.
“People that cheat typically come up with all sorts of ridiculous excuses to make themselves feel better,” says duffleberry. “Divorce her ass, let her rot in hell when she wakes up and realizes she left a good man for a loser. Not sure what to do about the daughter though. That’s the problem with having kids with someone who isn’t a good person.”
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“So horrible that she thinks he doesn’t contribute,” says PurplePlurple. “There’s providing money to support a family and then there’s providing support for the family. I’m wonder if this could be symptomatic of postpartum depression….”
Redditor E-Hunters is also displeased: “You know what makes you gay? Having sex with men. You know what doesn’t? Being a good dad. Which is essentially why she cheated. I think you should contact a divorce lawyer and end this. She really sounds like a joy to be married to /s.”
What do you think he should do? Find out who she’s been sleeping with and start dating him too?
Weigh in in the comments section below.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
I think he should move on with his life…get a job where he can work from home and takie care of his daughter, maybe something like writing niche fiction for gullible hausfraus…as well as score some sympathy pussy
amigay
Dude, you need to find out what’s lacking in your own personal self-worth to make statements like “I don’t want to lose her” or “I said I’d do whatever it took…” and all that after admitting “she’s been manipulative in the past.”
Ever hear the term “pussy whipped” because that’s exactly what you are. Right now she knows she has the upper hand because you’ve admitted you’re a loser without her. Realistically, what value is she adding to YOUR life?
Your choice is to stay with her and be miserable or grow a pair, take your daughter and leave.
trell
That has to be the lamest excuse ever for a person cheating on someone else.
This girl probably does not think he is gay. She probably went out, got laid, and when she got found out, tried to justify her act & make it sound like it is his fault, undermining him in the process. She might as well have said “You don’t fulfil me sexually”, “You have a small penis” or “I can’t have sex with you in this house because I don’t like the curtains”. Each of those are just as lame, and none of them give any justification to cheat on anyone.
This girl is very manipulative. She cheats on him, undermines him, and he STILL wants to be with her? She has made a number of presumptions on his character (loves musicals, hugged another guy=gay). This girl is trouble, and he needs to get away from her, sharpish!!
What this guy needs to do is to shift perspectives. – Let’s say the story went like this: He noticed that his girlfriend seems to like watching Ellen & Orange is the New Black, & chatted for long periods of time on the phone, with other girls. Does he think that this is solid evidence that his girlfriend is a lesbian? Even if he did, would that still give him carte blanche to go out and have sex with another woman?
Pussy-whipped is exactly the right phrase. What is really daft is that this guy has gone online & is asking for advice to keep the relationship going. This is what is tragic. He needs to get with someone who values him and his character, not use it as en excuse to sleep with other people.
Musk
Do the opposite of what your heart tells you, and file for divorce. You’re trying to salvage an empty vessel.
Jack Meoff
I wish Queerty would indicate which articles are ripped off from Reddit in the headline so you know in advance and don’t waste your time clicking on these BS articles.
ErikO
@Jack Meoff: Likewise.
Brian
Some of the Reddit responses are quite homophobic. I don’t like what I’m reading.
The wife sounds like a loser.
highestbidder
@Jack Meoff: you can usually guess from the headline of the article that is a reddit rip oran accumulation of whisper posts.
highestbidder
@ErikO: these recycled reddit posts don’t bother me I like them but if you don’t it’s actually pretty easy to guess which articles are from reddit or whisper just from the wording of the headlines.
Chris
As Dan Savage would say: DTMFA