It all started when Donna Hamer glanced over her boyfriend Rick Scherzo’s shoulder while he was sitting at the computer and saw a picture of a giant, throbbing penis.
Drunk and 12-weeks pregnant, Hamer flew into a rage. First she accused her boyfriend of being gay before grabbing a paper towel holder off a nearby counter and beating him with it. Then she punched him in the face, sunk her teeth into his flesh, and threatened him with a 12-inch chef’s knife.
The picture was sent to Scherzo as a joke by a friend of his who happened to be gay. The two men were chatting online. When Hamer saw the photo, prosectors say she “went mad.”
“She started calling him gay and wouldn’t let it go, although he told her it was just a joke,” prosecuting attorney Enza Geldard told a Pennines court this week.
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Hamer’s lawyer, Kamran Yousaf, said his client’s behavior was fueled by alcohol and, possibly, pregnancy hormones.
“Clearly, she was aggrieved when she saw that image on the computer and confronted him,” Yousaf said. “She acted wrongly. She shouldn’t have done what she did.”
Yousaf maintained that his client “didn’t intend to injure” Scherzo by beating him with a paper towel holder or biting him. She just “used these weapons to threaten and intimidate” him.
“Since this incident she has stopped drinking,” Yousaf assured the court, “because of the incident and because she’s pregnant.”
Hamer was ordered by a judge to perform community service, as well as pay around $400 in court fees.
Needless to say, the on-again-off-again couple is currently off.
h/t: Pendle Today
Cam
So she was drunk while she was pregnant, beat a guy, and bit him and got community service?
demented
1. Why is she drunk when pregnant?
2. Why is he even with her if her idea of “intimidation” is to beat and bite him and threaten him with a foot long knife?
3. Why is the friend sending dick pics to him?
4. Is it too early to give custody of her baby to someone else?
1898
I feel bad for the unborn child, for so many different reasons.
Ummmm Yeah
Mandatory abortion and restraining order to protect the court mandated ex-boyfriend.
Taskebab
@Ummmm Yeah: Mandatory abortion, now there’s a terrifying thought…just imagine if courts could do that…
polarisfashion
Wow, this guy picked a real winner to have a child with. I hope this woman isn’t abusive to this kid when growing up. Wire hangers anyone?
Gruffling
@Cam: How much do you want to bet if the man had been the aggressor the punishment would have been much more severe. Won’t see feminists advocating for this woman to be punished fairly and have custody of her child taken off her when it’s born though.
Nikkidane
I would have been furious too but she sounds like a crazy person. 12 weeks pregnant and drunk? Wow!
Nikkidane
It’s not really a joke when a gay guy sends another guy a picture of his erect penis. It’s called making an obvious pass at him. You have to wonder if the guy who received the photo was sending out mixed signals and that is probably why the girlfriend is pissed. I never take my date to a gay bar or Trans friendly bar anymore because people hit on my date right in front of me especially if my date is attractive. It’s unbelievably rude and happens all the time. I’ve never had that problem in straight bars. I’ve learned my lesson.
That said, there’s no excuse for the girl being pregnant and drunk.
NoCagada
“It’s not really a joke when a gay guy sends another guy a picture of his erect penis. It’s called making an obvious pass at him.”
Were you there?
Alan down in Florida
I agree with NoCagada. We no context in which the pic was sent nor do we know if it was indeed the friend’s own penis and not someone else’s. Also how does a dick pic throb?
ppp111
@Gruffling:
Many feminists, not all mind you, tend to be hypocrites. They never want to bad mouth another woman. Take for example Gloria Allred. I remember a lawsuit filed against the octomom Nadia Suleman. But instead of taking issue with her, Allred had issue with the bodyguard the octomom hired. She went on Dr. Phil blasting the male bodyguard because he was too agressive protecting nadia from some reporterts. Another example is the movie she helped produced ‘A Girl like Me’, the film about transgender teen Gwen Araujo. In the film, an agressive young man fondles Gwen to confirm her gender. But we all know in court records, it was a woman whom Gwen knew that felt her up. But the film doesn’t show that. Matter-of-fact, that same woman says later in court she hated Gwen because she was ‘jealous’ of her rather than because she was transgender, as if condoning her action. Typical.
SteveDenver
The court should have ordered the fetus to be ripped from her womb.
Gruffling
@ppp111: Oh no of course it’s not all. But as a general rule you just don’t see feminist campaigns for true equality. Cases you cited were perfect examples. They don’t support men, they don’t punish women.
Realitycheck
@Taskebab:
<< Mandatory abortion, now there’s a terrifying thought…just imagine if courts could do that…
True, but then some people should not reproduce, for example do w really need more Bushes
in this world ? LOL
jason smeds
You’ve got to remember that women are extremely jealous of male homosexuality in a certain form. This certain form manifests as the presence of homosexual feelings or interests in men who are also attracted to women. Women see this form of homosexuality as a threat to their ability to control men.
Keep in mind that women use sexual consent to control men’s non-sexual behaviour – if he behaves himself by putting out the garbage and flattering her, she will consent to having sex with him. It’s a constant power-play. The man has nowhere to turn but her, and will thus comply. However, if the man can also turn to other men, she loses her power over him.
Women might tolerate the safe, segregated homosexual (such as the dainty twink who spends his nights in bars and clubs) but when the idea of male homosexuality starts interfering with her ability to control her boyfriend or husband, she panics. This is when her homophobic claws come out. Beware.
demented
@Realitycheck: Except it wouldn’t be used on Bushes. it would be used on poor women and minorities and anyone else the government doesn’t like. so not funny.
“Hey there, woman who belongs to a religious/racial/social group we don’t like. We’ve decided to punish you by murdering your baby.”
@jason smeds: Yes, keep telling us how terrified women are of male sexuality and how women only want to control men. History shows that women have always been controlling men and that female sexuality has always been in charge. That’s why our society is matriarchal.
Paco
@jason smeds: The more you comment about your low opinion of women, the more you reveal your low opinion of the men that love them and will never love you.
jason smeds
Who said I have a low opinion of women? Nothing of the sort.
I’m simply pointing to the behavior of women. It would truly be wonderful if you were able to make a similar distinction
Giancarlo85
@jason smeds: Your comments are deplorable.
Misogynist behavior has no place in the LGBT community, period. Maybe if you made some comments that had ACTUAL support to them… we could see things differently.
Come back with actual substance.
cagey
@demented: 5. Why was there a paper towel dispenser by the computer?
darian
@jason smeds: The exact opposite of your opinion can be made in many more cases in which men use physical force or financial force in order to keep a woman. What about men who turn to other women(which is the more common case) are they then still controlled by the same woman? The subtext I’m getting from your statement is that women are jealous creatures. If that is indeed the case then sir I would argue that men have the ability and social standing to be twice as jealous as our fairer counter parts.
blasted
She was drinking while she was pregnant………… then beats her boyfriend … yeah she’s gonna be mom of the year someday. Why don’t breeders get licenses to rear kids?
McShane
@jason smeds:
Jason, I’ll fucking say it. You have a low opinion of women.
One day you’ll get out of whatever maximum security prison you’re locked up in, and finally meet an actual real life woman. Thankfully, sociopaths rarely make parole.
jason smeds
McShane,
I have met lots of real women as opposed to the drag queens so beloved of gay men. Oh, look, a drag queen…how exciting, how rebellious, how ground-breaking…not.
Sluggo2007
She’s a shreiking, hysterical beeyatch. PERIOD!
Gruffling
@Giancarlo85: It certainly doesn’t. But equally neither does misandrist behaviour. There are two sides that must be fought to achieve equality.
Giancarlo85
@jason smeds: Your attitude is terrible. I can’t imagine what you have to say about genderqueer or genderbending people. Rather keep your immature comments to yourself. And maybe grow up a bit.
Shannon1981
@Nikkidane: It’s not really a joke when a gay guy sends another guy a picture of his erect penis. It’s called making an obvious pass at him.
Seriously? A joke is a joke. Maybe they just have that kind of comfortable friendship. This, to me, seems like a straight guy who is secure in his sexuality enough to have an easy, no holds barred friendship with a gay man.
You, on the other hand, are displaying some serious ignorance, especially with your paranoia about not taking dates to LGBT spaces. Are you sure you’re on the right website?
Shannon1981
ugh HTML fail.
Giancarlo85
I was going to reply to that but I agree. Horribly insecure too, Shannon. I take my bf to gay clubs and we both get hit on. But we stick together and dance together. If anything when I have been to a straight bar or club, I seen creepy old men hitting on young girls. Or the other way around… They call them cougars hitting on young men. The one time I went to a straight club, a forty something year old woman was trying to hit on me. Lol. And I am obviously gay and out.
So I stick to gay or gay friendly locations.
Shannon1981
@Giancarlo85: Much more creepy shit has happened to me in straight bars than ever in a gay bar. Granted, I’m gay, so I am obviously much more at home in a gay bar, but still. If you’re that insecure, there is something wrong with your relationship, and if you blame the gays for that, then there is definitely some homophobia there.
tricky ricky
the little lady needs to be arrested and prosecuted under one of those new doing harm to the fetus laws. that’ll learn her.
tricky ricky
@demented: the answer to 2: he craves a relationship with Charlie Sheen/Charlie harper.
enlightenone
@Cam: “So she was drunk while she was pregnant, beat a guy, and bit him and got community service?”
And yet a person who smokes marijuana and/or sales it is given years in prison! A broken justice system? It never worked in the first place.
Justice reform NOT fast enough!
enlightenone
@demented: “4. Is it too early to give custody of her baby to someone else?”
Yes, unfortunately!
enlightenone
@Nikkidane: “…I would have been furious too but she sounds like a crazy person. 12 weeks pregnant and drunk? Wow!”
Wouldn’t be surprised if she has untreated bipolar disorder!
Paco
I’ve seen plenty of men, straight and gay, go insane with jealousy fueled rages when they thought their partners were cheating on them. I can only guess that this story is news worthy because the boyfriend might have a case of “the gay”.
enlightenone
@Alan down in Florida: ” Also how does a dick pic throb?”
Maybe it’s one of those novelty store cards. I gave out Christmas e-cards out this year that have bulbs that flash on and off. Lol!
enlightenone
@Realitycheck: “…True, but then some people should not reproduce, for example do w really need more Bushes in this world ? LOL
Well, one needs to be tried for war crimes and Jeb to take up painting now, not later!
bobmister250
@Taskebab: Mandatory abortion is something that would whip up the anti-choice crowd into a frenzy.
NerdlyBeauty
I’m a feminist and a single mom, and I think what she did is repulsive. I would think on a gay-leaning site, we would be a bit more open-minded and less sexist, but I guess not. I’m sure you don’t like it when people say all gays are the same, so why would you say that about someone else? Talk about hypocritical. Assholes are assholes, and abusers are abusers, no matter what gender, color, or sexual preference. Cut the hate. We’re all in this together.
rickscherzo
Just to confirm. I am straight!!