Earlier this week, ex-gay activist Matt Moore was busted for having an active profile on Grindr. Days later, Moore sat down with the Christian Post—where he is a contributor—to chat about “his joining Grindr, his daily struggle with same-sex attraction, how the church has treated him, and what God’s grace means to him after this experience.”
While Moore says he can’t blame his actions “on anything but myself,” he’s quick to explain that he recently moved to New Orleans and had no support system to keep his man-loving ways in check: “I got a job here more quickly than I had anticipated, which put me here ahead of the rest of the team,” he explains. “The past few months of being here have been hard and lonely at times. My struggle with sin has intensified since being here.”
Below are some excerpts from the full interview. Gird your loins, folks—it’s not pretty.
CP: The person who outed you, Zinnia Jones, writes on a blog post: “So-called ‘ex-gays’ publicly promote the notion that LGBT people are sinning against a god who will torture them eternally if they fail to suppress and deny their true nature. But privately, they often seem to have trouble practicing what they preach.” How would you respond to her statement?
Moore: First, everyone is a hypocrite, regardless of belief system. People such as Zinnia preach a message of tolerance and kindness to all, yet they are not tolerant of my beliefs and show me no kindness. That’s hypocritical, is it not? With that said, you can either be a hypocrite under the grace of God or a hypocrite outside of the grace of God. As Christians, we acknowledge that we are hypocritical in word and action at times, and we acknowledge that we cannot be perfect. This is why we don’t point to ourselves as models of perfection, but point to Christ as the ONLY perfection. On the Cross, Christ took on our sinful identity, and suffered the penalty we deserved. In turn, He offers his righteous identity to all who believe in Him. So Christians do fail and Christians do sin every single day, but the base of our faith in not ourselves or not ourselves. The base of our faith is Christ and His perfect obedience on our behalf. We are saved not because of anything we have or haven’t done, but because of what Christ has done for us.
CP: If you’re back on Grindr in 2 weeks, what does that say about God?
Moore: Let’s take it a little further. Let’s say that in 2 weeks, I have left the faith and have embraced homosexuality again. What does that say about God? It says that God is gracious, loving, good and forgiving….and that I am rejecting that grace, love, goodness and forgiveness. At the end of the day, God is who He is regardless of who we are and what we do. “Let God be true, and every man a liar.”
CP: What boundaries have you established to prevent giving into temptation?
Moore: I have sold my computer and have had someone put a lock on my phone where I cannot download apps or access the Internet through a non-filtered browser. Ultimately, this isn’t the solution. My heart being captured by the grace of God and brought into humble obedience is the solution. But not taking precautions is dumb, so these are the precautions I have taken.
CP: What would you say to a Christian suffering from same-sex attraction after this experience?
Moore: The same thing I have always said: Jesus is better than sin. It doesn’t matter what the specific sin is, Jesus is better. He is more valuable, comforting and satisfying than homosexual behavior, and I can say that from experience. If you fall, get back up and keep pursuing Him. If Jesus went as far as to die for your sin, why would He not help you up when you stumble? The world will tell you to embrace your homosexual desires because it’ll make you happy in this life. Jesus tells you to deny yourself and follow Him and promises to give you eternal life if you do. You must decide everyday who you will believe and who you will follow: the way of the world or the Way of Jesus Christ.